Jan 2012 - Higgs Boson Gang pt1

[Oeisha]

Link to antenatal thread for convenience

Not a very good title, but it will suffice 'til we fill this one in record time!

Congratulations to all that have popped so far!

I really can't do this being a Mummy thing. I can't. Someone please take away my baby... Mastitis again. Can't keep anything down...so no analgesia. I'm now afraid to express too. Good thing we still had loads of formula in. Waiting for a doctor to come out and see me. Neither of us has slept.

Oh sweetheart, you poor thing . Did the doc help? Having mastitis is nothing to do with your ability to be a mum. That's all about what you teach your child. Hugs x x

And the love you give them

Oeisha have you spoken to the Dr or HIV about pnd? (Appoligies if you have I've not read the whole thread) but it really sounds like you need more support.
Ap

Hugs oeisha- time to go back to the GP and insist on a bit more help I think xx

oeisha get thee back to docs. Hugs

I too am waiting for doc to come out-hot shivering coughing sicking up and wound is sore and bleeding bright red and heavy.

DH really poorly too but holding it together.

I feel like someone has designed a little bubble of hell just for my family.

Welcome mumnos

Hope everyone including yourself are feeling better in the fish house

o I hope the anti-b's are helping your boobs and that your getting some sleep today. Have you spoke to your oh about your feelings towards being a mum? I know everyone says that its hard just now and gets better. But that is the truth. As Abi becomes less demanding and you start to feel human again you will find things a lot easier to handle. Things that seem like the end of world today will seem trivial another day.
Don't make any hard fast decisions with out thoroughly discussing it with your dh. ((hugs))

Hugs to everyone feeling poorly and/or down

I feel a bit bad about posting this now with so many of you suffering but Freya slept from 10.30 until 6.30 happy, well slept Ree today!

Mornin all. Sorry 2 hear some of you are poorly or down.
If you're worrying about being a good mum then you already are. Good mums worry bad mums dont care. Have you tried cold cabbage leaves on your bra. Sounds gross but helped me with last dc. Didnt have mastitis though just v. Sore x

Welcome mumnos

Sorry to hear the sick fish householdcontinues this too shall pass( is it possible to wear out a mantra? ) hugs to you all.

oeisha hope the abs kick in soon re the suspected PND - definitely back to the GP. I think you've done the keeping an eye on it for a couple of weeks.

missree great news for you and Freya I want this....

this too shall pass.........doing a damn good job of trying to wear it out parsley.

Just heard that norovirus has closed 12 wards at worcester hospital-i reckon were all so ill because we have been there recently.

oeisha i felt exactly as you do with DD-I remember cuddling dh on the bed and crying that I didn't deserve to be a mum to my baby girl, she was too beautiful and precious to be looked after by a self indulgent unworthy me. I was a terrible mother and I wanted her adopted. It is PND talking, it is not you and those thoughts are unfounded. You can and will get past this with support and help. Don't be fobbed off by your doctor, you need more support from them.

I am hovvering on the brink of PND again-I feel as if anything else happened right now i could so easiy spiral down-I feel like theres some demon on my back trying to send me there on purpose. i keep crying. But I am also trying to remember these are some extreme circs my little household is going through.

ree thats good-you feel so much more human. i cant wait til this illness is over and things get more settled again.

We got discharged from the midwife on monday. Yesterday out of the blue midwife turned up at the door saying we'd tested positive for cf on the heel prick test and they needed to repeat it.
Then they said DD might have cf, might be a carrier or the test might not have been done right/been a false positive.
They couldn't tell me when we'd get the repeat test back but they'd put urgent on it. I'm assuming we won't hear anything till next week at least.
Can't stand not knowing and just keep thinking the worst and bursting into tears. I just want her to be well.

dawnofthedee I hope they process the test results urgently for you. So sorry you are having this worry, and hope and pray that all will be well.

