July 2010 - Next thread, cba to think of a title

[Chulita]

I want to witter away to you lot and none of you have come up with the goods so this will have to do...

vik I know I can't bloody believe it! After the shit night before that as well I'm so pleased. I feel like a new woman today, like I could conquer anything!

Although my wardrobe is depressing me and I'm having one of those try-on-everything days.

Ah well dh is looking after D all day tomorrow while I go shopping then the ballet with my mum!

wooohooo dh great news!!

vik lucky you with a week off my dh is on his last legs and really needs a hols but he'll have to wait til xmas now altho we've a long weekend xmas shopping in bruge this month

my current plan is to put F in for 2.5 days in Jan - need to think about which days tho as i like the alternate days i have at present as we're not apart 2 days in a row. doing mon wed and then fri am might be the answer for now but seems a bit silly to use up mon and fri as they're great days to have off for long weekends. mind you i could always swap them as needed anyway, i'm thinking of keeping A at home for that half day for a couple of months so i get time alone with her and then when i feel ready around march (?), up her days to 2.5 days too.

chul really helped actually by asking what I'd think if i looked back in 5 years time and actually I don't think the half day affects them much but it'll make my life much less crazy and allow me to switch off from work better when i'm with them.

i do feel some residual guilt about i tho.

chul sorry, forgot to answer you about A sleeping. no, she isn't. she's spending lots of time in our bed/on me still. tooth no 12 is still not broken thru, maybe it was delayed when she was ill but it's right under the surface but has been for ages.

woodlands post a pic of the dress and then we can judge better. maybe swap the boots for shoes to make it less worky, add hat, nice jewels/brooch etc :)

do you have some of the high-heeled brogues that are around at the mo? they might work well but depends on style of dress.

oh and A still bf so no beaker but hopefully soonish

no worries mlic

Cake I used to work Tuesday, Wednesday Friday. It was perfect for me, I got a long weekend every weekend, never had that Monday morning feeling, and I always felt on a Tuesday morning, 'only two days then I'm off again' then on a Friday morning 'just got to get to 5pm(ish) and then I'm off for three days'. I wouldn't work Mondays if I worked part time, it makes bank holidays awkward imo.

Right, well the thing with my dad - you know we bought a house opposite them, they've had the keys cos it made sense but my dad has just been taking liberties.

1. He used the upstairs toilet and didn't flush it, when I went up a month later, the loo was full of green, mouldy, foul-smelling grossness, the room had the door shut so I had to cut my way through the rancid fog with a machete to reach the flush (of course right in the middle of morning sickness so then spent the next 30 mins heaving into the downstairs loo).

1. He dug up part of our front garden without asking cos he's obsessed with turning our car around at the top of our very steep driveway. Large piles of mud, big rocks, grass everywhere, looks an absolute mess.

1. While I was at the park with L and S, he took our car without asking, and tried to turn it around at the top of our tiny, steep driveway, reversing it into our garage while he was at it. Huge dent, loads of paint chipped/peeling off, car looks a mess. He then says he'll buy a pot from Halfords and do it himself but doesn't offer to pay for the repair, turns out our bumper wasn't primed properly so will cost £300 to repair, if you just touch it up like he says, it'll all bubble and peel off, told him this and he still hasn't offered to repair it. He jokes about it at least once a week.

He also nearly burnt the clutch out cos he'd never driven our car, didn't know where the biting point was and our driveway is very, very steep, stank like burnt clutch for 5 days.

1. Last night he told me he'd given away the cast iron fireplace that was in the garage that I'd told him TWICE that I was going to sell. When I asked him why, he said:"well, you've got tenants coming in and I just needed to get rid of it". It wasn't his fireplace, tenants aren't going to fuss about a small fireplace in the corner of a DOUBLE GARAGE ffs, and I'd already told him I was going to sell it. He just gave it away to those people who drive around offering to buy scrap metal. I was fuming!

There are a few other small things he's done around the house without asking, just cos he's not got a job and he's bored. I've told my mum to give the keys to the letting agent today and not to keep a spare but send it to us. She's said she'll pay for the repair, but he's just being a complete tit.

Off now to the garage to get respray quotes again, back later!

chulita! Gosh that's awful If that was my dad I'd kill him

Sounds like you need to put a safer distance between yourself and your parents, Chulita! About 200 miles or so should do it.

