December 2011: Smiles and giggles and coffee and truffles.....

[aethelfleda]

Voila, a new positive thinking thread for us!

Onward and upward, ladies. Do come on and post if you're a lurker or want to join our merry band, all welcome!!

Hope you get a good kip:)

good luck hawthers , I hope yoi get 6 hours and then F has a lovely big feed for an hour!

How long do you guys wind for at night? Has just taken me half an hour to get a burp up and I know if I put DD down before I got it up she would just writhe and wriggle and complain. I don't mind feeding at night but hate spending ages winding but can't see any alternative. I've never had a baby you can just feed and plonk down!

Hello! Well that was 3 and a half hours no alarm and I don't have to persuade f to wake up to feed so a bit better imo

Sorry mmm no idea about winding

mmm I used to have to spend ages winding, but now his digestive system is a bit more developed I can feed and plonk! Are you bf or ff as I th

Think that makes a difference.

hawthers 3.5 isn't too bad and must feel a whole lot better when it's not alarm driven.

On 4th feed of the night here. It seems he's getting worse rather than better :(

Dawn chorus is starting. We're off to the zoo today for DS1 friends b'day (and mine )

Ahh- just had to change a filled nappy, started feeding to put him to sleep and he's filled it again. I have a horrible feeling this is the start of our day.

....DH is groaning his way about. He had a nice time. Niw his head is in rebellion with a short trip to Hangoverville.

That's great hawthers.

Oi, I quite agree with your point of view about a full life being lived and their being a time to go. If I ever make it to that stage I'll definitely want a 'don't resuscitate' in my medical notes, I think.

Well in usual boring sleep report, fed minimopsy at 22:30 as she was stirring, them got her to go through until 06:45. However, this isn't quite as amazing as it sounds as she was so noisy and thrashing about all night and I kept waking up and having to stick her soother in. So I actually had a much more interrupted night then when I just get up and feed her in the middle of the night. So not quite sure if I sd try the same tonight or just let her wake up when she feels like it and feed her in middle of night. Decisions, decisions! I still feel v fortunate she can more or less go through at 3 months.

Does your husband have to get up and go to work aethel? poor him if so! Ugh, commuting w a hangover.

If you can spend the first week at your parents, that might be a good idea mmmm. then DS won't get too
Jealous of DD's time with you. At nights I bf lying down and no longer wind Alistair.
On weds he slept thru. Last night, I was hoping for a repeat performance but he woke at 3:20am. Soooooo I decided to try him with a dummy again. I stuck with it, gently coaxing it and him for 30mins until he fell asleep. So he's not fed now since 10:30pm. I'm going to try again with this to convince him to sleep thru.
We dtd last night. Still quite painful.
I read the purple book the other day and laughed heartily at what was supposed to happen at the 6wk check. She asked me how I was and talked about contraception. I told her about sex being painful, she just smiled and nodded. The book says "tell the dr if intercourse is painful"...

Yep, he's got work though he doesn't have a special time to get in so can at least go a little slow this morning. Amongst the (slight) groaning was the sentence "aargh, I'm booked to spend all afternoon in the dark room, bet I fall asleep halfway through".... He is looking a little better now, fortunately!!

Am meeting a lovely friend from school today for lunch, we will wave babies at each other then it's off to the school cale sale with my DD's pimped-up-monstrosities...

scooby happy birthday and have fun at the zoo :)

oi haven't dtd here yet , had lots of stitches and was very sore , dh has been very patient but I know he is only gagging for it :) holly co sleeps and is a VERY light sleeper . I suPpose we could sneak off to the spare room but by the time she settles all I want to do is go to sleep ! I did read that bf lowers your libido , a few glasses of wine would helP but no chance of that . Excuses excuses ! Think I just need to get it over and done with :)

Happy Friday everyone

My nephew arrived at 00:58, 9lb 1oz, all with gas&air (and a quick cut I think!) No name yet.

Don't think I'll get to visit until next weekend

Seb has a cold and is grumpy. As is Mummy as she got very little sleep. DH and I have just had our first full on shout at each other since Seb was born (and only our 3rd ever I think). We bicker all the time, but usually make each other laugh before it get's too serious.

I'm not even sure what we were screaming about. I don't think he'd done the washing up last night, and I said I didn't know when he asked me if he should feed the cats before he left for work. We kissed and made up before he left.

With regard to burping, I've all but stopped now unless he thrashes about mid feed. Between the drool and the sick he's getting through multiple outfits and we've asked granny to get some of the dribble bib things...

