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LittleMissFlustered · 02/08/2012 22:59

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OiMissus · 08/09/2012 23:09

I have the same get out clause, but i say "at 18". Ie he won't be sharing our bed at 18, etc.
He's now in his bed...
Goodnight.
Good luck. X

Aethelfleda · 08/09/2012 23:41

Arg. Meant to be in bed, snoozing peacefully while my DCs slumber.

Instead am sat on sofa with mumsnet and a decaf, while DS breathes heavily in between bouts of suspiciously croupy-sounding coughs. Have given ibuprofen (calpol is standard but he takes inuprofn better), and have him sleeping upright on me to stop him burbling. Will try to put him back into the (propped) cot later, but something tells me it's going to be a long night. Fortunately have decorated DD2's cake: as ever have winged it a bit, half way through was convinced it was a disaster, but by the end it's looking pretty ok! May be sad/sleep deproved enough to link shortly.
Also have all the party prep bar the "easy food" done, including an inspirin list of party games so if we are brain dead we just pick off the list. I love parties, beats me why people spend £250 on a pre-arranged softplay doodah (ok, the kids like them too).

Northern, the bears thing is a shameless consumer con, but the way they do it entrances the kids (more's the pity). They get to pick the sound chip for their bear, "help" to stuff it, give it a wish heart that's stitched inside, name it, get a "birth certifcate" thingy....the bears are £15-20 depending on size (mini ones are £8), then it's £3-£5 for a sound chip, £4.50 if you want a vibrating heart in it, and them the killer are the clothing and accessories costs....seriously, these things are as pricey as real clothes. £4.50 for a pair of slippers, £10 for a dress, £4 for hat, £4 for shades, £8 for t shirt and shorts,?£10 for a teddy bed, it just keeps going... We did the "budget" approach and let DD choose day and night clothes for it,,-'d introduced her to the Sale rail! They have both gone to sleep happily clutching their bears and really enjoyed the whole caboodle.

Aethelfleda · 08/09/2012 23:51

Cake....

don't look if you're on a diet, it contains 500g of butter....

mopsytop · 09/09/2012 07:59

Cake looks ace aethel, your little girl is going to LOVE it!! Hope your baba is ok and it's not croup.

figgy, sorry things are so tough, hope it improves. I know what you mean about being far from home. I am really happy here and my husband is fab but I still really miss my family, and even more so now I have a mini me.

Oi hope bOi slept okay in his own room.

Northern, minimopsy is trying her hardest to chomp on grass. She grabs a handful and tries to stuff it in her gob, no sooner have I taken it away then she has grabbed more. I fear 'tis a losing battle!

aethel, my mum got my niece one of those bears for her birthday. She LOVES it!

OiMissus · 09/09/2012 08:16

Fab cake aethel! Well done. Grin ( I chose that icon as it has teeth, showing that I'd v much like a slice.)
Oh 'twas a long night. Every 20 mins or so. At 2:25 I got in his cot with him so he could sleep sitting up - where did that snot come from all of a sudden? Anyway I bedded down with him - me whispering to DH to bring me a pillow, tissues etc over the monitor. Smile
Well I spent 2 hours listening to him snore before I gave up and left him to it. So he woke up again, and DH went, so I fell asleep. He woke up at 6:30, to which I said, oh he's had a couple of hours. ...well I didn't know DH was with him for over a hour trying to settle him!
Ha ha ha!
Well he stayed in his room. That's the main thing. Night 1, we all survived. Grin

seven77 · 09/09/2012 09:11

Hope tonight goes better oi.

aethel cake looks fab, really hope it's not croup and you both got some sleep. Hope the party goes well!

northern pub sounds lovely, glad you had a good day.

I went to a 'family' fun day yesterday with my sister and parents at the place where my sister works. As expected my parents commandeered DS as they have a habit of doing at these things, then my mum helpfully suggested that DS (who has muscular dystrophy and can't jump) went in the sack race Angry. She had two brothers with the disease, of all people she should be the one person who actually understands. It's so frustrating, she also couldn't understand why on earth we wanted to go and watch wheelchair basketball, considering her grandson will be in a wheelchair when he's older.

