January 2013 - New year arrivals welcomed into the world.

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As a few of us have popped early I thought I'd start us a post-natal thread.

Pascha, I have to take Bailey in the week before too to get weighed and measured. The woman making the appointments cocked up though - I have his injections in the morning at 10.45am with the practice nurse then back at 1.50pm for mine and his checks with the gp! How stupid to gave to go there twice in one day?! Need to see if I can get that changed actually...

Practically bricking myself for today!! Trying to express before i have a bath because my boobs dripping all over the shop :-D appointmens at half 11 and im going to be rushing like a madman. Im going to pill up on cocodamol incase i dont get anesthetic again

Good luck today Lora, hope this is the end of it. Don't let them do it without an anaesthetic and demand lots of pain killers.

Hope you're ok lora and tinkle (tinkle in my earlier hormonal state I nearly cried for you and DD!).

In case this helps anyone else, i tried keeping X awake for 1 hour out of every 3 during the day yesterday and it seemed to make a massive difference last night (she slept 5 then 4 then 2 hours). Obv I have jinxed it now by saying!

Ps someone tell me to stop googling. I have now found a hideous syndrome where head grows quickly and got paranoid X has it. I think I need help!!!!!

Birdies stop googling! Dr google is not your friend x

Well that went much better she gave me anesthetic without even asking. I have to go back again on monday. Im on new stronger anti bis til the abcess has pissed off, means i have to pump n dump to keep my supply cos dexters not allowed it. All in all i feel much better despite still being deformed. Hope everyobes babies are behaving :-D dps home from work so im going sleepies

Glad it went well lora.

Bailey has slept quite a while today I think because I've had him really cosied up due to the house being cold. Hoping that doesn't mean that tonight will be a disaster...

Hubby's birthday today so out for tea tonight. Yummy.

Glad it went well Lora
Tinkle thinking of you hope you are ok

Is anyone else finding issues with DP? He is so lovely, textbook good dad but I cannot help myself but harp on at him constantly about all the tiny things I feel he does wrong. I know I am being irrational and even hurtful but cannot stop myself, feeling crap because of it (and so is he!) :(

Meringue yep! I'm constantly going on at him, I can't help myself. He's equally good at pissing me off though!

Great news lora :)

tinkle hope you're ok.

Well DD was weighed today and has gained nearly 400g since Saturday! Very happy because the MWs were concerned as she kept losing weight (birth weight was 3.7kg) but seems that the tongue tie snip and feeding her every 2-3 hours has done the trick. Nipples still sore and thrushy but nowhere near as painful pre tongue tie. Still using nipple shields which I hate, but I guess I wouldn't be breastfeeding at all without them. I keep trying to get her latch on without them but she just gets annoyed.

Sleep-wise - she will only sleep on me or DP at night, and is getting increasingly cranky about sleeping in her moses basket in the day as well. Any tips for getting her to sleep??

Merangue ive done the same to my dp.. He did leave him in the swing without being strapped in though and he has improved since i moaned. Hes not been around babies before though so its a learning curve for him.

tugs try swaddling, white noise (eg Ewan or slumber bear), consistent bedtime routine (eg music, bath, massage), let her sleep on you and after 25 minutes transfer slowly to Moses basket (should be in deep sleep by then so not notice). If she wakes, pick her up, settle her, put her back. And keep trying.

But you may have tried all that already!

Try swaddling with one arm out too aswell as the 25 min wait. Some reason dexter prefers to feel half free

Thanks guys... Would be nice if I could just manage a day without having a go, sure it would be good for the whole family :(

Tugs try putting a blanket or muslin underneath her when feeding then if she falls asleep on top of it you can transfer together to Moses basket - nice and warm and smelling safe.

Tinkle and lora sorry you're having such a rough time and lora hope that's you sorted now ..

Birdies did the hour awake in 4 work again tonight ? Will try that tomorrow. I just got to sleep 11 till 3.30 though apparently dp has been up with her. But she wasn't crying so that's a start.

Is she supposed to have both breasts on a feed? She's 13 days. I was having trouble keeping her awake during feeding before but today the HV said to tickle her awake and now she's getting loads.

Dexters sleeping like a dream ive been awake since four 'expecting him' hes still asleep!! My boob is a mess i dont know wether to call them cos they are closed on the weekend. The area is bruised and i dont know if its the bruise or abcess but there is a small hole in the skin this is payback for an easy pregnancy and easy baby i swear!
Katolla your supposed to let her finish one side (god knows how you know its finished) then offer the other

My god... Do not read if your squeamish....

