Fab Feb 2011: Walking, talking and still not sleeping.

[blizy]

I hope you don't mind me starting a new thread? Lets hope it's a lucky one for me.

blizy - I think those days are always going to hit you hard, especially when it involves a baby/child. Fortunately, it's likely the baby won't be born on his/her due date. We're all here for you whatever happens.

Also, I think I'd rather be involved in a shouting match than trying to wrangle a bunch of kids.

Thanks American. I am just so desperate to be pregnant again, I need to have a living baby. I have been horrid to Dh this week, between being ill and moping about not being pg and missing z.

American, ive been working there for 5 years and am still shocked at how the staff are allowed to behave. I've had run ins with three of the women who have worked there for years as I find it really hard to tolerate their rudeness. Now I just keep quiet, only talking to a few of the men!! I woud leave but the money is good, it's close to home and their really flexible with my working hours.

Blizy, I can only echo what American said re babies, it will happen for you, but it must be so hard especially with your cousins baby due on Zoe's birthday. We are all here for you so come on any time you need.

Right, I'm off for a nap while Noah sleeps and Ben watches a DVD. Bad mother, bad, bad mother

blizy I don't know the right words, but I understand why your cousin's due date has hit you hard, you are such a wonderful mum already and I just know your time will come soon. You are such a rock, being horrid to DH for a few days is absolutely fine, I'm sure he isn't perfect all the time either. Will light Zoe's candle today x

ems if you are a bad mum then I aim to follow suit as soon as b will sit in front of a DVD

Ben has finally pooed! Hooray! Really hurt him still though

Hi all

Thanks for the poo update needto . Glad he went finally . Poor MIL - how is your OH coping? I hope they can treat her and get her sorted out quickly. x Erk re: bens tantrum. Not looking forward to that - Alice nearly had one when we had to say goodbye to the dreaded clown yesterday as she didn't want to go

Re: jobs - you see I get the worst of everything - I get all the office politics with the teachers like american and ems and all the mad parents and manic kids blizy has to deal with too

american haven't bought boden from boden?! I'm keeping an eye out for their sale too, a few bits I'd like to get. I just did a massive to your comment about Alices face pulling. I swear she had me in hysterics when she did that - I have a few films I couldn't put on fb as I was shaking the camera so much from laughing

blizy completely understandable you are so upset. Good grief I still feel a little pang of upset when I think of the due date of my LO from my mc, which is absolutely nothing compared to the gap you must feel. I know we all say this and it probably feels like it will never happen for you but you will get there and you are an amazing person from what I know of you. x

MIL had Alice this morning for a few hours while DM worked and have been in manic mood since. Took Alice for a walk to get her to sleep and it took an epic length of time as she was too hyped up but when she did crash she just fell flat out asleep. MIL collected DD from DM (doesn't usually happen) and again Alice screamed and screamed when she saw MIL . Those that have had this happen before - how long does it last as it's so heart breaking [sobs]

reastie gosh, that's been going on for quite a while now hasn't it? Has your MIL mentioned it or seemed bothered by it at all? Without wanting to rub it in to her, have you told her that it only happens with her (not sure you should but just wondered)? How does your DM react to it?
Re bens super tantrum, I channelled wiggles and lifted Ben like a rugby ball away from the ride to a safer place and all I could do was wait until he'd calmed down. We will not be going near that ride again!

reastie - I'm a bit about Alice's reaction to MIL. She could be picking up on your anxiety or something could be going on that makes her not like MIL. Does your SIL have children and how do they react? What does your DH say about it?

blizy - Hugs to you. Nothing else constructive to say, just that we're all here for you.

Hi all, quickly writing as have DD1 and friend in the next room being v giggly and playing with Cass's newly acquired Mega Blocks - Cass uninterested in the wretched things after being fascinated by them whenever she sees them at playgroups, grr. Will be a madhouse when DS gets in shortly, Friday afternoons are always dire, in terms of DCs behaviour!

blizy no one could blame you for being upset, I think you are bound to feel everything baby related hard to bear til you have your next one. Lots of love x

reastie I actually feel quite sorry for your MIL, she must be mortified by Alice screaming whenever she approaches. Maybe she associates MIL with you leaving for work? DD1 used to scream blue murder when I dropped her off with my mum (who she adored really) because she hated me to go without her. My mum always said after a minute or so she would be fine.

tad and four4 another one envious of your meeting, hope you are enjoying your trip despite hideous rain tad

emski BAD MOTHER! I kid, surely the fact that most DVDs are the ideal length of a good nap is no coincidence? In my naughty, going out all the time days, I would often bribe DD1 with a Disney film in my bed whilst I dozed off my hangover on a sunday morning. Win win :)

needto poor B. I do feel sorry for him, and you. I really hope you find a solution soon x Re tantrums, think the rugby ball approach is a good one....

