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Dec 08 Mums - happy new year, happy new thread and soon some happy new babies!

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sybilfaulty · 01/01/2012 09:37

Happy new year!

Sorry for the rubbish title but wanted to get the new thread underway. Let's close the door on some of the sad events of 2011 and look forward to a better year in 2012.

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Beans36 · 05/03/2012 14:04

OH YAY! xx

Kayzr · 05/03/2012 14:34

Awwwww congratulations!! Grin

ZuleikaJambiere · 05/03/2012 15:00

Hurrah Smile, many congratulations Indith, and welcome to Arthur. My local chippy sells pots of chip spice - shall I send you a pot, express delivery?!

JumpJockey · 05/03/2012 15:10

Hurrah! Well done Indith, excellent birthing effort there :) and welcome Arthur Grin

Beans36 · 05/03/2012 16:48

Indith, I'm so happy for you and I love the name. Arthur is the name of one of my Dad's best friends. He's known as Artie, which I also love. Dad calls him Arturo, which really tickles me for some reason.

I just had a lovely thought about all the future breeding we may have on this thread. Do you think we'll all still be nattering onto eachother in 15 years? I hope so! I'll be over 50 by then. Jesus.

Girls currently snacking on frozen peas in front of Beebies. Only way I can get any veg down them at all! Oh dear.

Nolda · 05/03/2012 18:07

Congratulations, Indith. And a big hello to Arthur. Fab name.

Kayzr · 05/03/2012 19:18

Woohoo proud Mummy alert!! DS2 just did a wee on the potty!! I am desperate to get him toilet trained before the baby comes and before he starts nursery in September. Very pleased GrinGrin

VagolaJahooli · 06/03/2012 10:11

Kayz how is the TT going today?

We are slabbing out on the couch as DS2 still lurgyish so off nursery today. He is not hot anymore but if sneezing goop over himself at regular intervals. I'm feeling a bit goopy too so chilling out with him.

Kayzr · 06/03/2012 10:23

So far so good Vag. He has done a wee again. He has fireman sam pants on over his pull up nappy. I don't think I trust him just in pants but he really wants to wear them.

Beans36 · 06/03/2012 17:38

I AM SO HUNGRY! I haven't stopped eating today and tummy still rumbling.

Where are Rubes and LadyT?

Kayzr · 06/03/2012 20:31

VAG are you watching the football?? I am going to have a heart attack. Its amazing!!! GrinGrin

LadyThompson · 06/03/2012 20:37

I'M HERE! Been missing you all! Big love to our new baby - Arthur is a lovely name, Indith, and was one of my late Dad's names so very happy to see it. How are you?

Sorry I have been off the radar. I have been a v good girl and have been doing endless sorting and tidying for days (as the house has been getting on top of me) so now I feel tons better. Also done quite a few other things that have been hanging over me, hence my absence. Will be back tomorrow with fulsome catch up. MIL and her DH are staying so I escaped to London for the day today as I had a few chores and matters to deal with. Busy until mid-afternoon then went and lounged in my club for a bit and then spent a load of H&M vouchers I had from yonks ago. Bliss!

JJ, you sound like you are really going through it. In the end, it was only the visible chocs in the bathroom that persuaded O.

Sorry for paltry message and love to all. Nearly at my station xxxxxx

Indith · 07/03/2012 17:10

Soooo

While ds is asleep on my chest and I sort of have 2 hands to type :)

On Sunday I has lots of mucus coming away whenever I went to the loo then through the day I started going more and more often and eventually put a pad in when I started feeling rather damp between wees too Grin. Afternoon started getting later and was getting liquid not just mucus. Never having had my waters go before labour before I mostly ignored it and hoped I could at least get the dcs to bed before anything happened.

Dcs in bed at 7 and was less moist and more constantly dripping so called the hospital who said I had to go in to be checked out and to bring an overnight bag though so long as all was well I would be able to go home. Lovely friend who lives up the road came down, fully expecting to be there all night, luckily Monday is not a work day for her so we knew she would drag the dc up to hers in the morning and deliver them to school/nursery along with hers if need be and off we went to hospital with me getting more and more stressed. Got hooked straight up to monitor, ds bounced around merrily and they were happy with colour of waters so didn't even do an internal. Apparently I had a couple of contractions while on the monitor but I couldn't feel them (MW who did my sweep Friday said I was having a tightening while she was examining me too and was quite surprised I had no idea!). They let me go after sorting out timescale for induction/antibiotics etc. They were lovely about it really, very good at telling us guidelines but asking me what I was happy with and leaving things as long as possible to allow HB. I knew I could have refused induction and ABs and insisted on regular temp checks etc instead but tbh I couldn't be bothered by that point with the logistics of it (going in daily for monitoring, dh not wasting paternity therefore being at work, still having school runs, what if I went in for temp/monitor session and ended up not leaving....) so we agreed on 9am for induction in the hopes that things would be far enough along that we could avoid ABs.

