Fab Feb 2011: Walking, talking and still not sleeping.

[blizy]

I hope you don't mind me starting a new thread? Lets hope it's a lucky one for me.

Poor Imy - what did the Doc say? Is that another thing from nursery she's got? Seems like she's had bug after bug recently. Good luck for Saturday - is the training good?

I'm no good at precis but v quickly what springs to mind is ledkr had a PIL visit at the week end and would very much like a lie in; wiggles has been looking after Emma as well as her 3 and for such has been awarded supermum medal; ponyos anya is saying the likes of choc choc and papple; delia is back and her house is still on the market; four4 is hectic as ever...argh....forget the rest - can someone else fill in?

Just popped in really to say the jojo maman sale is on if anyone is interested. Got a couple of bits for Alice but IMO not as good as the last couple of sales.

Hey Deb, great to hear from you. Poor Imy (and you), glad training is going well tho, good luck for Saturday, what did doc say about Imy. Sorry I'm no good at keeping up to date abd remembering things on the thread!

Reastie, thanx for advice re ta. I volunteered at the school Ben is going to in Sept before he was born, and it ws great. I can't really volunteer until Noah goes to school as I work Mon to Weds then like to have the rest of the week with the boys. I started volunteering at Rainbows for experience and because I just love being with the children! I will def make moves towards a ta qualification and volunteering in the next few years tho.

hope everyone else is ok. Love to all x

Quick hello to everyone before I go to bed!

You have been busy deb! I can't believe how much weight you've lost, it's amazing! Hope you're not too nervous about the new job, you'll be great. Sorry about Imy, hope the doc can reassure you and give her something to reduce the temp

Hi reastie! , I haven't bought anything from jmb for a while as the sales haven't been that reat for boys stuff tbh, I meant to say before but I joined zulily and there stuff looks really lovely and some real bargains to be had. Will get round to messaging you soon promise!

MIL update: no news really, still being kept in as blood test results weren't good (OH didn't know what exactly) but I think she's had all the abs now. She was hoping to go home for a couple of days before having her op but that's been put on hold now.

Sorry to bore you all again with b's bowels but my cousin has had something similar all her life and the docs are now questioning whether it's hirschcprung disease, this was mentioned at one of b's appts and it can be hereditary so I googled it and have now scared myself (stoopid google). Think b might have an ear infection as he has high temp and earache, thought it was teething so was just giving him calpol but he started having the shakes this evening after his bath and screaming at noises. Will take him to the doc in the morning if no improvement.

Ems, I worked as a ta for a couple of years before uni and loved it! One thing to be wary of is being exploited though, I might have just been unlucky with the teacher I worked with but he used to get me to do the planning etc and said it would be good practice for me Sounds like you'd be great at it with all your experience.

Must go to bed now, on duty tonight and expecting it to be eventful...

Needto- I hope Ben is ok? Did you manage to sleep?

Delia- fab to hear from you, I'm glad C is doing well, she sounds great! Sorry you are not feeling too good though, the others have given you some good advice. Hope you are ok?

Debka- glad the training is going well, eeek to starting work on sat! Good luck, but I'm sure you will be amazing. Oh and congrats again with the weight loss, you are such an inspiration. Hope Imy is feeling better, poor little lamb.

Hope you are all doing well and all the babies are behaving.

No news here to report, all boring normal life stuff going on.

Need to, hope you managed to get some sleep last night. How is Ben? I read up on the illness he could have too. Sounds like its a at least manageable but still would be worried. Hopefully you'll find out soon. Big hugs tho in the meantime.

Deb, meant to say woooohooooo to all that weight you've lost. Your blooming amazing, you are....yes you are.

Right, can I have a little moan about mil. Now, I am trying really hard to be friendly with her, arranging days out for us with the boys etc, but she is just so annoying. I came home from work yesterday, and she kept on about Noah having a runny nose and cough, and I kept saying yes, he's had a cold since Friday, its nothing to worry about. Then I fed him some grapes, she grabbed one out of his hand and insisted on cutting it in half, even tho it wa s atiny one, and kept saying, oh, I worry about you Noah etc etc. Maybe the fact that I was in the room should have given her the reassurance that I am confident he wouldn't choke. Writing it down it now all seems a bit silly, but the constant uninvited comments and opinions and overprotecting the boysis doing my head in. I just want to scream, 'I am their mummy!!!!!!!!! now feck away with you woman'. (I channelled you there Wiggles)!

