Fab Feb 2011: Walking, talking and still not sleeping.

[blizy]

I hope you don't mind me starting a new thread? Lets hope it's a lucky one for me.

Hi reastie, so sorry you're still suffering with your tummy. Have you managed to eat anything yet? Will pop on gr in a min.

DMIL is feeling a bit better today and OH took B up to visit her whilst I watched Wimbledon, she's still so worn out so it was a quick visit. She should know more in the next couple of days when she can have the op, she's still on antibiotics and anti emetic through an iv and the abscess has been leaking into her colostomy bag so sounds grim poor woman.

Did A have a nap ponyo? B does that quite a lot and it's annoying as he then can't settle at night, hope A does though.

Really thought andy was going to win at the start and hope he's proud of what he's achieved. I do love tennis!

Will have to try and sneak a pic of the freaky doll for you when I go round to visit my friend next, she's 38 weeks pg and her bump had dropped a lot when I saw her yesterday [excited]

NeedToSleep thinking of your mil and OH, my mil who I love wasn't well last year (she had convinced herself that she was on her last legs ) but was a diabetes complication that sorted itself out in time. However it was a horrible time xxxx

When Mr W and I were in Paris last December we bought Sofia and Olivia a doll each with a little Santa hat on and a red nappy - they were tres cute. However when we took them home, Olivia took the nappy off and the dolls were anatomically correct - we had bought a boy and girl one

blizy Mr W was off this weekend but is working tomorrow and is remaining on shift for about 8 days on the trot - he's doing doubles so we are planning our week without him . July is such a joy here

granny glad you enjoyed wedding but must have been frightening with dp being ill. Hope you're home and relaxing now xx

reastie hope you start to feel better xx

Had lovely weekend, went out to dinner with our besties last night and mooched about my Mums today. Weather is so feckin' awful that I don't even want to talk about it Am now trying to think of where I can take the four girls tomorrow (I have Emma) that we won't get soaked or that isn't already bloody flooded!

Wow Wiggles, you have all four girls again tomorrow, you are tres amazing, ican barely cope with my two boys!

Need to, hope your mil starts to improve soon. Just be available for OH, that's all I suggest in that way. Hoe your ok and Ben is sleeping better. Sorry, Ive forgotten what your next step is with Bens tummy problems.

Reastie, yuck to feeling so poorly. Re mil and Alice, do you think dh woud have a word with her about Alice getting too 'hyped up' in her company and to follow your routine. My dh had to speak to mil several times when she first started looking after Ben and now she's pretty much perfect with both boys.

I have a claim to fame, on behalf of dh. He was away this weekend surfing with the NCT dads. They stayed in Cornwall and popped to the local pub last night and you'll never guess who was there.......only Princes Harry and William. Dh even shook Harry's hand! I have to admit tho that I was even more impressed that ProudLock from Made In Chelsea was with them and dh had his photo taken with him and had a chat at the bar!!

Right best go, watching Escape to the country that I sky Plussed and am drawling at the houses!

Evening girls!!!

Hope that your mil needto is better soon, she is in the right place but still such a worry. And granny that sounds awful for dh, I would have called and ambulance too. Bet you'll be pleased to get home.

Been constantly watching the Aillidh threads, so incredibly sad. Squeeze to blizy saw you were there too. Xxxxxxxxx

reastie hope you are feeling better?

ponyo your A is so cute anyway and cutie words too!! Love the fb photos.

Spoke to my dsis today wiggles and it looks like she and her ex-bf are going to give it another go, yeah (he is lovely)!! Am reading a book at the moment based in Ireland and their are loads of bold wiggleisms in it!! Makes me smile!!

Busy here (as per) village BBQ today, just got back from Tommy's swimming lesson and got loads on the to-do list. The boys have two weeks left at school so sports day, teachers pressies to get etc. Have sold loads of things on ebay this week so need to get them all packed up and posted.
We fly off on holiday on the last day of term so got to think about packing for four kids for ten days Arrrrg. Then a week and a half after we get home it is Archies christening, which we are having here...... Off to stick my frazzled brain in the microwave.

Xposts em waves!!!!!

Thanx for reminder re Granny's dh, how scary, hope he's ok. And yes of course he needed an ambulance!!
Right back to tv watching!

Oh and waves to Four4. I love hearing about your hectic schedule! I always dreamed of a large family with busy busy days but have found I can barely cope with 2 children!

So sad about expat's DD. I tried to read her updates on Facebook at work and couldn't do it. Heartbreaking.

reastie - thanks for the tip on the Boden sale. I'd just gotten to the website when you tipped me off. Something else may have fallen in to my basket as well.

L has been massively grumpy, I think his bottom teeth are finally coming. He sat with his mouth open like last night and let me rub his gums. Usually he bites so he must've been uncomfortable.

