November 2012 - the birthplosion (thanks Peaky)

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belgrano I guess that it is good news. Thinking of you and hope LO is gentle on you tonight and gives you a bit of rest.

Starting to feel like i just come on here to complain but i've had a truly dreadful evening... Details here

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/breast_and_bottle_feeding/1617707-Nightmare-evening

Any tips or advice gratefully received!

And belgrano, glad you're home. Just saw your earlier posts

I might b crazy. Lol. Was just trying to express when LO start trying. So I put him on my boob. And he latched up. He had just been fed 4oz so wasn't hungry.
He was deff sucking. My nipples hurt. Jaw was moving but no swallowing sound. Am I setting myself up for a fall even thinking maybe I could try bf again?
Shall I try again tomorrow morning?

Ladies who bf , my nipples are sore after 15mins of sucking! Well done "nuff respect!" Lol

That's ace GT. I have just started feeding p at 7 days old. Her latch is poor and I would be lying if I said I loved every minute of it but it is getting easier.

Yes but my LO is 5 weeks old pass ! I might try again tomorrow about half hour before he is due a feed. But won't stress if it don't work. N won't get my hopes up.

First feed of the night here, LO didn't settle until almost midnight again so hope she settles after her feeds

jims hope you okay, I've posted on your thread but very thing I've said could be crap, this is my first so I'm kind of just going along with what works for ux but thought I'd add it in case anything was slightly useful

Anyone being asked about what people can get for LOs Christmas? I can't believe how close its getting!! I'm such a big kid when it comes to Christmas I love it

I am asking folk for sensible things like clothes and nappies. Being a younger sibling we have most things. It is worth thinking about what baby will need as is a long time to birthday. Perhaps a high chair or bouncy chair?

vq I didn't drive - DH took me half way and my Mum met us and brought us the rest of the way. I would have preferred to have driven as I hate being a passenger, but DH and DM would have had a meltdown if I had! Plus not sure I could have controlled a restless toddler and fed DS on my own at a service station!

Still arduous though I bet madame how are you tonight? And the little ones? Shit night here. I think if I could run away tonight I would. Deffo buying something for wind tomorrow as my arms are nearly falling off. So tired and DS keeps waking my toddler even with both doors shut.

I sympathise re wind. DS suffers a bit but nothing like your DS does. Awful to watch/hear them in pain. Wish I had something useful to suggest.

Yes, it is a bloody long way to come. DD was very, very good. She slept for most of the first stint (timed to coincide with her nap) and we picked a service station to meet at with a play area, so she had a run around. Then portable DVD player and Peppa Pig plus a variety of snacks for second stint. DS just slept.

DS went down at 9pm and has been awake at 11, 1, and now. At 1 he screamed when I changed him, and then I realised he had p'eed so needed an outfit change, then he screamed some more. Fortunately he didn't wake DD, who is sleeping with me. I am permitted a very small edge of the bed. DS is almost asleep again, but DD will be awake for the day soon. We have lots of extended family to see, but they aren't interested in me, so will hopefully get to nap today.

That's what I had done valium asked for things that well need in a couple of months ect, I don't really know where we're going to our more baby things though, the house is over run

Second feed here

Belgrano how is your LO this morning?

Mne is OK, no fever that I can tell but i haven't checked with thermometr yet. Bad night though, she seems to have switched day and night again so will have to work on reversing that.

Good morning ladies. Hope by have had bearable nights. My nippe is still sore after last night

Valium n nervous pls let me know suggestions for what u asked for.
I'm being asked the same n can only think of clothes. It's close family so told them when I've sorted thro his gifted clothes ill let them know what size I need. But we have loads.

We have a bouncy chair n can borrow a high chair. So any other suggestions would b good.

Gt how sweet he tried to bf!! Apart from licking by chest, ds has no idea about boobs!!

He's snuffly again today. He's not eaten huge amounts either. Well actually he's eating the recommended amount. He usually eats more. But he's eating so im not worried, he might just be settling down.

No help with bf sorry. I hope you get it sorted. Sounds like you're already very clued up. Vq my friend is speaking to her friend. She's heard of it but wants to give me the correct info. Good luckin getting something. Health food shops can be good but they can also be not so good!! I was told it was fine to take devils claw when pregnant. It's not!!