Aaaahhhhhh feel better now!

Hhmmmmmm I have cup a soup and crackers for lunch. Diets suck!!
Catch y'all later

Oh quick update. Dh slyly asked if it would be ok if pil came to "see us" in France. I realise now that he is often more in cohoots with them than I thought. He actually seems to want them with us.
Cue big discussion about how I understand that he loves his parents and wants to see lots of them that I do like some time to ourselves and that i feel as thery are quite straight I cannot relax.
I told him that if he wishes to holiday with his parents then i suggest he does so alone and I will stay with my brother.I also told him that should they arrive "by surprise" I will be returning home and applying for a divorce as I married an adult male not a young boy still attached by the umbilical cord.
Funny thing is that i meant it too.
God thats done it.
Im sure many people who get on famously with their pil wouldnt want to holiday with them too.
I am seriously ready to call it quits as it would be easier.

D woke at 5.45 so a lovely lie in sympathys to need to,it really is a night mare isnt it? I dont think ive stopped obsessing about sleep for months.

ledkr mucho sympathies - tbh you sound alot like I feel when PIL get to me. I really feel for you. I don't really know what the answer is except I don't think your PILs 'seeing' you on holiday would be very relaxing for you and your DH should realise and respect this. Could you see them for a day on the way/way back if they are that desperate (and stay in your camper)? Would that stop them? Although would put a dampner on the excitement on looking forward to things and IMO would be more than enough... My DH is also in contact with MIL alot more than I realise - they speak alot when he's at work and every week or so he pops in to her house for tea in the afternoon. It I have to admit gives her lots of opportunity to manipulate things to what she wants without me realising . FWIW when I get really worked up re: PIL I too think seriously of divorce - I even mentioned this to DH last time we got worked up . When times are good again I feel awful for thinking it but it really does get on top of me and DH just doesn't get it at all. So, no advice but lots of listening ears.

needto I googled that thing too wish I hadn't done it when eating breakfast though . Does look like you can live with it and adapt/cope with it though. How will they progress with testing for it? What did the Doc say?

deb how is Imy now? What did Doc say? I hope you get paid for all this work training

ems another troublesome MIL . Really feel for you too, especially how she should know better and I would be really really annoyed about that too (actually MIL has done the grape thing to DH but not me she wouldn't dare ). Can you get DH to have words again ? I hope you've got over the annoyance now as these things really get under your skin and drive you crazy!

blizy glad all is OK there. How's the delish Alfie?

Back to work after tummy troubles. Went OK but still washed out - Alice is also being such a handful at the min - very very spirited behaviour going on all the time here . There's school prize giving tomorrow evening - which is my day off. I'm debating if people would even notice if I didn't go as I'm just shattered and can't be bothered but don't want to get in trouble

wiggs I still await any dvd recommendations please

ledkr I'm angry on your behalf regarding pils and dh. I have no advice to offer but i am here to listen. I hope dh grows a pair and tells them no!

emski My dad would be exactly the same, he is with nephew. He is so over protective. I had a hell of a time growing up, I wasn't allowed to do anything.

reastie Glad you feel better. Do you have to go the prize giving?

Alfie is also spirited!

blizy to spirited alfie. I am suppose to go to prizegiving yes. Just stuck on the sofa with dodgy tum again - can't get up as it hurts too much please let this not be a repeat of the week end again

Oh no reastie, hope you feel better. Do you think you have a bug or is it your intolerances?

No idea blizy . Could have originally been a bug which has made my tummy all sensitive which set off IBS perhaps. Haven't eaten normally for 5 days now

ledkr that's grim. My DH talks to his dad most days, about business stuff, but we very very rarely see them as you know. I hope your DH realises how serious you are about this. He needs to know that this is a deal breaker for you. When he gets it then you can negotiate round it but so long as he's going behind your back it's not on imo.

reastie horrible tummy upset :( Be ill for the prize giving job! Easy!

emski I'd be telling my mil if she started doing that, in fact my fil tried it on once, I gave him a death stare which he didn't noticed because he's too self absorbed and told him off which he also didn't notice because he's self absorbed and deaf

needto golly what a worry re Ben, hope your mum improves soon.

blizy will you be doing full days CMing during the hols?

Thanks for all the well dones but really don't, I was the size of a whale, now I am possibly the size of a cow and still have about the same amount to lose. I am in 18s now very just

Imogen seems a bit better, still stuck to me and screaming most of the day but her temp is better and she's drunk a lot more and eaten a little today. I am So Over her being ill, nearly a whole damn week now.

