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Jan 2012 - Higgs Boson Gang pt1

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Oeisha · 10/01/2012 22:09

Link to antenatal thread for convenience

Not a very good title, but it will suffice 'til we fill this one in record time!

Congratulations to all that have popped so far! Thanks Bear

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fishandlilacs · 20/02/2012 14:41

oh..any new members want to join the facebook group please PM me your facebook name or email and i'll add you.

mightyma · 20/02/2012 15:02

Thank you for the advise abeautifulbutterfly. Sorry, haven't been on here for a few days now... I tried a couple of times to give her a dummy but she just doesn't want to take it. So at the moment it goes without, but quite hard to get her back to sleep after a night feed... since my last post we had a little bit of improvement. i am now able to put her in her cot while she is still half awake. she falls asleep, sleps a couple of hours, then wakes up for her first night feed. after that she just doesn't want to go back to sleep in her cot and does most of the time end up in bed with us as i can't keep my eyes open until she falls asleep. not ideal but we both get a bit of a rest.
@ mummyzoe2012 my breast only seem to be leaking when the time is near for a feed and baby is crying. also unstoppable leaking when i get out the shower. Odd!

Consort · 20/02/2012 15:48

Welcome klinda. I had a fast labour too. Less than 1.5 hour but my midwife did just make it! DD is now 6 weeks old and a very high maintenance madam. Not sure I'd cope very well if I also had other young children. DD1 is 14 so I don't have to do very much for her, obviously...

MissRee · 20/02/2012 18:49

Welcome Klinda Grin

We had peegate and poomageddon this morning - 2 changes of clothes for Freya before lunchtime Hmm

ParsleyLion1 · 20/02/2012 19:41

welcome klinda :)

Oeisha · 20/02/2012 21:36

fish I hope you're having a better time of it now. I know the feeling re: hell-bubbles.

dee Confused I hope the test comes back false pos.

consort Oh how terrible! to then be given such shit advice from a HCP doesn't help either. Thanks for sharing...thankfully my mastitis isn't caused by cysts...see below if you want details.

Welcome klinda.

mightyma the shower-leaking thing...it's marvellous. It's actually been a blessing the last few days...and welcome! I don't remeber saying hi to you before...but then I am exceedinyl exhausted mentally right now.

MY SHIT: feel free to ignore:
So, it all went literally tits-up.
Admitted to hospital Friday with another bout of mastitis as I couldn't tollerate oral ABs. Finally been 'let out' today.

Thankfully it wasn't/isn't cyst-driven mastitis, so I didn't need surgery, but my breast swelled significantly.

Ended up with a very, very high temp causing rigors (violent enough to move the bed) for about 14h and at one point had 3 doctors 2 nurses a err, HCA and my MIL (mopping my head), all of them regularly saying "you're going to be ok" (which, combined with the readings I could see and the look on MIL's face, meant "holy-shiiiiit this shouldn't be happening"), whilst they held me down to take bloods and whack me on a CTG as my heartrate plummited...so, yes, it's been great.

I ws on 3 different IV antibiotics, so whatever it was, they hit it HARD and that seems to have worked well. Am now only on Augmentin orally.

Off to the breast clinic next Monday for a review, but they've told me to wear decent underwired bras, as the mastitis isn't being caused by blocked ducts etc and being a K cup, the weight of the breasts is making it all worse so a decent bra is needed.

Needless to say, any spirit for fighting to BF I had, has been destroyed (partly because they said this would probably happen again, maybe not so badly) and thanks to DH looking after Snufflix at home, she's going to be exclusively FF (I might save some of the expressed and freezer it for a 1 a day feed), so I can cut back the expressing.

I also def. need help with the birth/my sanity. I ended up being transferred from surgical admissions, where I was already fairly mental with guilt for abandoning my DH and not missing/wanting to see Snufflix at all...
...to be wheeled in to the Women's Unit and start having horrid flashbacks to the many times in pregnancy I went in and, the birth, and the stay on maternity too...I did however promise the nice exceedingly sexy doctor I wouldn't top myself, so I couldn't possibly let him down now, could I. Wink

Now I'm having bouts of OK (as in able to not cry and joke about being so bat-shit mental) interspersed with bouts of sobbing uncontrollably....especially when some well-meaning person had just finished talking to me about how much I must be missing/love my baby...or post-flashback.