M still has a bottle before bed, viksam. I know she's meant to have a beaker at this age, and she happily has her drinks through the day from a sippy cup, but her naptime milk and bedtime milk are always in a bottle. She has about 8/9floz, usually.

She loves the bottle of milk so much and still cuddles up in my/DH's arms for it (though has tended towards holding the bottle herself, lately), then falls straight asleep afterwards when she's set down. I just don't want to change it! ... Though I guess after Christmas I'd better start making a better effort to change the routine.

For sleeping M seems back on form, thank goodness. (Though DH now has manflu the cold, unfortunately.) M slept through last night from 7pm until I (gently) poked her awake at about 7:20am this morning. I'm seeing a benefit to these darker mornings, M seems to be sleeping later. High hopes for a lie in tomorrow.

Though we've got her a GroClock for Christmas (Father Christmas is bringing Brio) so we can train her to look at that and hopefully not regress to waking earlier when the days eventually start getting longer again.

Sorry to fret (again), but is M the only one now that still hasn't said any words? I'm sure she hears/understands us, she'll fetch items when asked or come on request. But she still hasn't said a word! She occasionally babbles, but is generally very quiet.

However, on the flip side... Those in the know, what's the average age for sorting/identifying shapes/colours? Because M was sorting Christmas baubles into colours the other evening, and passing me the right baubles when I asked for them by colour (without pointing).

I think that's a little ahead of average..? It makes me feel a little less worried about her being a slow poke on talking if she's a bit quicker on other things. I guess baubles are more interesting than talking to her!

How's everyone doing on Christmas shopping? I'm about 80% done now. I love Christmas! DH won't let me put the decorations up yet. [scrooge]

bloody hell chul, i don't blame you for being so have you said anything? will he be a pain when you're living there/have tenants or is it just whilst it's empty?

good point re mondays mlic in the past the nursery have been brill and let us swap bank hols for another day but they don;t have to do it and so it could change. maybe tues, thurs and fri am then.

at the colour recognition - that's bloody amazing spirael! it def sounds as tho M specialises in things which she's interested in.

oh and have bought 2 presents so far - both for F and both dinosaur-themed clothing (really cute dino top from joules and a dino dressing gown from m&s - he choose both). nice going eh?

I agree spirael, that's pretty amazing at this age!

Blimey, chulita, I don't blame you for fuming. It's so hard to deal with issues like that with parents relatives though isn't it. I usually let it go and end up fuming when they're gone.
Thanks for the baking tips. I think my mistake was that I expected the stick to come out completely clean. Oh well.

Thanks cake and mlic for the explanation about the naughty business as well. I'm not sure I completely understand it but it's good to have different input. I always worry (yes, I know, I hide it well, but I do ) that I f*ck her up because of doing things that I don't know are bad for them (like calling her a naughty girl)

mlic I'm sorry about your troubles with E, but can I just say how pleased I am for you that your relationship with W has changed. That's just wonderful. Bloody typical that the other one is playing up now, but that is most def just a phase, be that a teething phase or a being a bit jealous phase. I hope it'll get better soon!

spirael No words from my M yet, either. Seriously, don't worry. I have completly given up on comparing her development wise to the babes on this thread. She always, always comes out last, so there is no point doing it. Every child develops differently and whether she started speaking at one or two won't matter anymore in a few years time. A friend of mine once said that he couldn't wait for his little boy to start talking and then, when he did and said bugger for the first time cos he heard daddy say it, he was just thinking, stop talking, stop talking . Like yours, my M does understand lots of things though and fetches the right stuff if we ask her. She can do that for both languages as well, so I'm really not worried about her not speaking yet. I also know plenty of kids in RL who started speaking much, much later.

viks Nothing new here. The scan and CTG yesterday was OK, plenty of amniotic fluid and a nice heart beat, hardly any contractions. The doctor now doesn't think it's imminent. She also said that I'm holding him back, cos I'm not ready yet. Bloody hippies

woodlands Putting on some fancy shoes seems like a good idea to me to fancy up the outfit.

dh Wooohooo on the night. Long may it continue.

kk and stac You are quiet. Are you both OK?

