October babies. Don't get lost

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huffle I'm currently sat in the bathroom because I carried ds in in his chair because he was guzzling and I knew...I'd be a while and thought he'd start screaming. Of course though, he's fallen asleep and I don't want to wake him carrying him back! God!

Grizzling not guzzling. I do not bf my baby while on the loo!

I've thought about bfing on the loo before...

I'm a bit worried about something. we're going to my mum and dad's for Xmas and they have this dog. I live her to bits but she's quite naughty and extremely unpredictable- she jumps up at people playfully and gets quite rough. basically I really don't want her in the room with my baby and I don't really know how to address this. aibu? I know i should just talk to my mum, but I did the same thing when I was pregnant and she told me that she would make sure the dog wouldn't be able to jump up at me... and then nothing was any different from usual- the dog was in the room and I had to constantly guard my bump.

mickey, you've got a dog right? it just scares me because this one is so unpredictable... can I really just put my foot down and say the dog has to be shut in another room for 3 days? seems a bit mean. but it's what I'd rather do.

Hi everyone, can I rejoin please?! Was on antenatal thread before work and pregnancy tiredness made me stop posting, but have been lurking and keeping up with Angelico and met orenishii on the 'overdue and want to kill someone' (or something to that effect) thread...
Minihooo was born on 21st October and now that the hell of the first few weeks is over (I hope) I think I may have time to post, so I'm back if you'll have me?!
Have been amazed at your stories of horrific births and sick beans and possible PND and not so idyllic childhoods... and honestly think you're ALL brilliant for coping with those things and being so honest and sharing your experiences. I can relate to wanting to swear at minihooo in the early days, and have had more than a few moments where I've been sobbing along with her. Nothing more to add to that really, it's just bloody hard this parenting business isn't it?!
Anyway, hope you don't mind me returning - it was actually a poo-mageddon moment in the baby room at John Lewis that made me realise I need to start posting again... had been in there almost 2 hours feeding her when she pooed as I was about to leave. In my rush I didn't quite let her finish, leading to gushes and squirts of poo/farts whilst changing her, plus a little wee... and then the sudden realisation that I'd taken the spare babygro out of the changing bag as it was too small for her. I managed to get away with one spot of wee on her vest. So incredibly proud of myself!

I've breastfed my babies on the loo... But only to avoid unlatching them, you understand.

londonmrss I get dog rage quite easily - I can't bear it when one of them rushes up to me and DD in the woods and starts sniffing us and jumping up at her. It terrifies her. Then the owner generally says: 'Oh, he just wants to get to know you!' FFS - if a human did that it'd be sectioned. I find it a gross intrusion. My mother had dogs when I was little but I've taken against them since, especially after having to scrape dog poo off the wheels of DD's buggy - and being bitten by a dog on a public footpath while I was walking in France. In short, I think you'd be totally reasonable to ask for the dog to be kept in another room, but I realise I'm a bit hysterical about canines.

While we're on the subject of anger management ... I've been there with DD. I've never hit her and never would, but I have been so furious that I've screamed at her. I am very ashamed of it and it only happens when I've been alone with her for too long. Since DS was born I've more or less kept it under control because his presence acts as a check on me. We're not meant to have to deal with children on our own in small houses for long periods - it isn't the way human society evolved. Nor should any small child be exposed to the vast range of temptations in a supermarket ... Which is one of the reasons I don't take DD to them. The human brain can only take so much.

Zara I had similar issues with my dad, he could be violent, was always very intolerant and I used to be terrified of him and am petrified of turning into him. I see echoes of him in the way I talk to DH when I am stressed so I'm really glad I'm tackling it head on and seeking help. He and I get on OK now but I don't want DD growing up scared of me like I was of him. Feel free to PM me if you want to chat about it, sounds like we've got similar fears.

Evening peeps :o Have been out to a friend's house for a few Xmas drinkies. Bean was a nightmare earlier, then was utterly charming to everyone at friend's house, so they all said how wonderful she was. Ha, I thought, if you'd seen her screaming like a banshee half an hour ago (at which point I called her a little beast) you wouldn't have been saying that. She then did an epic poonami on her Xmas dress and had to be washed down with a cloth. Incidentally this was the same friend I mentioned who arrived for lunch and had to help me bath the bean. She seems to have a laxative effect... :o

Squid don't be haunted by anything you said at 3 weeks. At the 3 week stage I remember lying sobbing in bed and telling DH that we had ruined our lives having the bean...

nenehooo hello!!!! I was just thinking about you yesterday and was going to pm you to say happy Xmas. Do stick around :o And kudos on being a changing ninja :o

London the dog thing is awkward. We stayed with friends at weekend and they have dogs. Basically they brought a table in so we could put the bean's chair up on the table and they were very good, just had a little sniff at her when she was on my knee. Don't be afraid to tell your mum that you want the dogs out of room while you eat so you can relax and enjoy your dinner. It's just not worth the risk. Remind her of that poor wee baby that was killed by the GP's jack russell a few weeks back.

huffle sounds fab - can't remember feeling that clean and pampered. Really fancy a spa actually!

