Jan 2012 - Higgs Boson Gang pt1

[Oeisha]

Link to antenatal thread for convenience

Not a very good title, but it will suffice 'til we fill this one in record time!

Congratulations to all that have popped so far!

*undoes

Thanks - I've had it done on my back before but wasn't sure what the cranial osteopathy did for babies. I have another friend who swore by it when her son was a baby - he had bad reflux and fussiness but I didn't know the questions to ask then!

Have yyou seen your physio post birth frilly?
I saw mine last week and I'm feeling a lot better. Even slept on my right side for the first time since birth the other night. :)
My pelvis is better but its my back that's the worst, especially if iv been on my feet a while or holding Charlie for too long.

Hope everyone is ok x

I haven't got a physio anymore. I saw one every week until I moved at the end of October. I contacted the physio department at the new hospital and the only thing they would do is invite me to a group session about management. The session was at a time when I couldn't get childcare so I couldn't go.

Any FFers out there that just can't let go ofthe BF idea???
My urge to BF is just so bloody strong at points. Despite the mastitis I just can't let it go. Every time she wails I get tingly nipples and can feel them leak and every time I express the urge is just THERE. The increased volume with expressing isn't helping.

She's latched and fed for 10-15 again...but now seems ravenous...so am FF a bottle. Mostly out of one breast, but both are overdue an expressing and neither feel the need. I dunno. Maybe seeing the specialist will help, maybe I'm kidding myself and I'll be exactly where I am tonight again.
Why I'm persisting with torturing myself I don't know. Possibly because my supply's gone up again. Possibly because I'm just not capable of making a decision at the moment.

Cs girls... wrt dtd do you get/have a sore fanjo...? I don't know if it's mild thrush from all the abs, but i'm rather tender below despite the fact the birth didn't involve my undercarriage at all...

cakes i have had thrush and an allergic reaction to some pads. canesten cream sorted it.

haven't dtd though. mores the pity :(

Am having my contraceptive implant fitted next friday We have DTD a few times now but I'm massively paranoid about falling pregnant again... maybe a bit silly considering it took us over 2 years to fall with Freya!

yep - haven't dtd yet due to lochia but think i have mild thrush

Oeisha I'm FF exclusively now. I went from BF exclusively during week 1-2, then combination feeding during week 3-4 going from putting him on the breast to expressing it into a bottle. On week 5 (February 1st to be precise) I made the decision to stop giving him breast milk and go FF as I was finding it easier, more manageable and William loved it! I went from expressing 4 times a day in week 4 to expressing 3 times a day in week 5 then down to 2 and 1 and nothing. It's only taken 10 days but my breast are my own again! I didn't suffer with mastitis but I was engorged the first 2 days of missing out an express. I was already on diclofenac due to my c section, I hand massaged slightly, hot showers and cabbage leaves in the bra for two days helped tremendously. In fact looking back, it has been easier than I thought to get rid of the milk. Having said that, even now I get terribly guilty for not BF especially when he's distressed, like last night when he let out an ear piercing scream and sobbed his little heart out. He was lying on my chest trying to get him to sleep when I spoke to DH in the other room opposite and it startled him. I think I frightened him. . All I wanted to do was put him on!

MissRee DTD too a few times. Used condoms though but have 6-week check on Tuesday so will be asking to go back on the Microgynon. Was on it 14 years with no problems.

Holy hell. Someone's kidnapped my good sleeper and replaced it with this THING.
She's slept, in total, for about 30mins in 14hours...
And only fed about 140ml since midnight...
She'll spark out totally for maybe 2 minutes and then wake, grumping, doing that almsot crying eeeeuh-breath-eeeeuh-breath-eeeeuh...and if left, the yellign starts.
Surely she's hungry...she MUST be hungry, that's no way enough...and she looks utterly exhausted, so why, oh why won't she sleep...or feed...!
I've tried her int he cot, on me (she's currently in the sling, which she's previously hated, but is just too tired to object too much to. I've tried nipple, breast shields, bottle expressed, formula...nothing.
Nappy's fine...talking to her, snuggling her, left her alone, light out, lights on, telly on, telly off, nothing's working...and of course, if I try and sleep there's no sodding point becaus she's bloodywell awake again and miffing and then yelling if I try.
At what point do I think there's something actually wrong, rather than her just being a bugger? (and her possibly realising that right now I kind of love her - as much as I do all babies - but I also really hate her)

I've had the not sleeping but not combined with not feeding so I'm not sure. Has she got a temperature?