I can't face the GP tomorrow, so will go to the alloted appointment on Wed. The doctors in hospital all agreed with me that I blatantly have PND and should get treated asap, so that's something. At least if they want to drug me with something unsuitable for BF then they can.

Now I've just got the challenge of having to get back to dealing with Snufflix allover again. DH is off work tomorrow, but really can't take any more time, so will be back to me and Snufflix most of the time. Oh well...I guess I'll be fine.

DH bumped into HV in morrison's so she's appraised and will no doubts want to come visit and throw all the support at me she can.

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MissRee · 20/02/2012 21:46

Glad you're on the mend health-wise Oeisha and that at least some HCPs have acknowledged your PND. Hopefully now your GP will take note and get you some appropriate support/medication.

ParsleyLion1 · 20/02/2012 22:30

oeisha ((((hugs)))) how awful. As you say at some level, the BF decision is out of your hands now so that is one less stress I suppose. Just need your GP to sort you out for the PND ASAP xx

fishandlilacs · 20/02/2012 22:57

Oeisha-i was laying in bed thinking about how you have been absent from the thread a few days. I was getting a bit concerned, but i am glad that you are out and on the mend.

Flashbacks are horrible-I so know where you are-I never had such health issues as you are having right now but my head was there-exactly as you describe. Every time i lay in bed i relived the awful painful forceps attempts and the alien abduction that was my EMCS the first time.

It sounds cliched, it sounds trite to anyone where you are now but it WILL pass, know that it will and hold onto it for dear life because it will. I promise you. I know it feels mentally you are in a living hell, terrified of your baby, wanting to sleep but jerking awake with fear and sweat over the birth. For months every time i closed my eyes I could see hospital curtains round my bed. Hear the beeping of the call button in my head. It took 14 months, a damn good physchiatric nurse and and 4 month course of seroxet and 14 months of sleeping pills before I got past it. Strangely enough my expereince with my boy has been healing too. I wish i had got help earlier the first time round.

I am glad they are lstening to you and you can start getting the help you need x

shonnomanom · 20/02/2012 23:14

So glad that health is now ok oiesha, I was really starting to worry about your absence. ((hugs)) Now, time to shoot a gun up your GP's arse and get the help he should have gave you weeks ago. There is light for you and remember we are all here for you Thanks

Welcome Newbies!

Feeling quite teary eyed after reading the thread about which song people had as their first dance. Got some great ideas. So just need to find a venue, a dress, a date and oh yeah money. Its a fricken exspensive experience this wedding malarky. As much as I dont like, it im having to face up to the idea that we simply cannot afford to do it before my brother immigrates in September. So the #1 feature of any venue must be WiFi so we can Skype the ceremony.

Hope your all well and get some sort of solid sleep tonight x

Ps got Charlie's 8 week review appointment in today (6March), scary stuff, cant believe he is 5 weeks old already

Consort · 20/02/2012 23:25

oeisha god sounds like you've had a hell of a time. Glad you got proper treatment for mastitis and taking you seriously for the PND. Keep talking, I'm sure that helps. Glad you are back, and thanks for your kind words. It was bloody awful :(

Consort · 21/02/2012 01:49

Please send some patience. DD has been screaming at top of her lungs for nearly 4 hours. Six weeks on I really just want to find a way to fix this and get some sleep. :(

ParsleyLion1 · 21/02/2012 06:55

I hope it calmed down for you consort Sad

Wormshuffler · 21/02/2012 07:27

My word! I never knew mastitis could do that! Sounds horrific. I will definately see to getting myself some decent bra's. Preently I am in sports bras.
Look after yourself oeisha I hope DH is able to have time off in order to give you the support you need and that you are able to get through the PND quickly. xxxx

Oeisha · 21/02/2012 13:09

worm...put it this way, they kept checking me for rashes that wouldn't dissapear under pressure...and I was lucky as there are no cysts/blockages so no surgery...

consort You never know. things might calm after the 6wks growth spurt...maybe?!

sho sounds like you know what you want, but I didn't have a first dance as we didn't have a 'reception' (the though of having to do that, ergh, no...not me at all)...just close family and friends round us, a nice meal and then basically sitting in a pub and then going for a curry. It was so nice and relaxed. Kinda like a good day out with family, in frocks...and a slightly still-pissed-from-the-night-before registrar.

