Dec 08 Mums - still biffing on

[LadyThompson]

Yes, yes, it's a bit lame. I wanted to say: "Still fucking on!" but wary of causing offence....

I know 'biffing' is a bit PG Wodehouse, as well. You'll just have to humour me

Hello everyone,

beans Sorry to hear about your grandpa. It is kinder to be let go when so terribly old. My grandad was 101 and had just had enough. Have you got an appointment to have further investigations on your heart? I'm amazed that wasn't picked up in pregnancy.

Indith Your recent poo story and vomit story made me feel quite ill. You write it very realistically! How are preparations going for starting uni?

ladyT Enjoy your travels.

spot It is tricky re your move. I think you'd find moving elsewhere rather provincial after Brighton and London. You'd get lots more for your money house wise though. Does dp still want to move back to London? I'm amazed by your boys counting and language skills. L struggles to count to 20 in english.

kayz Re the weight thing. The person on your thread might be 5ft and have been 7st prior to pregnancy or something crazy. Don't compare yourself to others. I do think with weight loss post pregnancy is a bit different to usual weight loss because your body is recovering from a massive upheaval. Plus you still have hormones whizzing about.

Is anyone going to watch the paraolympic opening ceremony? I'm a bit disappointed that the girl's nursery don't appear to be doing anything related to the paraolympics after they did loads for the olympics. Displays, special events etc. Maybe they are all sported out but I do think it is an ideal opportunity to talk about disability and for the children to become more familiar with the idea that not everyone is the same etc. We can do stuff at home I know. Being part of the university there might be sporty disabled students who'd be willing to talk to them. I'm so tempted to suggest they do something when they're next in. Would I sound ridiculous?! Are any of your children's nurseries doing anything?

I'm off to watch Paralympics on Sunday. My lovely friend got tickets and has invited me. Chuffed to bits.

I can order sandwiches in seven different languages...sorry that's actually a line from a Paul Kelly song about travelling around Europe, it is followed by the line "but every f#@king city looks the same". No kiwi you don't get a chocolate bottom you get a large glass of prosecco. You need to have a grown up reward.

To be fair to Mary she did apparently go back to work within a couple of months of having each of her kids. Really I think to get a real cross section of SAHMs for they should have interviewed me, I have a mountain of folding to do that those other women would probably iron to within an inch of it's life, and while I do love cooking, I get mind numbingly bored of having to think of what to cook every night, night after night. And as I yelled at DH last night, occasionally I'd like to not have to think about it.

Yes we had a big row last night. I suggested earlier in the day that DH cook a meal which we all like called Tofu tamarind. It is rare that there is a meal which the entire family likes equally, and cooking this particular meal is his domain. So I made sure that we had the Tofu, carrots & babycorn and all that was for him to do was cook it. Then he decided to go to the gym I got cross, made baked beans for the boys instead, DS2 whined at me about one of the 100 things he tells me off about everyday, & I lost it. Poor DS 1 he got the raw end of the stick because I was basically angry with anyone in the house who was in possession of a penis. Poor DH he had basically forgotten that there is a time scale, you can't just start making dinner whenever you fancy it, and was taking advantage of the fact that he was working from home. He had been brilliant that day, he had been around for loads of deliveries & had taken charge of getting a load of quotes done to get our front window frame replaced. But I think it was the fact that he can just decide on a whim to do something whereas I have to do so much faffing and scheduling to fit anything I want to do in. And when the boys are sick like on Tuesday, I lose my time off. Ah I'm just having a whine. I can't really complain I have it pretty good and next weekend I am going away with some girls to Maastricht for a chill out sans kids weekend. I just think the combibation of the entire school holidays with them and all the uncertainty with DHs work and his stress has made me a little tetchy. Or maybe I'm just a drama queen.

Gosh I missed a whole new page of posts. Oops.