BIG NEWS- my sis, who goes 2 weeks overdue tomorrow and had an induction booked for tomorrow, is in labour RIGHT NOW!!! Tres exciting. I am stuck to my phone waiting for updates!!

Good luck to your sis Debka! Glad Imy is better. Holidays are my quiet times, I only have the schoolies on a term time contract bar two( but they are with me their normal hours, I drop off and pick up from a play scheme thing). I still have baby mindee 2 full days bar one week every month. So, I am bored and skint!

ledkr I like my pils but I wouldn't be going on a day trip with them never mind an overnighter . I've been on holiday twice with my parents and sister in the past 6 years and although it was nice to have them with Sofia and Olivia etc it was to me very stressful and I just couldn't be. It sounds like a breeding ground for resentment and further rows .

I don't mind Mr W seeing his parents especially if he takes the girls but I probably see more of them than he does depending on his shifts - I like them to see their grandparents once a week and the fact that they live a few minutes drive away lessens the excuses and I'd rather go to their house than have them at ours

blizy We too had a spirited cat , there's nothing more stubborn spirited than a cat!

emski my Mum can be a bit like that too, its very irritating - if one of the girls falls over sometimes on purpose or has a slight knock etc, she is exclaiming loudly and rushing over - "oh don't cry etc Nana is here". This is before Anna or Olivia has even realised thay they may have hurt themselves We instigated a new rule in her house last week - don't cry before the baby does

reastie hope you start to feel better soon xx

The best dvds we've seen recently from Love Film are : Drive, The Ides of March, Jane Eyre, The Descendants, Easy A, Crazy Stupid Love, 50:50, Super 8, Moneyball, Submarine, The Guard, In Bruges, Tinker Tailor etc , My Week with Marilyn, The Help, Shutter Island.

Of course my taste and especially Mr Ws can be sketchy at the best of times I have lent the dvds to my Mum, sister etc and they've been a bit meh about them.

debka good luck for your sister - very exciting

blizy poo to bored and skint!!

Oh deb, how exciting, please keep us updated! Hope all goes well! Glad Imy is getting better now, was it a catch all term when docs don't know what's wrong virus?

Ledkr, jeez, I am sat here fuming for you, that it seriously not on, not one bit. I agree with your apron strings comment completely, why does he feel the need to do this to your relationship, it sounds like he needs to reassess his priorities sharpish. Holidays are the one time for you all to relax, who wouldn't be able to understand that and the importance of it? I feel so lucky with my ILs now, they would never do that. Please don't let him try to convince you that it's your issue as it wouldnt be on for anyone IMO.

Ems, more IL probs, I hope it's a one off and she realises not to do it again. My MIL was so frightened of giving B solid food for months and I think she still worries about giving him toast etc. makes me laugh though as she's the HV

Reastie I agree with not going in tomorrow and calling in sick, you're obviously not well, no matter what it is and you need to rest. I mean this in the best possible way but you are so conscientious that you forget about yourself a lot of the time, it's part of why your school love you but you deserve to be healthy and happy if that makes sense x

MIL is at home at last, hooray! She's on more abs and will have surgery when she's well enough but, fingers crossed, she seems to be eating and drinking a lot better.

I am going to shove cotton wool in my ears, get a crossword and go to bed early tonight after being up all night last night. B's temp kept going up when the meds wore off and he just couldn't sleep. He was okay this morning (of course ) but has been the same this afternoon and evening. Ledkr, I know what you mean about obsessing about sleep... do you ever get so tired that you forget words or what your doing etc? Feels like newborn time again and again and again.
Thanks for comments about b's bowels, we haven't got the appt with the specialist yet so don't know what they'll do, it was the paed that mentioned it before but he wasn't specialised in this area.

NeedToSleep great news about your MIL - hope she's on the up

Get a good nights sleep xx

Ledkr, I too would be absolutely fuming with dh. Your right to talk to him as you did. Why on earth would he think you would want them on your holiday? Are they a bit strange? They sound it?

Thanks guy re mil comments. Need to, mil has always been like this. Dh will talk to her, cos she does it to him as well, then she'll calm down for a while then starts all over again! Bloody woman. How can someone so kind be such a pain in the ass!!
Reastie, I've often wondered why I married dh and think I shouldn't have had children with him, because at times I feel stifled by his family,but then I think dh wouldn't be the (mostly) wonderful person he was if it wasn't for the way thy are.

