May 2005 babies - New Year, new thread

[logic]

Happy New Year!

OMG Myermay - I can't believe anyone could say something like that! Boils my p*ss as my brother would say! Like it's not nice to have 2 boys! We have 2 little lads and they are great - very loving and affectionate and DS1 is a 'proper boy' ie. loves to run people ragged, loves dinosaurs, dragons anything with scales or anything slimy. When I was pg with DS2 we found out at the 20 week scan that we were having a boy, other people were disappointed but we weren't - having a happy healthy baby is much more important than gender. LOL at your boys looking at MIL like a freak though!

DS2 is waking at night, probably about half the time- it's a bit hit and miss really. Paed said to offer him water instead of a feed but so far I can't be arsed to go downstairs and get it - it's much quicker and easier to give him a bfeed, only takes around 5 minutes perched on the end of my bed!

LittleB the only thing I can think of regarding settling DD is to perhaps keep picking her up to soothe her and put her down when she's settled, keep the lights dimmed/off, don't make eye contact and don't speak to her. Do this everytime she starts. I know this can take hours but she should eventually get the message, it will be exhausting I know so I think this could only work if you have time off work and fierce determination.

Just out of interest do any of you have brother/sisters with children the same/similar age to your own? The only reason I ask is that both DS's have a cousin who is the same age as them and I'm really worried about people comparing them, in terms of development, behaviour etc. Anybody any experience?

It's so hard isn't it, littleb. You know you should put them back in bed and be firm but when you are exhausted, you just can't. You have to survive. It's a bit early for Controlled Crying I think but Maddison's advice is spot on IME.

Actually, Maddison, I feel a bit sad that my two won't have any cousins of the same age. Dh's only sibling has 4 children but they are aged between 19 and 13. My brother and SIL have decided to put off having children for a few years yet. I grew up with a cousin the same age and yes we were compared a lot tbh, but it didn't bother us at the time and we were very close. Unfortunately, that's not the case any more though.

Thanks for the advice Maddison. She was better last night, it took a while to settle her, but I did this by staying in her room, and rubbing her back or cycling her feet - both seem to relax her, whenever she grumbled, and she fell asleep after about 25mins of this, without being picked up once. She only woke up once, and seemed to settle fairly quickly - again back rubbing in her cot - but woke herself up again coughing a couple of minutes later - did this several times, but got there after about 40mins without lifting her out of her cot. Will try not speaking to her and not looking her in the eye too. Does singing her lullabies count as speaking to her?
Mirage, sounds like you've been busy, garden design sounds like it should be interesting do you have alot to do with your garden? You'll have to get your dd's trowels!
Logic, what about making a bottle of water up ready before you go to be, this is what my sister did with her ds and it worked eventually.
my sister and I enjoy comapring our kids, her dd is 5, ds is 2 and my dd is almost 8 months, but we compare their growth and development and what they are eating etc. they vary a bit, ahead with some and behind with others, our dd's are more similar though, her ds was much quicker sitting and walking but slower talking. I've compared dd to me too, she was bigger at her 7 month check than I was at 1yr old, so hopefully she'll take after dp and be taller than 5ft2, not knocking short people as I know there are a few of us, but I wish I'd been a bit taller so trousers fitted better!

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hi everyone.

we haven't ventured into the next car seat yet but are thinking about doing it soon, as ds is very squished in his.

ds often wakes in the night usually around 4am (goes to bed at 10pmish) for his dummy usually because hes coughed it out. he will usually go off if we just give it too him but sometimes he won't have it and will wake again every 5 mins for about an hr then we finally give in, if he hasn't given in by then we do give up and take him in with us, and sometimes he wakes up, and is wide awake chatting away to himself but i try not to look at him and never say anything and he usually gets the message eventually. he sarted to at one point sleep through till about 7am but since he got ill he hasn't since.

am thinking about trying ds on the 7mths plus jars but am sure he'll just choke on everything and make a whole big seen about it. has anyone tried these yet? how did you get on?

glad everyones positive about losing weight, when i find out how much i weigh then ill join the thread. i started my healthy eating (diet) today, so hopefully ill keep it up, and good luck to every one else.

Hi Matthewsmummy, it's good to know other people are like us and give up and bring your ds into bed with you, people keep telling us we're mad to do this although we've only done it a few times, yet I know of other people who go out for a drive to send their baby to sleep, or stay up for hours rocking them in a pushchair! She seems to be getting better gradually. Going to get her weighed this afternoon to see if she's heavy enough (9kg) for the next car seat. I haven't tried any of the 7 month jars but I've tried a couple of 7 month packets (cheesy pasta and apple crumble) and dd was fine. I make most of her food and have been making it lumpier and she gets on ok with it. She did struggle when she had a bad cough, she kept sicking up meals, so we went back to smooth purees then. I think you just need to try it and see how he gets on. Good Luck.

We used to take the kids into bed with us if a) they wouldn't settle unless they were on daddy's chest and b) we were so exhausted we had to get some sleep. What else can you do? Lots of people used to tell us off for doing it but they had children who weren't appalling sleepers.

We've moved onto the 7mth lumpy food now and dd is fine with it. They do learn to eat lumps even if they haven't got any teeth...

