November 2012 - come on stragglers, we're waiting for you

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1622007-November-2012-hurry-up-to-graduate-were-running-out-of-November

Dixie so true I love o have him back and probably feeling refreshed to enjoy him again helps.

vq so pleased you had a better 1st half of the night! DS1 does Tues, Wed and Thurs too.

nervous I have done most of my Christmas shopping on amazon and just need to pop to the mega M&S to get a couple of last minute bits. I was going to do this Thurs but snow if forecast so we will see what happens.

Right......who has stolen the sleep suit with the car on? I can't find it anywhere and it is cosy warmfor an Icey day.

Nervous - yes he loves looking at things. He has an advent calendar which I time daily for when he's awake. He likes standing (supported) or sitting looking out on mine or dh knee.

You know when he's alert and needing stimulation in his eyes and face. The play may can be useful along with bouncy chair and cot mobile.

glenda I empathise with the thinking you would be better off if a single mum. I would certainly be better off financially. I do hope things get better for you soon x hope nugget is ok too.

My mumsnet on the laptop has gone all funny too!

Well after an all night feed-a-thon on Sunday night, I thought I would get an early night last night, so trotted on up the old dancers at 9pm. Wishful thinking Shelly, was still feeding Tommy at 11.30 and probably most hours after that YAWN! I actually feel like Cleopatra in a morning, covered in milk, except she only bathed in it and wasn't wearing nightclothes that were stiff with hours old milk

And I also have to say that dummies have saved me from the asylum!

Shelly is like they know our plans!

shelley know the feeling, except DS doesn't seem to want the dummy!!!

Morning ladies.

sophia ok, I admit it, I have your suit with the car on.

We had a better night after a slightly wobbly start. I was christened with baby sick in my hair! That's a first but I don't imagine it will be the last.

Does anyone else's night go a bit like this though -
Feed
LO falls asleep
Swaddle LO
LO wakes up
Shoogle LO until back asleep again
Prise self out of chair
LO's eyes open
More shoogling
Tiptoe to bedroom
LO's eyes open just as you open the bedroom door
Shoogle again
Put LO in basket
And breathe . . .

That is my routine pretty much every night feed. The only addition would be after swaddling a wee P who has fallen asleep on the bottle a has refused to wake up suddenly decides she is starving and demands more.

And! Wee P has taken to sleeping with her eyes open. It's a touch disconcerting.

On a non baby note.... Profiteroles or trifle do you think, for the alternative Christmas on Sat. ( ham cherry coke to start as requires least effort and brain cells)

Hugs to all those with twunty other halves and crappy nights.

We have total reversal here. Since having M, DP has changed all of his selfish bastardy ways and is now dream partner for now anyway lol. He now does housework to my standard, doesnt shout back when I'm having a strop and is so in love with our daughter it reduces me to big soppy tears everytime I see him with her! We've got into a great routine where we split the 'nightshift' with him giving her EBM so we are both guaranteed 4/5 hours solid sleep.

Matilda now back up to almost birth weight after only losing 5% and we've been discharged from mw at day 9 - YAY!! (does this qualify for a celebratory lunch out??)

Ooo close them pass that's spooky!

Glenda if your wee one is BFing then I wouldn't worry about irregular poos - Jonas hasn't shat since Sunday either.

All he has done is FEEEEEEEEEEED.

It is safe to say the 6 week growth spurt is here (a little late for my early boy) he was attached to my boobs from 2pm til 10pm last night with a forty minute break. DH got him to sleep with an EBM bottle for midnight. Then he's been up since 3.30am attached to the boobs. I have given up the day as a wreck already. This too will pass. He is building my supply. I am going to get bedsores from the sofa but it could be worse, I'm in a warm house, there are Christmas films on the telly, the fridge is full, DH is doing tea, sleep is for wimps... but I will get some eventually. I know this is the point that most Mums give up BFing but I know after this it will be so much easier.

rowing I loved that link

For anyone else struggling with feeding or growth spurts - read this. It blew me away and made me realise that I am going to sodding persevere:nurshable.com/2012/05/27/six-week-growth-spurt/

We had a good night, went to bed earlier an was hoping she'd go down a bit earlier but she fed until 11:30. Up at 3 and then woke at 6 when DH got up for work.
Today we're still in bed, having a lazy day as I've got a bad headache. Feels like sinusitis or my wisdom tooth coming through. So we're relaxing. Might go for a walk later.

