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November 2012 - come on stragglers, we're waiting for you

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StuntNun · 05/12/2012 19:42

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1622007-November-2012-hurry-up-to-graduate-were-running-out-of-November

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KissysUnderTheMisteltoe · 09/12/2012 17:49

MM your MIL sounds like a piece of work, what a dreadful thing to say! I hope your DH set her straight

I'm using the iBaby Feed app, it's really useful

NervousAt20 · 09/12/2012 18:00

horsey my LO is 7w and she gets up around 8-9 then is awake until about 12-2 then sleeps on and off until about 7 then is awake until about 9-10 then every 2 hours through the night. That's just roughly though how things seem to be going she can change at any time

How's your sister cat?

My DD seems to fall asleep to the sound ofthe tumble Xmas Grin

MM hopefully your DH put her in her place! It's no ones business how anyone feeds their baby so why do they feel the need to give unwanted opinions

horseylady · 09/12/2012 18:16

Pass what's the ap called?

TheDetective · 09/12/2012 18:21

Oscar gets hiccups 3/4 times a day. He won't wait to carry on his feed after they have stopped. So I currently have HIC suck, HIC suck on my boob. Hmm

Little pinchy!

Can anyone recommend a book to get for DP on child development and communicating/playing with them. He said he is finding it hard to know what to do even though I've given him lots of ideas. Something that takes you through baby and toddler years, what they can do/like doing at what age?

ValiumQueen · 09/12/2012 18:26

MM that is shocking! I think it is about her not getting to give a bottle, plus that generation was told bf was substandard.

MIL has not got sickness bug, it was anxiety. Sorry if I mislead. She is ill with her heart and depression. Her mobility is very poor too.

DD was a bit delirious with a temp of nigh on 40, but is sucking on a lolly watching Peppa Pig now. One minute you think they will expire, then it is as if nothing is wrong, except for the rosy cheeks. Talk about torn- she was high pitch screaming (her party piece) and J was hungry. Horrid.

Passmethecrisps · 09/12/2012 18:39

horsey baby log lite and sleep pillow.

Both great

pikz · 09/12/2012 18:49

dectective if you find a book like that I'd love to know what it is.

DP currently had proper full blown flu. Mum went home today so I had meltdown last night. But have coped better than I thought today looking after both of them.

mrswee · 09/12/2012 18:52

hello ladies and babies! it's taken me 3 days to get here.. Oran has just pulled himself off the boob and collapsed in a heap of milk bliss as I am typing this one handed!
Feeding is going well which is amazing because I had a horrible 5 months of trying to make feeding work with DD.

having a bit of a day 3 dip today... suddenly very sore and all emotional after two days of high spirits!

NervousAt20 · 09/12/2012 18:56

Congratulations mrswee glad to hear feeding is going well for you

FatimaLovesBread · 09/12/2012 19:01

Sympathies mrswee I had a three day dip where I thought my fanjo would be knackered forever and everything was rubbish. By day 4 I felt much better

mrswee · 09/12/2012 19:07

lol fatima I think what started my emotions today was going to be fitted for a bra and finding that the shop doesn't go up to my size.... a 36 HH... pretty much the size of whole head!

TheDetective · 09/12/2012 19:18

Wowzers, I bet DH is happy mrswee even if you aren't Grin.

Today I have taken no pain killers. Last took them at 2pm yesterday. I think I am officially on the mend! WOOFUCKINGHOO! Please let this be the turning point! I think the no pads thing is helping! I do keep having to go the loo often though, but it is worth it for the relief of not having my pubes pulled out at every move I make!

pikz · 09/12/2012 19:43

Awww mrswee I had a similar breakdown at being told I was a 32H and having no idea how I would fit in any of clothes again.

Glad to hear things are getting better detective. I thought my lochia had gone then yesterday all of a sudden blood everywhere grrr

horseylady · 09/12/2012 19:44

Mrswee congrats.

I'm on the verge of a panic attack and on my own. It won't be any more than me sobbing but I can feel it building up.

Shit. Not had one for two weeks :(

FreddieMercurysBolero · 09/12/2012 19:54

woot woot for poos baby pass Grin

ChunkyTurkeywiththetrimmings · 09/12/2012 19:56

How do you normally deal with them horsey? And if it helps, its okay to feel that way - its just damaging if its all the time, so maybe try to accept you feel anxious at the moment and that's ok, and it will pass. I'm sure everyone on here is ready to help...

