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December 2012 - the sleep and poo thread (too much of one, not enough of the other)

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PurplePidjin · 06/01/2013 22:45

Shock
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HoneyMumandSon · 16/01/2013 16:51

cod if they like road Dahl def give the David walliams ones a go (mr stink etc), also mr gum by andy Stanton are worth a look. Or lemony snicket? I used to work in kids books so trying to remember. Can ask a mate for suggestions of what would appeal to all 3 boys if that would help?

CODwidow · 16/01/2013 17:32

Thanks everyone, we've decided to start The BFG and see how we get on. I'm sure I'll have 'mums guilt' about something else tomorrow!

MaMaPo · 16/01/2013 17:36

Ooh, BFG, excellent choice!

WLmum · 16/01/2013 18:29

pmgkt dd was 4 weeks yesterday and seems to be asleep most of the time, except when feeding - which is quite alot! Thanks to the moby she's been asleep all through big dds tea, and bath, and may stay that way while I do their bed time too. Assuming this will mean awake mammoth evening feed later. Am going to try putting her on her tummy in her Moses basket tonight to see if she's more comfy and so settles better - fx!

EggsMichelle · 16/01/2013 18:30

The Twits and George's Marvolous Medicine were a regular bed time treat for me (I still can't eat spaghetti now!)

I've had F attached to my boob all day, how many more growth spurts can there be!

WLmum · 16/01/2013 18:32

pidj I can't imagine how tough it is having dp been poorly and still needing looking after. Can u book in some time for a nap with anyone else over to help or taking ds for a walk? You must be a very patient lady! Im afraid I'm a horrible nurse to dp. If he's ever unwell.

CODwidow · 16/01/2013 18:46

pidj do you have any help? I must admit I'm pretty rubbish when dh is unwell so well done you!

MaMaPo · 16/01/2013 18:48

COD - Shock I am impressed!

Cookie, I have the same issue with my wrap and little C. She just won't tolerate having her head tucked in - she wants to look about constantly! Her head/neck control is pretty good now, so I can mostly leave her, with an occasional hand on the head when I'm bending down etc. I have to admit I still don't find it particularly comfortable to wear for long periods - I think I might have to pop into a sling meet to see whether I am wrapping it right, or could improve.

A broken day's sleep today - hopefully tonight is a little better.

PurplePidjin · 16/01/2013 18:51

People keep offering to help so i suggest they play with the baby while i do housework, but no one has actually done it yet. Maybe i should just ask them to hoover and be done with it, it won't get done either way :o

Its amazing what you find you can do when there's no other (viable) option

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SpottyTeacakes · 16/01/2013 18:52

Pidj you deserve a medal have you looked to see if sure start can offer you any help? I think they will come and do cleaning etc for you?

Ds has been wide awake for almost five hours Shock

PurplePidjin · 16/01/2013 18:53

Wrt slings - instead of tucking lo's head in, roll a muzzy up and tuck it under the top edge to create a cushion :)

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MaMaPo · 16/01/2013 19:03

Pidj, is there any care from social services available? Have you been in touch with Headway to see if they can offer any advice? You're in a pretty unique and difficult position.

A question for everyone - is your little one able to put themselves to sleep in their cot/crib/moses basket if they're not quite asleep when they go in? I've managed it once or twice and keen to teach C the important skill, but I have no idea what to expect in terms of how soon she'll be able to do it.

SpottyTeacakes · 16/01/2013 19:11

He does in his bouncer mamapo he's only in his Moses at night so is generally sleepy/asleep when I put him down

pmgkt · 16/01/2013 19:28

Thanks wl, I realised I phrased the question the wrong way around but your reply gave me the answer. I wasn't sure if Edward was sleeping too much, which isn't a good thing when he's struggling to put on weight. He is waking for feeds though, and has awake time in the evenings.

CODwidow · 16/01/2013 19:33

Dd will usually put herself to sleep but not always, she loves to be carried and knows instantly when you put her down!

PurplePidjin · 16/01/2013 20:25

Hv is supposed to be getting in touch Hmm

I'm seeing my dr next week to get the implant not that It is on the cards but it's one more job ticked off the list so will chase it up then :)

R sleeps in the sling during the day (11/12-2/3ish) and goes down asleep at night to his crib

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Cookiesandcoffee · 16/01/2013 21:16

Im glad its not just me mamapo i think I could well benefit from a sling meet but there's not one around here, closest is with pidj but never fits around dd1 . Thanks for the advice though I might try the muslin trick on the wraps first outing on the pre-school run tomorrow . I don't know how you're managing pidj I'm an awful nurse. Hope you get some help - I think you're completely in a position where you can turn to people and ask them for help , I know it's hard but people do really like to help.

