October 2012 babies - over here nobbers!

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This really will be the thread where all our babies start sleeping through the night... right?!

Youch october sounds painful!

squid sorry to hear about your pooey day. We've had to do the change in the car boot too, not great but better than the alternative.

You've been a bit of an inspiration with the running and i've started going out using an app that orders you to run/ walk, building up gradually. Feeling quite chuffed with myself do a bit of running at less than 12 weeks post birth and having not done any exercise in over a year.

thanks October, jess is all settled and in bed now and boyfriend has apologised and given me and I feel better

I did the "couch to 5K" which sounds very similar to what you're doing, also a run/walk programme - it starts VERY gently but you do have to commit to 30-40mins 3 x week... I think that's what's made me feel better really, the commitment/consistent running even if it took 2 months before I ran the full 5K. But I was amazed how comfortable it was, running 5K, this morning, after properly training for it.

I feel like I am far too slow to be an inspiration to anyone, but exercise massively helps my mood so I stick with it, I hope it helps you too! I think any of us who are out exercising are doing very well indeed!

Can anyone recommend me a cheap simple baby monitor?

We don't need it at home as we are in a flat and just leave the doors open, but it would be useful when staying with grandparents/mates etc, or if we watched a film with her in the other room... I don't want anything flash, just something straightforward and I've taken one look at google and panicked at the choice!

Well done Squiddy! Am trying super hard not to be jealous. I think hope! your DD is a bit older than mine though. I know I need to be sensible and not push it too fast.

I think so too borabora she is 14 weeks today. My due date by last period was 1 Oct so I joined the antenatal October thread - but my 12 week scan changed my dates to 25 September. Jess arrived on 30 September in the end, so she is one of the oldest here.

Also I was fortunate enough to have an uncomplicated (if fucking lengthy and painful!!) birth so I was out exercising again sooner than a lot of people are able to. I started gently but it felt fine... I upped things bit by bit. I have been running for 9 weeks now... I just did short running/walking intervals for a good month.

well done squid. i went for my 1st run in about 2 yrs yesterday after a week building up fitness on the wii fit & am a bit sore today. not sure how far i went, but def not 5 km! trying not to eat too many carbs in pm & lost 4lb last week, so really pleased. yomping, u r having such a tough time, am glad u feel better posting about stuff on here, keep posting as much as needed. have u tried swaddling? we find it reduces the times babybeccus wakes back up as it makes her jerking about less violent. welcome cookie. we slept better at xmas, too - think it was the extra stimulation, which i am trying to keep up, and naps r definitely better. is anyone else freaking out about the amount of crying when trying to get their bean to self settle? i swaddle, shush and pat, and she cries, i pick her up, try again, and if it all gets too much/looks like she wont drop off, i stop. i stay with her the whole time. but, it took 30 mins today to get her off - i could see she was going to go, but is 25 min of grizzly crying bad for her? i was so gutted when she then woke back up after 7 min :-( all that trauma and no rest. thank god for pram. 2 pram naps today

I do what I can. Wish I'd known about MN when DS was born. I feel like a wasted a lot of time being up tight, worrying, believing what the baby books say and waiting for him to meet the next milestone. Now I just want to keep him little for a bit longer. And I plan to still be holding DH's hand when we are 102 if I dont kill him first.

DS lost his second tooth today . He is very proud. Thats the stuff they should tell you about at ante-natal classes. Loosing teeth, first sports day, father christmas. It gets better!

Well my DM phoned yesterday to tell me that she read in the newspapaer that mothers are being too soft on their babies and not leaving them to cry enough, and that it means they'll never learn to self settle. Cue me having rant about crying affecting brain development and how we are both happier without the crying... grrrrr bloody 1970s attitudes coming back just as we're getting through to people!