CherryBlossom27 · 09/09/2012 09:31

Morning everyone!

Lots to catch up on on the thread!

Things in our house are much better thank goodness! Yesterday was lovely and chilled out, we went out for the day and had lovely iced coffees and then went to a park with a lake and sat in the shade watching the world go by and stopping DS from eating grass! DS now has 8 teeth, 4 at the top and 4 at the bottom :)

Oi I think you've got it totally right, my DM says the first year is the hardest, so it probably is best to just keep going and not make any big decisions.

Figgy I hope your LO's teeth hurry up and cut through so he gives you some peace! Not really sure what to say about your DH, he really needs to work with you and help, not just complain that he can't cope on so little sleep - how does he think you like it?

I can totally sympathise about being away from home as well! I moved here when I was 16 with DM and she decided she was miserable so moved back when I was 17 (I decided I was staying and had been going out with DH for about 6 months, plus I was doing my A-levels). DM and my DBro live 4 hours away door to door and it's shit sometimes :( Just little things like I can't just pop round and have a cup of tea with mum or meet her in town to go shopping, and the bigger things like missing out on seeing DS and free babysitting :o I do feel a bit jealous sometimes when friends etc have sooooo much help and the best help I've got except DH is a fusspot FIL! At least we have FIL as a babysitter if we want to go out on a Tuesday evening (his only day off!). Hmmm!

Aethel That cake looks brilliant! I'm hungry now :o

Hope all the LO's are feeling better ASAP and sorry if I've missed anyone out!

NorthernChinchilla · 09/09/2012 12:56

An awesome cake aethel! How's DS doing?

Same here Cherry- most of mine and DP's family live at the other end of the country, with a small bunch of rellies in Devon, which is at the other other end of the country to us Confused. We've only got DP's mad sister and my Dad nearby, and when I say nearby I mean only 1.5 hours away.... DP and I accept that we won't get any help with childcare, babysitting, etc, which is a pain but we had DS knowing this, and so we can't complain. It's sad for them too not seeing DS as much, but we haul arse every 5/6 weeks or so to visit.

Sounds pretty tough Oi, I admire your perseverence (sp?) and glad you all survived!

We did fine, DP had to bob down twice in short succession for a dummy re-administering, but otherwise OK.

Currently putting up stairgates (well, DP is, I'm chilling for a few minutes after spending time persuading a massively overtired DS that sleep is goooood) and trying to pretend tomorrow isn't happening...
DP goes back to work after 4.5 months (goes back properly on Tuesday)
DS starting nursery full time
I have the week from hell at work, after a lovely week off- it starts with a conference in London tomorrow, clashing marvellously with the Olympic victory parade (I know, which genius, etc) and gets no better Sad

Aethelfleda · 09/09/2012 13:38

Hiya girls. DS is doing OK, he's definitely not quite right (huge nap this morning and has conked again now without a fight). I was up with him til just before one and then he settled down, fell asleep and went in cot. He had a brief cough/wail at 4, but then settled til 6.45 when DH got him up. No more barking cough, but I've heard it enough before to know it's a croup like virus if not actual croup. We'll see how things go: it's usial yo get worse over 2-3 nights with real croup, if it's "just" another virus will be less exciting. Spot the child who's just gone to communal childcare!!!

DD2's party went well and cake was well received. It's now half distributed/eaten. The other half is watching me muttering "300 calories a slice, muah hah hah...."

LittleMissFlustered · 09/09/2012 14:47

'looooooooo!

So. The moral of my story today is that if one plans on popping to the out of hours doctor one should pack for a night in the hospital. I honestly should know better by now!

All well again now though. Nebs and obs and zero sleep for me, refill on his atrovent and a new spacer and they released us. Freeeeedom. And coffee!

I now owe the minions a treat, as our picnic at the free festival was a write ff >_<

Hope the Aethelspawn is doing well. It's chest-tastic at our end of the he spectrum isn't it?!

