December 2011: Of Mice, Men and Tables

[NorthernChinchilla]

Here we go...I hope!

Oh dear since I wrote that she's been piling every spoon I gave her and it all seems to be bile. She is properly miserable. Rang OoO and they said to take her into the GP centre at the hospital to be checked. They can hopefully give her some rehydration solution. Was supposed to be going home tomo, guess that won't happen. Can't bring a miserable, vomiting baby on a plane...

Vomiting not piling!

Jiggle I agree with everyone else when I say you need to see your GP and tell him/her exactly how you feel. Does your DH help out when he's at home?

LMF that you got some sleep at your neighbour behaved.

Mopsy Poor MiniM. I would get some rehydration stuff first, see if that works then get to docs if she doesn't improve. Hoping she gets better soon x

I was up twice with Sky last night - not been used to that for a while so feel a little shattered this morning . Chill day for us today.

Ooh mopsy that sounds horrible hope she's better soon.

I heard lo quietly gurning away at 4 went in and je was on his tummy he's always slept on his back and wasn't sure whether it's ok now or not for them to sleep on front? Anyway I turned him over which woke him up do that was unfortunate.

I'm getting out for grown up time today an afternoon of wine and lunch In Bristol enjoying the weather......ah it's been a long time

Figgy it's okay for Figgyboy to sleeping his front. Sky has pretty much done it from about 18weeks.

mopsy poor thing, hope she's better soon.

seven it sounds perfectly reasonable when you talk about your DS breaking his arm - these things happen, but I think if it happened to DD1 in my care, DH would probably call SS on me for neglect :P

figgy I am a lover of marshmallow tophats too (in Edinburgh) so maybe its a Scottish thing.

jiggle definitely go and see your GP. I've also heard that PND can start up to a year after birth.

mopsy sorry to hear she's so ill. If you're worried just get her checked out and then you can stop worrying so much. DS had an iLlness like that when he was 10mo, vomiting up bright yellow bile, it was scary. Can you try giving her literally a few drops of rehydration fluid little and often? Hope she picks up soon.

DD only woke once for a feed at 2am!! She keeps surprising me with gOod nights among the terrible ones. There is no logic to it! Means I got 7 and a half hour's sleep and feel almost human again ;)

Oh and mopsy a dr once suggested soaking a corner of a clean flannel or towel in rehydration fluid and letting LO suck it, if she'll do that? I couldn't get DS to do it but might be worth a try?

mopsy I really hope she's doing better - DS hasn't had anything serious at all (just a few colds) and yet that awful feeling of helplessness when they're not feeling well is just terrible. Big hugs to you.

I haven't posted much recently because I'm having a bad time with work. It's looking more and more like it was a v bad idea to go back full time with a 4 hour commute while still not getting enough sleep. I've been putting between 8 and 12 hours on the clock each day and then with the commute on top of that...I've only been back 3 weeks and I spend all day feeling sorry for myself, missing DS or fantasising about getting out. I worked from home on Wednesday sort of without approval and it was SO EASY - I was productive, didn't worry about DS once as he was just in the next room, all my work got done. Although I can supposedly apply for flexible working they've never in the whole history of the department approved a single request fucking patriarchal bastards paying lip service to family friendly policies

At least I passed my UK citizenship test yesterday so now I can put in my passport application!

Xiao Well done for passing your UK test

4weeks today I'm getting married. It's almost all organised just need to finish getting the presents and get the guest book & finish making order of day & placemats and then done

xiao sorry you're having such a shit time, arseholes. could you do what you do anywhere closer so you don't have the awful commute? If so do you think you'd have a better chance of getting flexible working if you call their bluff and tell them you can't go on as you are? Well done on passing the test. :)

Jiggle I've only got the one and am def having a wobble at the moment. I know I just need to get out and make some friends (sounds simple doesn't it?!) but I only managed a week of stupid 9.15am baby groups before I started weaning and now we don't finish breakfast till 9 at the earliest (and that is a really organised day)and everywhere is at least a 30 minute walk.