DH and I met in the UK 11 years ago... he was working as a shearer and I had left school and got a job in the shearing gang... I thought he was rather nice and had a very sexy kiwi accent! We had a bit of a fling, then he went back to NZ and I followed! I came back to the UK to go to uni a year later and we did the long distance thing for 5 years before I emigrated!!! I spent most of my holidays in NZ and he used to come over to the UK in spring too so wasn't as bad as it sounds. But still glad it's over

bora great to hear things are going better for you now

squid rather jealous of your 5km run, I can harldy manage 500m without feeling my pelvic floor is going to explode!

Hi cookie arggghhh on the oversupply... another vote for block feeding... and has made a huge difference to DD's guts! Far less yukky green frothy poo and farts!

yomping firstly, don't have to apologise for venting and expressing your feelings here, you have our full on support ! I think you've had it tougher than most with mini y's tt, oversupply, thrush, blocked ducts...... and sick mini yesterday too. I reckon part of the reason so many of us find the newborn bit so tough (other than the lack of sleep) is that everyone in RL tells us that their babies sleep through from birth and never cried, and that breast feeding was a breeze! And having a velcro baby makes things 10 times worse because you never get any time for you. I have a melt down over this at least once a week And the other thing that makes life so difficult at this stage is that just as you get into a kind of routine (or when you feel like you know how to handle things anyway) bubba goes and changes their mind on everything, then you have to figure that new stage out too and adapt again. But things will get easier fingers crossed fingers crossed fingers crossed and huffle's right this too shall pass

No period here don't know if a tampon would stay in anyway

Very impressed by those of you doing running etc. i have two key problems with this

1. j size bosoms
2. no-one to babysit. By the time DF gets home at 730pm he's starving and so am I, so it's eat time and then bed cos I'm so tired.

I'm hoping to start doing yoga at lunchtimes when I'm not so damn tired. Very impressed though by you sporty types.

I'm so tired. Oof.

beccus totally freaked out by the cyring when shhh patting! and totally frustrated when DD wakes up like 5 mintes later. Currently the only way we get to sleep now (since she stopped falling asleep on the boob!) is on my shoulder with rocking and shhing following lots of fussing and yelling from me Pinning all my hopes on ewan the sheep when he arrives!

I am totally freaked. Have to see GP tmrw (again!) about lumpy boob (not discussing that at present as I know next step.......) but I still have piles (anyone else?) and not wanting to have him look I thought I'd hav a look in mirror to see if they external or internal.

But this let me see the rest............. Gaping would not describe the appearance of fanjo...... Is this normal???? I know the muscles aren't bad inside, but there's no feckin muscles in outer bit. Will this get better???? Not asking GP that one!!!

I have piles too huffle but I'm too scared to look. Too scared to look at other bits too but I have successfully used tampons this week so maybe that's a good sign!

Yomping - I posted something similar on another thread t,his morning saying that dd's sleep issues (she sleeps about 3pm to 3am) were ruining parenthood for DH and I. Different cause but I suspect similar feeling. Though you have been through a LOT more issues and too much greater degree than we have by the sounds of it (I am relatively new to the thread, sorry that I am not up on the whole history.). Anyway I am trying to see it as a very tiny percentage of her life with us and remember that this too shall pass, as others have said. Huge sympathy from me and never worry about unloading on here, that is exactly what this kind of thread is for

Anyway I am feeling better this evening as we went to see friends who were lovely, and DH took babyfunch out for a bit this morning beforehand so I could lie in for a while. Amazing how different things seem within a few hours at times.

Huffle I am more freaked by my haemorrhoids than my fanjo but then I haven't looked!! Might be horrendous but now I have read of your experience I am SO not checking!! One day I may let DH near me again (definitely not considering no. 2 at present!!) and he can update me then....

I was totally not looking funch but they have become much more uncomfy and I have just about had it up to here with discomfort!!! So want to ask GP tmrw about treatment. The other discovery was accidental ....... And no, DH not been anywhere near and I'm in no hurry to let!