NCT website says you should contact the doctor if she won't feed..

Nope. Other than looking knackered she seems otherwise fine. No signs of dehydration etc.
Has finally now managed 20mins sleep in the sling...which she's previously hated...and is still going!

I thought I'd leave her to get some proper sleep for a bit and then try with food...maybe in an hour from now. If she doesn't feed then I'll ring doctors.

Logging on to apologise for utter failure to communicate for weeks, hope everyone is doing well. Baby sleeps 4 to 5 hours a stretch over night so I'm not supposed to complain but is awake and cross for most of the day unless out in the car or pram. So I'm on my knees with tiredness. Spent this week making a sci-fi costume for dd1 to wear at school today - not much out there for 4 year old girls so hacked an old shirt up to make a princess leia dress.

Oeisha - sling works a treat with my red faced ball of fury too. Post bf failure feelings starting to fade until I was only one not wapping a boob out at baby massage class last week made me wobble but I'm ok again now. The prescription ff we're now on is £25 a small tin to buy - thank god for the nhs as it's cured the symptoms she was suffering.
Next bottle due any minute followed by school run and it starts again. House is chaos - here I go.......

She's finally had 90ml EBF and is asleep again

Baby cakes feeding or screaming solidly since 1pm. I need a nap, but he won't settle. Just rang dh in hysterics, both of us wailing down the phone. I just don't know what's wrong or how to fix it and i'm so so tired and ill. I just want to sleep

Cakes - big hug, hope dh can come home soon. I've resorted to a dummy as it soothes dd2 - a cherry style tommee tippee. Dd1 never used one but I can't get dd2 to nap so she gets over-tired and grizzles or screeches. No-one approves but they're not here listeing to it all day! Sometimes the dummy makes her cross though - I'm convinced she swears at me, that might be the exhaustion and frustration at the messy house but honestly the noise is really something. Right here alongside you Cakes.

Oh cakes!

I'll send some of Abi's sleepy vibes your way....

Re: birth announcements. Finally got round to ordering mine from photobox. Hoorah. Was going to handwrite some, but gave in with that idea.

Also, just spoken to the BF specialist, who is a star! She's a volunteer through her local SureStart too and is registered to see people in her home...so we're primed to see her Sunday late morning (rather than having to find my own way over to Chesterfield, during the week, which is a 6h round trip thanks to slightly odd public transport)....how nice is that!?

Oh cakes, hugs for the hard times! DD has been exactly the same since 1.30pm - nothing will cheer her up. We've just gone out to the supermarket though and the change of scene has quietened her down. Any chance you can pop out for a drive?

Dh came home early. Thank god. Baby cakes was so distraught nothing worked. I tried the dummy but he wouldn't take it, even though it usually soothes him if he's in pain.

Dh was able to bounce him around till he settled whilst I had a sleep. I just didn't have the energy to do that and was too tired to take him out in the car either. Nothing prepared me for how very physical caring for a baby was. He's sleeping now, completely worn out.

Hugs cakes 1-5pm appears to be our witching hour as well and Bubs finds it very hard to settle some days.

The BF counsellor sounds very positive oeisha.

Well DD slept a bit in the car but was wide awake and yelling when we got home. She sounds really distressed too - maybe she has my cold . We're trying a dummy today but she doesn't seem sure what to do with it. I had a 15 min power nap while DH held her and feel a bit better, but I'd sell my firstborn feel so much better for a stretch of sleep more than 3 or 4 hours (more like 1-2 over the last couple of nights...)