August 2005 babies enter a new year!

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A new thread for the new year!

Here is a link to the old one.

Kate100.......somebody has asked you a question on the August stats thread. thought i'd draw your attention to it.

kipper.....yes my HV is far more interested in mums she already knows. there are two HV, one male (he's an absolute gem)and one female who i can't stand. we also have a girl who appears to do the HV job but isn't fully qualified. if i ask her questions she says you need to talk to male HV (because i get the distinct impression she doesn't think much of the female HV either)i get much better advice on here!!
i have found there is a parent/baby group at the church two mornings a week but i'm too scared to go. it seems like every time i try something like this i am made to feel very much like an outsider. can't face the humiliation of sitting on my own with a coffee while everyone ignores my attempts at making friends. this village is so cliquey.

went to my 1st mother & baby session last week, queenrollo! it's 'bumps and beyond' so could have started 9 months ago when i went on mat leave but it's taken me this long to pluck up the courage. Began by feeling just as you said - just talking to ds so i could look comfortable! I was the only 1st time mum there which made me feel even more 'new.' luckily everyone was really friendly and i'm looking foerward to going back this week. :) let us know how you get on!

I joined a post-natal support group when DS2 was 6 weeks old, which has been invaluable. The few of us who haven't yet returned to work or emigrated still meet up once a week for a chat. I would also find a new group intimidating, but it's worth giving it a go.

DS1 has now joined DS2 in having a tummy bug, starting with vomiting in the middle of the night. I'm doing a lot of washing at the moment.

Sorry quick post to say sympathise Azure my ds is the same vomiting and diahrohea since yest (how on earth is that spelt?) Must be going round this neck of the woods. Took him to A&E last night as he had purple non blanching dots but they weren't worried.

So glad the spots were ok Pookey. It's such a worry, isn't it? DS2 finally seems on the mend after getting worse on Tuesday (necessitating a trip to the doctor).

hi everyone, sorry your wee ones are sick azure and pookey - pookey glad the spots were nothing serious hope you have a better day today.

Im sick of the sight of snow!!!!

got a phone call from the school earlier DS had another major nosebleed, so i had to get him when i got there the blood was filling up in his eyes god it was disgusting, so i phoned the surgery and they got a nurse to see him, but by the time we got there it had stopped, she is a neighbour and lovely so was worried as she could see lumps of dried blood in the corners of his eyes, she got a doctor who was just rude to me as if its only a nose bleed go home adn shut up woman normally i wouldnt have gone as they are so usless, but the school said he had to go or they would take him i think they think im beating him up now!! anyway they reluctantly agreed to refer him to the hospital.
sorry had to have a little rant.

DD got weighed this week by my own HV she is 19lb10oz, i said to her i nearly didnt come back as i was accused of not feeding her enough as her weight had droped, she was not happy with the other HV and said it was more likely that she had made a mistake in her conversion as one look would tell her there was nothing wrong at all.

I havent gone to any clubs with dd, i hate going to those things unless i know someone i have always been like that though, silly i know but it would stress me out that much i would hate it.

anyway hope everyone else is fine
xx

It is so good to see how everyone is getting on with their little ones and to see that I am not alone in many of the thinmgs that seem to be happening to my ds!

Tell me if I am being paranoid but I went to see a friend today with her newborn. She had a maternity nurse at home who asked if my 7 and a half month old ds always rocked back and forth when sat between my knees. He has started doing this as he seems to be wanting to move so much but can't get anywhere as his legs are not in the crawling mode yet. I said that he had just started and she said that she had only ever seen this happen once in a little boy who was brain damaged. The doctor and hv have never said that anything is wrong with my ds. Should I get an expert opinion or is the maternity nurse just scaring me unnecessarily? He seems happy the majority of the time but would just like to hear some reassurance...

Hi All

DS is begining to get a bit better now - but teething aswell poor fella. Hope your is getting better to Azure.

Poor your ds Josey but that probably sounds/looks worse than it is hopefully.