Beans, that is a little scary about your heart. Do they think it could be stress related. I had it during DS2's pregnancy but it resolved. Apparently in that case it is due to hormones. However, a friend of mine had it within a year of her 2nd child being born and went to her doctor complaining of shortness of breath & feeling like her heart was beating strangely, she was quite worried about it and obviously to the doctor she seemed a little paranoid and so without even checking her pulse he diagnosed her with PND and put her on anti-depressants. She then believed it was all in her head and continued on the meds until one day another doctor did a routine BP & noticed the irregular heart beat. She had to be really careful with exercise & diet and generally look after herself. But now several years later it seems to have resolved itself. It didn't help that amongst all this her husband was killed whilst out for a morning cycle. She found stress definitely made it worse. How did DH feel when all this happened, he must be worried.

Also sorry about your grandpa, I know it seems like it is time and it will be a relief when he goes, but prepare for it, you are going to be sadder than you realise, my sweet. I remember when I lost my nan, she had been wanting to die for months but I was still devastated when she finally went. I suddenly wished I could see her again. Sorry all a bit depressing aren't I.

JB I think you should say something, there is so much sympathy and sadness attributed to disability, for once we can look up to them and celebrate them. I think it is a good thing for kids to admire them. Also there can never be too much sport.

I must go I have a mountain of clean washing to climb.

Oh Vag
I know that feeling so well. So dull trying to think what to serve up and DH rarely cooks anything. He did kid's supper a couple of weeks ago and I nearly fell off my perch!
I bet you're a bit nervous and tetchy. I definitely am. Especially as I haven't had coffee in a coup,e of weeks. One of my biggest little pleasures!!
I also feel your pain on not having the same freedom as DH. He jogs or cycles to the station most mornings and I have to arrange exercise ages in advance in the school holidays and if DH has to work late, then I have to cancel it. It's a pain in the neck. Would love to do more. Although am waiting til I've seen doctor tomorrow before I do any more!!
Girls wearing tights today for the first time in months!! Brrrr.

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Thanks Vag. I crossed with you. Yes, will be a weeping mess when he goes and poor DH doesn't think he'll be able to make the funeral as he's massively under the cosh at work.
I think heart could be stress related - we'll soon see! Apparently quite a few members of my family have it, so might have a bearing on it. But maybe it'll just go away! Live in hope!
Right, off to the postbox with us.
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Oh I know that feeling sooo well. DH training for London tri and I have been unable to get a sitter so have not been to the gym for 2wks. Can't wait for the boys to get back to school/nursery so I can get back to the gym. I have gained half a stone in the school hols. Also the constant what to make for dinner drives me mental. Infact I had pretty much the exact same row with DH last wk.

Beans that's a bit scary about your ticker. Have you tried doing breathing relaxation exercises. It may help. Also so sad about your grandpa. Sometimes life sucks.

Am sooo exhausted have my niece to stay at the moment. It's just non stop all the time. My poor bank balance is very exhausted too. bring on term time and routine led children.

Jam Must be nearly time for London Tri now though? It's very late this year, I guess cos of Olympics..?

I can't really complain about DH as he's extremely supportive of me doing any form of exercise and happily takes the girls off every saturday morning for 3 hours so I can do running club. He's on Paralympics duty now though, so will be a few late nights but can hardly blame him for that!

It's our wedding anniversary on Sunday - now I know it's someone elses on the thread too but can't remember who else...!? JJ possibly??

Beans DH has a slightly erratic heartbeat and extremely low heart rate. He actually had heart palpitations in his teens (when he had ME) but he's absolutely fine - certainly doesn't hold back with exercise etc. Come to that, I was born with a suspected heart murmur that resolved itself! So hopefully yours is stress related. Try and take it easy on yourself though, it's been a really hard time for you so make sure you are getting enough rest, and breathing relaxation exercises suggested by Jam sounds a very good idea.

Vag I would be annoyed with that too! Nothing worse than making perfectly reasonable plans and then DH just sails in and says "oh no, let's not do that thing that works well, lets do this instead..." Gah.

