October 2011 chattering, eating and on the move!

[strawberrypenguin]

New thread!

scheh poor c. its bloody awful when babies are ill. i try to stick to plain toast and water when mine are ill so as not to upset stomach.

i know its against a mothers instinct not to feed your child, but it wont harm him for 1 day or 2 not to eat, if he doesnt want to. but fluids are a must obviously.

well, ive had enough of trying to 'get' through life- so went to see my gp today.
i know i joke a lot etc, but im tired, weary and just generally in a miserable fog that i cant shake off. every task seems like everest and thats only if i do them.
i know im getting worse cos of all the mistakes i keep making on here. i cant concentrate at all. and the nicknames/real names thing is a part of that too.
i didnt even go to playgroup this week and i always force myself as it is the only time we leave the house.

i dont even get dressed half the time.

he's give me mirtazapine. never heard of it or been on anti d's before, so no idea about them. i dont sleep very well as you may have noticed, so they are sedative and dp has to get up in the night for me.

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bb3 sorry you are having a bad time. it must be so worrying about ds's op. sending you hugs and best wishes. x

out no hadnt tried that or thought about it. its a good idea in theory, but so was turning the door handles upside down to stop him opening them and he worked it out in 3 weeks!
will give it a go though- thanks.

fuzzy he can take all his clothes off by himself. i dont put sleepsuits on them until i go to bed as they take them off. he cant un pop his vest but he just gets his arms out and wriggles it down his body and then steps out. isobel is just as bad.

im getting seriously worried that they are going to want occupations of the no clothes variety!!!!

Thanks sassy. He's still taking milk so I'll try him with that at 3. I've been offering beaker when awake, which hasn't been since 11. He's just so hot and sleepy :( given calpol, no rash etc, if he gets worse will take him to walk in.

Sorry to hear you've not been coping, hope the mirtazapine works well.

bb3 you sound amazing, in fact I don't know how anyone with a baby & more kids does it! Like today, C just wants to sit and cuddle on me, which is fine as I'm staying at MILs and SIL is here helping out, bringing food & drinks. If I was on my own at home, with toddlers too, I don't think I could do it!

heading out shortly but didn't want to read and run.

sending you big hugs sassy and bb3

bb3 sometimes I wonder if men (sorry that I'm generalising here) feel the same pressure and guilt that mums do. I have struggled with how much I'm working, whether to work at all (though tbh SAHM wasn't really an option with me), what's the best balance for us, even whether DH should stay at home (recent talks of redundancies at his work got us worried). I think that you are doing amazingly - 3DC under 4! You just have to find what works best for you.

sassy I think that the first step is always the hardest, saying, "actually I need some help". 3 DCs at home, a teenager, DP adjusting to new career, everything you're going through with your ex. You deserve a medal. Did the GP suggest anything else other than medication? DH has been on ADs since feb, doing cbt with a psychologist and in running therapy group. I saw the other day that you're looking at getting back into triathlon. - do it! It was one of the things that kept me sane earlier this year, telling DH the times I was going running and then sticking to them. It was non-negotiable me time and I really needed it.

scheh hugs to poorly C.

Sassy - you need a break hon, you have so much going on in your life right now, with C plus 3 little ones. Can you ask for some counseling too? Ads on their own will help short term but it might help to talk through your feelings with someone as well. You are always so cheerful, in RL people probably think you're fine so please ask for help when you can x

BB3 I know the feeling of Jekyll and Hyde too, I hope your DS op goes very
Smoothly and you can start getting on with st, this will be a huge weight off your shoulders.

Sceh get well soon C and hang in there mama.

((hugs)) To you all and anyone else who needs them x

thanks everyone.

out dp is off to germany on sun till fri, so no break there!
hopefully 4 weeks it italy will be good.
yes he mentioned cbt and i think he is referring me but i cant remember (thats how bad i am with concentration)

the guy at triathlon gave me the address of how to get to tomorrows session and i asked twice and even repeated it back to him and i cant remember
got a vague idea...... joked with my mum that i'll be wondering about like a lost soul trying to find it.

doc told me about a guy who does a thinkng/meditation solution thingy and i forgot who he said as soon as he finished. oh well. hes written it down.
jon kabut zin and his thing is called mindfulness. keep calling it a thing cos no idea what it is but suspect its a technique to help your mind. 'profound' cheshire arent i?!

dp back, been away 2 days, just bathed kids and now leaving him with bedtime while i pick up my prescription and have a wander around tesco- never good as i love tesco and can spend 100's without even trying.

Hi everyone I totally lost track of the thread so have only caught up to pg 10.
bb3 hope DSs op goes/went ok.

Sorry for all the babies bumping themselves but agree that we probably feel worse than they do.

mrsH what book are you on? I thought he was hideous for most of the first book came round to him by the end of it then just felt really sorry for him in the second. I'm still working on the third.

Hello - I've not been very good at posting recently but am back now! Hope all is well xx

Ug, guilt, reading what some of you wrote above rings bells with me too. I guess I just try not to think about it! If I didn't work, we would have less money etc - and I do think that my time with my baby is more "quality" now I work as I won't do things like surf the net while he's playing beside me anymore, but rather, play with him. On days I am home all day I think I end up doing the same amount of focussed play with him as when I am at work!