Got home to surprise of friend, sorted out if we needed to we'd throw the dcs at her in the morning then I sat up way too late rolling on ball because I thought I should stay active to have a chance of labour starting and stressing. Neither of us thought about the fire. Ooops! Dh convinced me to come to bed, sensibly pointing out that with the others I had no signs of labour at all then it started while I was asleep. Finally 4.18 I felt a contraction. 4.28 another. 4.38 another. Got up to potter, straight away they got more frequent but still very short so I phoned hospital. Nice lady on phone tried to tell me if they were 10 mins apart, short and I was breathing through them then I probably had a way to go so I rather sharply told her that when I get going I go fast and she needed to call the community MW Grin. Spoke to CMW at 5, she was here around 5.30 by which time I was draped over the ball and rocking on all 4s. She called the second and told her I was "contracting like a good'un". Dh who had been setting up pool came and told me there wasn't enough water because we'd not built the fire up earlier. I did not understand what he was trying to tell me. MW merrily got on with getting a sheet and some padding under my knees on the basis I was not moving anywhere and I got on the gas and promptly broke the mouthpiece rocking against the ball so dh shared the benefit Grin.

Head came down really suddenly and I started grunting but knew I wasn't ready to push so held off a bit. Few more contractions, 2nd MW arrived to the relief of the first and I got a little more upright to push. Felt myself start to stretch round the head, had moment of panic about tearing (not needed stitches before but with dd had a tiny tear towatds the rear and things not been quite the same since) but asked MW to apply pressure and it made a huge difference. They told me he was getting tired and I needed to get him out straight away and they got the oxygen ready and told me if needed then we couldn't delay cord clamping etc. I nodded but didn't pay much attention because the same happened with the others, I must do something odd in labour Grin. Head came out really easily, I honestly though I had at least twice as much to stretch! The rest of him followed next contraction, he yelled, I scooped him up and no oxygen was needed. It was 6.05 :)

I rubbed him down a bit then we went onto the sofa and snuggled up and fed for an hour. The dcs woke up and came to peer at him then at 7 the afyerpains were killing all enjoyment so we cut the cord and I had the injection to evict the placenta which helped take some of the intensity off. He was weighed, I had a shower, everyone left and somehow dh got the big ones off to school and nursery.

So far so good. He is feeding well and now my milk is in he seems a bit happier between feeds. He is a velcro baby like his brother. You could put dd down and she would stay asleep but definitely not this one!

sybilfaulty · 07/03/2012 18:02

Indith that is so lovely. Huge congratulations to you. IT sounds just how a home birth should be (having had no VBs at all I wouldn't really know but it sounds perfect and just how a birth should be).

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Kayzr · 07/03/2012 19:42

Indith, that birth story is really lovely. I would quite like to have birth like that please. You sound very very happy Smile

I am feeling worried about DS2. He has yet another cough, I am worried it is going to be asthma as they are becoming so regular. XMIL has told me to consider getting rid of the dogSad I would ask his breeder to take him back if DS2 has asthma and if I thought it would make his life easier but I am not going to consider now if the doctor thinks that DS2 is just unlucky at the minute with coughs and colds.

Hope everyone is well.

JollyBear · 07/03/2012 19:47

That's lovely Indith :)

spotofcheerfulness · 07/03/2012 20:57

Popped back on the thread for the first time in a month Blush to read your lovely birth story. Congrats, Indith, and welcome to Arthur. Grin.
Going to post and run but back tomorrow for proper catch up.

VagolaJahooli · 07/03/2012 21:52

Indith that birthstory is lovely, Hooray for HB, shame about the pool but hey ho. I find it funny that MWs wanted to cut his cord and strap the oxygen on him when the cord is what is giving him oxygen until it stops pulsing. All research points to early cord cutting being the cause of hypoxia in newborns. Hence the new guidelines on delayed cord cutting for premmies. Anyhoo, well done you and I hope DH enjoyed his G&A. Must have been amazing for DC's to wake up to a new baby brother, & well done to DH getting them off to school.

It sounds like your hindwaters broke rather than your waters fully breaking. That's what happened to me with DS1, it sort of dribbled on and off for a while, then sometimes coming in little spurts. The midwife came a did a swab but by then I was having contractions and was almost ready to go to the birthcenter.

Helooo Spot, are you going to tell these ladies your recent discovery?

Also ladies there is a distinct possibility that we will be over for 5 days from the 22nd March. Anyone fancy a meet up day &/or night. Maybe we could try somewhere a little cheaper this time, though I did love those G&T's.

I'm re-reading Mansfield Park at the moment, a book I adored as a late teen. I need to read it for my bookclub. I'm horrified to find that it is annoying the hell out of me. I want to take them all and shake them. It still has it's amusing bits, but oh the annoyance of all their crap. Seriously, get over yourselves. I still can't put it down though, even though I know how it ends.

Indith · 08/03/2012 08:29

I thought it was probably hind waters too, hence not being that bothered about telling anyone for a while.

Oxygen etc is funny really. Like I say mine have all had heartrate dips just before birth anf they have all come out perfectly fine. I wonder really if it is just the speed of my labours and them feeling a bit shocked. Heck this time I was rather shocked at the speed at which the head came down, must have been a shock for poor ds2 shooting round the bend at 90 miles an hour! The MW was lovely and said she loved doing homebirths but I didn't get the impression they were her most natural environment from the stressing until the second on call got there and she mentioned the hospital had told her my waters had gone so she hadn't really slept that night as she kept waking and checking her phone and was all high on adrenaline.

