November 2012 - the birthplosion (thanks Peaky)

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petite glad to hear the fever is down.

I saw the new twlight film last night, it was good. I'm not oping with lack of sleep very well. It's been 6 weeks!! I don't know how many more broken nights sleep I can do. I'm sleeping In The day, but it's not the same.

At least I have the car bak.
Evil

Evil -hugs. We average 5 to 7 hours overnight, broken sleep but I'm used to 6 ish hours continuous. So it's not too bad. I don't nap in the day.

I think I'm in for a bad night though, he's got belly ache and hasn't managed a poo all day. This is what my life has come too. A fascination with another persons poo lol!! He cried the whole time the vicar was round. Well he would have done but the dummy was utilised. I now like dummies having told dh off!! Actually he was ok to start with, he just got belly ache.

Vq thanks. She knew nothing, the kids seem to have accepted it (as kids do). Sad but I'd rather go quickly.

Evening all. Watching Mad Men with P in the Moses basket and a snozzing kitty on my knee. DH on phone to his parents planning their visit tomorrow for the next few days. MIL had offered to let us go out for the night. I have said I would be more grateful for a couple of hours kip - she is happy as larry with that. I feel like I have an ace present coming to me tomorrow.

Also had a delivery of frozen ready meals from SIL. DH is well into cooking but poor man has barely stopped for days. It was lovely to sit down to tea together without him having to spend ages in the kitchen.

I am a very lucky lady.

I really hope that everyone has a good night.

Haha horsey we said the same thing to each other before. I remember being in hospital and examining the contents of P's first changing nappy like it was a fascinating museum exhibit or something.

It's also amazing how we change attitudes when the reality of baby comes. I have about half a dozen dummies which we were given and I certainly had no intention of using. If the last ten days have taught me anything it is to discount nothing!

evil day sleep is just not the same is it? I have lost track of the number of people who tell me to sleep when babies sleep - all the while taking up the precious time I have for sleeping! DH has been reading up on developing day and night routine. I think it might be slightly too early but it is certainly worth a try.

Evil l know how you feel. Remember, some babies do sleep through from 6 weeks so every single night that goes past you are getting nearer to that. Baby H is sleeping contentedly on dh?s. shoulder, clearly conserving all his energy for2.30am

Happy birthday gt!

Oops sry folks. My birthday n night out is Saturday night. Today has been a boring night in. Well SIL came over. So not too boring.

My stretch marks ate awful. Like nothing I've had before. Not thin red lines, im sure done of these are almost a cm wide.
I remember after the birth looking at my stomach n thinking it doesn't look to bad. But now I feel I look crap.
I txted DH earlier explaining about clothes for my bday n how I felt ugly. Of course he told me not to b silly n he loves me how I am, but who am I kidding ! We all know what he says makes no difference to how I feel.

GT I'm the same as you all my strech maka come up after LO was born and there bad now too, they upset me alot and DP said to this of them as my l'oreals which the cheesy slogan "because there worth it" and when unlock at them everytime I think l'oreals and it just makes me smile

First feed here LO went 3 1/2 hours!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was really worried about getting stretch marks with DS1 and then I got a really bad case of them, like you say GT wide red bands. It looked as if my skin had split open. But they heal quickly and I'm left with faint silvery marks now. Yes my tummy is marked by them but they don't look unpleasant any more and I have accepted them. The best thing is I only got a handful of extra ones with DS2 and I haven't got any new ones with DS3. So maybe once everything has stretched once it isn't as much of a problem in later pregnancies.

Horrendous night here. DS fed at midnight and am only just feeding him again now. However, instead of sleeping between the two feeds, I have been wide awake dealing with a seriously tantruming and screaming DD. ashamed to say that I lost my cool and shouted at her. My mum took her for an hour but she was still screaming and I felt so awful that I didn't sleep then. Am so looking forward to going home and having DH to help - my mum is amazing, but not the same as having DH.

And now DS has just puked an entire feed!

Oh madame I am sorry you are having a rotten time. I am guessing DD is adjusting to changes? I do hope you get some rest today and the kids are ok x we all shout every now and again. A safety valve and better than whacking them. Sometimes they need to see we are upset and angry.

I look at my very many stretch marks and abdominal scars as battle scars. Makes me feel better about them.

LO had another bad night. Has reversed day and night. But she seems fitter than yesterday. Still no fever, and seems more alert and interested in what's going on.

Very thick fog in my corner of France this morning. I's quite spooky outside.

