November 2012 - By 'eck we can talk

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Welcome to the new nov moms.
We finally left the house yesterday so feeling a lot better, I really hate snow. The only place for it is on a Christmas card.

Detective I was going to say that I had Now 5 but it looks like I've been trumped by rowing. We are showing our ages. I had it on cassette. I'm sure I still have it somewhere

We've been looking at nurseries too. We've seen a couple need to see more as the one I want him to go to has a waiting list of 100 children and they take 56 children so I'm not holding my breath.

Katie can you recommend any blogs. I love 40 weeks (used to be 40 weeks and counting) she was due around the same time as me/us, and inked in colour, it was at the top of a blog chart and she takes these lovely pictures. She's having a few issues at the mo so she's very sad.

WRT tv I'm loving the old episodes of ER, I like British bake off and loved the first series of Girls (it's a bit rude though) but very funny. I tried to get into the wire and the sopranos but just didn't get it. Love in treatment and the newsroom and modern family and the middle

Petite if I take 9 months then end of July. What I rely want to avoid is going back and regretting it. Plus I would really like to start weaning him. I think I will take that time for that reason. But I'll see. If I keep feeling this way then it might be better to go back? I'm not sure.

I usually make up fresh but overnight I use hot water to heat it up. He wakes I put the bottle in hot water change his nappy and he'll usually quietly eat it. No today he just screamed. Dh asked what was wrong (again!!!) and I just said how should I know and took him downstairs. Tested the milk then popped it in the microwave. He ate it calmly, went back to bed but was so noisy moving round his bed I just cried. Currently asleep on me looking angelic!!

The only reason I've not ridden is the snow. But it's meant I can't run or anything! I'm over the snow now!!

Thanks Katie but he is actually very good, and am spoilt except for a couple of weeks ago when he was mean but it does mean I get annoyed when he forgets one of 'his' jobs when my back is so bloody sore. Though it is getting better I reckon today will be the last day I can use it as an excuse not to do stuff I don't want to do

Am ridiculously excited. As a treat to myself I ordered some really expensive bath towels. The fluffiest warmest treat I could fine in the online sales and they are arriving today. Though knowing my luck they will be delivered in the 40 minutes I am out at lunch time.

Hi thechick do you like foodie or crafty ones? Those are the main ones I read or feminist ones!

Thanks katie, I have a friend in Godalming so that would work pretty well. I've seen a few quite near the town centre that I like, have also seen an absolutely gorgeous house in Normandy but it is in the middle of nowhere and I like being able to walk to cafe's / shops / swing parks etc rather than having to drive everywhere.

chick I have a blog. It's in my profile. MN put it on their headline blogs of the day yesterday

Horsey I understand the dilemma, but if you are worried you will regret it then try another solution first. Get out for the day, once a fortnight or weekly if you can. Plan something for you to look forward to. You like cooking, can you ask DH to deal with E while you shop and cook for something a bit special? With good wine.

Snow sucks for exercise, but it will be gone soon. When you're used to exercise and can't though there is actual physical and psychological withdrawal. You have too much energy and nothing to do with it. I remember from the days when I used to be fit a long time ago

And you have a baby and a lot of baby stuff does get dull and repetitive but we are lucky in that from three months they do get more and more interesting every day. But life slows down when you have a baby. Smaller and smaller things become more and more significant, and it is hard to adjust, especially when knackered.

Katie I've only really looked for baby ones. Foodie ones or feminist ones would be cool though.

Thanks Petite ill check it out. And you should be very proud.
And Horsey I agree that not much happens the first three months, they become a bit more fun as they get older and reach milestone after milestone. They achieve so much during the first year. And I think this weather doesn't help.

Trying to get through to GP. After yesterday's meltdown I think I need to start meds for DD. I'm frantic and burnt out & OH just withdrew last night meaning I didn't get dinner.

Mum arrives to take care of me today thank god. Trouble is she'll start saying I need to give her formula and I think I might just sob if I hear that. It's not BF that's the problem, it's my poor little girls tummy & it makes me feel such a failure when a bottle is suggested.

God I hope today is a better day

Mine is some parenting stuff but mainly political rants against David sodding Cameron

Katie bottle feeding is not a failure, though I understand you want to keep up with ebf. Please try and give yourself a break, you're doing really well. We all are.

It does get tricky river round there doesn't it? Farncombe is a good half way house I found

chick try the Vagenda, Smitten Kitchen (oh wow) and I suspect you'll like 101cookbooks too

Good night here after the screaming. Went down at 8 and woke at 1 and 4.30 and 8.20!! Woohoo

Have a monitor issue. The Chicco asda one is brilliant but the unit stays lit up so its like a beacon during the night. Any recommendations for another one as we are having to cover unit with a sock to get any sleep!

