Sept 2008 - no witty title as we're too busy dealing with stroppy 3 yr olds.

[MrsArchchancellorRidcully]

Hello all. Couldn't see a new thread so thought I'd do the honours. Sorry for rubbish title, I'm no good at witty! :)

oh! did it stay open in the end???

The friend I went with had a really bad cold/flu and so we were happy to go home, really.

We have got a refund. Glad you had a good time. (we were in the hotel)

Have a good weekend everyone!

bookmarking, not been here for a while.

Oh your poor friend Carrie so sad. Things like that make me so happy (don't think happy is the right word, but hopefully you know what I mean) to be of a good church community. It's reassuring to know that if something awful happens there would be support there.

Well done on the running ILTMIMI and ninja. We all start from nowhere ILTMIMI, doesn't take long for it to build up. You still ran 20 mins more than a lot of people could. I haven't run more than 5 miles at a time since my half marathon in March (because I was training for a triathlon where I only had to run nearly 3.5 miles).
I came 11th in my age group in the tri out of 35 which I was v chuffed with. Last year I was 30th out of 40. Next event the London Duathlon.

When do you have to go to court MrsA? I'm sure the IM can't be allowed to share medical info with people, especially when it's not relevant.

Yes it stayed open - at about 11ish there was a temp supply and so the pool was open & shops and all water back on by 4.

I used to run pre dd1 and I joined a local running club after dd1 until I returned to work. I've done a few half-hearted runs over the past month, but I have to do it more regularly now as I've signed up for the blackheath race for life in July.

Carrie but nice to know people still rally around.

Oh dear - I seemed to have killed the thread . Dh is sulking about the football still (man utd fan) so I thought I'd use the time productively on mn!

I hope you all had good weekends .

Oh dear. I just remembered why this is pretty much the only thread I post in in mn. Got involved in a thread about something a teacher did & wish I'd never opened my mouth as one person seems to be trying to twist what I'm saying. Why does everything have to be over dramatic?

debi Dont go "out there" Its scary

Minor back op on thurs. Sigh. Hope it works.

Left toby at pre school and he was telling me he would miss me

Cue me unable to settle at all this morning....

Debi - I know what you mean. I've been avoiding this thread a bit as you're all lovely but my ability to cope with anything emotional atm is approx nil, so trying to stay on general factual threads (and occasionally failing and looking at AIBU... always a mistake!)
Got referred for CBT over a month ago and apparently should have been emailed within a week - 2xGPs and 2xHVs are now chasing. I'm doing OK a lot of the time but the odd panic attack when dd decides to sleep for long periods and be unrousable.

If the rain stops I'll go for a brisk walk - can't wait until 6 months when I'm allowed to run again (not that I'll be able to do more than 30 secs at a time for ages!)

digi - it gets better soon. I think 5-6 weeks is a low point where all the hormones have worn off and you're at your most tired, and then it improves. hugs

Hey there NC good to hear from you. My non-emotional achievement of the day is getting the washing out at 8am so it was dry by the time the rain started at 1pm. Believe it or not that's enough to make me feel like I've 'done' something today! I've also been shopping with my mum and found her a lovely outfit for the massive family party we're having in June. Its in a marquee at my brother's farm, so we're going down the linen trousers with nice top line of clothing rather than pretty dresses. Debenhams did us proud!
Starbucks are launching a new mocha cookie crumble frappuccino. I might have to give myself a new 'summer' MN name!
A very close friend (was one of my bridesmaids) is currently being induced with her second baby...eeeek!

nc Hope the cbt appt comes through soon xx

carrie I know what you mean re: washing...its odd isnt it? A line full of clean dry washing is truly what happiness means

Thanks for the words of encouragement. I still feel like I'm being shouty mummy too much - but ds1 is actually a lot better behaved when I'm on my own. Too many adults and I think he feels he has to do even more to remain centre of attention.

carrie feel the same about hanging the washing out! Or just folding laundry that's dried - wonderful sense of achievement.

nc I'm also wondering when my pelvis might have recovered enough that I could start running again. Ds1 keeps asking me to 'race' him and even that 'bouncy walk' that is my poor excuse for a childs paced jog is very difficult to do.

Ds1 asleep after a relatively easy bedtime. Have just fed ds2 and thinking about grabbing an hour before the next feed. Sometimes I feel so angry about being woken up by a crying baby that's only fed an hour ago - but mostly I know this phase doesn't last that long - already the weeks feel like they've whizzed by. Ds2 is 5 weeks today. Before too long he'll be 10 weeks etc. And he's such a little cutie, feel guilty for cooing over him so much. Right must go sleep now.

Don't ever feel guilty for cooing over your little one! Such precious times. DS2 is now an eating, rolling, clapping, chewing machine who has his first tooth. Where did the last 8.5 months go? Seriously DG just enjoy and coo away!

