May 2005 babies:Our babies are nearly toddlers [sad]

[SHHHH]

Thought I would start a new thread as the old one was getting long..!!!

Hi all, just a quick one, we are having a BBQ for DS2 today, even though a)it's not barbecue weather (we have a gazebo) and b) it's not his birthday until Wednesday, I didn't want the celebration to be on a weekday because of work and school.

Everything's ready now, we're just waiting for the guests to arrive, DS1 can't wait!!! Come to think of it, neither can I!!!!!

Well, just to update you, the party was a disaster. Its the first time we've had a party at our house and I swear it's the last.

DS1 played up, not wanting his cousins to play with his toys and 'messing up his bedroom' (like thats bothered him before), my brother was peed off with comments from my MIL, my mam fell asleep and arrived 2 hours late and my BIL was his usual obnoxious self, as was his wife. DS2 of course wasn't bothered by any of this and seemed to have a good time though.

I feel both sad and angry that when I think of his first birthday party I'll remember it in a negative light.

Hope the rest of you have lovely parties

Maddison, sorry to hear about your party disaster
Families, eh?
At least DS2 enjoyed himself and would have been quite oblivius to the whole thing.
We are having our party next Saturday in a park.
With all of DH's family.
Very sad that my family won't be there though.
But we head back to the UK in a couple of weeks so we'll have another party then.

maddison ...what a shame. Try and think positive though, at least ds2 enjoyed himself..also he won't remember the problems when he is older!!!

Well dd is 1 today..I can't believe it !!!!! We aren't doing anything today although family are due around tonight for a little while....
We are having a small party on saturday ( I say small..dh & I counted up last night..about 20..!!) We have the room but I can't be bothered with a house full as I never get chance to relax etc. Oh well. I hope it doesn't go your way maddison although it's possible!! Tee Hee FAMILIES..!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Goodness me...this time last year I was still pushing ...Had 1 hour exactly to go...

BTW how is everyone.?

Well DS2 is finally 1 and I'm completely shocked by how fast this last year has flown by. I was saying to DH last night that it seems he should only be 3 months old iykwim, it feels like only that amount of time has gone by since he was born!!!

Thanks you two, I will try and be positive about the party but for me it's still been ruined - BIL & SIL seem to spoil everything like this and I can't forgive them for ruining DS2's first birthday party (well, it was mainly them)

I hope your parties go swimmingly well and look forward to hearing about them

Still can't believe he's 1.........

Congratulations, LittleB!

Dd sleeps 8:30pm until 8am! Some kind of miracle. Sadly, her big bro sleeps from 12:30am until 7:30am.

Nice to see you Northstar, was thinking of you lately actually too. Hoping you were ok.

What a week we've had. We went to Wales at the weekend for my mum to throw dd a party. It went really well actually. She had a cake in the shape of a 1 just like I did! Then as we left dd started projectile vomiting like something out of the exorcist. Took her to a+e because she was choking and spent the whole 3.5 hour drive home covered in sick! Turns out all 4 of us have got gastroenteritis of some sort. It was dd's actual birthday on Tuesday and we intended to go to Legoland but we spent the day being sick. We are going out tomorrow instead as it's dh's birthda too.

Don't worry about the party, Maddison. Why don't you have another outing at the weekend and let him have an "offical" birthday this year like the queen? It's basically what we are doing. They won't remember. Dd still opened all her presents on Tuesday and had a reasonable day. Next time, don't invite the nightmare relatives, IMO! Life's too short to put up with that kind of rubbish. hug

Hi all,
well DD turned 1 this week and we had her party in the park today.
I spent 2 hours making and icing my first ever cake!
It was a gorgeous number 1 shape too - with her name in icing.
It was all lovely until it got to the bit with the cake when I remembered I had left it in the car in 25 degree heat
Oh dear.
Totally melted down.
The cake, I mean, not me!
But I was quite upset after all the effort.
But as someone said - if it's going to happen at least the first birthday is a good one - they don't remember!
Oh well.
Off for a glass of wine now

Aw, sorry about the cake YM, after all that effort too. Still, at least your party didn't go the way mine did and you're having another party in the UK so you'll get the chance to do it all again

Well DS2 started walking today!!!! Took his first 4 steps to get away from the TV lol He has also managed to take loads of steps for DH too. We are very proud!!!