Going to go and feed the bean - she should sleep well...

Have found the most hilarious light relief, it's like The Onion for parenting

Is Purell Slowly Killing You?

Husband Poos Self During Wife's Traumatic Delivery

Coldhearted Five-year-old Girl Just Going to Let Her Crying Carrie-Anne Doll Sob Until Batteries Run Out

Oh my...•Zara• that's HYSTERICAL!!! "Shame on Dave for ushering his daughter into the world in this way" just brilliant
Hi Angelico thanks for welcoming me back - minihooo is exactly the same - will scream right up until a guest arrives and then sleep. That said, she screamed the surgery down at her 8 week jabs. Every other baby had stopped by the time they left the room - not my mini I think nappy ninja would be a good name change!!!
My mum also has a very friendly, licky little dog that DH is concerned about. She got him because she was desperate for something to love post retirement and pre new grandchild, so he is very literally her baby and she treats him as such. However she has been brilliant whenever we've been there, holding into him and keeping him well away from baby at all times. So london maybe this will happen for you? Can't imagine anyone letting dogs jump all over a teeny baby when it comes down to it... If not, def ask for them to be kept away - it's your right!

What 's all this Zara bull business?! Sorry Zara, I wasn't calling you a bull or any other sort of name, honest!!!

londonmrss you definately not being unreasonable. I trust our dog fully but i still wouldn't leave them alone together. You just don't do it! like angelico said, remind your mum about that poor baby and the jack russell a few weeks ago- that oughta scare her enough- it terrified us. Do you have a travel cot? Or something with v high sides? Its not ideal but if I absolutely have to leave the room and the dog cant come with me then i just put her in a travel cot. Its high enough to stop the dog jumping in/on her. HTH. I warn you though, its a full time occupation trying to figure a dog into the equation, (as if parenting isnt!!!) and its hard work. Luckily our dog is quite placid and scatty and is more interested in the cats in the garden... if someone comes round with their baby/toddler, i keep her restrained until she has sniffed them- then i let her outside. usually she runs away from toddlers he he

Monumentous occasion here in the house!!! I left DD after failing to get her to sleep her last feed at 10.30pm last night, gave her to DP and went to bed myself- he put her in basket asleep at 1am (dont know how long she was asleep for) and she has only OONLY just woken up at 7.45am!!!! Who is this and what have they done with my baby!!! they can stay if they like!!!!!

argh I've stopped sleeping. could've had amazing night last night as ds2 went 9.30-3-7 but my anxiety levels are sky rocketing and I couldn't sleep.

not sure exactly what it is, probably a combination of factors. both ds's ill for a while now, ds2 actually losing weight, have to have tongue tie cut but NHS doc on hols until after cut-off at 12 weeks so he'd require general anaesthetic!! Fuck that! so paying privately to have it done but still no guarantees that it'll sort weight issues. and struggling to find time for private woman to come. she did ds1's and must admit don't like her much

plus got Christmas coming up and am stressed about sleeping arrangements at bil's house as I'm such a crap sleeper

gah I can't think straight I'm exhausted but pumped with adrenaline. feeling pretty panicky

out of interest, what kind of dog is it? xxxx

Oh my, Ds slept eight hours! Got to bed late because we were watching this awesome documentaries on babies, last feed finished about 12.45 and just work up half an hour ago! Do you think there's something wrong with him? How can he go that long between feeds??

Yay for long sleeps Mickey and Orenishii babies!!!

I do not panic about long sleeps Orenishii, not that I've had 8 hrs in few weeks! If he is hungry he will surely waken. At this stage your baby is bigger and sturdier!!! I assume mine gets a great full tummy in evening feeds and that lets him sleep longer. There are no rules, they all feed differently!

We got just under 6 hrs then feed for half hour and another 2. I feel pretty good after that. Think the teething powders must have made a difference. He was awake for ages after bath but not cross much at all. Still dribbled loads but no random sudden screeches at all.