I literally want to re-buy the BFG now COD! Maybe even James and the Giant Peach too! Classics.

CODwidow · 16/01/2013 21:33

Ha ha they changed their minds at the last min to James and the giant peach! I'd forgotten how good it was!Smile

PurplePidjin · 16/01/2013 21:34

Cookies, try www.wessexbabywearing.com maybe round a couple of mates up for a workshop :)

I'm asking, it's just not appearing Wink

There's not a lot to be done tbh, i just need to keep the house clean and do all the baby stuff and cook all the meals and find jobs he can do without over-exerting himself and keep his spirits up and watch us both for signs of depression and keep smiling. Simple.

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PurplePidjin · 16/01/2013 21:42

Cookies, try www.wessexbabywearing.com maybe round a couple of mates up for a workshop :)

I'm asking, it's just not appearing Wink

There's not a lot to be done tbh, i just need to keep the house clean and do all the baby stuff and cook all the meals and find jobs he can do without over-exerting himself and keep his spirits up and watch us both for signs of depression and keep smiling. Simple.

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MaMaPo · 16/01/2013 21:54

Yeesh, pidj, dunno what you're complaining about.

Got the blues tonight - been trying to put C down since 7 but she keeps waking. Makes me fear for tonight, and mourn my missing evening, and worry why she won't sleep, and and and. Definitely a grenade evening. I miss my husband and he's right here.

Stacks · 16/01/2013 22:33

T would only sleep today if he was in my arms. Every time I tried to put him down he'd wake up a couple of minutes later. Even trying to sleep next to him didn't work. Worried it'll be the same tonight, but first hurdle is getting him to sleep in the first place.

I'm a bit worried about my milk supply. Boobs have stopped getting hard before a feed, and stopped leaking milk. T seems to be getting something from them, but not sure he's had enough wet nappies today.

I've tried out our moby a couple of times, but T doesn't seem to like it. He seems intent on pushing himself away from me with his arms, just straining the whole time he's in it. Am I doing it wrong? Too tight? Trying to do the 'hug hold' from in the instructions.

Pidg, I hope it gets easier for you soon.

Clarella · 17/01/2013 01:16

oh pidj, you definitely need some help. I wonder if there are any local charities that could help out in any way? are you members of a church? sounds extreme but I know some church communities can be very giving of time and support .

oh yes cod work your way through the entirebback catalogue! they'll love Boy as well! (though I found I had to stop reading Matilda to a class of y3 as it's a wee bit close to the bone)
second horrible histories etc. I'm a bit out of practice tho as my kids generally can't read.
Hobbit? borrowers?
boys love Tin Tin too (as did I!!) though might be a bit of a cram looking at pics!

stacks same for me first time. I was told with some babies you need to choose the moment a bit like first bath etc - usually when asleep on shoulder! this means tying it ahead of time etc.also, so, so much tighter than you think. really tight! I found instructions not v good, try some videos online and I got nowhere folding it, gathering works better. if not a sling meet you could scour baby groups for a fellow slinger - actually I bet if you collared any woman with a wrap sling in street shed be happy to help! I've only successfully done it with help but now tummy much better (yay! ) will try again.

shitty shitty day felt like brewing flu or something, really struggled with g. his bottom flared up again too so off to doc again. had a big cry. on plus side had bath with g which was amazing, even fed a bit though he was more interested in being swirled! much much easier way to bath a baby surprisingly.

Dh and I had a wee tiff but managed to sort it all out basically he's trying so hard to look after me he's become like a sergeant major - it's great but getting a bit pressurised, like he's gina fording me! you must sleep now! eat now! etc. but we worked it out.

Clarella · 17/01/2013 01:19

sorry huge post Blush

mama was trying to remember that phrase to tell dh. sorry it's been bad. she might be so ttired she conks out in the night? it's happened to George before after a bad night. we resigned to not putting him down this eve after battles in the eve recently. blaming on growth spurtyness.

Clarella · 17/01/2013 01:22

oh in reply to previous post on putting down when awake - v occasionally but with everything it's choosing the moment. if exceptionally chilled day I've tried and managed but wouldn't consider it at the mo! don't rush it and choose the moments carefully.

btw I'm finding Kellymom fab at the moment in so many ways.