Bleugh. Will. get. more. organised.

Oh well, the sun is out. I'm going to shower, then off to Mum's for Lunch and to paint Seb's nursery furniture which is still in her garage. Not the cot. That's in our bedoom obviously!!

We have a dealine to get the house looking pretty and Seb in his own room...friends visiting from Mancland on the 12th. Just need DH to come home from work on his bloody day off

Did I mention I've joined a nappy recycling group? £3 per fortnight, they deliver the yellow waste binbags, then collect the bags filled with disposable nappies to be taken to the clever recyling plant somewhere near Birmingham.

Apparently they can separate the waste from the polywatsits and the resulting plastic pellets can be used for all sorts of things.

The charge is because a lovely young man has volunteered to do these collections and it covers his petrol with the resulting funds going to a local charity for poorly babies. I feel slightly less bad about the bag of re-usables that I haven't used.....

Hopefully once the local authorities get a bit more money to splash around this will get included in standard residential recycling.

seven we could move closer but then DH would have to leave his job here at the school where we get a free house (and free school fees for DS). It's also pretty much the best job he could ever dream of having as a teacher, and we have slotted into a wonderful community with lots of other young families just like us, so he quite understandably doesn't want to leave unless it was vital. Most other women here have taken advantage of the free housing and become SAHMs.

Many people have suggested living on our houseboat M-F and then going home for the weekend but just the idea of it kills me.

Hi all quick update, rang OoO GP, he said bring her in, examined her and sent us to the childrens hospital. We've been here for over 4 hrs now giving her 5ml of ribena every 5 minutes trying to get a urine sample and nothing so far. She must be really dry. She is absolutely miserable :( they think it's possibly urine infection, need sample to test. If not think they will do other tests.

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Oh mopsy - here for hand holding. Really sorry you're at the hospital but you're in the right place for her.

poor minimopsy, hope she's OK soon. (hugs and comedy raspberries to cheer her up)

Oh poor minimopsy, and (((hug))) for you, mopsy, it's so upsetting when they are poorly. I've been off thread for a bit and so didn't reply but I'm v glad you got her looked at . Hope she improves and you get an answer v soon.

jiggle, there are wise comments in the thread already: you certainly can get PND up to a year after baby, and sometimes it is harder to realise and get help because people assume it kicks in really early, when actually it can be the grind of ongoing juggling/monotony/fatigue that really brings it out. See your best like GP about this and have a chat, LMF's suggection of a list is a good backup, though you may not need it. Good luck my dear xx

xiao, that is grotty of your bosses (though sadly not a surprise), I've seen so many professional type friends have similar issues over the last few years. It's complicated but working out and testing possible solutions is something you'll have to do. The important thing is to be kind to yourself over this, acknowledge that with the best will in the world you can't forsee/plan everything and do NOT let the guilt monster take over. First question is to look at whether you feel you can continue this current job as it is for (say) a year. If you think you can't then look at whether you can afford to not work at all or take a year out to consider your options (once you've worked enough to seal off your maternity pay). Is there any part time equivalent you could move to (even if it involves changing employers?) what's your notice period etc? The sleep thing should get better as DS gets bigger, the issue is partly how long your day is and then with the commute on top..... Obv you're not going to post this all on thread but do pM me or contact IRL if it helps. ((hug))

Still here, still miserable minimopsy, still no wee :(

Poor minimopsy :( presumably as she's in hospital though, they should have assessed her state of hydration: I hope she avoids a drip but if she needs one it will make her better. Have you eaten anything today yourself mopsy? If not then get DP to obtain you something even if only a sandwich or toast. Make sure you keep eaing and drinking yourself, itms easy to forget when you're worried.

I'm breaking out the pompoms for minimopsy in the hope she gets better soon.

Any news on minimopsy ? Hope she's feeling better. X

Mopsy Poor MiniM. Hopefully she's not in hospital for long and she will be right as rain ASAP.

Well been a productive day here. Both girls are in bed. I feel like I've got an elephant sat on my chest