Tigerlion that woman shouldn't have said that to you surely, she wasn't there to look after your baby. Its probably rubbish, I got worried because DS has started shaking his head, sometimes against me, a bit like headbanging. App babies begin to find their rhythm at this stage and like the feel of movement or are trying to recreate the soothing rocking feeling. Headbanging and the like start around 6-9 months app but can be triggered by stress which upset me because DS has just started nursery (although I am probably over reacting and shaking his head is a normal thing to do!). i have decided to take him out of nursery because i would go in and he would be lying on the floor by himself wailing, there were three of them in the room on mon and only 6 babies but he was left there even though he was the only one crying and from the sounds of it had been for a while. His sickness bug this week makes me think defo made the right decision as much more likely to catch bugs at nursery. Going to look into a childminder instead if that dosen't work will give up work.

Pookey, sorry to hear about how your son is being treated at nursery. Did you confront the staff about leaving him like that? That is appalling on their behalf. Would you be upset to have to leave work? I was made redundant by my company when I told them about being pregnant so have now got a full-time job looking after DS and getting all the rest that I can whilst being pg awaiting Baby Number 2 in October. Just about got DS to sleep through the night though DH and I spent 40 mins with him calming him down in his room at 3.30 this morning.

Good to hear that it is quite natural for babies to shake their heads at this stage. I was in tears last night to DH about it and he phoned some friends who also said that their babies had all been through the headbanging stage! I am still shocked that the maternity nurse said it so matter-of-factly!

tigerlion that is awful no one should say that to anyone, my dd shakes her head all the time usually when she is laughing or if there is music on its like she is dancing, its more likely your ds is just wanting to try and get up and is pushing back and forward, dont worry yourself too much you can always as your hv next time you see her to put your mind at rest but to be honest i dont think that woman should be looking after kids as by the sounds of it she hasnt had much contact with any!!

pookey the nursery sounds awful, have you asked them why your ds was left? i would take my child out and report the nursery.

ds probably does sound worse than it sounds, i had very bad nose bleeds and had to keep getting nose packed to stop the bleeding, and when they are like that if your putting pressure on the nose to stop it it tends to leak to other places like the eyes, its just a nasty thing to see, DH thinks his work will get him seen privately so they can fix it once and for all, as this has been going on since he was 4weeks old he is now 6 and cant keep being sent home from school.

Whether it's serious or not, josey, I bet all that blood is scary - can't believe the way the doctor acted!
Queenrollo - just saw your post on the old people with sticks thread, pmsl! did you go to the club?
Tigerlion - my ds shakes his head like mad (sounds like pookey's) and rocks when he's sitting up. I just thought he was testing his balance for future crawling. he also gets onto all fours and rocks back and forth so I guess I should be extremely worried but I'm not! I know he's healthy and happy. Don't think it would be polite to post what I think of that stupid woman!

didn't go to club.....it was raining very heavy and i just couldn't face the walk.
i've just been to 'work'....MIL tutors for SATs/11 plus privately and is training me to be her assistant. i felt so silly being next to a 9 year old and struggling with the maths questions although it seemed to really put her at ease that i needed help too!
going out for dinner at friends tomorrow night.....will be nice to get out, and they always do FAB food.

Thought I'd check in as I haven't been on for awhile, as this weeks I have had a spring clean and scrubbed the house from top to bottom. It's now all sprakly and clean and I'm feeling very proud of myself.

Hello to the new people on the thread.

Thanks for directing me to the stats thread queen rollo, I would never have noticed and don't worry about the maths, when I was teaching one of us would do a SATS paper while the children were so we could see what the test was like and guestimate how the children would do and they're really hard.

Tigerlion that's awful, what a dreadful woman. My ds is trying to crawl and he rocks backwrds and forwards like he['s revving up to go somewhere, but he still doesn't know what to do. My other ds did it and so did my friends kids and they're all perfetly normal. On the crawling front he can got on his hand and kneesbut then doesn't know what to do with his legs and ends up flopping on his tummy.

Does anyone else have a baby that puts everything, and I mean everything into their mouths? DS2 has always got something jammed in their in fact at the moment he is chewing the throw on the sofa. I don't recall ds1 putting things in his mouth as much as ds2.

DS2 has another tooth, but it's not the one I was expecting. He's cut his left hnd incisor, not the one in the middle, so his teeth don't match up, I hope the middle one's come through soon or he'll look a bit odd on his christening photos.

Hope all the poorly little ones are better soon.