Cheesy, didn't feel like laying an egg then??? Good job! See Lindonmrss earlier post............!

Ah you lot are great. Such brilliant advice to yomping there from squid and wantan, I couldn't put it better. Yomping please don't apologise- you are a complete hero. You are enduring considerably more than most parents- the relentlessness you describe sounds utterly unbearable and I just feel for you so much. You are doing absolutely everything you possibly can for your little one so please please give yourself a pat on the back and feel proud. And for God's sake don't stop your dh taking her out every now and then. It won't do her any harm to cry a wee bit. You will go nuts if you don't have the odd break occasionally. I am much better at relaxing the rules 2nd time around, not looking at him a million times a night to check he is still breathing and stuff like that and I have to say I feel much happier finding my own way rather than reading up too much or taking HV advice as gospel. As wantan says, the best is truly yet to come, each good and bad bit you work through is replaced by another set of pros and cons. Now they are so little and cute, but relentlessly demanding, then they lose the teenyness but become much more interactive and fun. After that they play and achieve a lot more but also trash your house...and pretty soon you will find yourself where I was today, tearing your hair out making up stories about fireman Sam needing your 3 year old to save the day in various scenarios for SEVEN HOURS in the back of a car!! (and then put him to bed and remember all the hilarious things he has said that day and just LOVE him to bits) god that was a ramble-clearly I need some effing sleep!!

huffle having same issues. Think I might need some horse tampons when AF returns

Good to know I'm not alone. Well in the right business Smile! (new member, if u are not the vet that will make no sense at all......)

Thd problem with bubs sleeping 2 hrs one might then nearly 6 is that my boobs don't kno wtf happening and right now they like rocks! Mr sleepyhead DS had only half emptied one too. Gah. Stupid boots online shopping, where the hell is my new pump??????

Hand expressing hurts, that cannot be good.

Positives Huffle, positives! DS has slept for nearly 6 hrs. Poonami woke him, his screams when changing probably woke the entire street. What a noise!!!!???? New 'why are u hurting me?' cry, think he's now bloody hoarse.

Gah.

Back to sleep, enough MN. 321 relax................

Vomit, poo, vomit, poo, and still heroically trying to get used to the reusable nappies (sometimes) - I am running out of space to hang washing!!!

Squid I was thinking of you and reusables with my 5am poonami (or was it 6?, no oidea). Well done in even trying!!

First I have same apt next week. Good luck, let me know how goes.

DS totally well asleep and need to get him up to go to doctor soon. Grr. Maybe I'll just leave him here asleep while I go...........

Also first, your sleep sounds great and more than adequate!! I'd not be trying to change a thing!!!!! Maybe that extra sleep might be 'normal' but that's prob based in fact that 3 month baby doesn't usually sleep like yours does at night!!! That's great for you, i am in awe!

Hah huffle it's been a bit of a learning curve! I am not using them at night or when we go out yet, just practising around the house... they have not yet leaked poo (the horrible incident yesterday was with a disposable)... but they do seem to soak through a lot quicker than disposables. Apparently they need washing 5-10 times before they get fully absorbent so just sticking with it for now... and have bought some new "inserts" (which you stuff inside the nappy for extra absorbency) made of bamboo which are apparently better - waiting for them to arrive in the post. I want to persevere!! I hate waste - both rubbish and wasting money - so it will make me happy in the long run if I can suss this.

Any tips from anyone using them would be welcome!

On the up side, they look and feel absolutely adorable and smell so sweet out of the washing machine and I feel like I'm saving money every time I use one.

Squid Bamboo is suprisingly more absorbent. Do you use liners? I use flushable paper ones that catch most of the mess. I find I have to change DD around every 3 hours.

I do use disposables as well but every one helps. Have you seen Wee Notions? They do custom made ones. I love seeing them all hung on the line.

I dont think they are any worse for dealing with poo explosions but then I'm used to using them and work in Early Years so quite used to poo!