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Sept 08- The threenagers have arrived - Advanced negotiating and crowd control skills required

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DebiTheScot · 24/08/2011 22:14

Sorry Meglet if you wanted to start the thread with your title but I thought I'd best do it while there was still one space to post the link to this one on the last one.

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ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 25/11/2011 08:40

Be calm MrsA, be calm. You cannot control everything, so don't waste time, energy and emotions trying to. What will be, will be. All will be fine.

When you have some time alone, lay on your bed, close your eyes and connect and talk with your baby. Tell the baby how excited you are to meet it and you are ready for its arrival. Visualise going into labour, the labour itself, the birth and finally holding and meeting your baby for the first time

Have faith in you, your baby, and your body's ability to birth your baby.

Nap in the day if you need to, get dp to see C in the night, and you can't do anything about your PIL going on holiday, so, meh. M was present for I's birth and it worked out fine.

Or, if in doubt,i find chocolate is the answer to most things Grin

MrsArchchancellorRidcully · 25/11/2011 10:11

Oh iltmimi thank you for your post, it's made me cry and really helps. I'll try the visulisation thing - that's something that I believe in.

CappuccinoCarrie · 25/11/2011 13:01

What ILTMIMI said. Believe me I know your frustrations, right down to the carefully organised child care which went out the window when I was 10 days late (my lovely friends had cleared their diaries a week either side of my due date but it wasn't enough!). You will have a baby, the only 'if' is the time, but it will definitely happen soon, there is a baby in there and you're going to meet him soooo soon and get to know him and have wonderful adventures together, and these days of waiting will soon be a distant memory, I promise

DebiTheScot · 25/11/2011 16:22

sending MrsA a very un-mn hug and some Thanks and Brew
He will be born and you can do it. I haven't been properly overdue but my friend recently went more overdue than I want to mention and she got very down and was beginning to think she couldn't give birth. She is now a very happy mummy of a very cute and healthy baby boy.

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Meglet · 25/11/2011 20:35

That baby will arrive MrsA. It's just cooking for a bit longer than you expected.

Meglet · 26/11/2011 20:30

We've actually had a bearable day at home. DS built his Lego space shuttle, DD was basically annoying and cute and I made cottage pie, wrote Xmas cards and did my Shred DVD. And we spoke to my sister in Oz with Skype, the dc's took a while to get used to their Auntie being in the computer Smile.

As much as I hate being cooped up with my pesky children I do like our pyjama days. After a while the kids seem to be happy to potter about so I can get on with things.

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 26/11/2011 21:55

I adore pj days too. It has been known for me and the boys to have one midweek if we haven't got anything on Blush

I've pretty much done my Xmas shopping, but I do need to do my cards. They are such a bloody chore, but I feel mean for finding them a pita.

I took M to the cinema for the first time today. We went to see Cars 2 for £1 each - just incase he didn't like it. But he did - hurrah! Can't wait to take him again. We then all went to the Christmas Fair in town which was lovely and, er christmasy!

MrsArchchancellorRidcully · 26/11/2011 22:04

We had a slobby day too - except popped to acupuncturist in the afternoon to have her 'induction session'. Sigh. more period pains but nothing to get excited about. Currently in bed watching I'm a celeb.

C is being a pita at teatime. She's recoverinmg from an upset tum so isn't that hungry atm (which is fine) but instead of just pushing food away, she plays with it, grabs, throws food etc etc. She's barely eating too. Hoping things get better and I go into bloody labour soon!!!! Argghhh.

Meglet · 27/11/2011 16:28

Just had a gem from the DC's. They're colouring at the table, DD is half naked as usual.

DS......"MUM, 'DD' is drawing on her nipples!!!!" Grin

digitalgirl · 27/11/2011 17:15

Aw MrsA can't be too long now.

I'm already getting those weird tightenings that I remember getting early on with DS. Whole uterus goes rock hard and feels crampy.

Had my anomaly scan earlier this week and all looking good. We opted out of finding out the sex so it's another surprise for us. Think I've accepted this baby is happening now. No longer thinking in terms of 'if', it's when.