Im waiting on the boob dr calling me back. The lumpy area has skin peeling off like bad sunburn and pus seeps out the hole OH MY FUCKING GODthis is gross. Fair enough i want the pus out but this is minging. Im not at the point of crying yet....YET

Call them Lora. No point in worrying unnecessarily over the weekend when you can talk to someone today.

Katolla Daniel usually only manages one side per feed, occasionally he will ask for more once he finishes the first side but not that often. Lora is right, offer the second side and let her choose whether she wants it or not.

So I had my postnatal check yesterday which went fine apart from Dan waking and screaming just as the nurse was doing my blood pressure so she couldnt hear the pulse properly. Had to redo it with cuff on one arm and jiggling screamy boy on the other. Not decided about contraception yet as none of the three options available are ideal really - coil, implant or minipill. I left it for now to make a decision over the weekend.

I too am grumpy with DH and have to make an effort to be pleasant... Think it's tiredness really.

I'm booked in to arrange to get the copper coil. Can't wait as we're currently using condoms which I hate. Had the copper coil before - it's fantastic, no hormones and don't have to think about it.

There are 3 stages to feeding - first they gulp down lots and you can usually hear it. Next, they suck for a bit then pause for a bit then suck/pause etc and then it'll feel like tickly flutters and they should come off when they're finished very easily - they will have broken the seal and your nipple should just slide out. Wind them and offer the other side if they are still awake or looking for it. Bailey sometimes takes it, sometimes not.

He slept from nearly 10-4 for the second night in a row - I am feeling so much better for it! Hopefully it continues. He's making a lot of noise between 5 and half 6 though. I think I need to wind him more to stop him being sick which wakes him up. If he slept properly after the 4am feed, it would be great!

pascha I'm surprised your blood pressure wasn't through the roof! I am going back on the mini pill ( cerazette) which is great because I have no periods on it.

katolla dd always takes both sides at each feed. she either falls asleep on the boob or squirms then spits it out when she has finished. then I change her nappy, which wakes her up and usually makes her cry, then i give her the other side to calm her down

I'm used to it MrsBug adslightly tune the noise out now else I'd never get anything done.

I would have the Minipill except I fell pregnant on it having done nothing but take it properly each day with no sickness or antibiotics or missing one . DH is waiting for a vasectomy. The coil is a faff to book in round here - have to wait for a FP clinic appt (approx 5 week wait), then swabs, then fitting. The implant I know-nothing about but have only heard negative reviews..

I don't know which is the least dislikable option really. I'm not trusting breastfeeding alone or with condoms. Just too much scope for an accident.

How is everyone finding time to have sex?!!

katolla I didn't follow the routine yesterday and X slept a lot more in the day. So it didn't go so well overnight. It's meant to be 1 hour awake in every 3. And basically you wake them, nappy change, feed, have some play time (so all of that's for at least 1 hour), and then nap time. There's lots of waking them though.

Does anyone else feel that their baby sleeps more than the average? I don't mean I can put my feet up and leave her asleep all day as there are regular feeds, nappy changes and some fussing. But if I carried her around I think she would sleep the whole time in between feeds. Wakey time seems to only happen first and last thing. About 4 hours in total?

birdies if I am out and about with the sling, DD just sleeps and sleeps. She is otherwise barely awake in the morning (1 hour top between 7am and 1pm). Afternoons and evening (1-7pm) vary - anything between 2 and 4 hours.
and then the nights... well. she is relatively good. Will go down at 7.30pm, wake up for feed at 11.30pm and again at 3am, then at 7am. However, she grunts a lot, and I am always expecting her to start wailing, which sometimes happens, sometimes not.

otherwise - sex - ah ah ah - even with no newborn it is hardly on the list, so now, contraception even seems a far fetched idea ;)
I also cannot bear the idea of it with a baby in the same room. Did nothing until DD1 moved to her own room at 6 months, so expect at least the same this time round, if not even longer!

Same here marasme. And if both baby were asleep at the same time I'd rather watch TV!!!! Poor DH....

X is asleep on her front in her Moses basket. I put her in on her back in the day and she cries after a few minutes. I pick her up and she's fast asleep again.

Does anyone else put baby on their front to sleep in the day? Does it affect how they sleep at night (I'd rather have her on her back at night still)?