FatimaLovesBread · 09/12/2012 20:11

horsey Sad I can feel my anxiety coming back although I'm hoping I can deal with it and its just the post baby hormone crash, if not ill have to look at restarting my CBT.

mrswee mine are currently in a 32GG, the bra I've got goes up to a H so I'm hoping they stay where they are.

I was just about to have a bath but I was summoned to feed. I'm now busting for a wee and hoping she finishes soon as I don't know how my pelvic floor will hold up

horseylady · 09/12/2012 20:28

I'm not cut out for motherhood. I want to go back to work and do my job. I love him to pieces and the thought of leaving him for long periods kills me but Sunday's always get me as I start mentally preparing to go to work then realise I'm not going in.

Panic of being alone then sets in. Usually dh fields it but he's gone out. He'll be back soon.

Please tell me it gets better?! I just feel like I'm sitting here and the rest of the world is carrying on. Then guilty, then I panic and cry.

It's not like I don't have time away from him, I do. And I want to get home to him as I feel I should be looking after him and if I was bf I couldn't go out like I do. But I'm not, so I can.

horseylady · 09/12/2012 20:32

When I say go out, this is at the weekend to the horse so I can ride. Monday to Friday Im with him all the time. Perhaps I like weekends for this reason?

He's lying on me smiling. That made me cry more!!

TheDetective · 09/12/2012 20:51

Horsey What you are feeling isn't 'normal', but you aren't alone in feeling that way. I can empathise with the way you feel.

It is a massive massive life change. To go from having only yourself to look after and think about, to suddenly a whole new person (who lets face it, don't exactly make the process easy, do they!) to do everything for. I don't think it would be normal to not have anxiety or worries over this.

Motherhood (for want of a better word - crap description!) is one of the biggest life events, a massive shift in the direction of your life. We don't recognise this enough. We don't realise how hard it is - emotionally!

You know if you did want to go back to work - you can. But it might be worth talking things through with someone face to face first. Working through what is making you feel that way? Seeing if there is anything you can try to help you adjust smoothly.

But if going back to work is something which would help you, don't feel you can't. Some people function better this way. A lot of parents go back earlier than the 6/9/12 months maternity leave.

Be easy on yourself, you are allowed to feel whatever you feel - don't feel it is wrong. Please do go and talk to your health visitor, or GP, or just someone you are comfortable talking to about how you feel.

TheDetective · 09/12/2012 20:53

And no one is 'cut out' for it - we all muddle through it the best we can!

Luck is often on many parents side...!

TheDetective · 09/12/2012 20:55

Christ on a bike, between DS arsing around and the stupid dog, the moses basket nearly toppled right over with Oscar in it.

Heart. In. Mouth.

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHH.

misslaughalot · 09/12/2012 20:57

HAve been managing to keep up with the thread but babylaughalot seems determined to stop me posting at any point! Am taking full advantage of her sleepy time to catch up with you all!

MM I was feeling worried like you by the amount of time she was sleeping. She's only 11 days old but sleeps for 4.5 - 5 hours at a time with 1.5 - 2 hours awake in between. Now I know that she's putting on weight, she feeds well and is very content when she's awake I'm not so worried. All babies are different and I'm going to try to make the most of the time when she is sleeping because it could all change tomorrow!

Detective we bought this book which is easy to read and full of practical ideas. You can take a look at some of the pages on
Amazon and see if it is the kind of book you are after.

A question for those of you using Infacol. It says to give before each feed. What do you do if baby is having a mammoth feeding session over a couple of hours? Do you just give it before the first feed or do you top them up with it at any point?

horseylady · 09/12/2012 21:04

Detective - thank you. I think my life was in such a pattern that my weeks never altered. I worked three days before I had him so I think I just think in work mode still? I don't know.

I just love being busy, I spend most of my days doing 'stuff' rather than anything meaningful. After Xmas I'm sure things will fall into place.

I couldn't go back to work anyway just yet. No one would look after him well enough!!

TheDetective · 09/12/2012 21:08

Oh that is fab miss just what I was looking for! Have been scrolling amazon on the sly all day! Trying to get someones presents sorted!

Grin