March 2010 - Our Terrific Terrible Twos will be big siblings

[PacificDogwood]

I hope nobody minds, but I went and started a new thread .

Sorry, headgirls!

Defiance. YES. I think I've shot myself in the foot by raising my voice to Izzy when she ignores me because now she shouts at me when she doesn't get her way I'm never sure what to do about 'bad' behaviour; I don't want to just ignore it but 2yo still seems very young for punishment. What tactics are you all using (especially those with older DCs who have come out the other side )?

Does anyone fancy a proper meet-up sometime soon? I had a msg from Rinders on FB recently and she was asking. It would be lovely to see all the DCs now they're growing up, and maybe even meet some of the 2nd generation Any ideas/prefences for where and when? May is pretty much out for me.

Defo up for a meet up- anywhere on east coast rail line or within 90m drive of Newcastle.

We use 'the naughty step' and definitely works when we do. It's a stair in our house and he's never on long - 2n max an I always ask if he's sorry and he nods yes and we hug and move on x

How horrible for all of you, BPM. what a thing to have to endure. I hope it gets better and that you can see it gettin better. Like Sariska says, stubborn 2 year olds are one thing but in your situation it must be a whole different issue.

Evitas, the guilt is part of the package unfortunately. It gets worse in some ways as they get older because their verbal expression is so much more subtle. The best thing coping wise for me is doing my best when I'm there and reminding myself I'd be a terrible stay at home mum. Also that I can have a hot coffee and adult conversation on a daily basis! It sucks, the guilt thing.

would love a meet x :) lovely to see u back bpm- so so sorry for what your famiy have been through and are still dealing with x

miss p- the naughty step here- works a treat- follow super nannys techique - sometime three children in a row on the stairs

Elliott having 7 yo harry and 4 yo rosie to copy- spends a lot of time yelling at the whole house! my neigbours must hate us~! hahahah

how are all the new babies and growing babies doing?

I would deffo try and make any central London meet up... or, y'know, right on my doorstep in swlondon/surrey

But I'm 37 (ARGH!) weeks now and unless it happens very soon or in quite some time I may be a little, um, distracted.

Ah, and I posted a thread yesterday with the link to that New Look video thingy I did if any of you (who didn't see it on FB) wanna have a nosey:

It's over here!

Ooh Manda I tried on that stripy dress you wore and it looked like absolute shite on me you look really good in it. I love NL maternity stuff and got addicted to buying their stuff at first but as I really dont want to be pregnant again famous last words I know I thought I'd better reign it in a bit. My cousin is pregnant so Im just going to donate my stuff to her.

Think I'd have to bow out of a meet up for the forseeable, seeing as my beloved son still isnt born yet (my due date was only yesterday to be fair to him) shame too as Im really missing adult company at the moment...but thats another story I wont bore you with tonight

BPM I think I remember your thread re: accident with DD. Im a newbie on this thread so didnt realise you had a March baby here too. Hope you and your family continue to find strength.

MissP in regards to my stubborn little madam, she doesn't like to be told off at all and all of a sudden gets quite upset when I tell her "no smacking" which is what she does when she's frustrated. I dont raise my voice as such, I just give her a look and point my finger when I say it. If she carries on then I'll just pick her up and sit her down on the chair next to me (kind of like a "naughty" seat) she doesn't properly cry she just likes to make noise and try and squeeze tears out then when she's calmed down we're all cuddles again.

Fliss how is DD adjusting to having a brand new sibling? And how are you and DS? Its preying on my mind how Amaya is going to react, hope she doesn't get too jealous.

She's very cuddly at the moment, I actually get enough of it right now. Quite funny too in her little mannerisms, and boy can she talk? Not all of it understandable but has quite a vocabulary, bless her. Her singing and dancing also never fails to make me smile.

I still look at her in disbelief and wonder where the hell she came from, in a proud Mum sense, you understand

I have caught up with several pages here now - took me from this morning as I get interrupted by little people every 5 seconds minutes, but here I am.

Marking my place and will be back later (when they are in bed ).

Weclome back, BPM. The horrific accident that befell your DD went totally past me - what a terrible event, for her and for all of you. You sound like a pillar of strength and, I suppose, you have to be, don't you? Much love and strength to you, your DD and all your family.

I'm 40+5 today and feeling stabby

If one more person texts me asking if I've had any signs, I'll give them a bloody sign alright!

Why when I tell peole that I'll let them know when I've had the baby, do they text me every other day for news?

What part of that is hard to understand?

