Jan 2012 - Higgs Boson Gang pt1

[Oeisha]

Link to antenatal thread for convenience

Not a very good title, but it will suffice 'til we fill this one in record time!

Congratulations to all that have popped so far!

is anyone with a velcro baby showing any signs of it improving? I feel that it ay be getting worse but i am quite low at the moment so my perception is a bit screwed.

I had a nice day with my friend today but I didn't want to come home today. I'm finding dd very stressful and I realised that I was dreading coming back to see what the next drama is about. This week we have had tears about everything-everyday I meet her from school and i get where are we going today and if were not going anywhere she has a melt down. She has a melt down if she cant do something, can't find something or i tell her no.

I know she is sensitive and by having J i have turned her world upside down a bit but i have done everything you are supposed to do, i have been positive, i have included her, i have spoilt her a bit, i bend myself in half to create time for her at the detriment to myself and sometimes the baby. Surely there come a time where it's just normal again and i can stop pandering to this?

Fish sorry to hear things are tough for you, think our dc's are same age (my eldest dd is just turned 5yrs) so know what you mean. I mostly try and chuckle my eldest out of any hissy fits and she'll start laughing too on the whole, but she's had a few shockers. She actually wet herself for the first time ever last month. She went straight from nappies to toilet without incident on her first day at nursery aged almost exactly 3, due (we think) to peer pressure. I didn't handle her accident well and went nuts at the mess in the bathroom and she seemed quite shocked too.

Theres been a few times when they're both at it and I've wanted to find the pause button just for a few minutes. We do a lot of 'isn't baby lucky to have a big sister like you?!' stuff to big her up. Can you reason with her, in a sort of 'what do you want me to say?' way? I resort to that when exasperated and dd1 doesn't usually have an answer or if she does we can discuss it - like why we can't send dd2 to stay at Grandma's! And does her teacher have any ideas?
It sounds like you're doing all the right stuff to me and I'm sorry I don't have any better advice - just wanted you to know you're not alone, they're sent to try us alright. Btw I stick my velcro baba into my baby bjorn. It makes my back ache but stops her getting upset and I can get on. Big hugs and to you from knackered Kitty.

Oh fish you just described my 3yo!! I get the 'where are we going today?' 'where's my treat?' Plus about 900 other questions that result in an emotional meltdown if the answer is not using the exact words she wants to hear or with the correct facial expression.

However dd likes to lash out during these meltdowns.

We had to re-introduce the reward chart as she had started to wet herself. And we removed about 70% of her toys as well. Bedtime is her worst, if she misbehaves she doesn't get a story. And if she gets out of bed more than twice then the gate gets closed. We put the babygate back up as her getting out of bed was getting rediculous.

It's soo fricken hard isn't it?!

Fish, T is now six and a half weeks and having started life as a velcro he's now becoming a little less clingy, i.e. happier to lie in his pram/on the bed/in the baby-gym watching the world go by, rather than demanding to be held whenever he's awake. That said, I also make frequent use of a pouch (rather than sling - more womb-like) He seems to be physically incapable of crying while in it, even if awake :)

Dd is 100% Velcro baby in the evenings and we're going through a phase where she won't settle in her bednest at night, only right next to me. Am suuuuper tired at the moment; I think I'd kill for a night off!

Fish DD is now 2 months and starting to be less clingy. She will actually sleep in her Moses basket on occasion now, after clocking hours and hours of sleeping in M&D's arms. She slept from 10-2 and 3-6, which is a first. Hoping for a repeat performance tonight!

Ghost, what's a bed nest, is it like a hammock??

A bed nest is like a side car for your bed!

Just marking my place - I lost the link....

I spoke to soon about DD being less clingy. She's reclaimed Velcro baby status, and her penchant for being awake most of the night. We got 3.5 hours sleep between 8pm and 8am. The rest of those hours were spent feeding/rocking/soothing/giving her her dummy (repeat, repeat)/holding breath when she drifted off to see if she'd stay asleep (answer usually no). Tonight, so far, has been even worse. Lots of screaming and crying despite soothing bathtime, stories, lullabies, classical music.....gah! Hopefully all angst is out of her system now and the night will improve.
How is everyone else? Oeisha, you doing ok? How's your Velcro baby, ghosteditor? Fish, things getting any easier??

anyone on here not on the fb page and still wants to be please pm me your FB name and i'll add you.

consort i'm having a good week so far, Jago is being quite easy today, he's currently on his third nap in the swing chair.

I have name changed cos my other one was boring (not that this is exciting).

I was Shevi

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Fish I've heard good things about swing chairs...3 naps in one day is just rubbing it in. Apart from in her pram she won't sleep more than 30 minutes usually.
I'm not on fb - is that where eveyone is migrating to? Is Oeisha doing ok?
I want cheesecake now and it's far too late.

Knittie-Jago only sleeps for about 40-45 mins at a time. No such luck this morning ten min nap so far and he's so tired :(

do you have a FB account? If so just PM your real name and i'll add you-it's a lot more active than on here nowadays.

Fish - I did wonder where everyone had gone. I'll look into joining fb - it looks like a lot of work but suppose it can't be that bad! Btw what is PM? Think I've turned technophobe when I wasn't looking...

PM is private message
You should come over and join us knittie, it doesnt take too long to get the hang of it

knittie I'm ok thanks! Getting there...slowly...Snufflix is teething, she's obviously having a leap, and is just grizzly, grumpy and generally rageful today - poor sweetie. I'm in for a fun night methinks.
Time to get Gizzard in...he escaped when we went to look at the Venus and Jupiter.

DD just had her eight week jabs today - poor little poppet, her face just crumpled up, and I was all (not confused but wobbly faced). She was fine within
a few mins but I think it'll take me a bit longer to recover!

Ghost Dd2 had her 12 week jabs today and she did cry out briefly this time but settled again almost instantly. Presume my darling has thighs so chubby they laugh at needles. I really appreciate our clinic's 2 nurses synchronising the jabs in one go, it's much quicker. She's been more unsettled this time and has yowled for most of the day. She is keen on Calpol and was licking the spoon - v cute!
Sho and Fish You've encouraged me, I'll take the fb plunge next week when I should have some quiet days.

Oeisha glad you're ok. I can see dd2's bottom two teeth through her gums too - bit early but she doesn't seem bothered. Our garden is bathed in orange streetlight and I've given up trying to see any night sky - shame.

Ow - sore boob :(
any ideas? mn thread

Happy mother's day ladies!

[bunch] and

I know, freaky isn't it!

Dh made a huge fuss of me, ds just made a huge fuss. Suspect stomach ache is the culprit as he's been screaming all morning so I didn't get to go to the mothers day church service like I wanted. It's so distressing hearing him scream like that. Plus I've so been looking phwoar to a lovely cosy family day with him and dh. Would have chosen a happy baby over the pot plant and chocolate and special breakfast :( Still, he's sleeping now bless him. What are all you up to today?

Have we heard from Peanuts/Wilbur at all? My mind can't remember whether we have or not. I hope everything's ok.

Not for a long time oeisha.