October babies. Don't get lost

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Tho Zara it really does sound like period......

Yay baby London on that great stretch of sleep!

Angelico after several crying sessions over my tactless and heartless community MW's and the HV's visits, I've decided to just smile and nod and go through the motions with them but not pay them any mind. I don't think they are known for their sensitivity!

Bora we co-sleep and also have a bedside cot from Ikea as an extension. We just sorta get frisky when DS is asleep - we've not managed actual sex yet but the intention is there Basically when he's asleep and I'm not dashing around like a mad person! Your daughter has very similar sleep patterns to my son, it sounds like!

Oh and in an effort to make myself feel pretty - since my body looks crap and i have about two tops and one pair of (uncomfortable) jeans that fit - I decided to do my roots! I got the best natural stuff - no ammonia, no peroxide, no other nasty chemicals to possibly pass through to DS. I thought it would be pretty weak and they only had Golden Honey colour when I'm more a light ash blonde...so I left it on longer...

I'm now mostly orange :( Did a mad dash to the private high street chemist for gripe water - national shortage seems to mainly pertain to Superdrug - and their many quantities of Violet Silver toning shampoo mostly used by old ladies for a purple rinse. Pray for my poor orange hair!

Angelico DS had cradle cap until he was 3 years old! It's not harmful in any way, it's just not that pretty.

Orenishii I like orange .

It's my birthday today and we have christmas party tonight. DD is full of cold and very cross because her blocked nose is making it hard to feed. Sleeping through was a one off but she does seem to have dropped one feed. She slept 8pm-3.15am, then woke at 6.30am.

Zara I wouldn't worry. I've had similar and asked dr who said as long as it isn't foul smelling (nice) and very painful then it's nothing to worth about. Could be period (though I'm bf) or could just be the last bits clearing out. I think you'll be fine and double check on Monday. (Although I am no medical pro so this is all my opinion)

Am I missing a trick with Ewan the sheep? Haven't ever seen one on- what does he do? Is he really magic? can he also feed and change baby too please?

waiting for out of hours GP to ring back. ds2 now has d&v (thanks to a friend who visited with it without telling me until too late, who the Fuck does that to a tiny baby?) and on top of horrible cold and rarely feeding he's projectile vomiting anything he does have as well as green diarrhoea.

Oh Crazy your poor DS and your friend is a nobber. It's rotten timing but so rife - my sis's whole family have been struck down with it including baby :( Hopefully OOH doc can give you something to help. And a and a for you x

Zara does sound like your period - mine came back after D&C. Sorry for TMI but is so weird having all the normal discharges again, including EWCM Will beat DH off with a stick if he tries to come near me while it's around :o

Ewan is awesome Honey - I read about him on one of the sleep threads here. Our bean loved him when she was tiny while others only seem to find him useful now. Ewan bought us many hours of happy nighttime sleep / peaceful meals out with bean in carseat etc etc! He's on Amazon - Ewan the Dreamsheep. Best twenty quid you'll ever spend! White noise is good for sleeping, harp music good for when they are awake but chilling.

Thanks for cradle cap feedback :) In fairness to my HV she is lovely and very helpful and gave a good suggestion for the cradle cap which worked wonders. Basically rub oil on, let it soak, then with a soft baby brush (I bought a Tommy Tippee one) - brush over the oil and cradle cap till it starts coming off. Then shampoo and brush again, then rinse. I did this last night before and during bean's bath and she does look a hell of a lot better this morning. So will add the brushing to her weekly bath. Sad side effect: her hair is all neat, like an American presidential candidate, instead of her being a spiky punk-haired baby :(

On baths is anyone else still only bathing once a week? I think we'll probably start doing 2 a week soon but really can't be arsed with every night just yet. She loves her Tummy Tub (sitting, splashing, punching the duck thermometer, trying to latch on duck's beak as if it's a giant orange nipple :o)) and can now be lifted out without going mad. Secret we've found is: lift out, wrap up tight in towels, feed her, then sit on mat in front of fire to dry and dress her so she is toasty and she can spy at the flames if she wants.