Ds got dumped in the moses basket earlier when I noticed the recycling lorry was going up our back road and he is asleep Shock. He's been there since about 7.30 Shock Shock. Fed all bloody night though but I can't quite face bed again though I dare say I should sleep while he is. I feel guilty though, I know he has filled his nappy but I am not waking him for a change!

spotofcheerfulness · 08/03/2012 09:56

Vag, are you referring to crumpet-gate over on Facebook? Who knew that my recent discovery of crumpets could cause such a flurry of excitement? Before anyone starts here, yes, I know it's nigh on unbelievable that I've reached 35 without appreciating the true value of the crumpet, but there you go...

Sad news from extended spotfam - my Ssis's baby died at 28 weeks. She had stayed in hospital all that time, and he was born by emcs and lived for 12 hours on a ventilator, but apparently the low levels of amniotic fluid she had meant that things hadn't developed as well as they should at that stage. She's still in hospital now (10 days later) as she developed septicaemia from the CS and has been on IV antibiotics since then. And it's her birthday today. Pretty grim all round.

kayz, I would stick it out a bit with the doctor's advice to see it as a string of coughs and colds. T was declared a "preschool wheezer" Grin a year ago when he had an endless stream of coughs, colds and ear infections. He still gets them, but not as bad. We got referred to a respiratory consultant at the hossie, who said it was viral-induced wheezing and the sounds were not coming from the lungs but referred from his snotty nose. He was given an inhaler to use if his cough got bad, but I never noticed any difference. Good news on the potty training, btw!

Thanks to whoever on here (was it Nolda?) who mentioned sticking to the toilet rather than the potty when TTing late? T is a big lad (I don't mean in the lunchbox dept, rather the botty) and it was very uncomfortable for him.

He's def got the hang of wees on the toilet, but doesn't like pooing. So he waits until nighttime and does it in his nappy. "JJ*, reading about S made me feel very sad for you all. It's horrible to see them struggling with their problems so early, isn't it? I would go for a second opinion about the impaction though. I've seen quite a few threads on here where it was missed and the symptoms did sound quite similar to your DDs. Although it sounds like you've already had some good advice here so will shut my trappage.

Both boys are on good form at the moment, although still shitola in the night. Both up every hour last night, then B up for the day at 4.30am. I have come to terms with the fact that it's how they are right now, but still, tis very annoying.
Still struggling with being in this village, and DP v ill from stress from work and hating being here. So (again) will prob look into London. I won't talk about it on here until something happens as you're all well aware of my flakedom.

Lady that sounds likes a lovely day. Do you still get pangs for the big smoke, or are you feeling more at home now in your village?

Oh, Vag would love to come for meet up around that time, sarf London best for me to come in to...

Indith · 08/03/2012 11:16

Oh spot that is such sad news :(

VagolaJahooli · 08/03/2012 12:41

Cat sorry to hear your sad news, poor wee little bubby, so unfair not to have a chance to grow up and be a little cousin to your sweet boys.. Your poor sister, will be thinking physical healing and heart healing thoughts for her. Also sorry also that dh is not well, would sell and go back to the big smoke or would you rent this place out. The weather is lovely in NL at the moment....

Indith, it's actually quite normal for the heart rate to go down during and just after contractions as the baby gets further along the birth canal as the contraction can squish the cord, it's not detrimental to the baby as it is just temporary and well it's normal so yours and the baby's physiology cope with it and allow for it, but as it's also possible it is a symptom of something else I think midwives just prepare you and themselves for the worst just in case.

Lovely and sunny here today, been out this morning for a coffee with a friend and now chilling with ds2 happily playing and I'm watching Bargain hunt....oh yeah that's how I roll.
Poor dh is a bit stressed , his team are being annoying and his boss is being a git. Thankfully he should have an interview next week with the people who want to contract him so that gives him some light at the end of the tunnel. He's been getting home at the boys bedtime which is making him a bit sad as usually he works from home and can at least hear them if not see them. I'm off out tonight for vino at a friends house so will be running out the door as soon as he gets in.

sybilfaulty · 08/03/2012 14:17

So sorry for you and your family Cat. Take care and thinking of you XXXX

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Kayzr · 08/03/2012 15:22

Spot I am so sorry to hear about your sister and nephew. I hope your sister gets to go home soon. xxx

spotofcheerfulness · 08/03/2012 15:44

Thank you, all. Apparently she should be coming home tomorrow, but she's going to need a lot of help as she also has a 2 year old daughter and can't move very well, let alone lift her. I wish we lived closer.
Just seeing from a distance the rollercoaster of hope and despair she was experiencing, and wishing I could do something to help, but being utterly powerless. I guess it completely changes you as a person. To be honest, I'm not sure what to say to her as no words seem enough. i haven't spoken to her directly as she's not wanted to talk to anyone other than her DH since it happened, but have sent cards and texts. It all seems so inadequate though.