Glad I'm not the only laundry obsessive . Even the DCs comment on the laundry drying potential of the weather rather then whether or not its good for playing out and secretly [proud]

I couldn't imagine doing any amount of running! I have been swimming lots lately though, that's my 'thing'. We started going back in November and have been almost weekly, we now do 10 lengths of breaststroke then 30 of crawl, and I even (willingly) did an extra 4 lengths of fast crawl last week. My friend asked 'what's become of the carrie we know and love?!' (my reputation as a lazy arse precedes me )

badvoc how did Toby do this morning? Hope you both survived the experience :)

digi don't feel bad at cooing like Carrie says.

Also, don't feel bad at getting peed off at DS2 for waking lots. I have discovered that I actually take a few weeks to bond properly with my children (thought it was DD's traumatic arrival that affected my bond but no - took 6 weeks to really love DS, or maybe it was his traumatic arrival too!)
DS is 23 weeks tomorrow and I've asked DF to get the Babydan out of the loft at the weekend as I think we'll start blw next week. He still sleeps well - was 7-7 but now 7-5.30/6ish. Don't think weaning early will make any difference to this, it's just development. I've always believed that carrots won't fill his tummy more than milk. We started blw with DD at 24 weeks, so it's about the same for DS and I am surprised we've managed to get to 24 weeks - he is now staring at food (which DD never did).

Proud mummy moment (bit of boasting really, can't do that on fb) - today I went to rhyme time at the library and walked in with DS in the MeiTai and DD was wearing her baby in her tiny kid's Moby. Oh the stares we got - twas a real Boden moment! :)

mrsa I wish I could have seen that! You are so middle class!!!

carrie He was fine. He always says he has fun but we have the whole "I will miss you mummy, when are you coming back" ad nauseum every morning

Its our 13th wedding anniversary today!

Happy anniversary badvoc! and for you and your DH!

Sounds like playgroup is going really well, well done you :)

MrsA I wish I could have seen that, good work! We need photos

I'm not into blw as you know ('twas baby limited weaning with my DCs) but I've found with DS2 I could put bits of food into his mouth - banana, chicken, bread etc, and he happily ate it even though at that time he didn't have the physical capability to pick things up and put them in himself (he can now, but he was hungry and his manual dexterity was miles behind his need for food!). Also I shovelled in pureed food too . He's still having a dream feed which he absolutely drains, but it sees him through til morning which is an improvement!

Happy anniversary Badvoc

M sometimes says 'I missed you so much' when I pick him up from pre school. I'm not saying he hasn't missed me, but I also know that he has had a lovely time at pre school. I wonder if they are getting better at articulating their feelings, and that sometimes the language they use is exaggerated?

I am a laundry fiend too

Digi - M is often better behaved when he is alone with either me or dh. I think he feels he doesn't have to compete. Lack of sleep turns me into a right shouty harpy. It is evil. Don't feel guilty. It will pass.

I hope you get your referral soon NC, it's pretty shocking that it has taken this long. In the meantime, here's a {{hug}}

Bookmarking. Feeling a bit down with the constant dealings with the tb, it's driving me to tears most days :( the kids cheer me up though :)

He's taken voluntary redundancy as so has nothing better to do than wind me up. Today I heard that he's changed maebhs preschool days for next year without any consultation with me or the childminder - he just can't do that. Id written him an email saying we needed to discuss this amongst other things, he doesn't want to negotiate (for example I have both kids on a Friday and one on a Saturday and I've asked forvthevodd weekend night off).

This is just the most recent thing of many.

Sorry, all minor things really.

Met up with the online man again for a non-date , nothing happening but it was fun to go out to the cinema (and I got to oggle Ewan mcgreggor!)

bookmarking......

ninja [anger] I hope I never meet TB on a dark night. The fucker.

Thanks for anniversary wishes.

13 years....blimey.

NC look away now and think of bunnies and butterflies...

Tomorrow is my friend's baby's funeral and burial. I'm adopting 'if in doubt bake' and about to make some flapjack. I have a feeling I'm going to see DH cry for the third time in 12 years. Everyone's quite used to seeing me cry though!

Oh carrie I have no words. Thinking of you all, most especially your poor friend and her family.

Take care tomorrow carrie, what a heartbreaking day. There's nothing I can say .

carrie

Well, its done. It was a beautiful service, really intimate, the vicar did an amazing job and it was very precious. There was a song about when you grieve its an opportunity to have the experience of being held. The bible readings were really helpful to remind us that God doesn't promise to make everything smooth and happy, but he promises to be our rock when things are hard, and that really has been their experience.
The burial was in such a beautiful spot, its the victorian area of the cemetry and a bit overgrown and just much more natural and beautiful, it was sunny and lovely. It was heartbreaking walking behind our friend carrying the coffin of his baby girl - no parent should ever have to bury their own child. Their 4 year old was amazing and threw tulip petals down into the grave.
DH and I sobbed and sobbed, and talked on the way to the lunch about our own loss when our first pregnancy ended in miscarriage, 6 years ago this saturday.
Our friends did brilliantly and it was a real time of togetherness, a shared experience that will stick with everyone for a long time.
We're going away for the weekend tomorrow and it couldn't come at a better time, we're wrung out, and we're running out of tissues!
See you all next week, thanks for being there