Right must go and pack everything up... have a nice Sat ladies x

any news crazy? if they keep you waiting it might just be better to go to a and e. hope everything is ok. hugs.

well we had that impressive 4.5 hour sleep where she woke up at 2.30am and then she awoke again at 5 then 7. still it's a step in the right direction and we'd never had anything over 3 hours till last night.

thanks for asking London

got called in to see out of hours GP. she said he's looking really well considering, no significant signs of dehydration. prescribed diarolyte (sp?!) and told to come back if no improvement. well she obviously had a magic NHS wand cos he hasn't thrown up since and has been feeding (and pooing ) all afternoon. he's fed more in the last 2.5 hours than he has in the last 2.5 days, I'm so relieved!! he's still snotty as hell and coughing pitifully but seems more robust now he's feeding - know that's all in my head but there you are!!

we could be in for a long night if this afternoon's anything to go by!

will catch up properly when I've recovered a bit! hugs to all.

Glad he's doing well crazy

phew crazy. that's great that he's feeding well-written that will help flush any nasties out of his system.

Glad he's doing ok crazy and will keep fingers crossed that you have an ok night.

We had my sister to stay last night and it was fab. She lives abroad so I don't see her that much. Lovely to see her bonding with DD and lots of cuddles. She and DF went out this morning and got a Christmas tree. So excited. I've never had one before (as a grown up in my own home) as I'm never at home for Xmas. Normally DF and I go skiing. Anyway, it looks ace and am v excited. MIL comes on Wednesday for a month. Yay, for help and for company.

Totally distracted day.
Crazy hope everything continues to improve for little man. Punch your friend for me.

Livvy I am delighted to hear about the changes in your company!! Yay for having people around!!! That will do you the power of good.

I've to go in to work tmrw to do December payroll and run eye over accounts. So fingers crossed for reasonable sleep [hopeful emoticon]

Hugs to those who need them, cheers to those having better days! X

Just running in to say what kind of fool goes to see a newborn with d&v? So glad baby crazy is on the mend.

Thinking of crazy too. So glad he's feeding now. That's a very good sign.

I have totally mismanaged DS' perianal abscess. I feel awful about it. He's had a week's course of antibiotics and three baths a day, plus some naked kickabout time. It was gradually getting better and when we had a follow-up appointment on Monday the doctor said we needn't come back and gave another AB prescription, just in case.

The first course of antibiotics gave him diarrhoea, which didn't help with the task of trying to keep the area clean, and I was glad when it was finished. But - oh, I feel so guilty now - I thought I could help things along by squeezing the abscess a little bit. Of course it hasn't helped at all. It was inflamed again tonight and when I squeezed it (why? I suppose because no one warned me not to) it bled quite a lot. Poor, poor thing. I hadn't Googled for advice because I didn't want to frighten myself, as I so often do.

I know now that you mustn't squeeze an abscess, and now I may have made it worse - he might even have to have it surgically drained. Why was I so stupid? Why didn't I leave it alone? He's fine in himself, but was in pain when I squeezed it tonight.

I am lying here praying that it's better tomorrow morning. If not I'll go and fetch the prescription. And I'll never squeeze it again. Of course I'll have to take him back to the hospital if it's any worse or no better by Monday.

Am so ashamed. Sorry, everyone. So much for being an experienced second-timer.

If they have to drain the pus surgically he'll probably have to be admitted to hospital, won't he? He'll be in a cot and I won't be able to hold him. Poor, poor little thing. I don't deserve to look after him. I've been so stupid.

Elpis. Stop bringing so hard on yourself. He will be fine. Big squeeze.

Quick one for Elpis - going out in a mo.
I definitely would have squeezed it - if it has pus in it, I squeeze. Like you say, you weren't to know. You really are being too hard on yourself, I'm sure he'll be fine. Maybe get the antibiotics, just in case, even if it looks better?
Please don't apologise, you don't always have to have the answer. We're all just mums, first time or second, muddling along and offering advice where we can. The last thing you need to do is worry about letting us down!
((Hugs))

Crazy, I hope DS is feeling much better.

