Jan 2012 - Higgs Boson Gang pt1

[Oeisha]

Link to antenatal thread for convenience

Not a very good title, but it will suffice 'til we fill this one in record time!

Congratulations to all that have popped so far!

(( hugs )) to fishandlilacs....you re absol none of the above x

Cheers debs :)

If we are doing the slapping ourselves with wet fishes punishment thing today though my best effort is today my thoughts are i am a fat lazy wobbly belly mummy who can't be bothered to diet and am doomed to a lifetime of elasticated wasitbands, husband works away so not able to comment on crapness as wife but as for mummy qualities, have dumped youngest on bed upstairs with no baby monitor on....and crawled downstairs ( hips still not working )...

Oh debs xxxxxx

Can I just have a quick rant - nothing like other people's issues today but feeling suprisingly miserable about it.

Went to breast feeding cafe this morning - big trip out for us, can't drive yet and recovering section. Cafe is 40 mins walk away at the local ymca. Got there and the lady on reception looked at me as if I was daft and said it was term time only and closed for half term :( When I asked how I was supposed to know when term time was, she said when schools were in term - not helpful if child not school age. She told me to look on the internet. I could have cried - and did a bit on the way out. I didn't realise how much I'd been banking on talking to somebody to help us with our latch today and meeting some RL mums :(

pars- thats rubbish, i feel for you lovely. What a shame. the walk will have done you good though at least, not much consolation xxxxx

addicted that's exactly how I feel. DD1 is either really clingy or trying to smother "help" with DD2 and I just end up telling her off all the time. It doesn't help that DH is working late at the mo, and DD2 manages to time her inconsolable crying to clash with me trying to read DD1 her bedtime stories/bath. Poor DD1 looked so miserable last night after I had to go check DD2 that it made me so sad. I really don't know what to do about it - I'm trying to involve DD1 in nappy changes and the like, and I'm sure she'll come round soon, but I feel so bad for her in the meantime!

Parsley what a shame - but as fish said, it's good to have got out of the house, I suppose. I guess most groups are off this week for that reason, but that doesn't help. Could you call your local NCT and see if they have any local meet ups? I don't think you have to be a member to go to their baby get togethers.

debs my youngest spends a lot of time upstairs as well, with no monitor. Glad I'm not alone!

Can I just add my frustrations to the general blues on here? DD3 is doing that thing that all my babies have done and always frustrates me: she will latch on, suck once or a few times, and then fall asleep. So after I have tried all the tricks like nappy change, tickling toes, taking layers off to make her cooler, I give up and wait till she looks like she's in a deep sleep and lift her off me. So she wakes up and rootles.SO I put her to the breast, so she sucks once or twice and falls asleep. SO I wait till she's in a deep sleep and lift her off me. SO she wakes up and rootles inconsolably. Repeat ad nauseam.
From 7 am, when she had a relatively decent feed, that was how she ate all morning until she fell into a deep dummy-induced sleep and slept till 1 pm. Ate one breast, stayed awake a bit, then fell asleep again and is still asleep now at 4.15 pm. Logically I know she's OK, lots of wet/dirty nappies, is visibly putting on weight, but I just feel so ineffective and everybody says: ooh, you must keep her awake until she's taken a proper feed. ANd it can't be good for the post-mastitis breasts...

So sorry to hear everyone's blues. ((hugs))
Fryn - my oh works nights and so is shouldnt be away for the bedtime routine so iv started to take bubba in with me for story time. I encourage dd to find a story that she thinks Ds would like to hear. Apparently he is a big Cinderella fan!

My blues rant - why do people think that because your on mat leave you have lots of free time?! When in between 'trying' to run a house, care for a grumpy/emotional yet poorly 3yo, care for a 4wo and recover from giving birth whilst having a tear jerker of a sore back and a stiff pelvis am I supposed to be able to help other folk feel better about themselves when I can't even tell dp how pissed at him I am for crying.
My mum is so concerned about how my sister is coping with the twins that she doesn't even see what's happening with the daughter who she sees on a regular basis. For example, she travels once a week by bus to my sister, 1hr30m each way. Where as I'm 5mins away and she hasn't been here since her visit just after Charlie was born. We've been going to her.

Hugs to all x

I am a super grumpy cow as my hips are soooo painful that I really feel for my little boy as can't be as patient with him and he has to cope with newborn here to...the poor love!!! Bet he will be glad when it is back to school next week!! On the plus side, he has 2 lots of holiday club, 2 soccer training camps and cake making session Mon - Fri this week so he prob hasn't even realised mammy is a grumpy old cow!!! : ) Been having fun doing my intensive physio today ha ha suck tummy in and hold for 3 secs, let it all out again...and the lovely ' clench to hold in pump and wee' moves!!! By gum, my hips will be fixed in no time at this rate erm...not!!!! No running for me until at least July : (

Grrrrrr, I'm so p'd off at mil right now. Who rings a house with young children at 7pm I'd just got dd1 settled, dd2 was with dh who was settling her down, i was doing a wee and the phone rings. Dh was then juggling dd2 searching for the phone (dd1 had hid) I'm trying to finish weeing, it goes to answer phone so mil puts the phone down and rings AGAIN by this time dd1 is awake and crying as is dd2 who objected to being moved around so much. I've spent the last hour trying to settle dd1 back down as she doesn't want dh whilst listening to dd2 crying (which doesn't help dd1 settle as she doesnt like the crying) as dd2 didn't want dh either

To top it all off mil says its only a quick call as I can hear the girls crying, then spends 15 minutes on the phone whilst im saying I really need to go.