Right, back to work. I'm completely snowed under at work with a deadline looming this week. Had to work the weekend for the first time ever.

Hi all,soory not been on but its been manic. Am having some me time now at work

Well pil were ok really but largely due to me complete lack of concern. I fabreeezed the spare bed and did very little cleaning and no extra shopping. They arrived on Friday and I went to bes soon after leaving dh to provide dinner.The following day I told them to help themselves to my collection of aldi cereal breakfast. Harvest morn anyone?
My freezer door had been left open and all the food was spoiled so there was no treats for greedy fil.
We went to a local fete which was fun and then went for curry which i left early due to D being vile and headbutting the table.
Then they left at about 9.15 to pick up molly coddled bil from the airport which was fine by me. I noticed though that 8 o clock became 9.15 due to a lot of standing around staring at the tv or faffing about,they really are very odd.
I have a strange feeling they may follow us on holiday as they are saying they are going camping but havent decided where I may hide dh's mobile as im not having them descending on us when we are in holiday mode.

Took D shopping yesterday whereupon she had a huge tantrum becaus eshe wasnt allowed to roam the aisles. I picked her up and it was like holding a fully grown mental patient. She thrashed about and headbutted me and slapped my face, pulled my hair and scratched me Everyone was staring at me

On a lighter note,she is saying Mummy and Daddy in a really sweet voice and calls for me pityfully when dh is changing her nappy haha.

Off to catch up hope you are well.

Morning all,

Alice nearly had a massive tantrum last night - must be the age they are as they all seem to be doing it - DH was sitting with her by an open window and she was watching all the rain and waving at all the cars driving past for over an hour with him and screamed whenever he tried moving from the window. In the end a bit of ITNG worked thank goodness . She's definitely getting very forceful in saying 'no'

Dh looked after her pretty much the whole week end with me being under the weather. She barely noticed I wasn't around and this morning after I gave her her milk she said 'dada' and signed please several times !

ledkr glad PIL visit is over and definitely to the idea of them hunting you down on your hols. It's v annoying when all the freezer food is spoiled - we did that several times with our old freezer and wasted heaps of food that had to be thrown away.

american no probs re: boden tip off. I've ordered a nice tunic top I have in a smaller size as the one I've got is a bit big now . I spied Alice has one of her back teeth through now - she has 4 front one on top and bottom and one random back one through - I am clueless but I thought they came through working themselves back? anyone?

four4 love how hectic your life sounds and how laid back you always seem about it all. Which reminds me - I am genuinely wondering if I'm making my own life very difficult for myself or if everyone feels like this - I have noticed how everything gets on top of me so much re: life and Alice. If DH or anyone has ALice they seem so laid back with her and when I look after her I feel like I'm either desperately trying to get stuff done and she's playing up so I can't or she's doing stuff to annoy me on purpose. This is a bad example but this morning I'd left my cereal bowl, a mug of tea and glass of water on a side table next to where I was, Alice spied them and made a beeline for them and I couldn't pick up all 3 things at once and couldn't get her out of the way while I moved 2 but left the remaining one to go back for and in my head I just get in a state - why does she always do this with me, why can everyone else cope so easily, why do I get so upset about nothing etc etc. It feels like all the little things really get on top of me and I make them in to a big deal. I know obv alice isn't doing this on purpose to me btw, I just wonder if other people feel exhausted and downtrodden like this too or if I somehow need to try to relax a bit more.

Thanks for get well wishes. Still suffering on the tummy front although I think if I could manage to eat I may actually start to feel better but can't find anything I can stomach.

re work issues btw. I am the only one in work today. All the others are either on leave or working at home so stupid,if i get an emergency ill have to ask a mumsnetter to come with me haha.
Rise above morons girls stick your head in the air,slather on the lip gloss and ignore the feckers,they must be deeply unhappy.
What do you both do btw?

Hey Led, good to hear from you. I run the payroll and hr for a fairly small business, about 50 employees, i wqork in an office with 8 other women and several men whi manage to ignore the behaviour of all the bitches! I've come in today and have barely spoken to anyone, its so depressing, especially as my dream job would be working in a school as a teaching assistant and there are loads of jobs around but dh says i have to stay here as we need the good pay. Im counting down until Noah goes to school and i can work 5 days a week in a school.
D sounds so spirited! Noah can be quite screechy when he can't get his own way and definitely knows what he wants. His version of a tantrum is throwing himself on the floor and kicking his legs until he spots something to play with. I know there is worse to come, Ben used to have awful tantrums and would growl at me if I tried to touch him!

Reastie, i think most of us have that feel of inadequacy at times. Don;t let it get you down, your just trying to do yourbest for Alice and are bound to feel like youve failed at times because were not perfect!