Oeisha I've had mastitis twice, really feel for you. The first was with my eldest daughter and was able to clear it up with covering the breast and nipple in potato peel (this is supposed to draw out the infection), and also soaking in a hot tub while manually working out the clogged milk duct. Extremely painful to do, but it did clear. The second time was with DD2. This was by far the worst as DD2 died at birth, so there I was with a broken heart, empty arms and a severely infected breast. The visiting midwife told me not to worry that it would clear. Cow was very wrong. Ended up with a near abcess that required extremely strong ab's and took months to heal. Glad you are getting it seen to sooner rather than later as these things can get much worse. So far with youngest DD breasts are ok, but I'll jump on it straight away if any signs of mastitis
also hope you get support for your concerns. I echo what was already said, bad mums don't care.
Great news Ree. I'm envious, but very happy for you!! May this be the start of a trend.
fish hope that little bubble of hell bursts soon, with everyone feeling better. Hugs.
xxxxx

Oh dee what a worry while you have to wait

Thinking and wishing it will be ok for you. ((hugs)) xx

Do we have some sort of bad luck fairy after us? dee i'm so sorry to hear of your worries. Throws my troubles into perspective.

Dee I hope the results come back ok for you.
Fish, I hope your household feels better soon, you've really been through the wars.
Consort, I can't imagine how horrible that must have been. :(

Welcome Mumnos and Ree - you've given me hope for a good nights sleep at some point! :)

had my implant fitted today. The local anaesthetic has worn off now and it's a bit sore

For whoever asked about removal, they use local anaesthetic and make a small incision to remove it!

Visited a friend today and Freya projectile vommed everywhere luckily I had a change of clothes for her! Unfortunately, I had to sit in puke covered clothes!!

Routine question. How many of you are following a routine? I tried to put one in place in recent weeks following EASY in the day, and then bedtime routine with bath/stories/lullabies. To say it didn't work is the understatement of the year. So why at between 5 and 6 weeks am I trying again? Well because 3 nights ago DD went to sleep at 3:30, the next night got her settled at 6 am and last night got her settled at 4:30 am and she slept until 8:30 am. While four hours isn't bad, I'm pretty sick and tired of having to be awake all night every night.
So at 6:30 I bathed DD, got her into pyjamas, read Goodnight Moon to her, sang her lullabies and rocked her. By 7:30 I had settled her in her bassinet. Good, right? Not so fast! By 8pm she was awake. I'm now sitting here breastfeeding her and wondering a) how long until I get her settled again: b) then for how long; and c)when will I get her to sleep in the evening in 3-4 hour increments? I'm not asking for much, really, and it has been nearly 6 weeks. This overtired mum really needs things to settle down before she becomes a total crackpot!

ree that happened to me the other day, had to drive 30mins home soaked in puke right through to my bra.

Fingers and toes crossed for a false positive dee

So sorry to hear of your angel consort

It's too easy to slip into the negatives these days. I'm trying to focus on the positive and make this year a great one.
Oh I'm proper tearing up just thinking about how different life will be when this year is finished. :(

Dee I hope it is a false positive. I am a CF carrier and my cousin has CF. Me and DH had to have genetic testing before trying for a baby. I didn't think the heel prick could detect if you carry the gene as it is done with saliva and both my children need to be tested when they are older to see if they carry it. Have you been offered a sweat test or genetic test for her? I know this is odd but does her skin taste salty? People with CF have more salt in their sweat (hence why they do sweat testing).

Mornin all. Hope things are looking up for everyone x

Ok my happy bubble has finally popped. DH and Ds have jus come home arguing cos ds was being rude not answerin dh. Guess whos fault it is. Apparently he doesnt respect dh cos i dont.
So dh has stormed off to pub (helpful), ds is sobbin in room. Dd2 wont settle or sstop bf this morn,dd1 is asking y daddy is cross n me... I want to shut myself away n cry :(

Sorry 4 the rant but no1 else to talk to as im sofa bound

((hugs)) mumnos hopefully they'll all come round once they have finished their strops. Am also sofa bound this morning. She keeps falling asleep on me but waking within 5 mins of me moving her.

Thanks. Bet theres hundreds of us sat on sofas all the same. I like to imagine every1 else also has an overflowing wash basket and sink and cant see the floor for all the toys. If not plse dont tell me :)

How do you know what my house looks like?