Jan 2012 - Higgs Boson Gang pt1

[Oeisha]

Link to antenatal thread for convenience

Not a very good title, but it will suffice 'til we fill this one in record time!

Congratulations to all that have popped so far!

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[tired-face]

Ditto [tired-face].

consort have you tried lying her on her side or belly i know i know my friend swears that lying her dd on her front is the only way that she settles. Monitored constantly obviously.

A hot for everyone x

[tired face] here too.

Sho yep I was putting her down on her tummy as that's the only way she would settle. I have a baby breathing monitor, watched her closely and also didn't try this until she had the strength to turn her head. Then in the last fortnight she suddenly started to be happier on her back. I was relieved as there's a lower SIDS risk etc. Except now she won't settle on her stomach, just turns her head wildly or pecks at the mattress like a woodpecker, and wakes up when I put her down on her back. She's 8 weeks tomorrow. Just keep hoping that her sleep issues improve soon. We have tried it all, including weekly osteo treatments. The only thing we haven't done is buy a swing. My niece will only sleep in a swing but DD won't sleep in her bouncy chair even when I rock it so I have the feeling that a swing would just be a waste of money. Kind of just venting here, thanks for listening.

Sorry consort I hope she starts to settle better for you soon. ((hugs))

Got our 8 week appt tomorrow. Am dreading it. The thought of watching someone stab my poor little boy again is worse than the thought of someone doing it to me :(

Cakes, ours is next week and I'm dreading it too - I don't even especially dislike needles but I go all tiger mother at the thought of someone making J cry

You will be fine ladies. Just concentrate on making sure your Lo doesn't wriggle and don't look. In fact some hcp will encourage you to bf as a comfort to baby while it happens.
Remember that its easier to comfort baby when your not in distress. X

What happens at the 6wks appointment. Snufflix has hers on 16th...and then her jabs the week after.
Also, I mentioned my post-natal appointment to Mum and she said "oh, you poor thing, it's hideous" but wouldn't elaborate!...mental, or is something unexpected going to happen?
Bleeding again, felt period pain last night - but very mildly, so I guess that's it. My hormones have kicked in. Would explain the drop in milk production today and yesterday.

I thought post natal appt was just a physical check up to make sure any stitches etc are healing ok and to discuss contraception. Am much more concerned about needles being stabbed in my precious boy and hoping desperately that all studies showing links with autism etc are bollocks

J and I had a joint six week check up. I've been seeing the GP routinely because of my BP, but my part of the appt consisted of him asking if I'd thought about contraception and asking if I had post-natal depression. He took my BP, and that was it - no physical exam or belly prodding . With J he checked eyes, heart, lungs, reflexes, belly, and hips. Apparently some babies cry at the hip check but J wasn't fussed. The stuff to be checked is in the red book. So certainly in my district it's definitely nothing to worry about.

DD and I had six week appt together. GP just asked me about contraception, that was the extent of my bit then he checked DD's hips, mouth, spine, reflexes etc. All checked out fine. I asked if DD needed to have jabs at 8 weeks or if I could wait until she was a bit older and he said that was fine.

For those of you wondering about Postnatal check-ups:

Some areas do 6 week check-ups which are an MOT, weight and measure for baby and BP check, contraception talk and mental health check for Mum. First jabs usually come a week or 2 afterwards. Our area do 8 week check up where they do all of the above and the jabs.
I do recommend breastfeeding your child through it if you are breastfeeding. I did it with dd and she barely noticed. I also got the best sleep out of her ever that day. Have some calpol in stock at home in case of post immunisation tetchiness-they do recommend you don't give it any more for post jabs but bollocks to that IMHO. If my child is in pain from the jab or feels under the weather then I'm not going to let them suffer.

If you have a homoeopathic chemist nearby then there are some homoeopathic remedies that can help with immunisations. My dd had Thuja 6c for a few days before and after and she seemed to do well on it and didn't suffer much. I am going to get some for DS today.