My darling mummy did last night too....she normally leaves an answer phone message too so then it rings with 121 about 5 times before goes to a text beep that I have a voicemail...so at least I have to be grateful that last night didn't get voicemail message tho ...just the mobile sparking to life milimetres from an only just sleeping DS1 and newborn arghhhh!!!!!! : )

Humm, both Mum and MIL do the "if you want us, just ring, we'll be there, anything you want, even if it's just to sleep for an hour" etc...
..but when I don't answer the phone, they both ring back repeatedly, at least every 1/2h...maybe I'm BLOODY WELL TRYING TO SLEEP!!!!
Concerned as Abi has twice refused to take my nipple. Gave in and whacked a shield on as she must have been so hungry, and frankly, I didn't want to deal with pain of her chewing manicly at that point, and she fed for an hour...I'm now worried that trying to get the latch pain-free each time has frightened her off my nipple a bit...

Yep - I've had a few of those calls as well. For some reason they are all from close family and friends with kids - who should all know better frankly...

We had our first non-stop grizzlefest yesterday evening (usually she just fusses rather than cries) :( We'd had a lovely day after our initial issues with the BF cafe. We went to my parents for the afternoon and she had lots of awake time and played on a playmat, practised rolling around and tummy time. Happy little girl - got home and non stop windy grizzles from 6pm to 11.30pm which was exhausting. OH and I ended up having a minor row as he'd been out for a drink with work and was later back than I expected and I hadn't been able to have any dinner. I just needed somebody to hold her for a bit.

To make up for it though she then slept until 4.30, went down again about 5.30 and is still asleep now.

morning all,

the fish household is a lot calmer today thank god. DD seems to have turned a corner in terms of her illness-we got her some antibitoics last night-she has a chest infection and possible urine infection but shes far brighter and better behaved today.

DS has chilled a lot-he's asleep in his bouncy chair right now-a couple of days ago he wouldn't sleep anywhere but on me.

DH is still flu ridden, Mum and dad are still down with D&V and my sister has managed to postpone her weekend away with no charge til end of march.

The bad news is that my wound has opened up again where the infection site was and it's infected again. My awful lochia which had stopped almost altogether after the progesterone has come back. Not as bad as it was but were back to blood again after it being only yellowy for a few days. Just goes to show that stress is not good for you.

I haven't had time to read back over posts but i hope everyone is having better days.

xxx

Butterfly, Seren does that too sometimes - I find changing her nappy wakes her up but I have to try as hard as possible to stop her falling asleep mid feed because that can go on for ages.

Re phone calls: it's not family that bug me, it's endless sales calls! I think we had a recycled number as we have lots of calls for a Mrs Watson too. So frustrating when you're just settling a little one.

Fish, sorry to hear you're unwell again but good news that the little one is well and your sister can postpone her trip. Hopefully now your stress levels will be lower you'll feel better too - take time to recover!

moobee Some mental old lady kept ringing us asking for Margaret...had been going on for about 3 years...turns out it was my estranged "grandmother" (we were never allowed to call her anything bar her name)...who just had the wrong numbers allocated in her speed-dial...

I'd forgotten what it was like to wear a bra that sort of FITS. Gone from wearing a 36J to odering and now wearing a 32K (they got it to me in under 24h)...OMG I feel so much more comfy...thank you Bravissimo!

fish glad things are looking camler...even if your infection is back - have you got antibiotics?...and excellent news for you sister.
My lochia has also almost gone...mainly yellowey/grey (probably blood, but looks grey mixed with the yellow). Which reminds me. Must look futher into contraception...tempted to go back on to cerazette as I suited it so well, but also DO NOT want to get pregnant again, so maybe the implant is the way forward?! Who knows. Can you have the implant taken out if it's all going tits-up???

I hope so Oeisha, I'm having mine fitted tomorrow! I'll definitely be asking the question so will let you know

We keep getting cold calls here, too, usually when i've just got a feed going and the phone is out of reach!

Had a good chat with the hv today. She let me talk o ut some of the birth trauma which is still bugging me and said if it's still an issue at 8 weeks then she's get me domme further support, but to see her again next week in the meantime and to call her if I need to. It was very helpful. She also backed my decision to do a late night formula feed so I can get a longer stretch of sleep. Will buy some formula tomorrow and experiment with having dh do the 1am feed

cakes. I used to give DD a formula feed in the evening. I think if you have any hint of PND/ birth trauma you have to do what you can. I hope it gets you a bit more sleep.

I can recommend hipp organic formula-lets put it this way if I had to drink formula it's the one i'd choose-it tastes a lot nicer than the others.

OH gods, someone's having a crying evening...and it's making my boobs hurt a lot...

Hi! Can I join you? I just scraped into January, had DD on 31st. Apart from a very sore and infected CS wound and feeling very sofa bound with a hungry BF baby, things are fine so far. Nothing in particular to say but nice to talk to people in the same boat :)

welcome mumnos, pull up sofa, have a cuppa and some tea tree oil for that wound (been there done that)

sorry not a warmer welcome, one handed typing with babe on shoulder.

oh gods, sore right boob, more than usual...please don't let me get mastitis again...
...Snufflix is finally a bit calmer...
...PND mentalling. Saw friend today (delayed from yesterday). It's so bloody difficult seeing people that instantly like my baby. Just reminds me how lacking I am. All I can think about is getting her adopted out...my family isn't ideal, as they both have very young babies themselves or are about to give birth...see...mental...

Hi mumnos, welcome, and sending hugs to those having a rough time.
As for phone calls, it is my dad that has a real knack for calling at just the wrong time. So often we are tempted to just not answer.
We've had DD seen by osteopath today. Too soon to know if it made any difference right away, but will report back if I notice improvement.
xxxx