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MrsDeterminedandSpecialMum · 09/09/2012 17:30

Will catch up properly when I'm home.

Grin
Aethelfleda · 09/09/2012 19:19

hiya! Now get back to having a fab honeymoon!!!

The Spawn seems reasonably perky, has had his bottle and some pre-emptive Ibuprofen. Next we'll see how the night goes and then have the delightful is-he-okay-for-childminder decision (no if it's croup, but if it's a virus he's got from there and he's temp-less and cheerful he'll probably be OK.) there are certain do-not-pass-go illnesses when childcare happens, but if he has a good night and is just snotty tomorrow we may be OK. This is one of the things I like least about being a working mum, I'd never leave my DCs if they were really ill/miserable, but it's the not predicting how they will be tomorrow that I find tricky.

GeeandTee · 09/09/2012 19:36

Hi everyone, just quickly checking in to say I'm still here and still just about surviving on waking every 2 hours! DD gave me a shock on Friday night as she slept through until 5.30 so I got 6 and a half hour's sleep in a row! Wahoo! But then she did her usual wake every 2 hours last night. At the moment it seems to be because she rolls onto her tummy and then can't roll back Hmm

But we've had a lovely weekend seeing friends, swimming, cooking, playing in the garden etc and DS has been angelic which always makes things easier!

dsm enjoy the cocktails!

aethel great cake! Hope the croup/virus disappears quickly and work goes ok.

lmf sorry for another hospital admission for Octoboy, hope he's better soon.

seven it is annoying when people who should know better are insensitive isn't it? My parents can be like that sometimes, comparing how my DB's son is doing compared to DS (who has CP) and it can be very hurtful.

Seems like a few people are having man troubles, sorry can't remember who exactly other than oi and figgy. Hope things become more harmonious and they mum up and start pulling their weight!

There's a few people we've not heard from for a while. What happened to plu ? And not heard from HLC or msbuggy for ages, and also I think YBR and jigglebum ?

NorthernChinchilla · 09/09/2012 19:56

I've seen MsB and Easily post on other threads, so I know they're around. Plu went off to quite-an-unusual-foreign-country-where-her-DP/DP's-family-are-from-can't remember-which-one and didn't have internet, but not heard from her since. Think/hope HLC is still lurking!

It's one of the things I'm dreading aethel, so not sure how you manage with three. I can see chunks of 'parental leave' being used up as we've no-one else to look after DS if he's ill, and having to make that judgement call about their wellness seems impossible!

Sounds like Octoboy has been leading you a tentacled dance LMF, poor thing, but I hope they've got it all under control now? We'll all remember to yell to pack a bag should you mention going to the Ooh Doctor again Smile

And I can honestly say I'm cheerfully madly jealous of you DSM, but not in a bad way- sounds fantastic, enjoy but don't post pictures as I may cry Wink

GeeandTee · 09/09/2012 19:59

By the way, weird question but do any of your LOs "explore" things with their thumbs? When DD touches stuff to explore it she always uses her thumb to feel it - is this weird? She particularly likes sticking her thumbs in my belly button and flicking my nipple with her thumb (very annoying that one!). Just seems a very unatural thing to do?!

LittleMissFlustered · 09/09/2012 20:13

Gee we are still doing millions of two hourly wake-ups too, you're not alone! It does end. I know it ends. There's two snoozing lumps of proof in other rooms, I just want this squishy lump to do the same. Tonight if possible!

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seven77 · 09/09/2012 21:38

Hope you're having a fab time DSM!

gee it must be so frustrating knowing that she can go through the night then going back to 2-hourly wake-ups. Hope it improves soon.

aethel hope the spawn is okay in the morning, and that you avoided scoffing the entire cake.

I made really lazy chicken pies for tea, the filling was an onion, carrot, chicken breasts and a tin of low-fat condensed mushroom soup. And I used pizza dough instead of pastry a la the hairy dieters, they were amazing, I won't be using pastry to make pies again! Though my hard work may have been undone by making treacle tart with the left over dough.