Right, Im off to have my lunch then have a nosy at the Boden sale

Ems it might be worth you looking into the ta course as i know those jobs are hard to come by and now require some training.You could get it done and then be easier to get in to post quickly.
So awfull about ex pats dd she is the same age as my els and i just cant imagine it,so very sad.

reastie - L has a full set of 8 on top, but only the front two plus molars on the bottom. Also, FYI Boden fetches good money on eBay. I find things much more difficult with L when I actually try to get something done rather than just going with the flow. Usually I just potter around and do things as I can. I needed to work Saturday, DH was late and L was attacking the laptop which made me lose my temper with him. Also, L knows exactly what he shouldn't be doing and heads straight for cups, permanent markers, etc - I think it's a toddler thing and not personal.

ledkr - at your PILs on holiday with you. And no space to hide in a campervan. I work in a techy dept at a university, it's v flexible and everyone is friendly except moaning wanker colleague. My line manager and I both called him a tosser last week at completely different times.

Granny - at your DH, I hope he's feeling better now. Of course you called an ambulance, who knew what kind of treatment he could've needed?

Hello lovely Feb 2011 ladies, I've missed you all.

Is everyone else just as p'd off with the rubbish summer we're having? I feel like we spend most weekends putting together some kind of tactical plan as to how to get the most out of the few minutes of non-rain we have plus have fun with C in indoor environments that aren't hideous. Tis a challenge to be sure.

We're still trying to sell the house, have had some new pics and dropped the price and had 4 viewings this week so fingers crossed it will move soon, then so will we!

C had her MMR last Thursday (yes v late, missed the first few appointments due to illness and holidays then couldn't get a slot for ages), and anyway, she's a bit sad bless her. Not horrendous, just not herself, and I feel really sorry for her.

We went on hols to Menorca the week before last and had 3 days of pure teething hell (out popped 3 molars), and then 3 days of lovely holiday times, so on balance, it was worth it , but only just [sceptical].

Other than that and the MMR, she's doing good. I think she really is on the brink of saying things now, she says yes when I ask her if she wants chocolate youghurt or raisins or something else she likes, and has said Dada loudly and spontaneously when she has seen DH through the window. She also will point to her nose, eyes, mouth and ears when we ask her to. So all in all, I think the understanding/speech thing is making progress.

Am really liking this bit on the whole, she's fun and doing new stuff all the time, it's lovely to see. She's also started sleeping later in the morning [hoooooooraaaaaah] and hopes that Mums of other early wakers will also start to see the right side of 7am!

I'm still struggling with some of the emotional/anxiety-related stuff, and have managed to boil it down to really really horrendous PMT, and it's real tension and anxiety stuff, I was sobbing the day before the holiday so wound up about what might go wrong, I was trying to talk DH into cancelling it, which would have been stupid. So am of to Drs next week to see if there is any help with that.

Work busy and no private corner executive office on the horizon, so no mning for the forseeable .

Off to catch up.

Dx

Four4Me I just knew Is would get back together with hunky Belfast boy I could tell how much she liked him when I was interrogating gently squeezing info from her when she picked up the travel cot .

ledkr glad you got through the weekend - I would have stocked up on sausages and beans mixed together in a tin for them - this is Sofias favourite meal ever Its strange she has the same tastes in food as a 70 year old that was raised on rations , twas not just his betting maths prowess he passed onto his first grandaughter

Anna has teeth everywhere including at the back, to be honest I don't really encourage her to open her mouth to check - we're still having biting issues

reastie my greatest gift to myself ever is that I don't do guilt with regards to the girls - not one little bit. I know I do my best for them. See you're doing better than me, I let A have any empty cups/bowls and she carries them into the kitchen - its her job

I don't take anything the girls do personally, ifyswim. In a temper Olivia has told me she wishes she had a different Mum, Sofia has rolled her eyes at me etc but it doesn't take a jot out of me. I just ignore, ignore, ignore now if only I could transfer my non guilt feeling from my children to my Mum

Well I managed to get all 4 girls out today, the rain held off all morning, so we did a walk by the beach, a bit of a play at the park and to end it all - lunch in Ikea - it was the girls favourite day of the holidays so far

My friend and her children are coming round tomorrow morning - her three, my three and Ems - pass the gin please and the ear plugs.

Hi!

delia how lovely to hear from you, sounds like things are going well, agree a trip to docs could be worth a go just to see what they say. I was v anxious for quite a long time after A was born and wish I had been to docs about it, I'm ok now but can relate to the pre-holiday stress! I'm enjoying this stage too, A can say "yeah!" in a cute high pitched voice - this is made even nicer by the fact that she has been able to shake her head 'no' for a while now! Wow to the molars, and glad you had (half) a nice holiday :)

reastie mu house isn't on the market yet, but trust me I'll let you know when it is so you can have a good nosy! I know what you mean about things getting on top of you, I have to be honest it does sound like you have a lot to do sometimes, like the making different dinners? I suppose its normal for you but sounds a lot to do. I have got more relaxed about tidying etc when A is around and think "if I can get stuff done/vac/wash up while she plays, great, if not I'll just leave it til later". Is that helpful?!

ledkr hellooo, well done getting through the weekend! at Harvest Morn at D's tantrum, A has done that at home but not in public YET, wont be long though I'm sure.

emski wow at your dh's claim to fame! Ugh to annoying work colleagues, there are some women in my big open plan office that are sour face bitches, don't say hello to me or other women in the kitchen etc but when my (male) boss speaks to them they're all smiles and giggles idiots.

