October 2011 - Let the poo obsession begin

[PenguinArmy]

Come chat, moan, boast (by stealth of course), vent, rage, relax, worry and be reassured. Welcome to all the new babies. Stats thread here

Ok I think the babies are in cahoots as Jessica has been nursing to sleep, after I put her down cries for more and repeat. Can't believe she's a week old today! This time last week I was in lots of pain in labour and 11.12pm she was born.

Okay, rookie question here...

How long are you planning on keeping LO sleeping in your bedroom and when are you moving him/her into the nursery to sleep?

Ummmmm ds2 is still in our bedroom and he is 3. Tho article in telegraph recently had a study supporting baby in with mum till 3. Jessica seems to be following brothers footsteps in wanting to be close to mummy all the time. Don't really follow a 'child resting method' but do feel inclined to attachment parenting ( lazy parenting ) x

Hello all

I'm posting from phone so will try and remember everything.

Re contraception - huge noooo to bf as contraception, a friend of mine did and was pg again within a week(!) so has two very lovely, but very close in age dd's! At six week check drs first qs are about contraception! and I got some lovely print out about options. I'm not going back on the pill so it's likely to be something like coil (which I'm not looking forwards too) but I'm not worried about anything like that for a while . I was on the prog-only pill and your periods do come back I was regular as anything even taking it everyday only missed periods the first few months x

Re sex post cs - think it's fine as long as it's not too strenuous!!

We took ds in the pool and sea from 5 months old. DH's family live abroad by the sea so he goes in the water a lot. We take him swimming every week. I never bothered with lessons just let him play and splash and he can now swim doggy paddle with a vest on no problem!

I expresses two bottles last night ede took 8oz, Ayse-Rose 6, and they both slept for almost 7 hours! Going to try it again tonight x fingers crossed!

Oh and rooms ds was well over one but we lived in three story house at the time and his room was floor below ours so I wasn't comfortable having him that far away. Aiming for about 6 months ish with girls x

Engel IME it's better not to plan things with babies and just do things when they seem right At first I found the sleeping noise quite hard and DD went into her own room, by 4 months she was ether quiet or I had got used to it, plus her sleep was worse so ended up back in our room and our bed a lot (although we also moved to a 1 bed place). If she had been a sleeper and we stayed in the 2 bed place I imagine she would have been in her own room a lot sooner. Also depends on room I guess and if you can even put a cot in your room. A lot of people end up with a mattress on the nursery floor.

Last night was just a haze of feeding but DH took him this morning and put him in the sling where he did 2.5hrs before coming back for food. We're due our 3 week growth spurt as well.

Hello I've just joined the October club (Friday night). The midwives keep asking me if she's done a wee yet. I'm BFing and the milk came in early today. She's done lots of poos and they're starting to change from green slime to more seedy. But no wee yet. The midwife will be round tomorrow but should I be more concerned about the lack of wee?

I couldn't have been able to tell if mine had done a wee so early on, but tbh I don't know the answer to your question. Obviously bring it up with the MW and maybe have some naked time or put a tissue/cloth in there to see if it gets wet and you can't tell due to the really good absorbable nature of nappies. The poo stuff sounds good though and of course congratulations on your new arrival :)

thanks Penguin
just after I posted she did a big wee. phew.

Welcome oodles and congratulations. . Glad to see a wee arrived. I was going to say the same as penguin though, I wouldn't have been able to tell that early if it wasn't for the fact that she weed all over me as soon as she was born!

We are currently having a non stop feeding session, I think my boobs might fall off soon!

Welcome oodles and congratulations! I didn't notice much wee in nappies for the first few days, just all over his clothes when I took the nappy off. :) He's 2 weeks old now and it's only really at night he has obviously wet nappies. You'll probably not have to wait long to see if she's weeing if you have some nappy off time.

engel DD stayed in our room until at least 6 months, possibly 7. DH spent most of those months sleeping in her room. Seth's room is still DH's office/studio, so he'll be in with us for a while yet as it needs decorating and Dad is hopefully putting fitted wardrobes in. I'll aim for at least 6 months again, but with DD we learnt not to plan too much. Our mantra is "play it by ear."

Contraception, with DD I started having irregular periods again within days of her dropping the occasional feed, so I'll not be taking the risk. I had the implanon implant last time, but it really messed up my periods, heavy, long, & irregular. I as warned about that though as my periods got much heavier after having DD.
Has anyone tried the patches or injections? Are they any good if you have heavy periods? The other option is a coil, but I really don't like the idea of them.

Today we've had our first proper family day out (not just Tesco's.) Our friends own a deli, so Seth has met all our friends and been to his first beer festival. We're starting him young :o
Well I say he's met them. He's been cuddled by everyone but he slept through the entire afternoon... just briefly waking for a few seconds to do a poo!

Hi all just jumping on to the post natal bus...
Dd is now 4days old and we have had a hectic week/weekend so far, had visitors every day since she was born, decided to do first weekly shop on Saturday afternoon with both kids this also happened to be busiest day in shops and the day my milk came in so needless to say it was doomed to failure from the beginning!

I will never shop on a Saturday again!

Then today we had a christening so dd was in a dress for first time and ds in a suit for first time they both looked gorgeous, (not just me being biased I promise)

Dd has been feeding non stop in he evening/night since birth so I'm functioning on 2-3 hours sleep per night and can't sleep in the day due to visitors/ds etc. I'm now a zombie!