Tomorrow I'm planning on going in to work at lunchtime, this means we'll have to get up with DH and take him in to work. Not sure how it'll go with her constant feeding and cuddles, don't fancy getting my boob out in the work canteen

Trying my new medela breast pump. Fuck this things good! (if a little noisy..)

MM AMAZING - that's such lovely news. You had a feeling that he would sort himself out after the birth - for some blokes they do just have to meet the baby before it's real. Am really chuffed. Great news on the routine - I can't wait to get back into ours after this growth spurt - check out that link I posted so that you get advanced notice and don't wonder what hellish world you've entered when she hits 6 weeks. My sis assures me I'll have my gorgeous boy back by the end of the week - until then he seems to be the milk terrier growling and screaming at my boobs ordering them to make more milk. Wah.

Today I am going to live in a parallel universe where I am a surgical intern in Seattle thanks to the TV. Otherwise I would have to own up to being a couch bound sleep deprived crazy woman with a snarling baby on my boob.

Ham cherry coke Sophia? Tell us more please.

Pass my cousin sleeps with his eyes open too. Weirdest thing ever, you would think it would hurt.

It isn't lack of sleep, it is being able to look after DS and do all the things I need to do - on time instead of late! Bf is easy - at night! When nowhere to go and nothing else to do!

It's the day time I am struggling with.

Is he definitely hungry every time detective? DS often seems hungry and will latch on, but then pulls off, fusses & cries because he doesn't want milk, he wants sleep. He won't take the dummy much though, so I just have to rock him. It goes against my instincts & is hard, but sometimes its worth letting them cry for a bit longer - if they're hungry, they keep going. If tired, they wear themselves out & fall asleep... Very hard work though.

Glenda jezz that sucks. I to have times were I think this would b easier if I left n was in my own. With DH n pil! Lol. Last night DH got drunk again at work. Was not impressed at all. So made him get up for last nights feed. He did say "that's not fair I got work" my reply "u should have thought about that when u were drinking last night, if u hasn't been drinking I wouldn't have woken u, remember that nxt time u drop by the pub on the way home". N I will continue to wake him for feeds if he has been drinking.

Soph can I have profiter rolls. I don't like trifle

Det virtual hugs. Hope ur having a better day.

LO has been awake since 10. Trying to put him down for a nap. He drifted off a few minutes ago but is now shuffling n wingeing on no here come the screams. Might let him settle himself.

detective Same here. I am used to being sleep deprived now, it's getting everything done in the day time that is proving difficult. Normal things like getting dressed, cooking, cleaning, timing his feeds so I can actually get out of the house occasionally.

sophia trifle. You can have a teeny weeny bit (apparently) if you just want a little something sweet. Profiteroles can seem a bit heavy, even though I am sure yours would not be. How about getting a fancy ice-cream or sorbet instead so zilch effort?

YW very proud of you. It is a case of just surrendering it and knowing it will pass. Our 6 week spurt has not properly hit due to him being ill. Unless I am getting away lightly.

detective are you ok?

Delay posting due to HV. 11lb 7 now. They are pleased with him.

Det sry cross post. I thought it was lack of sleep that was issue.

I agree with previous suggestion , maybe it's not always hunger. My LO cry is very similar for sleep or hunger. Only way I can tell difference is the time since last feed! Thinking about it, That ain't good! Must pay more attention.

Ps I caved n picked LO up. He is not asleep on my chest. Now to mk transfer. Lol

What are your thoughts about things today detective after a few weeks day times will be so much easier with BF than formula. It will give you more time in the long run.

Detective I get the same feelings as you, I am usually the sort of person who is up doing things all the time I love DS more than anything but when he is presented to me time after time with a simple "he needs feeding" from DP I get a sinking feeling, I know it's going to take yonks and I'll get covered in milk and end up with my various layers of clothes around my waist/armpits. It's a real battle between head/heart for me, I want to breast feed but sometimes it's really making my life miserable.

I had a huge minor hissy fit at DP this morning, I'm bloody tired, he has learnt to ignore DS's night time 'hunger cry' so basically unless I elbow him in the back to stop him snoring or to fetch a nappy he gets to sleep all night, I'm the one dealing with the rolling, snuffly, sucky baby all night! So when DP asked had I given DS his medication or taken mine I snapped of course I hadn't fucking done it I've been strapped to the baby on the sofa for 2 days/ night solid.