GT my dads getting a high chair and baby monitor then other things people have mentioned are a play mat, some inflated circle thing which they can sit and okay in but can't escape? Not sure I've seen it. Erm some toys from 3M and 6M. Larger clothes

I want to get that fisher price grow and play thing with the piano on the end, anyone know if its any good?

I'm just asking for money for N this Christmas. As a second born, she's going to be a hand-me-down queen, we really don't need anything!

apple I think I am at the same stage as you - N will settle anywhere in the day but not so good at night. We had a couple of stints in the Moses basket last night though, so she's heading the right way!

Off to the docs with DD1 this morning - cough/cold/dodgy breathing - seems there's a lot of it about :(

A weepy night for me

After the millionth tin of J screaming and DP's constant "he's hungry/looking for boob/try feeding him again" I broke down in tears. How many times is reasonable to try feeding a baby before giving up? My poor boobs are so sore, my head has been pounding since the day he was born and I'm getting every cold/cough going.

He's in a horrible pattern if laying next to me and feeding solidly the whole night (whilst he sleeps) and only stopping up yell and be transferred to the other side.

I told DP how isolating I'm finding it because just getting out of the house is so hard, especially as the stupid car is too small so the car chair barely fits and the pushchair has no chance. It's not as simple as strapping him in and then going to pick up my sisters for a coffee or just nipping into a shop for something. I don't remember it being so hard.

MIL thinks its time to stop bfing him so I can at least get a break but I know as much ask hate it, I'd feel really guilty and once I stop He won't need me for anything anymore and he'll probably end up bring cared for mostly by DP like the other 2.

Sorry about typos, I'm on the iPad with little one attached.

tits your LO will always need you! Your his mummy and he will still want you and your cuddles and comfort. It's entirely up to you with feeding if your not happy then that's not good, could you try maybe getting DO to give him a bottle, either BM or FF at night so you can get some sleep? Try and stay postitve and do what's best for you and your baby. Do you have a breast feeding support group you could go to or can you try getting out for a walk each day? Sorry don't know what to suggest about the car

Poor you tits, soundreally tough. Can DP take him to another room for a couple of hours to let you sleep? Or, l know its probably a bit early, but what about one bottle of formula from DP a night. Would a sling be one way to get out without needing a pushchair perhaps. lt will all get better xx

nervous l have the fisherprice playgym and h likes it (his feet are nowhere near the piano yet!). It seems well made and got good reviews. l am getting h a second hand activity centre that you sit them in and there are things all round for them to play with.

Re Christmas I have no idea what to tell people to get DD2. She too is the hand me down queen as we have pretty much everything from DD1. I want E to have her own stuff as well but don't want to get something just for the sake of it. We are hoping to move in the near future (have just accepted an offer on our house and are negotiating on a house we like near by). It has a much bigger garden so going to ask family to buy play stuff for the garden come the summer or give us money towards it.
For those looking for ideas DD1 had a jumperoo. It's quite expensive but for us worth every penny. DD1 used to spend hours jumping in it enabling me to get on with stuff. It has good resale value on eBay as well.

Of course GT! I forget how far apart some of us are!

We had a dreadful night here. P simply will not settle at night time. I went to bed at 9 and got up at 10:30 to feed. P wouldn't settle until 1:30 and woke again at 2. DH tried a bottle feed, she kept falling asleep but waking and yelling whenever put down. This went on until 5:30 when she eventually fell asleep for an hour. DH got her again and ended up having to give her to me in bed.

Result? Totally knackered and not up for a day fighting with breast feeding. I am a heartbeat away from giving up.

Re presents I was also going to suggest Fisher Price Jumperoo or money towards it as it is expensive. We got ours second hand from hunters for £40. My DD loved it. Also recommend Fisher Price Precious Planets mobile for the got. It plays heartbeat, music or animal noises and projects a light display onto a canopy. Great reviews and would calm and captivate DD for ages.

Tits sleep deprivation is so damaging to our mental well being and coping skills. You are exhausted and we all lose perspective when like that. You ate a great mum and your children will always need you, their mummy. You gave them life remember! If BF is affecting you and how you can sleep and cope then I would go to FF. Loads of people do this for the same reason. Or maybe mix feed for a while to see if that allows you a bit mire rest and sleep?

Sorry for typos on phone with J lying on my chest. Jumperoo from Gumtree not hunters! And mobile for cot not got!! Jeeze I need more sleep...