Tigerlion - ds rocks all the time - Ive often wondered if this was normal but put it down to the fact that it's how he gets around the kitchen in his babywalker - he was born in august too.
He frantically shakes his head side to side when he's tired just before he goes to sleep as well. I'm guessing these are fairly normal - at least I hope so.

kate100 - yes ds puts EVERYTHING into his mouth - anything innapropriate, cushions, letters, keys etc but not finger food. Hmmmmmm

wow kate that you have been motivated enough for spriong clean!

Yes DS puts everthing in his mouth, remotes, paper (fav), phone wire, tubes of cream, my nose and he even managed to grab his prob not too clean changing mat and have a chew on that when i wasn't looking. JMum6 he also refuses to put finger food in his mouth - the bugger

My poorly pumpkin is much better thanks but was in a real bad mood today due to teething, reflux and bottom problems, aww

goodness a spriong clean i dread to think what that envolves ...

hope everyone had a happy mothers day

still no teeth think dd will never cut any and will be gumsy forever!! she is no where near crawling dont think she will she moves in other ways hates being on her tummy if you put her on it she will roll onto her back straight away but she wont roll onto her tummy its strange.

kate100 i dont spring clean my DH does it every time he is home he cant help himself its great

So glad to see that we have a lot of rocking children then which must mean that it is quite quite normal. I was not at all concerned about it until the Maternity nurse mentioned it but it is no longer of concern as it is evident that DS is just being a baby!

DS is also shoving absolutely everything into his mouth and I have just had to extract a piece of nasty plastic type stuff which he managed to chew off a promotional stress reliever that was sent in the post. I despair to think how he got hold of that one but he was not happy when I had to force his mouth open.

Is anyone else's baby refusing food? DS was really into every meal since he started weaning around two months ago but since the weekend he has refused any food in his mouth and is taking very little milk. I am cooking him food that he has enjoyed in the past but he is just not wanting it at the moment. Has anyone got any tips as to what can be done?

Your ds could be our ds. Isn't it reassuring that you don't have the only awkward baby :o

Just wanted to pop in and say hello. (I was a member of the August thread but dd was born in July as she was 5 weeks premature, still all my friends are in the August thread.)

Sorry I was mia but was just being busy with wee baby girl.

Baby Rochwen (wee Solveig) is doing grand and I'm enjoying her more with every day.

Hi Rochwen, good to hear from you. DS2 is finally over his sickness bug. Unfortunately it caught up with me Saturday night when I was at a party - I'm so rarely out and had had my hair and nails done especially, so was really sad when I had to leave early. Mother's day was a bit of a write-off. DS1 and DH went out for a meal, leaving me sipping water at home with DS2. I feel better today. Apart from that we've been interviewing for a nanny and have someone who sounds promising.

With regard to DS2's development, he hasn't cut a tooth, doesn't roll over (prob because I rarely put him on his tummy), can't sit for long without support and has no idea what to do with finger food. Am I bothered - no! They are babies for such a short period of time, I'm in no rush. When I look at DS1's school class running around I have no idea who walked first etc, which puts everything into perspective.

Tigerlion, DS2 goes off his food sometimes (he's back into it big time at the moment). I would just keep on offering it. Most recently DS2 went off his food just before a tummy bug manifested itself, so I hope it's not that.

Tigerlion my ds goes off his food quite often, sometimes he'll go a few days without wanting much and then the next few days he'll eat loads. Try not to worry (although I do :))

Changing subject my ds used to suffer quite bably from reflux until he was weaned it then seemed to sort itself out. But recently he's started to be really sick again after his bottles (projectile) but not his solids. I don't think he's sick as he seems fine within himself so I wonder if it's reflux again. I've got some gaviscon left from before so will probably try that again.
Anyone got any ideas?

hi rochwen nice to see you again!

my dd has stopped eating also, the only this she will def eat is yoghurt or suck on something, i was thinking though that i should be changing her milk now on to the progress stuff, as its not meant to fill them up the same but they still get the milk goodness and have room for solids, didnt have to do this with ds as he wouldnt ever stop eating!!!! has anyone else dont this yet?

dont no about the reflux, dd always sick, not as bad as when just on milk but there never a day goes by the someone gets a splattering!!!

Azure said: 'he hasn't cut a tooth, doesn't roll over (prob because I rarely put him on his tummy), can't sit for long without support ...' Don't worry Azure, neither has wee Solveig. She takes her time with everything (except the birth, lol). Btw, did I ever told you that my waters broke during the hospital visit?