september edd new babies arriving come share the ups and downs here

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Hello. Think i was first to deliver off the September EDD thread so waving to see if anyone else out there yet to join me :)
Had my 2nd DD on 26aug by C-sec. We now home but struggling with BF and baby lost 10% body weight in 3days. Started to top up with formula in syringe to try give cracked. Bleeding nipples a rest, but milk is starting to drip out now leaking everywhere! Hoping for a better night tonight after 3nights of hourly feeds and snatching 2-3hrs of sleep.
Anyone else struggling too?

Sorry to be negative but I had a copper coil - nightmare and cried when it went in - could not sit in a chair for two days as the thing spiked me and had to beg for it to come out two days later - 2 months on I found it had caused an infection which took weeks of antibiotics to clear. I know they are great for some people but not for me. I also had the depra injections which made me very low and hormonal. Hope it improves soon. Saying that dh says I am being a nightmare last few days and I do feel quite hormonal - may just be the time when our pregnancy hormones drop low so that it could be that causing the mood and it's just coincidental that it's the coil.

Well dd's ear ache and temp only lasted 24hrs but she has just wet the bed, the 2nd in three nights wondering if it's all linked.

Ds went down and was alserp by 9:15 and woke at 3am for a feed so getting better, the pattern seems to be two hourly after that though.

Feral very jel of you living in Cornwall tis my fav place in the uk. If I won some money I would move there in a heartbeat

Crappy tv is the best thing about mat leave. I did watch one of the housewives of new York the other day, by accident, 'twas very funny, they'd gone on holiday. My mat leave with dd was sponsored by nip/tuck

What a morning. Have just emailed dh to basically tell him where to go. Yesterday I had my mum and three other members of my family coming over for a celebratory meal for my mums birthday. Got up at nine thirty to get to church with the three kids having been up alot with lo in night. Dh met me bleary eyed at quarter to ten - with sarcastic remarks about me causing stress by trying to go to church (he doesn't come). Took the kids and had a really stressful time trying to cope with three of them on a long service with no kids groups. Got home and scratched my car because dh had parked inconsiderately and not left me enough room to get in. Got annoyed with dh because of all this at which point he goes off in major strop and is then quite miserable to my family when they phoned to check arrangements - they arrive over for afternoon and he is still on strop. He was then helpful in clearing up but I asked several times for bin to be put out ( he needed to move his car again to get it out the drive) and he said he would do it later. Woke up this morning at 7.20 and called him from upstairs with lo to check he had done it - no - he then threw a major hussy fit because I was nagging. I am so fed up of dealing with his moody strops and him trying to make out that it's because of me being unreasonable and hormonal so I have sent him an email telling him to shove it. I am so hurt and angry - have done all the nights alone for two months and not even had so much as a bunch of flowers from him or a well done - he hasn't even said how thrilled he is to have little one - everything is about how he doesn't get to go out enough, how ge wants to go on his next snowboarding trip/golf day. Last week he was out thursday and then when I phoned Friday lunchtime at work he was out at a restaurant having lunch and he snapped at me that he doesn't get to do much - I haven't been out in the evening for eleven months now. There comes a point when you just have had enough and I think I reached that point this week. If he thinks I will be putting up with him in this state and his father over Christmas he can think again - one selfish twit in the house is enough so I have decided to rock the boat sooner rather than later. I know he read my email but he didn't even bother to reply or come and talk to me - that figures !

Sorry lovebeing - there is a link with bed wetting and illness - the illness interrupts the signals sent to the brain telling dc they need the loo and so often despite being potty trained they have an accident. They tend to grow out of it but it's very common. It was always a sign to me that my dcs were coming down with something.

candr pur ds1 was a lot like that. Could often c it poking out as he was in rears & struggling, unable 2 push it out. Was heartbreaking 2 watch. Assumed it was just how his body worked. Until he was kust over 1yr old & went in2 hospital a couple of times. Eventually consultant a consultant sed 2 stop giving him cows milk & switch him 2 soya enriched with calcium. It worked & hes fine now. Perhaps it may b worth cutting nown.on cheese & cows milk if ur bf or switching 2 a lactose free formula if ur ff? Perhaps mention it 2 hv (tho our was useless. & wen we moved down south our new hv gave us a suprise visit. We mentioned it 2 her, she sed put him back on cows milk. Ended up with ds being constipated & throwing up so soon put him back on2 soya!)

ssmile i had mirena (which after 1 1/2yrs perforated my uterus & got tangled up in fallopian tube. Was removed under general anasthetic) i agree about the moodiness tho.
Am now on pill and feeling much moddier :-( dh was going 2 get snip so i wouldnt b pumped with hormones but now we're thinking of going 4 #4 (tho definately not yet).
Just picked up leaflet on implant. But still feeling a bit weary about having an object put in me after coil experience. Leaflet has website on
www.fpa.org.uk
i'll nose on there c wot else is available

hope jojo enjoying her time herr in somerset. Was lovely here yesterday, tho looks like it may rain 2day