Thanks guys!
I'm not looking forward to the jabs either...but, well, I'm totally pro-immunisation, so needs must.
Oddly, the only thing I've been advised against with them is a profolactic dose of calpol... but to wait and see if symptoms develop to avoid masking reactions.
I did think my Mum was just being mental re:my assessment. She emailed me the same pics of Snufflix I'd sent her the day before...in a separate email, just to me...not a round-robin...mental...

Anyone heard from peanuts? I feel sick with worry after her post about wilbur and now nothing.I can't help but think the worst. There's nothing on fb from her since Jan.

Ugh. First baby jabs today. Was horrific. Baby Cakes got so so upset, but what was worse than the screams were the pitiful little whimpers and sobs afterwards as he tried to feed - and then they did the other leg! I was nearly in tears myself :(

Ps if you feed through it make sure you have a muslin to hand. Baby Cakes pulled away from the breast screaming and milk went everywhere :(

Oh gods. DH is tired and stroppy. I know he's struggling too, (he's self-regulating bi-polar, tired and stressed, going to docs next week) but he just doesn't get that right now Snufflix just wants attention...holding, cuddling, contstant playing attention...this is what she's been like ALL DAY...and he's just had about an hours worth to deal with and has just lost it and sworn at her. Should go and rescue her, but he's doing a nappy change...in the hopes that that's what's wrong. It's not. She just wants cuddles and fussing...

Baby cakes improved at about 7pm, cheered up a lot and sat happily in his bouncy chair smiling as he was adored by his public...

Oeisha funny how mums know what the LO needs. I have to tell DH sometimes because he'll be trying to calm DD with Y when it's clear (to me) that she wants X.
Tough night here. The usual, DD won't go to sleep. It is like someone hits a switch every night and suddenly she's wide awake. DH and I are so tired. Nearly 60 days of battling to get her to sleep each night...so please forgive the sometimes whiney late night posts. Just dreaming of a little more sleep for all of us.

Argh, the jabs. T had his on Tuesday (they do them at 6 weeks here) Cakes, I did cry, and the rather suave paed. looked at me as if I was mad.

Also - T has an ingrown toenail! Appeared out of nowhere (I think??) Looks really sore (swollen), although it doesn't seem to be bothering him all that much. Feel like the worst parent in the world :( Does anyone have any tips for treatment? Am going to soak it in hot water and then try to cut the nail back, but think I'd better wait until DH gets home - looks like a two-man job. In the meantime have slathered it in antibacterial ointment.

I wouldn't risk playing with his toenail Capybara and would see Dr or HV instead in case you make it worse - poor love at least he's not bothered, thats the main thing. But then I am very squeamish. My Dh lost most of his big toenails when he was a kid playing football and they still cause him problems sometimes. They had 2 nurses for our jabs so they did a leg each at the same time to minimise distress - I was so impressed!

We've finally cracked sleeping through (touch wood) and for the past week DD2 has been sleeping from 7.30pm to 11pm when I change and feed her, then through til 6.30am/7am when Dh gets her feed ready. I feel so much better for the stretch of sleep although I still doze off in the evenings. I can't cope without sleep and getting a bit of a routine going keeps me much less grumpy.
I went to a tots group this week and DD2 stayed awake nodding on my lap throughout. It was so loud (30 pre-schoolers dancing) but the best bit was nice mum's to gossip with and tea and cake. So nice to get out somewhere other than supermarket.

I've just changed third glastonbury nappy of the day and realised I sound like I'm bragging about sleeping through - sorry, not meant at all and I'm on tenterhooks every evening to see if she'll oblige or not.

I've also found that she prefers to be held face down dribbling into my elbow. Not sure why but she instantly stops yowling if I flip her and she then contentedly gums and dribbles. It feels weird though, funny little thing.

Thanks Kitty - you were probably right about seeing a Dr, but DH (who is the eldest of six and made of sterner stuff than me) tackled the problem last night and seems to have managed to lift the nail away from the skin and relieve the swelling. Something to keep an eye on from now on!

Toenails apart, extremely jealous of your sleeping through :)