Oh, and we finally managed to DTD last weekend (12 weeks and 1 day after the birth and 12 weeks and 2 days since we'd last DTD I was reliably informed) and it was MUCH better that the last attempt although still uncomfortable.

Hey ladies

Grrr There are times when I swear being a single parent was easier - I feel like a single parent most of the time anyway. Asked DP to feed Sky whilst I got dressed this morning (he already done school run for me) so when we were at Boogie mites Sky wouldn't be feeding - he looked put out as he would of had to put the bloody laptop down for 5mins! He was doing something which apparently was more important than feeding his baby girl - so I've come upstairs to do it and he's dropped everything to take out neighbour somewhere
LMF I know you find it hard being a single mum - I enjoyed it before however, I know it's hard but even in this relationship I feel like a single mom.

Definitely have a week at your parents' mmmm, take any help that's on offer! DS has always been a feed and plonk, we've been lucky on that one, so can't offer any words of wisdom there.

Hope the 3.5 hours and no alarm means that today is better for you hawthers

Happy Birthday scooby! (Is it today or are you just sharing a birthday party with DS's friend ?) I'm sad in that a day at the zoo sounds like a brilliant birthday- I have requested it for our anniversary trip out on occasion- but I can well imagine that starting the day at 5am, with a double poosplosion, and then being in the company of loads of little children may take the edge off it...hope you're doing something with alcohol grown up later on!

The purple book was, and continues to be a source of amusement to me Oi. I have learnt more from this thread and MN about pregnancy/childbirth/parenting that from anything else by far, and recommend joining to anyone I know who's having babies. As for Sophie's Diary....

Glad you kissed and made up kitty- the rows where you're not actually sure what you're yelling about can be the most vicious.

Well, I'm in a state of hopping excitement as my buddleia has arrived! Very impressed by the speed of delivery, and just hope the plant's in good nick. It's fabulous being able to access all these specialist nurseries now via the internet that you'd never be able to get to otherwise.

Happy Friday indeed!

Sorry, X post DSM. Hope you get an apology later.

Oh dear dsm, hope your day improves from here.

Re: dtd we have still only managed once! It was lovely but I'm still scared of the pain, irrationally.

Going for a walk later and can't decide whether to brave the baby bjorn in the valley or take the pram to the woods. The path in the valley crosses and recrosses a river and is too narrow in a cpl of places for a pram but I'm very nervous to take the sling because of my fall last week ...

Determined i know what you mean about oh not pulling weight the amount of times i get rolled eyes when ask him to do something small when he is playing on the ipad, if it wasn't mine anyway would flush it down the loo. We had a row this morning about washing (again) he wanted towels done wednesday and bedding done yesterday so they were but as didnt dry fully outside they had to finish inside of course now he moaning about living in a "chinese laundry". Have told him to piss right off if he doesnt want the tumble drier on either maybe he needs to blow on them with all his hot air .

Bad mother alert i thought lo had his jabs today but just got his red book out and it was yesterday i got the appt cards mixed up as his last was on 23/02 and these were 22/03 doh.......the clinic woman not back in until monday much apologies required.

jiggle and YBR I'd get to the GP sooner rather than later if I were you. I'm not suffering any incontinence, just the prolapse and a very weak pelvic floor. The hospital advised me to get the neurotrac in order that we do enough now to avoid me "coming back in 5 years incontinent and with a prolapse" (and this is with me not planning to have any more children too). That sentence gave me a big enough to order the neurotrac!

Yes, adding to what I said yesterday, while waiting for a bit is deemed "OK" as sometimes things will improve, there is no need to wait before you raise it with your GP, when you go depends on how much it is bothering you and how bad it is/feels. Certainly you're not going to get criticised for raising it at any point. Sometimes I feel that a 4 or 6 month review would help mums better than just a 6 week one as it often tales time for it to become apparent if things aren't getting back to normal.

Envious of those of you DTDing.... I haven't the energy!!!

Sorry, posted and ran due to a poosplosion and have now caught up on the rest of the thread. I'm sure aethel's advice is far more sound and considered than mine!

I think that's a very good point aethel- at 6 weeks, especially if it's your first, you're just coming up for air...
It's more work with two +, but at least you know more what to expect! I'd only been out once on my own with the pram at that point. You're likely to be sleep deprived and not firing on all cylinders, and are unlikely to have DTD yet; a review at 4-6 months would make good sense.

I like your attitude figgy- if he's not going to be more of a help then he shouldn't expect all the housework and cleaning done to a Cath Kidson (sp?) style perfection, and glad you've told him that in a cheeringly full-on way!

Off to a friend's for lunch, then sorting out my list for travelling this weekend, and a potter in the garden/potting up/hoiking out old shrubs.