Just to update you on the sleeping front..it's hit and miss now wether he sleeps through, but I'm pleased to say its more hits than misses. He goes to sleep on his own in his cot although I do BF him before I put him down.. but things are sooo much better than they were a month ago

Hope all mums and babies are well xx

Congratulations Maddison's DS!
Fab news.
LOL about getting away from the TV.
Great news too about his sleeping.
( I feed DD to sleep in the evenings too - not sure what I'll do when I stop BFing)

Great news Maddison! Well done ds!

Well, it was dd's birthday yesterday. We were going to have a bbq but the weather scuppered that one. We all had a good day though except for the birthday girl who has come down with yet another bug and was really clingy and grumpy all day. This morning she has a high temperature and is really miserable. Rotten timing and she didn't even get any birthday cake.

happy 1st birthdays to those that have had them and to those who are due to have them over the next 2 weeks...

YM sorry about the cake...I gave in and bought a cake as I knew I would just panic and stress over making it BUT I look forward to when dd wants a hedgehog cake lol..!! Buttons ahoy..!!!

Well I had a cake made for dd with pocoyo, ellie and loula on it. She loved it and recognised straight away who it was.! Bless. We had a party yesterday to celebrate her birthday (due to her turning 1 on tue gone) but we didn't cut the cake until later on..she will have some today though. Can't wait to see her face.
Maddison seems our party went similar to yours..I can honestly say that is the 1st and last party we will have, the next one's will be kids only.

Hope everyone is ok. xx

Aww, Shhhh, I'm sorry to hear that about your party. They're so bloody stressfull aren't they. We bought a cake for DS2 as I knew I wouldn't have the time to make my own, maybe next year though.

Tiggerish, I'm also sorry to hear about your poor dd, being ill on her birthday, hope she's better soon xx

1st birthday party here yesterday. All went very well until everyone sang Happy Birthday which = lots of tired overwhelmed little sobs on my shoulder.

Sorry to those with less than good parties. They won't remember, don't worry too much.

Hi Everyone,
Congratulations LittleB, it sounds like you had a lovely wedding! Maddison, sorry your party was not so good, cool that our ds share the same birthday though...one already wow!!!

Had my scan today and it's a girl so a ds and a dd, we couldn't be more delighted. Also had an offer on a house accepted today so hopefully we should have moved before I get too big and slow. Lets hope it is stress free from here.

Happy birthday to all the May babies! can't believe how quickly time has gone.

Congratulations booge, glad all went ok with the scan.

Sorry to hear that some of the parties haven't been that great. We don't have the weather on our side this year, so we? this time last year it was stiffling, remember being huge and sweating (grim!}

We move house this Friday & it's ds2 bday on Sunday, decided not to have a really big party, couldn't cope with the stress of it, alone with the move. Still getting some family together for a bbq, got a cake ordered (again couldn't cope with the stress of making it), got the balloons and can't wait to enjoy his special day.

Hope everyone is well

madisson, i really do sympathise with the party. Please dont' let them give you bad memories of your babies first bday.

I had a party for my boys last year, like a naming ceromony type thing, i put so much effort into it, and we all had a fab day. All, except f*ing MIL, who left after 1.5 hours to go to some crappy party in the park, priorities! When dp pulled her up on it the next day she started crying saying that she wasn't made to feel welcome etc, which is bollocks, everyone really enjoyed it and she sat there, didn't talk to any of our friends or offer to help. She even had the nerve to moan that we didn't invite her sisters (we never see them)etc. We didn't talk for a while after that, and she's never apologized, as WE were in teh wrong appently.

So i do know how you feel. We had a wonderful day that was overshadowed by that old witch. TBH i've decided that we now please ourselves and no one else. If they don't like it they can shove it. So, i suggest from now on, you just please yourself & don't worry about your family.

One good thing that did happen on dd's birthday: Cbeebies read out her card that I'd made :-)))

welldone logic !!!! I wanted to do that BUT couldn't get my arse in gear to make one..!!! Maybe next year .

Myermay, know what..you are right about the please yourself attitude. DH have decided thats how we are going to be from now on. If noone likes it then they know what they can do. 1st work rhymes with duck second word is off..!!!! .

Booge..congrats on baby expected to be a girl....my friend has become an aunt for the 1st time...makes me want another soooo much..!!Think we may get on with "project 2" (as dh calls it..!) soon.. .

Hope eveyone is ok. xx

Yep, we're up for 'project 2' after I get back form the UK in 4 weeks' time.
I'm still BFing twice a day and have only had one (very light) period about 6 weeks ago so I'm not sure how easy or diff it will be.
We'll see.
Think I'll carry on BFing til I get back and then if falling preg is difficult - I'll stop
By the way, those who aren't BFing at night what is your night-time routine? Currently we do dinner, bath, BF (when she falls asleep) bed. Not sure whether I should give her a cup of milk (she doesn't use bottles, only cups for water) before bed to soothe her.