Slept from 9-3!!! Not sure if she should be doing that but I'm glad she did. From 5am though she grunted and groaned for an hour, she's a v noisy sleeper in the early morning for some reason. Ds was the same.

Hi, just marking my place. Will read through your adventures then join you with mine and Toby's.

Had a brilliant night last night: J had feeds at 11, 12, 3, 4 then 7 so we had a couple of longer stretches of sleep. I'm sure it won't last as he'll be having a growth spurt in a few days but it was one good night. My nips are feeling a lot better too, keep applying the Lanisoh!

DH i know you're supposed to wake them for a feed every three hours or so but i just can't bring myself to do it! I makeup for it during daylight hours though!

DD isn't doing too badly but I'm still waiting for the sleepy newborn stage to end and the )proper sleepless nights to start!

Massive poo this morning!!! I feel bad as yesterday he was straining a lot :( will see how it goes but may well try boiled water.

Dh overnight I let him wake me. Now he's back up to and over his birth weight and producing lots of wet nappies plus he looks like he's gaining weight well. In fact I pretty much let him say when he's hungry now. I do mentally keep an eye on timings, but touch wood he says before his feed is due anyway!! He's also nearly 4 weeks old!! Omg!!

Waiting for bloody contractors outside some of our properties. They're already 20minutes late!!!

Morning! V nearly gave up BF yesterday. Had intermittently screaming but mostly sleepy baby who wouldn't latch and feed. Have had a slightly better night though as he finally latched and fed late, 2, 5 and 7.30. He had expressed top ups yesterday just to keep him going. Bf clinic and gp said he was fine and just to keep trying. Having a duvet day today and hoping it goes a bit better as per kellymom website. One feed at a time and all! And all that! And to think i thought i'd cracked it on monday! His weight had gone up since sunday so he had been doing fine until tuesday eve when he forgot how to suck.

He's now fallen asleep on my boob and i could really do witg the loo!

Sounds tough, but a duvet day sounds exactly what you need. Lots of skin to skin can't hurt & try the biological nurturing position (Google it, LLL has good info) as it's help him latch on how he wants...

My nips are getting properly sore with the constant feeding & the tongue tie. As my supply is settling down & he's having to work harder, its getting worse :(

Vq my friend got back to me. She said she wouldn't used homeopathic remedies for colic on babies that young. She said massage and movement should help with the wind and look at what you're eating as there could be something diet related which doesn't agree with him. She said it does work, but there are also uses for it which she wouldn't want to see used on babies. There will be people who use it and will have done so with no side effects. this is just her opinion.

She also said try to relax (all mums!!) and tension doesn't help!!

Speaking of tension I made the decision today to stop the breast pumping. I am driving myself insane with trying p on the breast, then bottle feeding then expressing. I can't keep up and it is making me miserable. I can't quite believe I am doing this actually - I thought I was Ms pragmatism about feeding - I was so determined just to take each day as it comes and not let it spoil the first weeks of my baby's life. However, I have found myself caught up in this total cycle - most of which leaves me utterly miserable.

DH has gone out and is going to buy some formula. I am simultaneously massively relieved I was honest with him about it and utterly furious with myself for giving up so soon.

I watch DH with P and I am envious of his 'no strings attached' relationship with P. I am very worried that if I continue like this I will cause problems with our bonding.

Sorry everyone - I know how hard people are working with BF and how tough it is.

I am off to have another wee cry now.

pass you tried. It has not worked. You had challenges and it was not straightforward. Thankfully there is an alternative. Forgive yourself, not that there is anything to forgive, and enjoy your baby. Have you tried fluff yet? The LL OSFA fit fine now but he needs a bamboo booster as. He pees so much. Only one insert though.

kirrin I was soundly asleep for that 6 hours she was so I couldn't wake her even if I wanted to! Funny how 6 solid hours sound great but I'm still shattered and could go back to bed now.

Have managed a hair wash and am dressed so good progress today. Going to tesco later for Xmas presents and going to take ds to the playground.

Pass de-lurking to say PLEASE don't beat yourself up (easy to say I know). I'm attempting to do the same as you have been and it is bloody hard. You have tried and its not working for you and that's all that matters. You know what is right for you and your family and that is that. Have a cry, let it all out and then realise you have nothing to feel bad for. Un-mumsnetty hugs coming your way.

Hi everyone! Can I join you please? DD is now 13 days old and with her and DS (2.5) it's been interesting! Dreading DH going back to work next week