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dinkystinkyandveryverybored · 14/06/2012 10:03

New thread for us to quaff and chat away on... though as the sun is out today suspect I'll be pootling around here on my todd for a bit

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SummerRain · 06/10/2012 19:55

lol.... don't worry swampy, A doesn't seem to be in any rush to earn it anyway.... maybe asking for two accident free days was overly optimistic

Next are a law unto themselves... I still can't believe they were out of stock on the international site, when I order from that site it gets sent via Royal Mail from the same warehouse

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SummerRain · 06/10/2012 19:57

Why didn't my italics work???

MN gremlins at work again....

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dinkystinky · 09/10/2012 16:59

Hope A is better now SR and you're doing ok with your coursework.

Am off to Chicago on Thursday for 5 days with DH. Should feel excited (first lie in for both of us in nearly 7 years) but feel quite bad though as poor DS1 has come down with gastro-bug doing the rounds at school (and fairly sure Danny will come down with it too soon) so feel like should be at home instead of jetting off..

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SummerRain · 09/10/2012 17:56

He might be better by Thursday, and it's not like your abandoning him to strangers, I take it his nanny will be with him? Don't let it ruin the excitement of a well deserved trip away... go, have a fantastic time with dh and by the time you get back hopefully they'll be right as rain and you'll be all refreshed after your break

Study is going alright-ish. Could do with some peace and quiet but alas that wasn't to be. At least this time Friday it'll be over with and I can spend 3 months worrying about something else for a change (lord knows there's enough to pick from!)

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SummerRain · 09/10/2012 17:57

You're

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dinkystinky · 09/10/2012 19:45

Thanks SR - I know you're right logically but emotionally am feeling all PFB about my boy (who will not just have his nanny around during the day but also be inundated with grandparents and auntie and uncle while we're away - we figure 6 adults vs 2 small boys is probably good odds)

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SilveryMoon · 09/10/2012 19:56

Evening ladies.
Nice t see the thread active. Lovely to see you on SR had wondered where you'd got to. Glad the studying is going well, good luck for your exam

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SummerRain · 09/10/2012 19:58

{hugs} sounds like they'll be spoilt rotten while you're away... Don't let mommy guilt ruin a much needed break. You're a fantastic caring mother, it's just an unfortunate fact that they'll alway pick the worst times to come down with something.

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SummerRain · 09/10/2012 19:59

Thanks SM.

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dinkystinky · 09/10/2012 21:04

Thanks SR - (hugs) right back at you x

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SummerRain · 11/10/2012 12:01

Sitting next to dd at the docs... She's just been put on a nebulizer poor thing. She's had a cough for ages but last night she started wheezing. Dps asthma developed when he was 8, just hope this isn't the start of it for her.

Scrap that...... gp just handed me a prescription for steroids and ventolin. Bugger.

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SummerRain · 11/10/2012 12:02

Almost forgot to say.. Safe trip today dinky, have a wonderful time!

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dinkystinky · 12/10/2012 23:32

Oh SR - hugs to you and DD. i hope the dr gave dd those just in case they are needed and shes better now. Hope yr exam went well. Am now in Chicago - and can see why they call it the windy city! Having nice time though -though had a slight panic earlier as call from school woke me as ds1 had bumped his head (he's fine though apparently - more interested in finding out if I will buy him a present)

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SummerRain · 13/10/2012 10:23

Glad you're having a good time dinky. Enjoy your child free lie ins!

Dd seems a lot better now thankfully, says her chest isn't hurting. She has some selection of medications to take though! So scary to see her like that.... She's normally never sick.

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SilveryMoon · 13/10/2012 19:21

SR Glad your dd is feeling a bit better.
dinky hope you're enjoying Chicago, v jealous. Will be looking for pics on your fb

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dinkystinky · 14/10/2012 14:22

Glad dd is better SR. SM - Chicago is fun but rather rainy at the moment - feels abit like London! Am rubbish at uploading pics to FB so don't worry, there'll be nothing there to make you feel jealous

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dinkystinky · 18/10/2012 10:53

Hello all - back from chicago and over jetlag. Had a lovely time - though missed the boys desperately (and they were fine being spoilt by their grandparents). Had a nice surprise when I got back as had a message from MN saying my question had been answered by Mackenzie Crook on the book he wrote and I'm due to get a signed copy of his book. DS1 will be so pleased!

Hope all are well and that the house of lurgies has passed SM.

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SilveryMoon · 20/10/2012 18:58

Glad you had a good time and the boys were ok without you

have had a very draining week, due to Luke having a bit of a nasty fall. Had to have a 'word' with his nursery teacher after she left a message on my phone 'urging' me to get Luke seen and "if I were you....."
I was not happy, how dare she! I cleared it up with her, and as she was "extremely concerned" about Luke's arm/hand, I had him x-rayed. They came back fine so I took much pleasure in telling her that I know my child far better than she does, and that I was offended that she implied I was not able to care for him and that I wouldn't get him checked if there was something wrong and that I know my son is very dramatic and every time he falls it results in one limb or other being untouchable and unusable for up to 4 days.