Just a quick question, do any of you give baby vitamin drops?
Sassy, hope you got a rest last night x

I don't, but not because I am idealogically opposed, just haven't done it yet

Ok, I get them free as on low income but not sure about giving. I do try to e sure she eats good diet but doesn't always get her 5 a day. Just got me thinking

I do because why not, but if you are FF then she gets a lot of supplementation that way e.g. vitamin D

although I didn't with DD as a baby but do now she's got to the classic fussy eating stage. i didn't have vitamin D concerns with her either.

Thanks penguin. I didn't really think about the formula containing vitamins! Think I'll give them anyway. Why not, as you say

Think S is coming down with something to. A bit unsettled through the night and has been quite sick this afternoon. We have snuggled up on the couch and she's just fell asleep. Poor baby

Over here parents are advised to give Vitamin D drops until 4 yrs (used to be 6 months but "they" say that kids aren't getting as much sun exposure nowadays).

M is standing! (of course I was at work today so he did it first when I wasn't here). Pulling himself up on all the furniture...time to babyproof!

I dont because vitamins/supplements are added to formula, and C gets a good diet, lots of fresh air etc. I did when C was breastfed, and when he was refusing formula.

I don't give vitamin drops here, not for my elder 2 either. All were breast fed. They eat healthily and I don't feel the need to add to it.

4 bottom teeth here now and no top teeth yet. Hot here tonight, 26 in my bedroom so j and s are in shortie pjs. S has been very sweet with J again today, random kisses, strokes and even singing. Oh and J kissed me was a bit wet tho and foodie too lol

I like to say C kisses me, but its more that he just likes to suck my chin

All better today! Had a huge lunch, went with family to pub so made him a cheese & spinach omlette and took cherry tomatoes along. He polished it off and was shouting for more, so ended up devouring some of my chips. Then had a bottle later, dinner & pineapple and so didn't want a bedtime bottle :( so now he's probably going to wake up hungry at 2am. He's almost entirely self feeding, so its not that I'm force feeding him.

Think I may have to drop the afternoon bottle.

Hello dropped off the thread/s but a talk of a meetup has brought me back. Hoping to meet some of you tomorrow Cheshire, Sassy, Scheh?

Just been reading through the thread to catch up.

My confessions, because the others made me giggle..
-Never clean the oven
-Only generally clean the bath when I'm getting in it, or we're having visitors (so rarely)
-DD has a bath 2-3 times a week. S more often as it's easier with BLW
-Never clean toys,
-Food gets picked up off the floor, unless cats have got it first. DD will finish an apple after school that she started at breakfast.
-S wears pink babygros. A Lot. I can't be bothered buying him boy clothes when there are perfect good girl ones in the house. Especially as he's growing out of them so quickly. I do get him changed when going out mostly

Here we're having rubbish sleep. But loved the Wonder week info and I think that's why.
S has gone from 75th centile for weight at birth and id now just below the 99.6th one. It's all in his legs and arms. He was 24'11 last week at just turned 8m.
He has 6 teeth, 4 top, 2 bottom.
This past week he's made leaps towards crawling. I think he'll get there in a week or so...
Which is typical as I go back to work a week on Monday.

Other stuff going on which has been my reason for being away really, but I think I'll namechange for that.

Ooh, will be good to see you Bilblio ! S sounds like he's thriving :)

Yes, thriving, building up my muscles and breaking my back! :0 DD didn't walk until she was 17m. S had better get there sooner than that!

Thankfully I have a fantastic HV who just keeps saying "He's making his own curve." He's BLW and EBF and she's a real advocate of BLW so I'm getting no pressure off anyone, she just says he's a big lad and to keep doing what we're doing. DH and I are both 5'5" though. I think S has my brother's mutant tall gene and he'll be patting us both on the head by his early teens.

Hi, can I join in? I used to post on the antenatal thread then lost track when dd was born. Utter chaos for the first 3 months! I don't know how you all managed to mumsnet

Lily Evelyn was born 28/09 8lb8oz. 9 months on and she's over 20lb! Found the first few months really tough. She suffered from colic, refused to sleep on her back and fed constantly interspersed with screaming sessions. Took her to a cranial osteopath when things didn't improve by 6 wks which had good results. On the plus side the baby weight dropped off as some days I didn't get much to eat and the baby wearing helped

Lily is now a happy sociable baby who giggles a lot. It's so much easier. She doesn't sleep through though. I get about 4 hrs as 1st stint then prob every 2 hrs after that.

Loving the confessions. Here are some of mine:

Cleaned the oven once in 4 years. Really ought to clean it again. It smokes the house out now!

L gets a bath twice a week. Sometimes dunked in the kitchen sink after a particularly messy meal. Doing blw.

Have a horrid poo story too. Hired a car and babyseat when on holiday on Crete. Driving back L starts crying so I turn around and notice she has this stuff on her face and hands. Think to myself I didn't do a good job of cleaning her after lunch. We carry on driving. 5 mins later L stats crying again. This time there's more stuff. I twig it was everywhere. All over her face, hair, hands, car seat and clothes. Major poo explosion and in her summer outfit she could get her hands right on her nappy. Grim.

Just thought, where in the food court are we meeting? Could pick a shop, outside subway?

If anyone hasn't seen me on fb, I have ginger hair and blue buggy :)

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