Sorry I can remember v little thats gone on, lots of love to you all though and may pop on again later when its a bit quieter!

I do everything I can that Alice won't pick up on anything I may think about MIL. She [Alice] doesn't do it with anyone else but I wonder if it's as the only people that ever look after her when I'm at work is DH, DM and MIL. She's very happy with DMs company and can cling herself to DM like she does with me IYKWIM and she's happy with DH obv. DM I think is similar to me so it's all quite consistent but MIL can be very OTT and full on with play with Alice and I wonder if she just finds it too much. I genuinely hope that's it and there's nothing more I should be worried about. MIL asked DM today if Alice did the same thing with her and DM said no but felt really guilty about it. Alice can cry at odd things after she's seen MIL (like randomly screaming and refusing to have her hands washed for example) which makes me too (and I try not to attribute it to MIL as an excuse but it genuinely does seem to be linked). Don't know if it's something to be worried about or not really

Please, as usual, ignore my moan posts. Just feels better to get it out sometimes. mizk xposted - I do feel bad for her, it must be hard, but I believe she had something similar with her other dgc and being she has worked with young children I assume she's used to it

ledkr did you work out what to do this week end?

Hope the weather isn't too wet for everyone opp north. Lovely and sunny here

Just watching Wimbledon - come on Murray (sorry ponyo )

I don't think this will bring you any comfort reastie but just to let you know you're not alone, my friend with 2 boys almost stopped her MIL looking after them as she would give them anything they wanted, not male sure they had naps etc and by the time she collected them they were completely wired and hyper. She had to weigh up the pros and cons and let her continue though as she couldn't afford any other childcare. It is such a shame but I'm sure your MIL isn't as bad as that and Alice will get used to it soon. Maybe DH could talk to her about what she does with A and make a few suggestions to smooth things out?

reastie I'm really lucky, pils have looked after all 3 girls more than my parents but if its any help, no matter who has them - Mr W, pils, my Mum etc whenever I used to come home from work their behaviour used to sometimes be absolutely atrocious. My best friend insists that her children punish her for working . Olivia in particular used to be an absolute delight for my Mum during the day, but the minute I walked in the door - she would turn into a whining, sniffy, bold , disobedient she devil!

Do you see mil without leaving A? Has she associated every time she sees her as you leaving her? But like NeedToSleepZZ says I also know a few friends who have had to change arrangements re childcare because it wasn't working with their Mum.

This is my first weekend off , am heading out to dinner tomorrow night with friends, my bi-yearly dinner out .

I too forsee an issue with my Mother - she was away last week with her friends and yes you've guessed it - the conversation turned to "Fifty Shades of Shite" - this is a reason why groups of women in their 60s should not be allowed to drink I am hiding my Kindle, I worry that if she read it my life would become plagued with questions and that I would need to bleach my brain

Ledkr- hope the pils are. It making asses of themselves. How are you today?

Wiggles- is Mr W working this weekend? Bet you hate this time of year!

Feeling much better today, I was out at the cinema with my niece (it's her 9th birthday) we seen ice age 4. She enjoyed it, I enjoyed my nap!

Hope you are all having a good weekend.

Hi ladies...sorry not been on much...been to the wedding of the year back home in Glasgow yesterday...was an amazing day & the weather was amazing too . DH's sis was an absolutely stunning bride & N was a wee star!

But got a bit scary at the end of the night.....dh had a fit/seizure...never had anything like that before so was a bit scary. Luckily I spotted it early on & got someone to dial 999 & there was a doctor, midwife ( SIL) & paramedic technician (BIL) at the wedding. SIL & BIL then had a blazing row about whether to call an ambulance (SIL wanted to, BIL didn't). But I told them in no uncertain terms it wasn't up for discussion & too late 1 was on its way. Those 2 aren't currently speaking but tough, they need to feckin grow up! Sis has been amazing taking N etc. we didn't go to hospital as think it might be linked to his condition & but next consultant appt is thurs 19th July. Fly home tomorrow now, so looking forward to getting home now .

reastie sorry to hear of A & MIL issues...hopefully they'll disappear soon.