Lately M started to take ages to fall asleep. Anyone else got that? She used to fall asleep within 5 to 10 minutes. Last night she was chatting for an hour before she finally fell asleep and thus is knackered today. Though she is just supposed to be down for her lunchnap but has grizzled and chatted for the last 20 minutes. What is that all about? Right, she's full on crying now. Better go.

It's probably not as amazing as you think... There were only three colours: Red, Green and Gold. Sorting them into piles was fine, but when handing them to me red she always got right but green and gold she mixed up a couple of times.

I guess my slow to talk fears are fairly irrational. I think it's just because she's taller than the average, so when other people say "What's your name?" or "Are you going now? Bye bye!" they wait and expect an answer from her. Then they give me a look when she just smiles wanly at them.

I've just booked a mobile therapist to come to my house at 3pm for a facial. Check me out

people always do random things like that spirael. F was an early talker but even so people used to ask him stuff he had no clue about - eg 'how old are you?' when he was about 18m and had no concept of any of that.

i have the opposite problem with baldie in that she looks like an enormous, walking, talking 6mo baby

i'm sure you know this already trudy but it's v common to be slower with speech when learning 2 languages.

at 'hippies'

well jel mlic

you ok tsc?

trudy fwiw I don't call either of my two 'naughty' but L is forever calling S a naughty boy so it won't make much difference in the long run.

spirael I know you're not really worried but L's best friend honestly didn't say a single word until she was 2 years and 5 months. She just grunted. They came to visit in May and L was running around with full sentences while E just grunted every now and then. Fast forward 5 months and she's talking just as well as L, she was just storing it all up til she was ready. (Interestingly enough, she could pick out colours a lot earlier than normal too, and is very good on number/letter recognition)

cake I don't know what he'll be like when we move in, except that after this they most definitely won't have a key. I thought it would be a bit tricky but now I'm wondering whether I'm going to be hiding behind the curtains so he thinks we're out etc. I chatted to my mum about it, he just can't see that he's done anything wrong so it's pointless talking to him, mum was fuming on my behalf but if she says anything to him she's just 'nagging'.
It's all because he's not got anything to do all day so he just potters around. He acts like an 85 year old and he's not even 60 yet, we all worry about him but he doesn't listen.

DH will be working til about 8.30 tonight, so it's going to be a long afternoon! Not sure what to do for tea either, not that it matters, S is going through an extremely fussy stage and won't eat anything other than weetabix so that's what he'll be having.

For the first time ever, M didn't have a lunch time nap

It's gonna be a shocker of an afternoon

There'd be nothing but a blazing row with my poor-excuse-for-a-dad if he did that. Make no mistake. And I absolutely think you're right not to let them have a key. Hopefully when you have tennants in there he'll get used to not being able to do things there anyway, then by the time you move in it'll be more normal not to interfere :)

Mine will probably have weetabix too chulita. If anything. They have sandwiches/wraps/scones sort of tea at nursery about 3.30pm and tend not to want anything after that.

I look forward to Fridays so much and then when they're not here I really miss them and wish they were pottering around. Ironic.

She's making the most of you trudy, she must know it's her last full day until her baby brither arrives

^ brother

The thing is I love my dad to bits and we've always had a good relationship but this just shows me that he has no respect for me at all. He'll ring at some point today (he rings about twice a day, another boredom thing) but I don't feel like talking to him at the mo.

Trudy, S has just had 40 mins and is up so it's going to be a shocker of an afternoon for us. His premolars on the bottom are just breaking through so I think he's unsettled from those. Still though, 40 mins over a whole day is not.good.

Mlisc, I'd love to have a morning off but I reckon I'd miss them too!

Well getting a facial in my living room with my slippers on was...different

I liked the convenience of it but it wasn't as relaxing as normal. Although it could be rose tinted glasses talking as it's over a year since I've had a facial. Maybe even two. I also end up yapping away for the whole hour when I should just relax but hey ho.

Hope your afternoons are going ok trudy and chulita!

Blimey, they don't get half grumpy when they get tired, do they

Actually it wasn't as bad as I had feared and hopefully she'll sleep better tonight...

Mothers of daughters (maybe not cake though ): How do you get your girls to keep hair ties and hair clips in? I waited 32 years for this moment and she got really cross and ripped them out straight away

How was your afternoon chulita?

Are you gonna book a facial for home again mlic or are you gonna go out for the next?