Meant to add that I put some boiled water in with the lumpy food to soften it and make it a bit runnier...

thanx littleb for the good luck and thanx for the advice logic.
im gonna try him on it today, and he had weetabix for breakfast today for the first time and loved it.

we had him in with us again this morning from about 6am and he wouldn't sleep unless he was on me, but least we managed to get abit more sleep that way. he's unsettled again and he's come up in a rash and his face is all blochy and redder then usual, ive done the glass test and he seems ok in himself so im sure its not that, but not quite sure what it can be, we think it might be an allergic reaction to something but he hasn't really had any thing diiferent apart from ive been giving oat porriage in the morning which he hasn't had before. its just little red dots on his belly and face, his nursery said they've had a few chicken pox lately so it could be this but the spots aren't really blistery there just little red lumps. any ideas anyone???

take care x

oh yeah hes rubbing his eyes all the time aswell, don't think its coz hes tired coz he does it when hes just woken up.

Could it be ezcema? My ds had it from about this stage. You could try a moisturiser/emollient cream and see if that helps. ds used to go crazy with the itching but of course couldn't do much about it himself.

thanx tiggerish, ds already has ezcema which we have cream for and these spots are different to his normal rash. thanx for the thought though much appreciated.

take care x

I would take your ds to the GP about the spots, matthewsmummy. I expect it's something like chicken pox though. I am absolutely paranoid about chicken pox. I've managed to protect ds from it so far and his pre-school is pretty good at warning about things like that. My ds had exzcema too for his first year really quite badly, he has mostly grown out of it now though. I still can't bathe him every day in winter because his skin gets really dry.

My PND has returned with a vengeance so I've decided to try the ADs again.

mm how is ds..?? Have you seen your gp yet..? Sorry I can't offer any advice.

Aww poor you logic, CAT me if you want to chat...I am also on the ad's and I must admit I do feel slightly more positive at the moment. Last week I did have a bad time but not as bad as it has been. In fact dh & I have even arranged dd's christening for July. I am quite excited as it reminds me of our wedding that I arranged but ....wish I could do it all again....

The christening thing is a major achievement for me as a few months back there was no way I wanted to do this due to the pnd. I couldn't cope with the fact that everyone would want to hold dd and I would be desperate to have her but felt I couldn't iykwim...when with gp's esp dh & I are shoved out.. BUT I feel stronger atm. It's only a small do and out for a meal aftrewards..something I can handle as I can leave when I want iykwim...sorry to sound a bit selfish but sadly thats the pnd side of me..

Have you got some medication logic..? when are you due back at the gp..? How you are yourself sooner. xx

Hows everyone else..??
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Its gone a bit quiet on here...How is everyone..?

I have exciting news I want to share...Well dd has started to crawl!!!! Its not "full blown crawling" but is similar to comando style! Bless her, she still manageS to get a distance in a short time! She is trying her hardest to crawl on her knees but at the moment it's more with her feet iykwim..but defo crawling!! I can't believe it, I was videoing her and saying she is rolling everywhere but not crawling and as I said it she crawled . Talk about timing!

Anyone else got a crawler yet..?

That's brilliant Shhhh :-))
The commando thing is so comical isn't it?
Dd isn't quite there yet, she is starting to get her limbs into the correct positions but rolls over at the last second. Still no teeth either. She had her development check last week and everything is fine anyway...

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lol yes you really have to watch them now. Yesterday, dd rolled over to ds and took his cheese sandwich off his plate and ate it. He was horrified. Apparently she can eat sandwiches!

I'm so glad that the cranial helmet is working. I know it's upsetting now but it'll all be forgotten in a year or so. I feel the same about dd's birthmark, I feel it spoils the way she looks now but in a few years that'll be gone too and she won't even know it was ever there.

Oh yes, ds is going through exactly that same stage. He is playing up, starting to argue and telling me he doesn't like me. I just pick him up, kiss and cuddle him and tell him that I love him so much. He happily goes off and plays then. I'm not sure that it's the right thing to do but he really needs reassurance now. I think school is bothering him.

Logic - that's great! Well done dd!! Life gets so much more exciting for them once they are moving
Myermay, fabulous news about the helmet. It makes me wonder if we should have made more of a fuss about our ds's head when he was small. It's badly out of shape but at least he has lots of hair!
My dd still has no teeth, and isn't even rolling yet. On the rare occasions that she stays on her tummy for more than a few moments, she just resembles a beached whale

beached whale ..! Tiggerish dd is still like that now, she lies on her tummy and flaps her arms and legs and it's so funny to watch. Logic you are right about the comando crawl. Too funny! Today she decided to open my dads present, it was on the fireplace ready for him tonight as it's his birthday. I am sure he won't mind the holes in the paper or the chewed corners .!!!
I think maybe she is teething again as she is quite keen on chewing the marble fireplace .!!!!!

myermay glad all is going well with your ds. Its seems mad that this time last year we had another load of worries and now our babies are here it continues.! But not long till the summer when we can look forward to pushing and walking (maybe) with our may babies .

Hi Guys, Sorry I haven't been around to hear how your little ones have grown. I've been reading back through so it's lovely to catch up. Now I'm back at work I've had more time on the PC to read up, and avoid working! DS is not crawling yet either and doing the rocking on his knees before sprawling on the floor. His birthmarks are really begining to fade and are not such an angry red. He has been a wheezy baby though so we hope he doesn't have asthma. Found out I am pregnant again and due in October so it's all very exciting.

i was hoping to join your weight loss thread but I'll have to give that a miss for now.

Congratulations, Booge :-)) That is lovely news!

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CONGRATULATIONS booge !! ... I am soooo jealous! I would so love another one now but like others have said it seems hard now and it worries me coping as well as being pregnant iykwim. BUT DH & I have discussed future shhh's and hopefully we will also be expecting within the year.
I am so happy from you and I hope it all goes well. If you have time make sure you keep us all upto date on this thread as I know I would love to hear how things are going. BTW have you got just the 1 so far..?