Oh dear minkyj hugs hope you are able to sort things out with DH when dust has settled. I'm vluckly my DH is quiet gets on with stuff and only flips about 4times a year whereas I can be the livewire and struggle managing my hormones. I'm finding my cycle trainer very helpful in releasing 'happy' endophins just 20mins pedaling everyother day gives me some head space pedaling out stress listening to faithless dance music :) whilst babe sits in her pushchair watching me or sleeping due to white noise trainer makes. Can you engineer any "me" time into your day even if its only 20mins?

on computer now so i can actually c wot im typing. have been saying this 4 ages but seriously need a new phone. when myn was a couple of weeks old my pregnant self forgot i was carrying it, dropped it & the screen cracked. today it feels really rough so i dont think itl b much longer b4 it gives up the ghost.

just been on www.fpa.org.uk to look at contraception options. looked at a few,inlcluding the injection, but its not for me. and also looked at the vaginal ring- am i the only 1 who had never heard of that until today? dont think thats for me either- esp wen it says 1 side affect could b mood swings! - & stroke/heart attack?!?! not completely sold on the implant but shall give it a go.

played about 3 or 4 songs on xbox last night b4 lo started crying. knackered me out! cant believe i was doing more than that while i was pregnant! tho 2 b fair i wasnt puttin o much into it then.

bike sounds a fab idea ssmile had a really old 2nd hand squeeky 1 with dd and loved sticking the mp3 player on and going on that. tho i think i struggled at 10 mins

am putting on weight with all my scoffing down junk :-( may have scoffed down 3 donuts yesterday amongst other things have found 2 pitta breads with egg, cheese and rocket very filling and quite good for energy. may stick to those 4 lunch 4 a bit. any other good lunch suggestions?

v.v. tired 2day :-( lo been feeding very little and very often, eps at night. but as im coming down with a cold, thinking perhaps he is too and that this may b the cause of his feeing 'issues'?

haahaa never tried the crossed out word thing before- can u tell

Quick message as am phone
Jimmi am having a great time my nan and grandad were very surprised and happy to see us all and the baby bloody freezing down here must be missing the London fog!
Think the change in water has upset LO belly a have had two loose nappies since we have been here oh well sure it will return to normal when back home

on phone so a quick one but wanted to just send virtual mn hugs to you minky and hope things settle with DH soon. Hope he acknowledges how you're feeling and you get some more support

Think this things get better after six weeks isn't what it's cracked up to be- our nights just not improving. LO just doesn't settle. Seeing HV today so will see if she has advice.

MAde Xmas cake yesterday and had shopping trip on my own Saturday whilst oh looked after LO. Felt weird without her. Got depressed at having to shop for bigger clothes - I lost weight a couple years ago after many years and it was so good to be able to shop for size 12 that going back to size 16 was sad. Diet starts today - think I've got so complacent whilst pregnant that I've carried on eating what I want (and keeping up with super slim oh). But do have a gorgeous LO as a result of this.

Also ssmile I'm very hormonal or something - get quite severe mood swings and get horrible to oh - think made a break thru over weekend talking to oh and hoping can start to control them - I literally have a conversation in my head to calm down - like gollum and smeagol in lord of the rings! Does scare me a bit but hoping it calms down. Most if it is reacting to two years of mega change I think.

Enjoy holiday Jojo

jimmijamthe contraceptive choice is hard especially as last 5yrs i hadn't really bothered as we were trying for our two girls. I'm regretting my coil if it continues to give me these mood swings I'm giving it a month to settle down if it doesn't I'm getting it out.
Hope your Lo not getting a cold it screwed up our sleep feeds for two wks. I'm also putting on weight nearly half stone since had babe :( exactly what happened with DD1 I was tryin to avoid it this time but its breast feeding &sleepless nights makes me SO HUNGRY!

jojo glad you enjoying the west country it is lovely I grew up in S London vglad I live in devon now and my girls vluckly to be growin up by the sea.

Trying to make a skirt today half made it two wks ago would like to finish it today but I've only just started and already babe wants a feed, its 12 and in a blink of eye will be time to set off on school run and I need to sort wet washing &prep dinner, where do the hrs go??

Oh Minky, I'm so sorry that your DH is being a bit of a twunt. I too live with someone who often can't see past the xbox end of his own nose and I know how incredibly frustrating it can be. I think men are just naturally less empathetic than women perhaps. And also crapper at listening and then we get accused of nagging because we feel we have to repeat ourselves umpteen times to make ourselves heard

After my wobbly last week DH and I have spoken about this and gone over all the strategies that we were taught in our months of Relate counselling two years ago which seems to have helped.

