Fab Feb 2009 - come rain, wind or shine, we're here for each other with copious amounts of wine

[dinkystinkyandveryverybored]

New thread for us to quaff and chat away on... though as the sun is out today suspect I'll be pootling around here on my todd for a bit

[dinkystinky]

Sorry things are still so uncertain for you MoS - hope FW is at least realising what a horrible mess of things he's made. Thanks for reminder about MrsY's auction - will pop on tonight to bid.

Am soooooooooo sad, Danny started nursery this morning. Feel like my baby is growing up way too fast. Obvious solution would be to have another one of course Though, while it feels like EVERYONE I come across is pregnant, that elusive pregnancy fairydust seems to be giving the dinky household a miss for now

[MOSagain]

LOL at dinky I was saying to a friend just this morning she should have another as her twin boys aged 3 have just started nursery! Do you want another one though?

Thanks for your kind words. A lot of the time I do want to make it work but not sure if thats just due to having the DC. The rest of the time I feel so sad/angry/upset/devestated (delete as appropriate on day) that he could have done that to me and the very cynical part of me (99% at moment) doesn't believe that he could love me as much as he says he does if he did that

I got it wrong about MrsY's auction, its now running from 8pm tonight for NINE days not two (although I said 3 earlier!)

[dinkystinky]

Oh MoS, sending you big hugs my dear. You sound so sad, and lonely, which is just not right.

Re a third, I veer between wanting a third and thinking actually life is finally back to normal now with two boys and is it just biological clock saying go for no 3. DH desperately wants a third though.

[dinkystinky]

Meant to say - being sad and lonely when in a relationship is just not right, not what you're feeling is just not right. Hopefully you knew what I meant!

[MOSagain]

did my gloomy conversation kill the thread?

Hope everyone is doing ok?
Don't forget Mrs Y's charity auction for SANDS ends this Sunday evening

[SummerRain]

sorry all, had my head buried in coursework and had let this drop right off the bottom of my TIO list. Was reminded tonight to hunt it down thanks to swampy being utterly lovely and helping me out

[Calico1]

Morning all, and hello SR!!

I must admit I haven't posted much on here for a while but I do lurk a bit...

SR hope the course is going ok? When do you finish?
I'm thinking of going back to study next year when Lilian goes to off to school (if I can afford the fees / childcare, etc), though DH is not convinced....

The SANDS auction went brilliantly . Lots of hugs to MrsY!!!

[SummerRain]

Hey Calico, I have an exam on the 12th and then I get my first bit of time off in years .I've been cramming in modules back to back to try and get the degree by 2014 but at the expense of any breaks so I'm totally burned out tbh. It'l be my first Christmas since before A was born that I'm not trying to mix textbooks and festivities so I'm really looking forward to it

I'd say go for it if you want to do it.... It's amazing how much more enjoyable and rewarding studying is when you take it on as an adult. What are you planning on studying?

[Calico1]

SR good luck with your exam! You deserve some time off too....I don't know how you fit it all in.

I'm thinking of doing a 1 year post-grad teaching qualification but it seems that the nearest place I can apply to is a bit too far away to be practical. I'm fed up with freelancing and want to apply myself to something different but can't work out the studying around school drop off and pick ups

[oooggs]

Hi all

Nothing changed here with Luke and nursey, he is still doing the same sessions he started at Easter. But..... The oline thingy is now open to apply for his school place!!

SCHOOL!! I am not ready for my last born to go to school, even if he is

[SummerRain]

I feel your pain ooogs, I was discussing options with A's SALT today as she thinks he may be better in a specialist SALT class but it's an hour away. I'm not ready for that decision.... He's my baby! What if he gets sick and has to wait for me to get there? But it has a class size of 7, he'd be with other kids like him, they have psychologists, OT and SALT on site........ [wibble]

I can't even wrap my head around the thought of him being in school this time next year!

[oooggs]

Yes we try so hard to make the best decisions for our children but sometimes decisions are made years ago and we just have to follow.

We chose a school for ds1 6 years ago and the rest of the children just follow suit, whether it is the best for them or not. (Blimey 4 children at 4 different schools would just be undoable at primary age!!)

I hope decisions regarding A become easier. Such pressure for us parents

[SummerRain]

Until yesterday I hadn't even considered him going anywhere other ever than across the road to the village school. Hopefully he'll take it into his head to start attempting a few of his missing sounds soon and I won't have to make a decision!

I had to bring him to the doc yesterday as he's been withholding poo so hes on movicol for the next few months. Honestly, this child is the best contraceptive... The thought of having another as complicated as hI'm would put me off sex for life

[oooggs]

Lol summer rain, children are by far the best contraceptive ever

[MOSagain]

oh gosh yes school! We need to think about registering now don't we? Pretty sure with DD we got sent a form to do it but better double check

Hope everyone is doing ok? still plodding on here, very up and down. Have thrown myself into organsising the school christmas fair and my two adult education classes to keep busy.