Happy Birthday Wantan! Hope you managed to have a good day. Feel better soon DD!

well said, cherry. elpis, if it was u with the abscess, i bet u would have squeezed it - it's the natural thing to do, help expel the pus. please dont be too hard on yourself or expect the worse - it has been healing well. crazy, glad dc2 is ok - i went to bed last nite with tummy pains, convinced it was noro virus, but thank goodness all ok now. livvy, vlad u r enjoying your visitors. squid, glad u felt well enough to go to the spa- hope u had a lovely time. i am in awe of your 630 runs. i am sure with all the work u r putting in u will achieve your goal over time. sorry to all those i've missed

Elpis, I totally would have,squeezed it too. Hope all has settled down by the morning.

I am mostly exhausted. DD appears to be perpetually famished. I fed her 10 times between 7am and 7pm. I then expressed some milk, added it to what I'd expressed this morning and went to bed, hoping that a good 5oz feed with dad at 10 would see her right. She then woke at 3, fed for 20 mins. Then 5am for 30 mins. Put her down at 545 and she screamed at six. WTF? She is seven weeks tomorrow.

for elpis.

pretty crappy night. we got 4.5 hours sleep again, ending at 2.30am and then she hasn't slept for more than 20 mins since then plus she's trying to gas me with the most horrific farts. could be something to do with the fact that she hasn't pooed for nearly 3 days. it's that ok? she doesn't seem too bothered by it.

I've just properly scared myself by learning that babies are at risk if they are in a carseat for too long. I've been using the carseat on the pram for long walks because I thought it was better that she could see a bit more and was upright. apparently I'm risking her life. thought I was beginning to know what I was doing, turns out I'm even more useless than I thought. what am I meant to do at Xmas? we've got the nearly 4 hour drive to Yorkshire. it's it really that dangerous? fuck's sake.

Morning all, crap night here caused by DS1 aged 4 years, not DS2 aged 9 weeks!!

Just a quick post - mrsS car seat limits can be ignored - they do it to cover themselves, we drive DS1 to Cornwall when he was little and he was fine - healthy and safety madness .

EBF and no poo for 3 days also nothing to worry about - our record is 6 days but they can apparently do up to 2 weeks!! Lovely wind smell was there for us too!!

londonlivy all that feeding sounds like 6 week growth spurt. Hope it calms down for you soon

elpis please please don't be so hard on yourself! I would've squeezed, just like the rest of us! You are a good mum and making sure baby is getting looked after!

squid same goes for you - please don't be so hard on yourself. My heart goes out to you because the way you react to things sounds like me - in just 24 hours it's so easy to go from "hell yeah! I can do this" to "fuck. fuck. Can't cope". You are doing great! Believe it!

Ok just want some reassurance I'm not a total bad mother. DS just had a total colicky screamathon. None of us were having luck settling him. I felt so frustrated and said to DMIL that I didn't have much sympathy for DS when he was being a brat like this. She said all babies cry for a reason and I said no, I think they don't know why they cry sometimes and it's bloody frustrating. I said it may make me sound like a bad mum but its annoying when you bust your ass all day to make them happy and then they act like a shit. Ok I know it probably came out really harsh but I was just annoyed and being honest. Clearly I love DS to bits and pieces but this is so fucking hard, esp with DH away. Anyway DMIL gave me proper catsbummouth and went all quiet and disapproving on me. Then wouldn't hand DS back to me when I asked. Oh fuck off I thought, like I'm the first mother to ever think that or say it. And like she never thought that with her kids. And I would never ever do anything to harm him obviously. I just feel neutral and mild annoyance towards him when he screams his head off for no obvious reason when I'm exhausted.

AIBU to think its not unreasonable to be completely fed up with your 7 week old screamy baby? And that it's better to acknowledge your annoyance than let it fester? I gave DS a kiss afterwards and apologized to him and told him mummy is just tired and misses daddy.

Holed up in the bedroom now reading a book and drinking a glass of wine. DMIL probably telling DFIL what a feckless mother I am. Harrumph.

We were told 2-2 1/2 hours in the carseat at a time londonmrs so a 5 hour drive split in the middle for a change and feed and you should be fine. We were told longer than that can hurt their backs but as long as there are breaks it should be fine

zara
YANBU! Yes babies scream for a reason, but they also scream for no apparent reason and at the moment it'd very hard to distinguish. I feed, wind, chAnge, feed, wind, cuddle. If he's still crying then I'm out of ideas.