Very impressed with your skirt making ssmile; the only thing like that I hasve managed in the last two months is a very small alteration on a coat for DS. I have mountains of material that I have been meaning to make into things like taggie blankies and cushions for ages and just haven;t got around to it. I agree, where do the hours go? I think newborn babes eat them.

Candr, was Bill Bailey good? I've never seen him live and have always wanted too

Not gettting very far feralgirl with skirt in two hrs done 4darts and half waist band, babe is not playing ball does not want to be put down today Hohum will have to abandon I fear my efforts today. I really want to make skirt in material I bought 2wks ago gorgeous green winter fAbric but need to finish this blue cord Aline first yess sooo frustrating babies eat hrs!

Minky - Hope things calm down for you, you must have a lot of patience to put up with it for so long, can you express and make DH take baby for day to see what it is like for you?
Feral - Bill Bailey was great, really funny with great music, so worth seeing if you can.
I was up till 4.30 am with LO, don't know who was crying more in the end we were both so tired but as he was in pain he was fighting it and wouldn't eevn settle lying on me in bed. He has slept better today so hope he will sleep well tonight. I feel he would be better in cot but am really scared of putting him in other room (it won't fit in ours) as he may be in pain or bring up milk and I won't know (very pfb I know but can't help it he is only 7 weeks) Might start putting him for naps in his cot to get him used to it as I know it will be a screaming battle when he does have to be in there at night as he likes being close when sleeping.

Candr, I don't think it's pfb to not want to put your newbie in another room; I love having DD in with me and I remember feeling really odd when we moved DS into his room at about 5mo. I have only just started experimenting with putting her down for naps and not having her sleeping on me when she's tired during the day.

candr can you fit a crib in your room instead?. Bit bigger than a basket but smaller than cot, babe can stay in it until stand up so 6mth+ I got one out our paper second hand for £20 works for us I &baby sleep better close together.

We also had a crib with 1st 2 dcs which lasted them until 6-7months old wen they went in their own room (which has reminded me, from the 1st night they moved out of our room they slept much better. Perhaps waking just once in the night 4 a bottlee then straight thru. Dd often managed 12-14 hour nights & a 3hour daytime nap).

Got optitions later as last few days iv realised my reading has gotten terrible. Cant read words on my mums tv & couldnt read a magazine that was sat on sofa next to me. I think seeing objects is fine tho (4 me anyway, ive never had 20/20vision). Wish me luck. My mum spends about £400 on a pair of glasses that last her a year. Dont fancy entering that world!!

Like the idea of crib will start checking paper. Would rather keep him with me even if he does sound like a warthog at night

Dare I whisper it but netmums.com has local free ads section you may find a crib there.

at Candr's warthog baby! DS was the same. It was a wonder I got any sleep at all, what with him on one side and DH grunting away on the other.

Yay another warthog at night!! My LO grunts away at night happily whilst shes sleeping whilst we're wide awake listening

Went 2 optitons yesterday, need glasses. After 4hours of being home i finally gave in waiting 4 dh 2 ask how it went & told him how thoughtful he is 4 asking me how things like dr and optition appts went :-)

Going 4 lunch 4 mums bday 2day, hope lo doesnt start screaming while we're there. Mum wants us 2 go 2 a pensioners meal thing. Hope i dont stand out like a sore thumb! Made a doboz torte cake, never making 1 again got gg yolk in my eye & burnt my finger making it :-(

Aww, sorry Jimmi; the sooner you get those glasses the better eh?!

Would just like to have a bit of a moment and say that DD slept from 10.30 - 8.30 last night. I could not believe it when I woke up this morning! She was bleddy famished though and has understandably spent the last two hours feeding like a little piglet.

Jimmi - good luck at your mums then! Can you get contact lens? I wear them constantly - easier than glasses but they take some getting used to.

Feral - wow!! that's some sleep!! Well done little feral!!

jimmijam arh the pensioners will make such a fuss of Lo.
feralgirl wow hope it lasts that mega sleep!

My Lo sleeps Brill 8-12/1am but then I'm really struggling to get her back to sleep off me. She feeds, goes to sleep I wait 20mins+ till floppy then put her down but she really struggling with wind. She only feeds for ten mins and I've tried winding her in middle of feed but its not helping. I fell asleep last night after being awake 12.30-3am with her leaning on me but she slumped down I had no idea id gone to sleep it scared the crap out of me, this is peak SIDS time I felt awful. I think I'm just going to have to put her in crib which right up next to my bed, and see if she can start setting herself abit with my hand on her tummy. She has started to settle herself in carseat and bouncy chair now. If I'm dealing with DD1 and can't get to her for 5mins she will grissle&cry a little then I turn around to pick her up she has gone to sleep! is anyone else having much success putting Lo down awake in cot? I'm trying not to let her cry much at night as our hse small I don't want her waking up DD1 who is vlight sleep.