[dinkystinky]

Hello all - lovely to see you chatting away on the thread! Yes MOS I bid for the ladybird outfit (and won it) for DH's niece - though suspect Danny will commandeer it when he sees it (he likes dressing up, all things shiny and beautiful, my very own little metrosexual!). He's started at nursery at the local primary school (which DS1 is at - its in special measures and about to be forced to turn into an academy) so am rather humming and hahhing about what to do re school place applications. But DS1 loves it there and Danny seems to be really loving it - and loves having little friends to have round/go to for playdates locally - so will probably end up sending him there too.

Calico - the course sounds a great idea and am really hoping you can make it work. Is there a distance learning option for at least part of it to make it work?

SR - sorry to hear about A's poo with-holding: really hope the movicol helps (and soon!). Danny and poos - the Tom and Jerry method of potty training seems to make him do 4 or 5 poos a day in the potty. DS1 went through a poo withholding stage (always did them in his nappy at night) and we adjusted his diet to include lots of dates, plums and prunes and plenty of vit c to help try to keep him regular, and the stools soft - and plenty of warm baths (two a day) seemed to help loosen up things inside. Good luck on the school decision - it is so hard.

MoS - sorry to hear things are still up and down. What 2 courses are you doing?

[MOSagain]

dinky I got the yummy dinners
Shocking that we have to think about applying for 'big' school now. Must make a diary note..

SR H was poo with-holding for a while but it seems (touches wood) in the past two weeks he has suddenly got the hang of it and is happily pooing on the toilet.

Things still up and down but I think I've almost reached my decision. I'm feeling stronger about making my decision for ME moving forward and several people have commented about how much more positive I am. I've been told to build up my support network which I'm working on

dinky, courses are BSL level 2 (I did level one about 9 years ago) and arabic!

[oooggs]

Poo all fine here!! But dd just been referred for a wee problem. She is 5.5 and doesn't drink much (there lies the problem) and therefore her bladder doesn't like the concentrated wee so it tends to spit a bit out!!

So her knickers look like they have been dipped in lucozade and have a tide mark round them by the end of the day!!!!! Very yuk & smelly

So she has to have 5 drinks of 200ml a day to dilute her wee and stretch her bladder. Which for her is very very hard (her twin drinks loads)

So we are working on it

mOS staying positive is good and rl and online networks are invaluable for us all to survive, keep building

Dinky- a lot of schooling is about happiness, happy children learn so like you say, it is a big factor

I don't have to choose a school as really hoping Luke gets into the one his 3 siblings go to but it isn't guaranteed

[SummerRain]

Ooogs, do you have any tips for getting drinks into small stubborn people? A and dd are both really bad drinkers and between bedwetting dd and spending 2 hours a day trying to get A's movical down him I'm at the end of my tether with it!

Mos, glad to hear you're focussing on yourself for once, make decisions based on whats best for your happiness and let FW work on himself for once

Hey dinky... Ds1 was like your ds1... He used to save them for the night nappy (sod!) but at least he was still doing them.... Until he had the movicol A had gone over a week and was leaking poo [boak]

Tomorrow week is my exam... I'm buried under a pile of books and being a truely godawful mother atm. My house is filthy and the kids are living on carp. Have to keep reminding myself it'll be worth it in the end.

[SummerRain]

Carp they'd probably prefer that, they love fish. Gotta love autocorrect.

[dinkystinky]

Oooggs - would pantyliners help with your dd and her wee issues? My friend at school had something similar and pantyliners (not scented ones, just plain ones) were a godsend for her.

SR - poor A (and poor you): sounds super grim! Danny's not a great drinker but eats tonnes of fruit and veg (lots of water in them) and likes smoothies. He also loves flavoured water (panda water apple flavour is his favourite) so we give him that (I buy it on special offer when I can) or use a fun frog water bottle with a pop up straw that he likes to play with to encourage him to drink.

Good luck for your exams SR - I truly am in awe at how you doing. love the idea of kids living on carp - wont do them any harm in the long run.

MoS - those courses sound great and I'm glad you're coming to a decision as to what the right course is for you. Lucky you getting that week of meals - looked super yummy!

[SummerRain]

Oooo smoothies, A loves them, might pick up some to put the movicol in. Although, might be cheaper in the long run to buy a cheap blender in Tesco tomorrow and make some for them. Thanks dinky

[dinkystinky]

We have a smoothie maker - have had it for years (from pre-kid days!) - and its the best £20 ever spent! Definitely cheaper than buying pre-made smoothies in the long run. And we have the innocent smoothie book (you can borrow it from the library) so they're the same recipes as innocent smoothies (and freeze really well)

[SummerRain]

Just been browsing smoothie recipes online anything other than study and there are some really lush ones. I wonder does the Tesco I have to go to tomorrow do bags of frozen fruit

[swampster]

I've not disappeared into the ether, your order just STILL hasn't arrived.