I need to do some more Christmas shopping today. Feck.

crazy, that sounds exactly like how i felt in the 1st week - it's a horrible feeling, hope u get some cuddles & warm milk to help u relax. orenishii, at 5 and a half weeks i started letting bean sleep for more than 4 hrs at a time, increasing by 30 mins each nite. we have had some regressions but she did 9 and a half hrs last nite not much day time sleep tho. just make sure i feed her at keast 6 timez in 24 hrs. zara, glad u r feeling better and fil so supportive. hurrah for huffle's diplomatic dh. ao, i have 3 stone to lose and am hating how fat i am. not sure how to go about it - low carb diet works for me, but do not have time to whip up meat/fish and veggies for lunch or willpower to avoid treats or the time to exercise - i had my hopes pinned on b/f, but have only lost a little

Londonmrss I would not leave baby anywhere near a dog - my DS1 had a dog turn on him when he was about 18 months old. It had been in the garden with all of us (we were at a friends house, it was their dog) and it had been fine for several hours. I will never forget the image of its mouth over his face. He had a cut below his eye, a scratch on his eyelid and a cut on his brow plus bruising. He was lucky, it was superficial, but as you can image DH and I were more traumatised than him! Scar is almost invisible now thankfully and he doesn't remember a thing.

Oreniishi, DS2 is 9 weeks and has done the odd 8 hour stretch. As he is growing well and feeding well during the day I just enjoy it and hope it becomes a habit

Happy Apocalypse Eve people!
I haven't posted for ages, but I won't make you endure another of my epic catch ups as, quite frankly, I don't have the energy!

Crazy, that doesn't sound good for your health. You have a lot of things on your mind. When's the tongue tie cutting booked for? Maybe once that's done, you can relax a bit. Any kind of feeding problems must be the ultimate worry for any mum, I really feel for you.

Yey for all the sleeping babies! Statistically, I reckon we're a very lucky thread in that respect.
DS has put himself into his own routine, which works for me so we're sticking with it. Goes down around 8pm in his cot for an hour or so (I prepare dinner), wakes up for a last feed and might take a bit of settling, then does about 4hrs/4hrs/2hrs. He only wakes for a quick feed then goes straight back to sleep each time. It's been pretty much like clockwork for the past couple of weeks. Loving it!
I have a clueless DH too though - will chat and jiggle and switch on lights after bedtime. I try not to even make eye contact. Then in the day he's always shushing and rocking like he's trying to get him to sleep.

Ha to "at least 6 times a day" Beccus, my DS swears blind he'd starve if he wasn't fed at least 60 times a day.
Which leads me to poo - I'm so of those who only poo once in a blue moon. DS basically goes after every feed, and quite often goes again while I'm changing him But we still have poonamis, not so much due to the amount but more to the force at which it comes out.

Thanks for the toy recommendations. Couldn't get the Lamaze dragonfly thing as it seems BabiesRUs (in Japan) have stopped stocking Lamaze, but got a Bright Starts one that looks almost identical. DS is not really interested. He spends all of his time on the mat staring and cooing at himself in the mirror.

Wish I could come swimming with you all, sounds great. But I have finally started to make some RL mummy/future mummy friends. I have one pregnant friend, due in Jan (but leaving Japan in the Summer). I went to her baby shower on Saturday (my first) and met loads of women of all different nationalities, who either already have kids or are pregnant. Have already had lots more invites since [happy]
That was the first day I left DS for any length of time. We'd built up a stock of expressed milk so left him and DH to get on with it. They were ok, but DS didn't sleep at all so both we're knackered. I fed him when I got back and then he just passed out on my lap, mid babble!

Apparently I do have the energy for an epic... (all about me, I'm sorry)

Twobuttons that must have been so scary!
I love dogs and never had any fear, but I got bitten by my friend's dog when I was back earlier this year and now I'm not so sure...
That Jack Russell incident was awful.

Oh, forgot to say - I've BF on the loo . It was an emergency!

So I want to try out the baby bjorn this afternoon in a trip to the shop. It's raining and I don't have the rain cover. Will she be okay if I use a brolly?xx

Sounds fine to me Bora, that's what I would do.

Excellent. Ill report back if I'm accosted by social services in waitrose

bora, i like to cover babybeccus in an oversize jumper. good luck!! baby bjorn is awesome, in my opinion

Ha. All my "oversized" jumpers now fit me

Christ on a bike, I ordered a Bambinex trial kit and there are no instructions. Can anyone tell me how the hell it works?