January 2008: I'm four and 'they're all mine!'

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Sorry Simposn. Just couldn't resist.

Oh and if anyone sees a Duplo Stone Quarry on offer in the next couple of months, can you let me know? I want to play with it.

I do worry about how M is going to cope with school I have been told she will need an IEP and my main worry is lunch times tbh as she will have school dinners and will need to carry her food on a tray. If she cannot see her feet she tends to turn them in and then fall over....

Oh, the other exercise we do is turning coins over. I put a load of pennies on the table all heads up and M has to turn them one by one....

If it is the same as secondary school, you shuld have some say in what goes into her IEP and help for that sounds a reasonable request.

IEP is fine, it's just a matter of building support and exercises into her school day. You will be involved in it.

I have no problem with her having an Iep if that is what she needs, she also cannot use the water fountain as she does not have the finger strength to press the button to release the water.

Just wondering when I should ask the school about it? Probably best to leave it till nearer the time, maybe June....

Good news was that she was given 2 reading books this week (from nursery school) so that should keep her happy for a bit!!

She has her physio session tomorrow at midday (dreading it) so I guess we will know more after that...

Had a bit of a bad evening with the kids today, I was on a short fuse anyway and I had j sobbing because he did not understand his maths homework and m screaming on the landing floor upstairs and I have to confess it did lose it. I made j cry because I shouted at him (not proud)

Oh well, tomorrow is another day!!!

Can I just say that was my first post on MN with my new iPad!!! But I cannot work out how to do sad/smilie faces etc etc!!!

I would ask the school about it sooner rather than later.

Poor you, having a bit of a rough time with it

Be kind to yourself, tomorrow will be better. And if you need to offload you know where I am x

Hi guys - How do you defriend on Facebook? I haven't had any contact from my crazy brother since Dad died. He has now starte posting abusive messages to me on FB.

Good for you LaT don't let him

go to his profile, click on friend button (top right) and select 'unfriend'

LaT - definitely delete him quick! for you.

Simps - hats off to you for every day, all of us have blips when everything seems to go wrong at once, but a 'change of parenting' normally helps, you have't got that option so it's all on you & you are doing tremendously, as evidenced by your fab kids :)
I really hope that IEP/sch/OT/PT can help M, so sad for her realising that things aren't going to be as simple as practice = perfect. GOod on her for all her efforts though.

DH & T out at sailing training today - not on the water as the weather is too awful. Meant to be having a first race tomorrow but that's off too, they are :(
They are at the sailing club anyway learning knots or something. M is napping & H is sat on the sofa next to me playing shape-matching on my phone :)
I have a crappy disaster movie on

Sounds good JKS - I hope it lasted.

Thanks Madmouse. I've done it. Were you able to see what he wrote? I've had his messages blocked for ages but as he doesn't usuay post on my wall, I haven't had any notifications. I don't know if that means others could see.

LaT yes I can see a really nasty message. Why don't you delete it? Hover over his post, click on the little pencil and select delete. You can also report it if you feel like that. What a nasty piece of work. Sorry hun

Thanks Madmouse. I didn't know you could do that. He's sent one to my other brother and my stepmother.

You can completely block him so he cannot find you if he searches for you:

How do I block someone?
To block someone:
Click the account menu at the top right of any Facebook page and choose Privacy Settings.
Scroll to the Blocked People and Apps section and click Manage Blocking.
Enter the name or email address of the person you want to block and click Block. People will not be notified when you block them.
If you can?t find someone using this method, try going to the person?s profile (timeline) and selecting Report/Block This Person from the dropdown.

As if you don't have enough to deal with x

LaT hope you are ok, have you managed to block/delete all messages???

Have just looked at my phone and seen that I received a text from someone at 7pm ish this eve, don't know who it's from. It says " it's H's birthday tomorrow could you do the decent thing and let his children phone him to wish him happy birthday??"

((and breathe))

Fuming for you Simpson. You've been so amazingly good to him!

Thanks Madmouse. I've blocked email and will do that on FB. I'm contemplating the phone but it costs about £40 a year and I don't know if he still has my phone number.

We're getting all the reports in now for Nathan's statement of special eductional needs. It's a mix of laughter and tears.

his Ed. Psych says his learning is constricted by the overall delay in his development and that he needs specialist teachers
But also that he is making good progress and that he is a very determined little boy who persists even when activities are challening

His Speech and Language lady says she has no concerns about his hearing, listening or understanding. 'Nathan shows good understanding for his age. There are no concerns in this area'
But Nathan's speech is 'extremely unintelligible' and 'this will make it difficult for Nathan to demonstrate his learning and engage fully in the school environment'. He has big difficulties using his tongue and mouth to make the right speech shapes.