OiMissus · 10/09/2012 07:47

Bleurgh.
I haven't noticed exploring thumbs Gee. TBH he only uses his hands to explore to put things into his mouth. Exploration is by ingestion.
Oh for a 2 hourly wake up! I dream of... he's back in our room. he has a horrible snotty cold again. His first night in his own room was pretty tough, but it was clear from when he went off last night that he'd need constant soothing. He's just struggling to breathe and sleep. poor thing. So he was on 5 - 20min wake ups. Yawn.
I should have swapped sides with DH and let him do the caring - and he would have, happily. But ahh, I'm his mum, when he's poorly I need to be giving cuddles. ...Although I may let DH take over tonight. Yawn.
I don't know what croup is aethel, but I hope your LO doesn't have it and it's "just" a virus.
BTW Plu posted a video of her DD on facebook, tootling a recorder. Smile So I'm guessing they're all OK. HLC and msbuggy are regulars on FB too.

OiMissus · 10/09/2012 07:55

(For those who aren't on Facebook, I've uploaded a couple of recent photos of BOi on my profile.)

LittleMissFlustered · 10/09/2012 10:23

Bedtime for me ans octoboy. We're on catch up. Shhh!;)

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OiMissus · 10/09/2012 10:40
seven77 · 10/09/2012 11:27

oi sorry to hear BOi is poorly, terrible timing after you'd just put him in his own room. Eva is such a daddy's girl, he gets huge grins and squeals every night when he comes home, but when she's poorly he's just not good enough, it has to be me. Croup is a horrible virus which causes the airways to narrow (i believe!) making breathing difficult and causing a cough which sounds like a barking seal, the telltale 'croupy cough'. DS had it when he was 2, I was honestly terrified by how ill he was, he slept for hours during the day and needed steroids and anti-biotics.

Figgygal · 10/09/2012 12:59

Ladies

Weekend much better DH and I have had it out, made up etc still doesn?t remove the fundamental problem that I want to move back to Scotland, that after 9 years this still isn?t home and it doesn?t matter if he was the best DH in the world it is still there in the background and I am resentful. Since having Ds the desire has gotten stronger, dh thinks I have withdrawn from him and I know he is right and he said to me that the only thing I want is the one thing he cant give me which isn?t fair on him. I know he is right a comparable house up there is prob £30-40k more than here, he is self employed so while he job could go with him he may not get a mortgage that is before thinking of fact I wouldn?t have a job. I could go on and on about it (and have done over the weekend) so moving on.....we have booked a weekend away in torquay (another problem is I miss living by the coast and feel very landlocked in bristol) in a few weeks which will help.

Over the weekend Ds has been a nightmare throwing massive tantrums where he screams and cries like a demon possessed, refuses to sleep in day, arches his back, throws his head around he refuses to sit down or lie down without hysterics, wants to be stood up all the time, clingy when I leave the room. This morning he was charming smiling, chatting, bouncing around on his knees but I doubt it will last. Thought it was teething but not drooling or red cheeks for last 24 hours but he has been having a proper go on his bickiepegs so maybe it is!! Think crawling will be soon he is almost there just gets one foot stuck when he tries to get into position but he is very frustrated when cant reach something and shuffling takes too long for him seemingly.

Blimey that was long :-)

Figgygal · 10/09/2012 13:00

Oh and sorry to hear Oi is sick Ds only ever wants me to comfort him too, i have noticed that he always says mum when he is upset, i was putting it down to just noise but it is true he nevers says it any other time so he must want me.....bless him

Aethelfleda · 10/09/2012 14:27

Hooray: not croup!!!!

We had a much better night last night and he still has a little cough but it's a standard bit chesty one, no barking or trouble breathing thank goodness. And he was really cheerful this morning and ate most of his weetabix so I took him to the childminder where he was perky and smiley all morning so I escaped the mummy guilt. Yay.

Enjoying a bit if mummy-baby time before I get the DDs from school: am steadfastedly ignoring the washing that needs putting out! not to mention the creeping deadline of estate agent tidy doom

Glad things are a bit better figgy, and hope Boi is de-bunged very soon!