Minor miracle this morning: DD2 slept until 6.30am. That's OVER AN HOUR longer than usual. No idea what happened but I am not complaining, though doubt it will ever happen again. It'll be back to Farming Today on the radio while she has her porridge tomorrow morning.

I killed the thread

Hi Kiwi, I'm here. Must send you those boots when I next do a PO / Ebay run. Actually I'm back at work next week so I'll post from there (tightwad emoticon).

Any progress on DD2's sleep?

Beans, I am surprised to hear about your heart thing. I think life is very stressful for you right now, even though you are a trouper, as you have had to move house and worry about your dad in the space of a few months. Thinking of you and looking forward to seeing you soon. I still have that HUGE bag of clothes to give you......

All good here. Am having a new floor laid downstairs so house is even more chaotic than usual but am making a list of jobs for my new found handy man to do. Can I just ask as I am frightened of the rest of the board - radiator covers? Yes or no? Our hall radiator is really knackered and I would love to change it but that would be £££££ so I am thinking of a cover but are they mega naff?

Hope all are well. Can we do a London meet soon?

Love to everyone XXXXXXX

Sybil 5am this morning. Ugh. So that will be a no. And then she was MASSIVELY overtired and grumpy until after nursery run, when she went to sleep ... for 45 minutes. AGHHH.

Re radiator covers - I like them actually. Our hallway radiator is getting one when we can afford it. I like the simple designs, and I like that it gives you somewhere to put post/keys.

Sybs we have 3 radiators covered and I love them. The two hall ones as Kiwi says gives an extra shelf. The livingroom radiator runs along the front windows and the radiator cover makes a lovely window seat shelf that is vaggieboys height so they use the shelf to play on and display their dinosaur collection to the passing public.

Sybs My dad fitted them and they looked nice but prevented the heat from escaping. It made a cold house even colder! Our hall radiator looked a mess so I gave it a rub down and a lick of gloss paint. It looks really fresh and clean now.

Vag Thanks. I will mention it to nursery. I watched the wheelchair basketball last night. I love how when someone falls out they just get back up and into their chair again. No rolling about in pretend pain like footballers until coach runs on with the magic sponge.

Jollybear you should watch wheelchair rugby those boys are hardcore. They make the able bodied rugby players look like wooses.

Trampoline up and functioning very well (though has highlighted the weaknesses in my undercarriage). Ready in time for 18, 5-7 year olds, coming over to celebrate ds1's birthday on sunday. Oh joy.

HimAll
Just a quick update on doctor visit. Went to see him yesterday and he confirmed that my heart has a very erratic beat; there's absolutely no pattern to it at all and so I need further investigations. Having a blood test on Monday at local hospital, then another ECG on weds and something called a rhythm strip too. Then on Thursday meeting doctor again to discuss results. He thinks that he'll probably be sending me to a cardiologist for an ultrasound of my heart and a 24hr ECG thing and they can try to determine what's going on. In the meantime, carry on as normal as am not about to drop dead!
Feeling relatively ok, although am very aware of my heart beating as its v slow and I have to catch my breath all the time. Not that much fun! Thankfully the girls start back in childcare on weds as that might calm it down a bit!! Live in hope!
If I'm honest, I'm really bloody scared, but having to put on the old brave face as so much other shit going on for Mum, this is the last thing she needs to worry about. It's so weird as I lie in bed and I can count the beats before it seems to stop, gather itself, the re start again and it does this a few times, then back to normal for a few beats. The longest it's gone for Norma is 16 beats. Really not a lot. V worrying and I wish something was being done a bit quicker. Doctor also told me to hang back on trying for número 3 baby! Typically I've just come off the pill! Bugger. Should have stayed on it.

5am is too early, Kiwi. Can you ignore her for a while and she might go back to sleep?

Beans It is good you are being seen so quickly. I've had a 24hr ecg and it is fine. Just wear a high neck top. Polo neck with sloppy jumper over the top would be ideal. You carry a pack thing with you so the baggy jumper would hide it. I wore a round neck top and the wires kept escaping. I felt like a cyborg.