No visitors tomorrow though yay! We are going out for nursing bras though and to register dd (only get 3 wks to do it in Scotland) then home to relax

Am slightly terrified at the thought of dh going back to work on Wednesday. He has been keeping ds occupied most of the time not sure how I'll cope on my own, he'll be working for 1hr tomorrow and 2 on Tuesday but them he's back to full days on wed so bit apprehensive to say the least!

Has anyone bought a breast pump yet? I was thinking o the paneling double affinity but scared of spending £100+ then it not working for me!
Anyone recommend a pump?

Edward I too am a zombie, clearly Poppy does not care that the clocks have gone back and today she has been feeding since about 2pm I swear!

I can cope with the feeding but it's the absolute kicking off which she has also been doing all day which I really don't like.

We ordered a Spectra pump today off Amazon which comes with bf type teats etc apparently because I had read good reviews abiut it on mumsnet.

I am currently trying a white noise cd and hoping she does not wake every 90mins like last night.

My ds baby monitor has a lot of interference so I have White noise anyway!

So far this evening has been a lot better even managed an hour sleep before her feed now long may it continue, I do think it's made a big difference since proper milk came in.

I have an avent pump which is great so far and has great storage containers etc as well as teats.

DS has grown out of three onseys now. Sob! They grow up so fast!

Edward, I've been using a medela swing electric pump for a couple of weeks now (feeding with Avent bottles) and find it v good. NCT were selling it for £85 instead of rrp £99 so worth a quick shop around.

I hope a growth spurt is the reason for only getting 2 hours sleep last night :(

I feel okay in the daytime for lack of sleep but the middle of the night kills me, DH gone to see friends new baby today, I may not get dressed for a while.

Only place Jessica seems to want to be is cuddled up to me. Making anything else tricky (desperate for wee and she's nursing again). At least I can mn on phone

Re breast pumps I have an Avent pump as well but not used it yet. If anyone has any useful pointers re expressing I'd love to hear them but I should probably take myself off to a different thread to find answers about that!

HV came today and DD is back to more than birth weight on day 13. I'd have been surprised if she wasn't tbh as she hardly ever seems to stop feeding! She is very awake and very hungry today.

Hi all,
Snap to Cheshire, Awen and others, E is a feeding monster, doesn't want to be put down and we're managing between 90 mins to 2 hrs max between feeds at night. Very tired today and first day on my own at home.
Not sure if anyone else is having problems with overbearing family but I'm struggling with everyone at the mo. I've got my parents, my sister, dp's mother, dp's aunt and uncle and dp's grandmother all in same small town and all seem to want to be here all the time. I am really happy now looking forward to sorting out house, looking after baby and DP and getting myself a little routine, but it seems that everyone assumes I need help and I don't really, not yet. I've waited to be a mummy for so long that I'm loving every second of it exhausted or not. How do I politely refuse the daily offers from all of them to come watch E for me?

(p.s. I do know that I'm lucky to have so much support!)

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Thanks all - as you were!

Littlepebble - yup I know what u mean about "extremely helpful" relatives. Luckily with ds2 I'd developed a thicker skin to say I was fine. With Jessica everyone sees her as a dolly which drives me mad. Part of the reason I wanted to avoid the 70th meal. I did go in the end as ds2 wanted mummy. It was nice to see everyone but I was pissed off with how Jessica was viewed as object to be passed around and jiggled. Only her aunt had long hold and brief hold with MIL (she had cuddles on day before too and Jessica howled as she was jiggling her around so much and not giving her back when she cried). They are only babies and they want and need mummy. As they get older they will become more social.

Also I just want dh to enjoy paternity leave and not have to share with visitors.

Re breast pumps I have a tommee tippee hand pump and bottles and it works well for me - you need quite a fast let down or you'll be pumping for ages but if you have it's very good. Bottles also good x

I have had a week long feeding spurt that comes with clinging girls - But got them weighed today and seems to be worth it. 5+6 and Ayse is 8lb 13oz, ede is 8lb 6oz x ede put on 18oz in 2 weeks, Ayse put on 13 - finally ede is catching up as she's always been quite a lot smaller than her sister and now almost the same! Those 8oz bed time bottles are obviously making a difference!!!

Hope everyone is ok x on unwelcome helpers I just say 'no thanks, we're ok at the moment' and something like 'I'll let you know as soon as I need a break' and that tends to be the end of it x it's tough but you just need to be polite but firm otherwise you'll never get a break x maybe give in to some you trust the most as you'll also enjoy a nice long bath for 20 mins while someone watches lo sleep xx

Oh and What is it with the baby jiggles?!?! I want to say to people 'shall I jiggle you like that and see if it makes you sleep or cry more!!!' obviously I don't but instead make up that it's their feed time just to get them back

Right it really is feed time now....

hey all

wow - i have been away for a couple of days and missed so much. it seems everyone is getting on really well (even with only a few hours of sleep)

i am afraid to say i have given up breastfeeding (am i the first on here?) and am now expressing and topping up with formula. i found it so very hard and seemed to spend most of the time crying from pain and stress. i know i should have persevered for longer but i decided a happy mummy not obsessing was better for Joseph... hangs head in shame. i am trying not to feel too guilty about it and just move on and do everything else as well as possible.

edward i am using a Ameda pump and it works really well - but my sister gave me it, and her eldest is 8 so i guess things have moved on lots since then...

tomorrow is my first day alone with Joseph and i am quite nervous...

emmazed nothing to be ashamed about at all. you're right the most important thing is that you are happy and in turn Joseph is. I know it's not what you're supposed to say on some mn threads but there is absolutely nothing wrong with formula or mixing I think you just do whatever is best for you and lo - I know we will be expressing more over the next couple of weeks too x