Off to bed now as need to be up early to pack all of N's gear away for the flight tomorrow...

Granny glad the wedding went well. Wow, must have been super scary for you. How is Dh now? I would just let bil and sil get on with it, fwiw i think you were right to call the ambulance. Hope you have both recovered from the shock.

Needto- how is mil?

Dh and I are sitting watching TITP wishing we were there. This is the longest we have not been (3 years since the last time). We are defo going next year!

Oh and granny, can I correct you the wedding of the year title has already been taken by me- sorry!

Morning everyone,

granny the wedding sounded lovely but at your poor DH, do you know what caused it? Hope you have a quick and safe trip back today and that N continues to be a star!

blizyi know I'm being really stupid but what is TITP? Sorry you're missing it whatever it is

MIL is still in hospital and still the same, we weren't allowed to visit her yesterday as she was too poorly, hopefully OH will be able to see her today. He's really going through it and I feel a bit useless as to what to do to help him.

Looking forward to seeing the tennis later, planning b's nap to coincide with it so I get a bit of peace, fingers crossed! Hope everyone has a good day

Hello, has mn been playing up for anyone else?! Not been able to get on recently maybe it's my phone.

Blizy it's tea in the park isnt it?! (sorry needto ) shame you're not going but is it horrible and raining your way atm? It's pretty grey here today.

Needto hope your dp can see mil soon. Must be so difficult, there's not a lot you can say or do is there which makes it much harder. What time is the tennis on? I'm looking forward to it too

Granny yikes so sorry about your dh, how is he now? V scary. And of course you needed an ambulance, to your bil to think ou wouldn't.

Hi everyone else, I'm going to make this quick as A is destroying the lounge and trying to eat cat food. She's also 'singing' and playing with her creepy baby that dp's gran bought her. Haha she just shrieked and bit it on the head

Hope everyone has a good Sunday

Hello ponyo, yes mn has been offline loads lately, very annoying! The tennis starts at two I think, should be good fun on a miserable Sunday. So fed up with this weather, anyone know when the sun will appear?
You made me about A with her creepy doll, we were at a friend's house the other day and their daughter had a very odd baby doll, it had boobs and holes down below I have no idea where it came from as it was a present and her mum was freaked out by it too .
Got to go Hoover and can't find the energy, not even dressed yet.... Yawn, what I wouldn't give to go back to bed for a couple of hours....

Yip Ponyo and Needto it's T in the park. The weather is horrible this year, heard that the campsite is flooded and the mud is over the top of people Wellies! Glad I'm not there now .

Needto- I hope mil picks up soon, must be so hard for your dp.

I just read on here that expats dd Aillidh died last night, so very sad for her and family.

Oh god, blizy I read the threads about aillidh, that's just awful. Will be thinking of her poor family, I really thought things were improving.

Eww to that doll needto, sounds weird! I bet anya would love it

Blizy I saw about expats dd, so very very sad. I've been following the threads, it's heartbreaking
I would hate to be at a festival in the rain and mud nowadays, I like my home comforts too much!

Dp just taught A to say choc choc that was a stupid thing to do wasn't it.

Ponyo- welcome to Anya's new fav word!
I couldn't cope with all that mud either, at least I was all cosy on the couch sipping on my vodka and lemonade!

A has been awake since 6.30am and still not had a nap?! This is unusual

Ready for Wimbledon!

Hi all,

Watching Wimbledon here too from the comfort of my bed as have had a dodgy tummy since Friday evening . I guess that's one way to lose some weight . Dreading DH going to work tomorrow as not sure how I'll cope with Alice, fingers crossed I'll be feeling much better in the morning.

needto has your DMIL got a date for when they can do the bowel op? Has OH been able to see her today? Must be such a worry for you all. Is she any better in herself at all? Btw bit at that odd doll

ledkr any juicy updates re: PIL?

blizy I got the titp abbreviation . Btw I hadn't read any of the aillidh threads but went and looked them up and had a bit of a sob reading them

ponyo I can imagine choc choc being said an awful lot at your house now . Btw is your house on the market yet so I can have an online nosy ?

granny sounds v scary. Hope everything is OK and wasn't caused by anything to worry about.

Nothing but rain rain rain here today.