She even mentions the possibility of a voice output communication aid in the future

MM - just hold onto that comment about N's determination. I'm pretty certain that with you to back him up, he'll achieve everything he wants to in life, even if it isn't always via the most straightforward route. I felt equally :) and :( reading your post, but as much as a speech communication aid might feel a bit :( right now, imagine how much better (in some ways) life will be for him if it turns out ('if') that not only that he does need some help to communicate more clearly, but that there might be something available to provide that help? Lots and lots of 'mights' and 'maybes' and 'ifs'.....so stick to what we know for now: he's determined, persistant and has no problems hearing, listening and understanding :) :) :) [hugs]

Simpson and LaT - sending lots of love to both of you, too...

Nothing to add from the Filly-household....oh, apart from our washing machine giving up the ghost last Friday. JL are delivering a new one on Friday (I hope...although my recent experience with ovens from them wasn't great) but in the meantime, I am just amazed at how much dirty laundry a 6 person household generates....thank goodness my dm is only 1.5 miles down the road and is being reasonably understanding (despite some snarky comments about the cost of washing powder/water/electricity/the single squirt of Vanish I used on dh's shirt....!!!)

Mothers, eh? Will this be us in 30 years???!!!

Hugs all round :)

Filly - hope JL don't let you down.

Knackered here, lots of walking for DH today. Getting a takeaway then early night.
Though both boys playing noisily upstairs so i could be asleep before them at this rate!

Madmouse - It must be very bittersweet reading them. There is so much to be proud of. It is wonderful that he is so determined. It is such an important quality. Having Sabela in school has made me realise how odd it is to have others judging your child. Perhaps you are well used to it by now but it is not a comfortable situation. I hope you're bearing up.

Nightmare about the washing machine. I am constantly amazed at how much washing I do and I'm not excessive. There are lots of peope on here who wash towels every day. God knows how much they must use their machines.

Sabela has decided to wake us all up at the crack of dawn every morning. As soon as she sees the light, she's up. She has tons of energy since starting school but the wear is beginning to show, on me aswell as her.

I'm going to be a wonderful mother to my grown up children, Filly. What are you talking about? I might phone them, oooo .. let's say, around 5am every morning, but that's my limit...

LaT - i have plans.....

Going into their rooms at 5am, opening curtains, singing 'rise & shine', hoovering early o'clock, etc. wicked!

But not too often obviously as I don't want to get up that early, lol!

I WILL enjoy it. I'm thinking of stamping and slamming the door and being irrationally cross about something about which they have no clue at 5am. That'll be to pay Sabela back for yesterday morning.

Or waking them by a full force headbutt into their noses, giving them a black eye and giggling, just to say, 'hello'. That'll be Danny.

I might also go into their rooms at night and spend FOUR HOURS putting my fingers on their noses and doing comedy sneezes. That'll be payback for both of them at times

You won't need to wait that long....another 7-8 years and I am sooooo going to enjoy harrassing my teens out of bed in the mornings...

I finally understand why my dm took such apparent pleasure in forcing me to get up at 7.30am every day during the school hols when I was 14/15/16/17.....

So, do you lot reckon the same as everyone else over here

Madmouse - it must have been tough reading, I had a little about the "determined little boy who persists even when obstacles are challenging" hold onto this, that is fab!!! It will really help him to help himself iyswim.

Hope the school situation is resolved soon.

LaT - go for it!!! My DC stay at my mums all the time and J is staying there for 2 nights this weekend as my youngest brother is around and J adores him. Unfortunately M is staying with me!!! The kids also went to Ireland for 5 days with my parents when M was 2 and J was nearly 5 and they had a great time (although my parents didn't for obvious reasons).

Filly/JKS - my mum loved getting revenge on me as an older kid when I would not get up for school and used to drip water on my face to wake me up

I have been really ill over the last few days and J has held the fort he has put M to bed the last 2 days and read her bedtime story/done her homework with her and done his own homework without me asking as I have been too ill to do it.

I think you are right madmouse and it was food poisoning but what it was that caused it i will never know as all I ate the day before I was ill was a homemade sarnie and pasta that eve.

Oh well, at least the kids did not get it!!!

Have to steel myself (again) and have words with J's teacher about the lack of reading books he is getting today after school, I hate doing this type of thing

Re the text from Ireland, I still don't know who sent it but suspect its one of H's sisters and I texted backing basically saying that H knows what he needs to do to resume contact and contact will not start again until these measures have been met, what a suprise I got no reply!!!