Continuing to declutter - we have upgraded our old tv to a flatscreen. Living room feels much more spacious now we've wall-mounted the screen. Have also spent a bloody fortune on new winter boots and shoes for ds. To be fair his feet have been the same size since spring so we haven't had to get new shoes for ages. But he's now a 10 (bigfoot).

Lol at nipples meglet! I think it's hilarious whenever ds refers to his 'balls'.

iltmimi sorted for Xmas already! Am jealous. I started thinking about presents in September but suddenly the months have flown past and I've still got loads of people's to get including dh and ds.

Pacita · 27/11/2011 21:29

Bookmarking and fully expecting MrsA's baby ANY DAY now! Thinking of you. And, erm, sleep while you can!

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 27/11/2011 21:34

Your dd sounds like M Meglet, he is constantly in a state of undress at home. If we're lucky he just takes his socks off. But mostly he is just in a tshirt, although recently I have relented and bought him some skinny tracksuit bottoms and he will wear them - under protest.

It's nice to hear you talking of when rather than if, Digi Smile

M always makes me laugh when he refers to his ball bag. I made the mistake of saying it once, so of course now he thinks it's hilarious talking about it and stretching it like it is made out of play doh or some such.

M is also a size ten, his shoes look like clown shoes. Baby I also has huge feet. I blame my dad - he is a size 12!

We're having breakfast and dinnertime woes with M. Lunch is fine, he gobbles that up. The other two meals are another story though. I don't mind the not eating much at dinnertime, but it's breakfast that is driving me crackers. He asks for x,y,z he gets x,y,z. He then doesn't eat it and then half an hour later, 'I'm hungry'. We have done the whole talking about it thing with him, ie 'you asked for this, if you choose not to eat it you wont have any snacks, just your lunch' etc etc blah blah. I think the big gun threats are going have to come out. But that is such a pita, why can't he just do what I tell him to do?! Grin

Where's ninja? NINJA? Where are you? How are you?

Meglet · 27/11/2011 21:41

digi flatscreens are the answer to cramped houses aren't they. I have a
big old tv but would gain a lovely chunk of floorspace if I had to upgrade to a wall mounted tv. Also means small children can't pull them over .

Pleased to hear your boring pregnancy news too!

I'm so bloody annoyed with myself as I've overspent the last couple of months, although it was partly due to DS's birthday party and getting xmas presents in.... and buying some new winter clothes for me and emergency dvd's for the kids sick days....... and a couple of big days out. I'm now on a mission to stop frittering and keep on top of my finances. . Home made food and playing at the park for us for a couple of months I think.

Hope you're ok mrsA.

MrsArchchancellorRidcully · 27/11/2011 21:58

Still here. Still pregnant. DP being a cock. I have boob pain like you wouldn't believe - feels like my boobs are being cut into by razors. No one has any idea why. It's relieved by warmth so I'm thinking early milk coming in or blood vessel constriction. Sorry to winge and moan - all of us are just really fed up and I have a whole day of looking after a 3 year old who doesn't get why mummy can't chase her round the garden. Sigh.

DebiTheScot · 27/11/2011 22:02

I was wondering earlier about starlight too. I made muffins, or muffings, and it reminded me or her! Is anyone else missing?

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Meglet · 27/11/2011 22:27

debi LOL. I can't look at a muffin(g) tin without thinking of her. Poor Starlight, all the good stuff and common sense she speaks on MN and all can think of is her kitchen traumas.

Sorry you're feeling crap mrsA Sad. What's the plan over the next few days? Are you having more actupuncture (sp?!), how long are you allowed to go before the IW or the hospital will want to assess you?

Right, I have thrifty home-made biscuit ingredients to weigh out so I can bake them tomorrow. Better go!

Debs75 · 27/11/2011 22:55

ILTMIMI size 10 is huge. Robyn is still in a size 8, and has been since late spring. Lucy is a dainty 2 and a half and Robyns old size 4 wellies were hanging off her today.
Robyn has also spent a lot of the day naked and has been showing us her bum. Lovely girl that she is, she calls it her bum(back) and bottom(front). She was running around smacking her bum earlier asking daddy to save her from the bum smacking monster.

