MOS That's great news that you got nominated. I'd really like to be able to donate. I know it says that no gift is too small, but I wouldn't be able to donate to the level that I've received. Am def gonna donate next year though. Now I know you do it via a link in a thread, I can keep my eyes open for it and plan better.
I can understand your want for your nomination to go to someone who may be more 'needful' of material gifts than yourself, but I think you should accept it as someone out there maybe just wants to do a little something for someone they have relied on, has helped them etc and just want to say thank you.
Dinky and MOS I tend to be wound up and stressed out just when dp is around, so at these times I tend to have a very short fuse and shout more than I would if it were just me and the boys.
I count down out loud. For example, at about 6pm, I'll say in 10 minutes it's time to tidy up. Sometimes I set a timer so they can hear when the time is up, and then I ask them to tidy up. When they say no, I tell them that I would like them to be able to play for longer but that it's tidy up time. If they do it nicely, they can play with the toys tomorrow, but if not the toys will be taken away (I try to visit the positive first). If they say no again, I say simpler that they need to tidy up. If there's still an issue I tell them that I have told them twice and if I have to say it again, I will get cross and they will need to sit in thinking corners until I have taken the toys away. 5........4.........3 which is when they normally get on board.
It's long winded and dp would rather just shout and get them to do stuff "because I said so" but for me, it;s more about choices and the freedom they have to make choices iyswim.
dinky That's nice you got nominated too. Again, someone thought of you for whatever reason, and I'd imagine they'd like you to receive something as a token for whatever it is you've done for them.
MOS Sorry to hear dp is being a prick. Why are you biting your tongue? Why not just say how you feel? Isn't that a better way to try to work through it? I don't think I'd ber able to help myself.
I'd probably say something really bitchy like "I don't think you are the best person to set bounderies for our children. Let's face it, they have to grow up having a better idea of right from wrong than what you're able to teach them........lalalalalala"
I have been nominated in the past. I felt a little guilty at receiving something that I felt I didn't deserve or need, and when the packages arrived, I was in floods of tears about peoples generosity.
Yeah, we struggle sometimes, but not to the point where the boys go without new presents (apart from that year that Luke got jacobs old toys wrapped up for christmas!), and I'm sure there are people out there who needed those gifts more than I did.
Should I have refused my nomination?