Recipe Junkie is an excellent food blog, as is Letters to Nigel Slater. Crystal Jigsaw is good too, a great mix of topics on there. Fleet Street Fox is great on politics and the press - written by a tabloid journalist. Books, Mud and Compost is a great horsey blog.

I don't buy magazines anymre.

Oh gosh petite I don't mean to offend anyone. It's how I'm personally feeling with it all being so raw and so close. Does that make sense?

I chatted to my friend last night who was in the exact same position this time last year. We talked about 'being ready' to start giving a bottle/ formula. I'm not there yet. I know it might need to happen but I just can't yet.

I really didn't mean any judgement. I really do believe everyone needs to parent the best way THEY can. No one else can parent your child but you. There's way too much pressure out there and I would hate to add to it.

dixie, pikz and catbag I am a bloody massive West Wing fan too. Properly luffs if, I do. Massive crush on Josh. Really want to be a west wing staffer. Or, screen write with Aaron Sorkin.

No real songs for DC, but on the way to hospital for an induction with DD (which ended with an EMCS and GA), DH and I listened to Gangsta' Paradise . Also I have a made up song about big fat wet widdely wees, sung at nappy change time. When DD was little, I used to jig her about to the ditty "my old man, said follow the van...", so that is having another outing for DS.

horsey sounds like you need a break. Even if an hour or two.

Crap night here, but not baby DS. Toddler DD having tantrums of exhaustion, where she needs to sleep but gets worked up beyond imagination. Tantrums at 7pm, 11pm and 4am. She is at nursery today so hopefully that will swing her back into routine and make her pass out go to bed nicely.

Not offended at all :) I didn't fail at bf I just hated doing it. What I meant is that you mustn't start using words like failure in realation to yourself, whether that be feeding or nappy changing or whatever aspect of baby caring. Once you start allowing yourself to feel like a failure, or guilty, you won't stop and will start setting yourself up for disappointment because throughout their lives we are going to make so many choices for our children. It's hard to do so but take a step back sometimes, and give yourself a pat on the back fir everything you do.

Three days ago, just before you joined I managed to drop my LO on her head. Yesterday morning I was still feeling guilty, then gave myself a bit of a talking to, and although it will never be my proudest moment, I'm not going to feel guilty about it. It's over, no harm done, yes I dropped her but I also called an ambulance and got her seen to immediately. There was nothing more I could ever have done. Because parenting is bloody hard, and if we allow feelings of failure to take over then we make it even harder for ourselves.

Sympathy Gazelle DD1 turns into a demon child when she is overtired.

Horsey huge cuddles. You definitely need a break over the weekend.

I agree the weather doesn't help as it doesn't make it easy to get out and do stuff. I find the days at home tedious right now.

You will find what works for you. Massive cuddles.

I had Now That's What I Call Music.

No number.

morning ladies. battling 6wk growth spurt/ colic / baby just trying to sort out his sensory system so not really doing a good job keeping up with thread due to bollocks all sleep.

anyone got any thoughts on bath being over stimulating in eve at this age? we've gone back to just me bf quietly from about 7 or 8 but wondering if the bath before is over doing it as he gets soooo excited! we just get the over tired fighting sleep carryon till 10.... or stick with it then? I read somewhere that says not to bath in eve cos of this. have tried this morn and it definitely wacks him out.

Worst night ever!!! Dottie just wanted to smile and chat not sleep and not so dh had a dodgy tum so every time input her down he wakes her up going to the loo grrrrrrr so both of us was up all night until 5 then up at 7 for school - not impressed!!!

Fruit - we have the pacifier and it's the dogs nuts - does everything and the range of sounds include lullabies/womb/ocean/whale which send me off in seconds the light show is cool too only tiny moan is that you can't control baby unit without turning parent unit on and theres a green light that glows when both units are on but I just chuck a muslin over the top - its v good!!!

Cannot for the life of me remember what else I was going to say ?? where's my pa when I need him!!!!

blond I had that. candy girl my fave

katie the meds made an immediate difference to my LO but you need to get them quickly to avoid LO developing a food aversion. Explain to your mum that reflux is often linked to a cow's milk protein intolerance so switching to formula could make things very much worse.

I am sorry your OH wasn't helpful last night - is he usually helpful? Our HV is 99% useless but spoke to both DH and I about how having a reflux baby would take both of us working as a team to cope. She advised him to cut his hours at work. DH was already pretty much home all the time at that stage and didn't need this chat but it actually meant a lot to both of us that she was taking the condition so seriously.

Finally, as a BF don't let your Doc fob you off with infant gaviscon. It is really hard to administer unless you mix it in a bottle of expressed milk - which actuall you might be able to do initially. Ask specifically for rinitidine.

Thank goodness. I really should know better than to say something so potent in this forum though. We've all had journies.

Can't express this morning as DD won't let me put her down. This just gets better and better doesn't it?