(sorry guys, I know this isn't really something proper to complain about but I'm so over this pregnancy. Everybody Everything is just pissing me off. Went for a membrane sweep at the MWs on Friday, she couldn't reach my cervix, too high or something I just want my baby)

As you were

Hi all (waves) remember me :)

As some I you may know I am expecting DC no2. I am 16 weeks and have a gender scan next week eeeek!

Ethan is such a lovely little boy, he is in to everything and learning so much! He is car mad and such a joy with his sleep.

Can you all remind me who you are? There have been some name changes so it's hard to keep track. I am friends with most of you on Facebook but not been on here in about a yeah!

Congrats to the new arrivals :) xxx

ruby- all will be over soon enough- and your little baby will be in your arms x exciting times, but yep other people drive u mostly insane-

Welcome back summer2008- congrats on your news x

PD_ good to see u back here too- home very busy i guess?

hope everyone else is doin ok

Oh no, I had posted an epic ginormous post the other night and then MN went 'offline for a few minutes' and the whole thing disappeared in cyberspace! I was so that I have been unable to face this thread since. How v dare they! Do they not know that I am a Vair Important Personage!!

Anyway, my days have been busy with yearning after a dog - NOT a puppy, this is not broodiness, but IMVHO a family is not a family without a dog, but we can't really have one, certainly not at the moment. So, naturally, I have spent many hours pouring over Scottish rescue sites and have learnt a lot about greyhounds/lurchers and am now even more desperate to get a dog. But we cannot just know, it would be foolhardy and not fair on the hound etc etc. And damn that pointy thread on here ; makes me really, REALLY want one!

Anyhoo, Ruby, huge sympathies, 'tis horrible being asked every 5 min whether you've had the baby yet. I was 15 and 12 days over with 2 of mine and after a while my favorite reply was "Oh my, yes, I have had the baby, but hadn't really noticed, thank for reminding me to check". I also found switching mobile off and letting DH answer the phone or screening for phone nrs (if you phone does that) helped. And of course, chocolate !
I really hope you are doing well.

Blueydragon, I would not worry about stuttering or stamming at @ 2 - I think it is v common: they've got lots to say, but cannot get it out quick enough. Don't finish words/sentences for him, repeat what he just said back to him ("Look, Mummy, c-c-c-c-car" "Yes, darling, that's a car") and if it is no better in 6 months you can always ask your GP for a referral to SALT.
We did with DS3 who 'chatted' loads, but had next to no understandable words at @ 3 - one assessment visit to SALT who declared him 'normal' seemed to cure him . All his language seemed to come in a oner and now he won't shut up !

RL is very, very busy and I just find I don't have enough brainspace to keep track of everything I am ment to be doing and remembering and to be able to do. I am sure the same is true for all of us - I have much increased respect for my mother tbh.

I hope all the other expecting mums on here are also doing well - 'tis so exciting . Even if you are on other post-natal threads relating to your new due dates, you do realise you have to inform us first of any developments, don't you??

I have no idea what else I was on about on my previous post, can't have been that important.

Fare thee well, DS3 is chattering away at me, I better give him some attention...

Welcome back PD and SUMMER.

So- work strikes again. I heard yesterday from a vv reliable source that my job has been offered to someone else. They have declined it- don't wish to work for the bully. Problem is - I haven't asked to leave, knew nothing about it and only started my reduced hours 6 weeks ago. Can't do or say anything same as I'm not supposed to know but it's tearing me up- again. I'm thinking of writing a book- how not to treat staff!! Oh what to do...... Whats coming my way...... Apparently If person had agreed i was to be moved to a building 30 miles away and to shifts with no days off with husband.....Hmmmmm ..again.....

Hope you're all doing ok and toddlers behaving!

Thanks Pacific. nice to see you and I sort of know what you mean on the pet front, although it would be cats for me as I'm not a very dog sort of person. How's your nanny working out?

Nice to see you too, Summer and congratulations on no. 2.

Ruby, they're easier in than out, right? Fliss found a website haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com or something, which she seemed to use a lot!

hello lovely ladies

Hope everyone's doing well

Ruby hope you're cuddling your little boy by now!

Manda how's things? Meant to say I loved the New Look ad - I had some bits and bobs from there and think they have a great maternity line.

Pacific I am so with you on wanting a dog - I joke with my DH that the two DC are only so that we can get a family dog some day! But it's not practical at the moment (will hopefully be practical if we do manage to move to the States this summer - just waiting for DH's company to sign it off...).