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Consort · 21/02/2012 13:11

Thanks Parsley DD finally calmed down and went to sleep at 4am. She's happy as a lark this morning.
Oeisha, hope things ok today. xx

Consort · 21/02/2012 13:16

Posted at same time as you, Oeisha love sound of your wedding. We got married on a beach. Everyone stood around us then sat on beach blankets or chairs they brought afterwards. We had curry and champagne delivered to the beach. Very simple but nice.
Very much hope you are right about things getting better after 6 weeks, although she's otherwise healthy for which I am very very grateful. Hugs back to you.

ghosteditor · 21/02/2012 14:19

Hey ladies, another fan of a simple wedding here - we had a beautiful ceremony with 15 guests (despite massive extended families on both sides) and then a huge party in a pub for friends and the rest of the family.

Sorry to hear that so many of you are having hard times. I think we're have a pretty easy baby here, but she's so grizzly today, no idea what's changed. She's just fallen asleep to Gilmore Girls music - we've watched almost four seasons since she was born so it must be very familiar!

We're trialling reusable nappies today as we got a good deal on the Bumgenius Flip covers and inserts, hope they work out! We didn't buy a full set, just a few inserts to try. Anyone else using them at this stage?

MakesCakesWhenStressed · 21/02/2012 16:07

Ouch. Pjysio appt for pgp today, it's made everything (hopefully only temporarily) much worse. Very uncomfortable siting to feed now. Bah.

Ps - I read what the rest of you write, I send god thoughts, but find it hard to type on my phone, plus there's some stuff taking up my head space here, but I am thinking of you all.

shonnomanom · 21/02/2012 17:29

I love the idea of a small simple wedding. And would be really happy with a registry office and a meal. We could just about afford that before September I'm sure. Dp has changed his tune after all these years and wants a bigger event.
Have even found 2 lovely shift style dresses that would be great for a small wedding.
Had Ds at the hv today to get weighed (12l 9.5oz @ 5w) she said we could put baby vicks in hot water next to him, but not on his skin until he's 3m. He is currently lying with belly hanging out because his button isn't healing properly.

shonnomanom · 21/02/2012 17:32

cakes I was really sore after my 1st postnatal physio appointment for a few days but then I was great afterwards. Hope your the same x

mightyma · 21/02/2012 17:38

oeisha i hope you're feeling better soon.

fishandlilacs · 21/02/2012 20:49

You guys having physio-was that for SPD? I haven't had too much trouble with my hips since J was born, but I find they are sore when i lay on my side in bed for too long and of course co-sleeping means I spend a lot of time on my side in bed!

How does one begin a routine? DH and I cannot remember for the life of us what we did with DD-I don't think we started one til she was weaned but we may need to with jago-he seems to want to go to bed at around 8pm-otherwise we get 3 hours of the screamathon. I started taking him up for a wash and change of nappy and sleepsuit at the same time we do DD's bedtime tonight. i am hoping that will sort of set the process in motion.

Also dummies-how in the hell do you get your child to take one? I really think he wuold benefit-he did for about 5 minutes a week or so ago but i have been trying ever since and he just pushes it out-even if i hold it in for a bit he doesn't suck. yet i take it out and his fist is sucked to death-loudly!! I'd rather he sucked a dummy than his fist.

MakesCakesWhenStressed · 22/02/2012 06:49

Yup, pjysio is for PGP - the c sec actually seems to have aggravated it :(

Baby Cakes' cold finally seems to have cleared up so he slept a lot better and dh and I have worked out a way for me to get a bit more sleep...though I woke up for the feed anyway, but at least dh is doing all the other bits (nappy change, winding, settling etc) until midnight, then it's my shift. So nice to spend more time horizontal in my bed! (as opposed to upright on the sofa)

ghosteditor · 22/02/2012 08:38

Well, I take it all back, worst night ever with DD. she yelled until 03.30 Sad. Unfortunately I have to be at the GP early this morning so couldn't sleep in.

She fed continually after midnight until there was no milk at all, and wouldn't be put down - tried a dummy which bought a few minutes' peace, tried letting her sleep on me, but she screamed as soon as I moved her to her bed. Then DH tried to help but he fell asleep within 2 mins of putting her on his chest, so of course I had to stay awake so he didn't squash her. Feel like a zombie this morning. How on earth do you do it?!