Unfortunately, this incident has also left me with little trust in what I felt was a strong and positive relationship with the day care nursery (not the school nursery), they have been saying one thing to me and the complete opposite to the school nursery.
They called me when Luke fell and said he had a big bump on his head but seemed ok. So I didn't go and collect him.
I told them if he asks for me or seems 'odd' then I'd collect him. I called frequently throughout the morning and was told he was fine. he was quiet but was playing, had eaten etc, no vomiting or bleeding from his ears, no loss of consiousness or anything so I stayed at work.
I was quite shocked when I saw just how big the bump was, and wish I'd just gone and got him.
Anyway, over the next few days, Luke was not using his left hand at all. He'd stayed home the day after the fall because he had a high temp and I, after watching him etc decided that he was fine in terms of fall injuries and was being overly dramatic.
i spoke to the day nursery and told them my view, they were happy with that and said that I know him and if that's what it is rather than anything sinister then that's fine.
When I got this horrid message from the school nursery teacher she said she'd spoken to the other nursery and that they share the same extreme concerns.
As a result, I now do not fully trust the day nursery and am quite upset that they felt the need to discuss this, whilst saying the complete opposite to me.
I have spoken to the day nursery many times this week about this and not once did they say they felt I was wrong. I thought we had a better relationship than that.
Not sure hwat to do about it now. I had already thanked them for taking auch good care of Luke through the week and for being understanding and supportive of my knowledge of my child. Then I learn this!
Do I confront them or just leave it now???????

Sorry for the ramble, think I'm gonna be pissed off forever about this

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dinkystinky · 20/10/2012 19:05

Oh SM ((hugs)). Sounds like the day nursery have major communication issues going on between themselves (one saying L is ok, another saying not etc) - if I were you I'd speak to the main carer at both nurseries (very calmly but not in a confrontational manner) and ask both nurseries to communicate any concerns to you directly, and not to the school/day nursery and then you second hand, as you are his mother and should be the first point of contact. I can understand you being worried and concerned - but you ARE a good mother and you DO know your son best. I have concerns with Danny's nursery (mainly over the 2 nursery assistants being rubbish and saying totally different things to our nanny to the things the teacher says to me when I occasionally drop Danny off) but havent been sending him there for very long so am going to give it another month to see if things settle down before saying anything.

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SilveryMoon · 20/10/2012 19:13

Thanks Dinky
I have told both nurseries that I fully understand safeguarding issues that surround very small children, and that I know how easy it is to pull up your judgy-pants and talk about how shocking a parent is and how if it were your child etc etc because I am guilty of that in my job, but that I assure you, we are not one of those families.
That I regret not collecting him after the fall but felt reassured that he was being cared for at nursery and they were happy to do that. I also felt that I'd made it very clear that if the school nursery where not happy to take him with a bump on the head that I had not see, that I would come and get him.
When the day nursery called and said he'd had a fall and was quite upset, I said "well, Luke is a very emotional child and is very dramatic about scrapes etc" because I can't leave work for every little thing.
Ok, the bump was worse than I thought it'd be and can understand why the school were initially very worried about him, but once I had seen him, surely they realise that I am capable of ensuring he receives medical care if he needs it.
I really want to know what member of staff the school teacher spoke to at the day nursery.

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dinkystinky · 20/10/2012 19:18

Sounds like you have done the right thing SM. Please dont let it prey on your mind.

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SilveryMoon · 20/10/2012 19:24

Thanks dinky I'll try, but you know me, I hang on to things, can't let go of disagreements etc and hold grudges.
I am very proud of myself for being able to clear it up with the school nursery so calmly and I explained that I'm sure it wasn't her intention but certain comments made me feel this this and this and that I had to verbalise it to her and talk it out because I didn't want this to be clouding my mind every time I spoke to her. She seemed to fully understand and we ended the convo on a good note.

I can't help thinking that the other nursery aren't as 'on my side' as I'd thought. (I obviously know the only side they have to be on is Luke's, but ykwim)

Tis all done now. But next time they call me for the smallest thing I'll be straight there.No more letting them tell me they are happy to do this and that

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MOSagain · 21/10/2012 18:27

SM (((hugs))) hope he is ok now.

For anyone who didn't think I was already insane, I've just singed up to trek Machu Picchu (Inca Trail) next May

I've trekked the Great Wall of China (7 years ago) and Jordan (last October) but apparently they are a walk in the park compared to MP. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that my GP will sign me off as 'fit' enough to do it. Previous treks I've just had to complete a medical myself but this one the dr needs to confirm my fitness so a little worried due to my diabetes. My health is going downhill at the moment so as I've always wanted to do MP I figured it really is now or never.
I'm hoping to see the diabetic specialist who endorses the fact that exercise is one of the best things for diabetes and hopefully he will back me up. Keep your fingers crossed and watch this space.

Previous treks have been to fundraise for NDCS (National Deaf Children's Society with whom I've had a longstanding 'relationship') but this one is being split betwen NDCS and SANDS, in memory of Benedict.

Hope everyone is doing ok x

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SummerRain · 21/10/2012 19:08

Wow mos, that's amazing! I hope all goes well with the diabetes specialist and you get the all clear, what a fantastic experience.

Crazy day here, got up at 7.30 and drove 30 miles to do a car bootsale. Got a call fron dp at 1.30 to say Aaron had a severe uti, was in a lot of pain and seeing blood so had to ring out of hours docs. Was given an appointment for 3 in our local town and couldn't make it back so dp had to bring 3 kids in his car which doesn't have space for them. When he got there there was no doc and it was locked up. Luckily I was on my way back as it turned out there'd been a mix up and the only clinic open was 30 miles in the other direction. I grabbed A and headed for it and he's got a nasty infection and may have to be circumcised if it recurs.

Why do these things always happen in clusters!

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dinkystinky · 21/10/2012 19:11

Oh SR ((hugs)) to you and Aaron. UTIs are horrible. DS1 used to get those all the time and was circumcised this summer and while he was abit tender after the circumcision it was the best thing for it/him. It should clear up quickly with the ABs and cream - no soap in the bath for him (clean water only) and if he's really suffering when weeing, get him to sit in a shallow bath of lukewarm water and wee in that.

MOS - respect!