May 2005 babies:Our babies are nearly toddlers [sad]

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Thought I would start a new thread as the old one was getting long..!!!

welcome aquablue..!! Tell us more about yourself...age,location,how manyds/dd's,married/partner etc..We are a nosey lot here....!!
Our dd also has 10 teeth, although the last 2 are slowly making their way through.

Uwila you have missed alot..!! Yes there is 3 of us expecting. I am also sure booge is due now and madddison you got the dates spot on..!! Baby2 is due 31/01/07.

Good luck with the shoes shopping tiggerish. xx

Tiggerish, DS has also managed a chipped toth and a fat lip and he doesn't walk (unaided).

wow, I've only beeen away a week and there is loads to catch up on! Welcome aquablue!
Dd loved the holiday, chasing around after everyone, although she did get fed up with the travelling, understandably, and had a couple of paddies, I just have to remeber not to laugh when she's having a strop. dd's got 12 teeth now, the 4 molars finally pushed through in France so she's been tucking into french bread and spicy sausage all week. Although dd loved it we're not going on any more family holidays! We thought we'd be 'allowed' to go off on our own occcasionally but no, everyone had to do what my aunt and Dad wanted us to do, its as if they were the adults and we were all still children. We did enjoy ourselves some of the time though and there weren't any major fall outs amazingly!
Does anyones still have bottles for milk, dd has a bottle first thing in the morning and last thing at night, any good recommendations for getting them onto cups? She has juice and water out of cups, lidded or open and straws, but can't persuade her to have her milk out of one yet.

glad the hol went well littleb. You deserve a medal going away with family and having no fall outs..!
Gosh it's enough for dh & I just having parents live locally to us..!

Advice on bottle etc..well I did try and get dd to have milk from a training cup a few months ago and failed..! Like your dd she would have milk out of a bottle no probs and drinks from her cups no probs but to put milk into a cup was a major NO NO..!!!

BUT last night I didn't have a teat washed so I thought " Sod it, I will put her milk into a cup and she how she goes". OMG..!! She drank it without a problem even danced while she did so..!! I even had to give her more than the 1oz she will only manage in a bottle..!!

I think if you have tried it and failed like I did then leave it a few weeks and try again, I think it's only through trial and error that you get success. I would stress at all as your dd will do it when she wants. Remember they control us .!!!

BTW this morning's milk was from abottle as I didn't want to push a good thing iykwim..! Tonights though will be from a cup again if allowed..! Remember to try it bit by bit. I think when it's a major change, thats when they get stubborn. IMO anyway..!

it's so nice to be here with such a lovely bunch!
well i'm 31, married to dh who's 31 too. we have a ds - obviously 14 months like all of yours. and we're aussie!!

my ds drinks his mid morning milk (cow milk) with his straw cup. although i am still b/f (anyone else here?) first thing in the morning and also just before bed. i never had to use a bottle. also never used a dummy, so i almost feel he's missed out on iconic baby things!

hey i was just talking to someone last week who's kid was drinking his milk out of a bottle. His teeth looked fine, but one day chipped his tooth. the dentist said it was probably because his teeth were brittle from bottle drinking which caused some tooth decay. the little boy had to get a filling for the chipped tooth (white filling - and no idea how he kept still!). this is just what i heard...

Tiggerish, what shoes did you end up buying? love baby shoes!! although i have already bought 3 pairs in the last 2 months!

I've been meaning to take both the kids to the dentist - I guess I'll have to get on with it if there is a chance of decay problems.

Where abouts in Oz are you from Aquablue? I've got rellies in Sydney, in NSW and a sil in Melbourne.

We got some really cute summery shoes - lightweight so she shouldn't have too many problems walking with them on. It was so funny watching her when we first put them on though - she didn't quite know what to make of them. I'm sure she'll get used to them quick enough though.

On the bottle/beaker subject we tried to switch but failed a month or so back. dd still has 3 bottles a day of about 6 oz each. Maybe I'll try again......

Off to the park now - it's a lovely day!

Tigs.

actually it's a long story, but we're aussies living as expats in hong kong (sorry flannelette, i didn't really explain fully before! ). we just moved a few months ago over here. we did live in melbourne for 6 years and were in sydney before that.
so we're only 2 hours behind oz (hence the early morning msgs!) but we're in summertime like in the uk.