Four4 agree with reastie that your life sounds so busy and you sound laid back about it! Enjoy your hols!

Hi all other ladies - I am waiting for dp to hurry up and finish cooking tea, veg curry, healthy (smug ) I am so hungry.

Apparently at nursery today they had a new v small baby in and A was "helping", patting it and so on dp picked her up and she was in such a good mood, running around the room showing off She hasn't said choc choc again btw, phew! She does say "papple" for apple though.

D x posted - lovely to hear from her. Glad C is doing so well, it is a lovely age Good on you for going to Drs next week, remember don't downplay how you're feeling (spoken from the voice of experience ), grab any help with both hands . Fingers crossed for house xx

posted too soon - meant to add that A will say 'bye' to her food/bottle when she is finished, its very funny! She has a slightly sarcastic tone when she says it too

Hi wiggles, your day today sounds brill! Well done, don't think I would cope with 4 Also I would prob cry if A said she wanted a different mum, but ignore is right isn't it.

got to go, curry is ready!

Oh Ponyo, Noah says Papple too!! They are fab at this age, tho Noah came home from nursery in a great mood but then screamed for everything Ben had. It drove me mad. Mil was here and being judgey con judgey pants!!

Wiggles,how do you cope with having so many children in your house. I woud be running around after the children in case they made any mess!

Delia, good to hear from you. Glad you had a good half holiday, C sounds great. Sorry about your anxiety and emotions, I think motherhood has hit a few of us quite hard, even us second times mummies!! It's a bloody hard slog isn't it?

Led, thanks for the advice. I have been thinking about doing a ta course in September, not sure whether to wait a year though.

Am watching Superstar, I'm so sad but I just love love love these shows!

emski and ponyo I think Papple might be the cutest thing I've ever heard Anna just goes "Miiiiiiiiine" - she's channelling the seagulls in Finding Nemo

wiggles imagine papple said in a pleading hopeful voice and its even cuter A has started to say 'myyyyyy' in a whiney way which I think will lead to 'mine', sigh.

emski papple twins! to judgy mil

Yes, it's really a fab age, isn't it? The nursery manager said a couple weeks ago that L's speech has really come on quickly. I'm always amazed at how much he seems to know. If I ask him to get his shoes or something else he knows, he runs off and gets it. If it's something he doesn't know, I get an interesting collection of objects he thinks might be it.

Emski - at your judgy MIL.

wiggles - another parenting gem - I never thought to get L to collect the cups. I have a feeling I would find it in a corner filled with misc bit though. Also, I love macaroni & cheese with hot dogs (veggie hot dogs now).

HI all,

wiggles you should write an instruction manual for me on parenting - definitely always my voice of sanity. Btw - 7 children in your house today , oh, and I've rejoined lovefilm after a couple of years and have seen no new releases in that time so if you (or the wise film buff mr w) know of any must see films please let me know. I've got 'super 8' and some planet of the apes thing (for DH) coming this week end [excited]

ponyo and ems live papple. Not loads of speech here but lots of different animal noises . Love Anya 'helping' with the baby

good to hear from you. I'm not sure if this should reassure you or worry me but I'm always like that before I go on holiday .

ems I forgot to say wow re: your DHs brush with fame in Cornwall. Ta eh? I went for a few ta jobs when I couldn't get a teaching job in my subject area, but didn't get the jobs owing to the fact it was prob pretty obvious I wasn't looking to stay in the job long term. FWIW all the TAs I've ever worked with have been utterly lovely - far nicer than the teachers - give me the LS/TAs staff room at break to the teachers one any day. Can you do any volunteering to help children read or something once Ben starts school a couple of mornings a week to get some volunteer stuff on your CV?

Hello everyone,

Not been on for ages cos I've been manically busy due to training for new job, and now Imy's poorly so needs Mummy all the time

I've missed you all! Any chance of a quick precis of what's happened?

News from here-
Finished initial training, I start work on Saturday
Imogen's had a fever for 4 days now and is proper poorly- dr is calling this pm
Sabine's newest word is NAUGHTY- often accompanied by a swift but powerful bite
My sister is now 12 days overdue and severely pissed off- induction booked for thurs
I got my 6.5 st award at last 7st is not far away!

Hope all well and happy, I will try and catch up later this week :)