candr no leaving him msgs from me, as mine has never got up to our lo in the night, and was almost as bad with our eldest 2 aswell. im off work tho and enjoying it really so dont mind this time around (must be the sea air, should have moved here sooner!) not sure if it helps but heres what our hv told me....
1/ when you decide to leave lo in cot and not keep night feeding stick to it, dont do it half heartedly (which you alerady are doing)
2/ put lo down awake
3/ put hand on lo's cheek or hold hand and quietly say 'time for sleep now' or something similar- leave room (dark)-
4/if lo cries return when you cant take it anymore (tugs heart strings), eg after 15 mins or 30mins. when returning repeat step 3/- dont pick lo up or make eye contact though
5/ each time you return (if needed) dont make the gap any shorter, eg if you returned after 15 mins, leave it at least 15 mins before returning again, longer if possible.
she warned it would take 2 nights, maximum 3 nights and that they may be long nights so to have a partner around if possible to encourage you not to return too soon and to give emotional support if u need it.
for us it worked instantly, amazingly, but everyones different and i wasnt expecting it to work that fast.
hope that helps
i could never have had the heart to try this method with our 2 eldest, not sure what changed this time around.
sebs SNOW???!!!!! ru up north? we've just had loads of rain, floods everywhere apparently (south west). water butts in garden all full :)
candr amongst others, we have a size 1, 2, 3 car seat, when lo faces forward in it all 3 kids will fit in the back of the car, but we're not brave enough to change him to forward facing yet due to risk of wiplash breaking his spine. dont think we were so aware of the dangers with our 2 eldest as they quickly went forward facing. or perhaps we're just getting old. though clambering into the back middle seat and having dd in front seat isnt so much fun (front seat much more comfy :) )
back at work in 2 weeks and really not looking forward to it, my heart belongs at home right now, going to be unbelievably hard :'( love my routines with the 3kids. hey ho, must work (whilst dreaming of winning big on the lottery)