Thanks JB! And we're you ok? X

Yes, I was fine thanks beans. It was just a precaution as my liver destroying gubbins can sometimes affect the heart.

On being scared it is natural to be worried. You are being well looked after and by this time next week you'll know what is going on.

If you feel you can't speak to your mum or family because there is so much going on. How about arranging to see a close friend and having a chat/a damn good cry? Don't keep things bottled up.

Thanks JB. DH is being amazingly supportive a d he is clearly v concerned as am way below form. Am staying with SIL this weekend and had a 2 hr sleep this pm and am in bed now, exhausted! Quite odd to finally be allowing ,ysekf to be tired, if you know what I mean?? Anyway, enough bleating on

I mst away to snoozevill!!

I hope everyone's ok? Kiwi how was your morning this morning? Early again?

Radiator covers: am indifferent. Not something I really notice! But agree re usefulness of them in hallways!

Oh Beans you poor love. As if you didn't have enough to be worrying about. I hope the testing all goes smoothly and you are being well taken care of.

Radiator covers are ok I think, so long as they are nice simple ones rather than fiddly little patterns- can you imagine the dusting?

I have a slightly sore head. Don't tell dh he will take the piss . Went to a bbq yesterday and as the children merrily ran round having fun I drank pimms followed by gin. I was fine and perfectly ok to feed ds2 but apparently my head thinks it ought to remind me that I do not drink very often!

Moving dd today to her new room. Yay! Sadly involves a LOT of faff to sort out all the toys and stuff. And more ikea to put together.

Ran 11 miles this morning. With slight hangover from anniversary meal. Too tired for long sentences. DH at work. Help! Is it bedtime yet?

Oh we have present from DD2 for our anniversary - a tooth! Finally! Only took nearly 11 months eh?

Gosh Beans, that's is all quite scary. I know it is hard but try not to do the heartbeat counting, you can get so fixated on it. The main thing is it is still beating just a little out of time. But you are in the system now and a cardiologist will sort you out. If you feel it is getting worse or you are getting more out of breath go back to your doctor or even to A&E. Sometimes, re-presenting (not representing) can speed things up a little. Now can I be a little selfish and as if you do end up in hospital can you get DH to text one of us so we can let the group know and then we can pray & white light you.

Feeling shattered after DS1's birthday party. But had a great time his dutch schoolmates are a great bunch of kids, really well behaved and they all had a brilliant time. I recruited some friends to help and it was so great having the extra hands as we had 20 kids. One of the kids was very complementary of my dutch which was very sweet.

I was a teeny bit Hung over after last night as it was museum night in Den Haag, where all the museums, galleries and the Parliament building open until 1am and have a single entry cost. They also have cocktail bars so even better. Went with a bunch of ladies and had a lovely relaxed night.

Hello!
Back from our travels tonight and dh already doing work so thought I'd pop on! Haven't caught up but will tomorrow. Decided not to take the flight back through Dubai but instead go the other way and stop over at dh uncles as flight loads bad all round so thought might as well break up the trip. DH panicked about getting back for work as flights looked so full , but his idea to change route, and it all worked, via a flight through New York and the kids were quite good considering how many planes we piled them onto! Thank God for ipads / iphones / i-everything! Right much needed glass of wine with my pizza then bed. Back tmrw.

Rubes, your holiday looks fab, but what a lot of flights! Your kids are jetsetters already!

Beans, I know you have your blood test today. It's super scary but I am sure you are in very good hands. I expect you will feel calmer once you know a little more. Many heart problems are easily fixable too, eg with a pacemaker. Just take each day at a time, look forward to nursery for girls and remember we are all thinking of you and wishing you well. Sending huge calming hugs and lots of love to you angel XXXXXX

Thanks so much everyone.
Can't stay as loads to do pre hozzie for blood test. But you are such a lovely bunch. What heroes xxx