I have my PIL visiting from the US this week - it's been great, tootling about London together. DS has been loving it - all the attention from them has been great! His speech is also improving a little - he's finally combining words into simple phrases/words! And DD is just gorgeous - she's 6 weeks on Sun (where is the time going?!?!) and is lovely.

Happy bank holiday to all!

Flip he's still not out! Think he's going to be like his Dad, so laid back he's snoozing!

Had another attempt at a membrane sweep yesterday, MW could at least reach this time but apparently the opening of my cervix is wonky (her words) it's over to one side so still not successful.

His heart was beating away nicely though, it's like he's laughing at me from the inside! Going in for induction on Tuesday. Wish me luck.

Bluey definitely better out than in! I think everyone has twigged now not to bother me until I get on touch with them

Hope everyone has a good bank holiday all my days are merging into one, so it means nothing to me

DH has got the snooker on (zzzzzzzz!!) So I'm off to go and make some soup while DD sleeps.

Hopefully I'll have an announcement for you all soon

x x x x

Just hopping on to see if ruby has had that baby yet! I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm only joking!

hahahah - MANDA"

ruby thinking of you tomorrow - hope it all goes brilliantly and you're cuddling your baby boy soon

Well actually, he's here. In all his beautiful squidgyness.

After an intense 2 hour labour

Ezra Levi was born at 12:09am on 9th May. Weighing 7lb 4oz

Birth went well, was given the pessary at 10am, DH and I spent the day wandering the hospital grounds periodically as the weather was quite nice. Visiting ended at 9pm so DH had to go home. Contractions started at 10pm, was 3cm at this point. Mw said I should call DH back in as things were progressing quite well. DH arrived (11:30pm) Ezra born 12:09am. Just G & A but I won't pretend I wasn't begging for drugs

I'm still shell shocked tbh, but absolutely buzzing. Can't wait for Amaya to meet him, Ive missed her loads.

Have a fab Wednesday ladies

ruby congratulations! Delighted to hear Ezra's here (great names!). And at speed of labour - he may have kept you waiting but he came fast once he decided he was ready

We had our six week check yesterday - DD is long, has shot up to 91st centile for length and still on 50th for weight. Her 0-3 month baby grows are short in the leg but I'm in denial and want to keep her in them as long as possible! She's also all smiles

Many congratulations ruby! Enjoy those newborn cuddles . Hope your DD gets to meet her new brother soon. Take lots of photos. I love looking at the pictures of my DS meeting his baby sister for the first time.

Flip, can you cut the toes off the babygrows so she can wear them a bit longer? Unless you are thinking you might reuse them again in the future that is.......

~Huge Congratulations to you and your family ruby x fab news x

flip - 6 weeks already! OMG

Lovely news of your sons safe arrival, ruby - but, as someone who also 'suffers' from intense, fast, labours, don't try and kid yourself that you should be 'grateful' you didn't have a prolonged time that ended in injury or intervention. I mean, obviously, it's great to avoid all that. But a quick labour is a SHOCK, and does take some time to process mentally and, yeah, the no time for pain relief thing is sucky when you are having contractions one on top of the other with no respite I found myself having flashbacks and then admonishing myself for being so 'silly'. I think I've learnt I need to be kinder to myself and if that's how it made me feel then that's valid and ok! That goes for you, too, lady!

I have a consultant appointment tomorrow to set my induction date... which will probably be next week. (I'm 38+6 today). Can't believe I'll have a baby next week.

Huge congratulations Ruby, and I'm not surprised you're shell-shocked after such a fast labour I hope Amaya enjoys meeting her new brother.

Manda I was just thinking today that you must only have about a week to go. Best of luck with it all.

New York was FAB. The days on my own with Izzy were fine and I even managed the subway on my own once (took cabs a few times too, a loads of walking). We're off to Montenegro/Croatia on Sunday. In baby news, I'm almost 18w now and have been feeling quite a bit of squirming in the past week or so. I feel enormous; I'm sure I wasn't this size until about 6m with Izzy.

Hope everyone else is well :)

Hooray for ruby - well done.
Any news manda? Anyone seen dalrymps? She must be due ish.. Hope you are feeling good missP? summer pink or blue?
How are the newborns treating you fliss and flip?
Hows europe treating afribaby?
Hi again BPM

Hello and waves to everyone else. Nothing much new here at all, still TTC, still getting up at 5/ 5.30am with DD.. But shes going through such a cute phase so I don?t mind - she can remember bits of her favourite books and reads them to me at the crack of dawn.!

I wouldn?t mind meeting up either - shall we try and sort something? I'll lay the midlands down on the table, in August - counter offers please!