That's ok Aqua - you're allowed to live in HK
Shoes - we have a lovely pair of Clarks shoes. We started with soft soles and then moved on to hard soled shoes which she manages fine.
I need to buy another pair though as these are getting really quite scuffed.
Oh and she also has a pair of baby England trainers that my brother bought for her 1st birthday. For a while they were the only ones she had and they looked a treat worn with her frilly dresses!
Shhh - LOL your DD dancing while drinking her milk.
Aqua - not BF now but only stopped 3 weeks ago when I went away for the weekend. Would have carried on if it wasn't for that.

still trying to find the perfect shoe...we've gone through 3 already in last 2 months! got some nice navy blue sandals, but he kept taking them off with the velcro strap. then got some jacardi canvas ones which just became too small suddenly. then i bought these cool adidas ones, but they're hard to put on - and a bit hot here in honkers.

yes still b/feeding and just don't know when to stop! hopefully the time will come when i will know! at the moment it's just easier. but i don't want to be one of those mums who's still b/feeding a big kid!

I know what you mean about bfing aqua. DS2 still has 2 feeds a day, morning and right before bed, and I know I want to stop soon, just don't want the battle I know I will have stopping. He seems to really enjoy it still. On an evening I take him up to his bedroom for his last feed and even if he didn't seem tired before, this last feed seems to make him drowsy. So, FPJ's any tips on stopping would be greatly appreciated

WRT shoes, I only put them on him when he is just about to walk, otherwise, they just get flung off I've lost count of how many socks have gone the same way, we have lost LOADS of socks!!

maddison, i think my ds wouldn't be too upset to stop b/f (it's more me than him maybe?! ). although when i had cut down from 3 b/f to 2, in the beginning, he used to have the biggest grin on his face we were about to b/f!!!

Perhaps you could try to add more to your bedtime routine so your ds has more cues that it is time to sleep. Our routine is: dinner, breastfeed, bath, storytime, sing a lullaby, put him in cot, blow kisses to each other (love this bit!) and say goodnight. Then I leave the room briskly. He knows its sleep time and goes to sleep on his own. Sometimes I can hear him happily talking to himself but eventually goes down on his own. Usually by the lullaby stage, he is already rubbing his eyes.

This is good, so when i do wean him, it should be pretty smooth. And sometimes if we miss one of the cues (eg bath) it's ok, there's still plenty of other cues to let him know it is time to sleep.

Glad dd isn't the only one still on bottles, I might try her morning one as a cup this weekend like you suggested, shhh, just one at a time.
We tried to get shoes for dd but she has really high arches so her width fitting is off the charts and nothing fits, except those lovely soft all leather shoes, so she's got two pairs of those now. They look really cute and she can't pull them off, but they aren't very good in the wet so hopefully her feet will be a standard shape by the autumn!
Can't help with the BF feeding though.

Maddison, I thought stopping would be a nightmare.
DD used to virtually hyperventilate with excitement when it was time for a BF.
And as she'd been a 'colicky' baby and had been rocked to sleep til 6 months then lots of probs going to sleep by herself, I used it as a sleep aid in the evenings too.
Worked a dream
Stopping was so easy.
She just didn't seem to notice that it was missed out of her routine and we added tooth brushing and a story instead.
I was amazed and that's why I didn't carry on BFing after our weekend away.
I know that doesn't happen for everyone but it really was much more straightforward than I thought it would be.
But it was still really nice and sometimes I miss it

so maddison, when are you going to stop b/f?! if you were in a situation where you thought there wouldn't be a battle with ds2, would you stop now? how long did you b/f ds1 for? (assuming you did?)

I just don't know when i want to! maybe i need to go on a holiday with dh like you did flannelette - a good excuse! but just cannot bear to not see ds for more than a day!. i feel very possessive over him hey?! am i going to be one of those evil mother in laws ? (ahhh no one will ever be good enough for my ds! haha! ).

Still bfing here. Not sure when I'll stop, keep moving the goalposts - was to be 6 months, then 12, now I'll wait until after MMR (which I've delayed until she's at least 15 months), then I'll end up thinking that I may as well carry on until she's 2! Don't know.