YM, our 'night time' routine is bath at about 7 followed by porrige and then BF in his bedroom, I try and have the blinds pulled and curtains drawn ready. Once he has stopped feeding and just sucks, I unlatch him and lay him in his cot awake, if he cries I just rub his back/chest/arms/legs etc until he stops. It sounds cruel, but if he starts to make a game of it I leave him for a minute or so, which he cries for the time I'm gone but I think then he knows I mean business and settles. Usually from getting into his bedroom to me leaving when DS2 is asleep is approx 10-15 minutes. HTH

Congrats on the Cbeebies airing of your birthday card! I also thought of doing one but didn't get round to it.

Myermay, I hope the house move isn't to stressful for you and that you have a lovely time on Sunday I agree about the F* U attitude regarding others.

Booge, great news about the scan and lovely that you will have a little girl Again, I hope that it all goes smoothly for you!

Tinker Glad you had a nice party

Shhhh - lol at 'project 2'

Thanks for all the congrats I keep being told girls are difficult grrrr. I know every baby is different but it does worry me she'll be hard work and as Daniel is so easy I won't know what's hit me.

yummimummy our bed time routine is supper, bath, bottle, teeth, picture book, bed. He knows what's coming and is usually excited to get into bed. Think of moving to a cup now DS is a year old.

Yes congrats, booge :-)

Actually ds is really quite difficult to look after in terms of eating and sleeping etc... while dd is very easy! She eats anything put in front of her, sleeps 11 hours a night and is always smiling. I think it's down to the individual personality tbh.

I agree with logic...dd is the same..sleeps 10-12 hours at night (right through), is ALWAYS smiling,eats everything and anything and is generally what I would call a happy baby!
Yeah so what if she does have her downsides (not a "huggy" baby,quite feisty etc) her smile more than makes up for them!!!

People say all sorts when you are wanting another baby or are pregnant, sometimes I wish they would keep their comments to themselves...People's response when I speak about having baby2 is "oh baby2 won't be as good as your dd etc etc grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. Yeah so waht, what can I do..? Put them "back" or not have another for fear of raising a mini "devil"..! . LOL......!

btw I need a bit of advice either from 1st time mums or 2nd/3rd/4th/5th/6th/100th times mums..!
DD who is now 1 has 2 bottles of milk a day. Morning 7oz is split between weetabix (4oz) and the rest 0-3oz is drunk out of a bottle..depends if she will drink it.
The night bottle is drunk before bed and is usually 5 oz although again this varies for 0-5ozs.

HV advises she should be on approx 12oz's aday but dd isn't..!! I don't stress as she does make up for it with dairy products ie yoghurts,cheese,butter etc etc etc.

I need to know..how long do I give formula for.? Last night as she wouldn't have any milk dh & I warmed up some full fat cows milk and gave it to her in a cup (purely coz we didn't have a bottle ready iykwim)..questions: Do I now give her cows milk daily in replacement of formula AND am I right giving it in a cup..? or do I leave cups/trainer cups for day drinks only..??

It's just it seems bizarre giving dd her "night" feed in a cup..??!! iykwim.

Advice appreciated..!!!
xxx

Shhh, I think you can start to drop the formula from now on. We have been gradually diluting dd's with cows milk over the last 3 weeks and by next week she'll be having it neat .

dd has 3 milk feeds a day. Morning and night as you do but another at about 2.30 just to encourage her to drink more. She will generally have about 12oz altogether in a day.

She has started to drink from a cup very recently but I don't think it really matters what they use. Ds used bottles for milk long after he turned 1, and I know several children who still have a bottle of milk at 3+ at bedtime.

It depends on the baby, Shhhh. I kept ds on a night bottle until he was 2 because he ate very little and he liked the comfort. I regret not keeping him on it longer tbh! Dd still has 2 bottles a day morning and night and occasionally an extra in the day if it is really hot. She also has water in a bottle. This is purely my personal opinion but: I like a hot milk drink before I go to bed and I think the toddlers do too! :-) Don't succumb to peer pressure, just do what feels right. I am wary of putting dd on cow's milk fully because of her intolerance but I do still put cow's milk on her shreddies in the morning! I also find that dd has difficulty with a beaker, it goes all down her neck. I don't think there's any rush to switch to cups. Don't know the HVs make such a big deal out of it tbh. They will learn to drink from one before they are 2 anyway!