Reastie, sorry about your tummy troubles. I used to suffer terribly with IBS, I did find that stress made it 10 times worse. I agree with the others that you def shouldn't go in for the award thing.

Blizy, boo to being bored and stint! Can you take on any more children for the hols?

Aaahhhhhh to your sister Debs. How exciting!

Wiggles, I like your rule about no crying before baby. That is exactly like mil!

Need to, do you think Bens bad sleep is related to his bowel problems?

wiggles thanks for the film list - will look them up later. I know I wondered about 'the help' but wasn't sure if it was worth trying or not.

deb great news - any update yet?

needto that virus term is very annoying isn't it - anything Doctors arn't sure about is clearly a virus . So glad MIL is home - that must be a bit of a weight off your and OHs mind that she can get some rest at home before the op.

ems yes mil here like that too - calm down for a while then back to normal again . my mil is now driving me a little mad as now she's finished her work duties until end of summer hols she keeps trying to organise taking Alice from me in the holidays and me, her and Alice having day trips. Tbh I'm not sure about day trips when she makes me so itchy after any length of time although who knows I may be desperate after a few weeks at home alone with alice and I was thinking of organising her to look after Alice every now and again in the hols to keep her happy but the constant pressure and pestering just drives me mad and has the opposite effect she wants as I just get so cross about the pressure I don't want to.

Still aiming for prizegiving this evening despite wiggles mantra of there being no awards for attendance . We'll see. I'm just too dedicated

Am so fed up of rain now - feels like it's been non stop for weeks. Things are so much easier when I can get into the garden with Alice and play with the sandpit etc. We're picking up a little tikes toddler slide via freecycle on Saturday - wonder how long we'll have to wait before she can use it

reastie No problem, I liked the Help but it wasn't a patch on the book. Mr W really liked it and he hadn't read the book. A will be up an down the slide in no time . We have 2 slides, Anna loves the big one , she likes to swing on the top bar before she throws herself down. The beauty of having Olivia as an elder sister - no fear

Bank holiday here today and tomorrow, Mr Ws busiest week , he went to work at 7 this morning, hopes to be back before 7 tomorrow morning! S and O slept at my parents last night, so Anna and I have mooched about all morning. She's a bit grumpy so time to go for a walk

debka any word?

wiggles poor Mr w, that is one hell of a shift! Will there be any trouble during the walks? We have our walks on the saturday before the 12th, full of scumbags dressed in football tops. I was raised as a prodistant but I'm not a believer, I hate the sectarianism surrounding prodistants and catholics.

blizy I don't know, has been a lot quieter in the run up this year, so hopefully all will go ok, although weather has improved hugely (where's the rain when you need it? ), so might be a lot more people about.

Are you sleeping any better ?

Hope it's a quiet one for Mr W's sake!
Sleep? What is that? Nah, I'm still the same. Although I think I am getting used to it now. I'm awake until about 3/4am then my bloody alarm goes at 6am. I do try and have a wee hour during the day if I can. Last night was good, I went to sleep about 11.30pm until 4.20am .

Text from my sis this morning saying she was progressing v slowly and had had an epidural so as to get some rest and hope for a baby in the morning. It's nearly 11am now and no news I think she's probably heading for an EMCS

blizy if that's a good night no wonder you need an hour during the day, honestly, the girls have had me up at 6 the last few days and I've thought I was tired, I have no idea do I!

wiggles poor MrW that's a long shift, hope it's not dangerous?

reastie S throws herself down any slide as well, just let Alice loose, she'll love it! I think we must be pretty lucky with the weather down here, we've had the odd shower but on the whole it's been sunny. You still on for next week?

blizy to the no sleep. Desperately clutching at straws here but at least when you have your baby you'll find the sleepless nights easy

deb ohhh how exciting re: your sister (although not so much the EMCS possibility). Yes still on for next week if you are, have been looking forward but also wondering what on earth we'll do if it tips down with rain all day.

wiggles Surely Mr W can't work a 24 hr shift with no sleep break? - that just seems a bit crazy to me [clueless]

Just tried to do playdough with Alice but have had to stop as she kept trying to eat it , still, we've now watching my favouritest ever cbeebies show 'I can cook' I definitely won't admit to going on the cbeebies website to find their recipes oh no