Awww Aquablue, it's lovely when they blow kisses to you! I get 'kisses' off DS2 (well, he opens his mouth anyway, and kisses from DS1 are lacking now he's 5 ) TBH if I knew there wouldn't be many tears I would give up BF now. I only BF DS1 for a week as I was in so much pain (and thinking about it I didn't get much support from MW) and I remember the feeling of extreme guilt that I hadn't done it for longer. I think I'll try and add more bedtime cues as you suggested. ATM we have bath, supper, then upstairs into his room for a BF then bed immediately after, I think I'll try adding something after the BF so that he isn't going into his cot straight after supper. Originally I had the same thoughts as Tinker - to stop at 6 months, then 12, now I just don't know!!! A holiday sounds really good though

FPJ's, glad that stopping BFing was easy for you, as for missing it sometimes, it won't be long until you're doing it again How's it going btw - hope MS isn't being too harsh on you!

maddison - have u weaned ds2 yet?

noticing my ds is getting so demanding - lets out a big "AAGH" everytime he doesn't get his own way. And there are a lot of these happening every minute of the day! Trying to ignore him but not working. Is this the stage where they become frustrated cos they can't communcate???

Agree Aqua with the demanding stage. DD has been doing this for about a month or so (it feels longer).
She seems to have a thing about being lifted up to the sink so she can fiddle around with all the items on the draining board - every few minutes or so ( it's like. "nothing's changed since 10 minutes ago you know"). She shouts until I lift her up.
I too am trying to ignore it, but sometimes it's just easier to oblige.

Dd has started to have frustration tantrums too. She points at something and says 'there!' and if you're not quick enough then it's the arching back and the squealing treatment...

Yeah DS2 is getting a bit frustrated with things and has been having little tantrums for a while now. If he starts I just lay him on the floor while he arches his back and walk away although I don't get very far!!

Nah I haven't weaned DS2 yet, tbh I'm not sure when I'm going to do it. He has always been a very efficient feeder and now only feeds for a few minutes each side so it's not like I'm sat with him for an hour a night, so I think I'll keep doing it for a little while longer.

How are all the little ones with talking?? I'm getting a bit concerned since DS2 only says dad and occasionally mam - DH swears he heard him say DS1's name on Friday but apart from that he doesn't say anything else, nor does he make any animal noises. Anyone elses ababy like this???

DD has been having tantrums for a while too, usually when I won't let her have something she wants. It's generally easy to distract her onto something else though.

Maddison, she doesn't say much either. Mama, Dada (and even managed Daddy once - DH was really chuffed )also cat, duck and versions of thankyou and hello. That's all so far. Still, its more than DS managed at the same age so I don't think there is anything to worry about. He didn't say any proper words until 19 months, and now his nursery often comment on how well he speaks. They get there in the end and then you wish they would keep quiet for a bit!!

Less than 2 weeks to go now until I go back to work full time. Mostly I am looking forward to it but I know that the first month or so will be really tough on everyone. Dh is the only one whose daily routine will be basically the same and luckily he is happy to pick up the pieces if (or when?) it all goes horribly wrong!

my ds still having tantrums , and sometimes he just screams all the time for no reason! it's so annoying...let's pray this is a phase and it ends when he understands reasoning...? (hopeful i know!).

and another thing, he is hurting himself all the time. yesterday he got his fingers stuck in the elevator door, he has got a bruised thumbnail, got bruisemarks on his shins, and just tonight only 5 mins after i put him down, i find him screaming cos he got his leg stuck between the wooden cot rails (and we paid top $ for this so called safety standard cot!).

not many words - dada, mum, hello, bye-bye, baby (i think). a mum from my mother's group was saying one kid has got a huge vocab, so i think it's quite varied. i heard girls are faster at speaking too (cos we're so much better and communicating than males )

well dd isn't saying anything either (so theory may be incorrect aquablue )...well she says loads but dh & I have no idea what she is saying lol..!!

Can be heard saying mama and dada but this is usually at 3am on the odd occasion that she wants something.
I was getting a bit concerned but the hv last week told me not to worry and that it will happen soon enough.
Defo no animal names or sounds yet..!!!

DD is saying a few part-words.
Like:
aaarp - airplane
Baaaaa - ball, balloon, more
Wawa - water
Pizzzz - pussy cat, biscuit, buzzy bee
F-f-f-f-f-f-f - woof woof woof woof

They are not proper words but they are sounds she makes consistently for the same objects, so I'm counting them.

Anyway, there's a top QC judge-type bloke over here who is really famous and he apparently didn't talk til he was 5! I guess he made up for it afterwards being a lawyer though