MRSA hope the boobs stop aching soon and hopefully C is in bed and not too bothered about no garden time. It has been blowing a gale here all day so tried to keep indoors

MrsArchchancellorRidcully · 28/11/2011 01:46

Yes, size 10 is big! C is only a 6.5/7, and that's only just. We spent £50 on a pair of winter boots for her but they are brilliant, hard-wearing and will last till next spring easily.

In terms of assessment for me - officially per nhs I am 40+5 today (Monday). Having more acupuncture Tues after 2 sessions on Sat and Sun. Seeing I'm Wed and she has offered a sweep if I want one. A bit nervous cos they accidentally broke my waters with C which led to induction. A week on Wed (42 weeks) is the cut off for 'normal' gestation but luckily the I'm is then looking at expectant nmonitoring with scans and providing all is well sees no reason to induce. One of her clients was 43+ weeks using this and still had a home vbac. I just can't work out why labour won't start - baby's head is deeply engaged and pressing on cervix. Surely the bugger is bored by now?! I think I'm literally one of the last on my antenatal thread for Nov and I'd prefer a Nov birthdate to be honest!

Helps to come here and winge though.

MrsArchchancellorRidcully · 28/11/2011 01:47

Bloody phone. I'm = IM

Meglet · 28/11/2011 07:25

You obviously have a very cosy and interesting uterus Smile.

Aren't the mornings dark now? We're going to do the school run on foot / buggy [chilly].

Pacita · 28/11/2011 11:08

Hello MrsA, you remind me of me when I was waiting to give birth to DD against the clock before my parents had to fly back to Spain. For what it's worth, I just wanted to say that I had a sweep (or swipe, as we called it) and went into labour that same evening. I went on to have an easy, short labour in the birthing pool a mere 3 hours before my parents flew back. Sending you oxytocin vibes and pineapple juice.

It is lovely to hear from you all and from the smalls. Unlike your little strippers, D if very keen on wearing clothes, and arranging his own outfits with interesting and unconventional results: e.g. bright t-shirts over checked shirts and such like. He is so keen on dressing himself that I dare not argue.

We are still having poo issues, that I am accepting with a zen countenance that stems from six months of trying EVERYTHING. He takes himself to the loo to pee and has done so from the start, he wakes up with dry nappies and goes to the loo first thing in the morning. But there is no amount of bribes, threats and mentions of big boys who do poopoo in the loo that will persuade him to sit and do it. He will demand to be put in a nappy, or he will do it in his pants. I think he has developed some sort of trauma, or he's scared or he is ashamed. I don't know. What I am doing is just not making a fuss any more, throwing away lots of cheap pants who are beyond rescuing, and allowing him to wait for his night time nappy to do it. He is perfectly aware that he needs to go, and in fact, he even says. "Mummy, got nappy, going to do poo, ok?"

Great to hear about your boring pregnancy, digi, and may it lead to a boring birth.

DD is 10 months old and has 3 teeth. She engages in the odd bit of nipple biting and finds it hilarious when I wail in pain. She is also beginning to sleep a bit better after a hellish period of two hourly wakings from 8 months. I was back at work then, and at the end of my tether!

CappuccinoCarrie · 28/11/2011 12:34

Hi all! DS has tiny feet too - one a 6 and one a 6 1/2. 4yo DD is only a size 9 1/2, can't believe some of your 3yos have bigger feet than her!
DS2 is 3 months old today, can you believe it?! Taking him to get weighed this afternoon, my prediction is between 16 and 17lb, but closer to 17. He is actually the size and weight of DS1 at 7mo Shock
mrsa it sounds like your body is getting ready, sorry about the boob pain though. I had forgotten what the pain of let down can be like - as though my nipples have been clamped in a vice. It does get better though.

All this discussion of willy bits reminds me of a conversation DS1 had with my best friend the other week
DS1: I did a wee on the potty! (jumping up and down excited)
BF: wow!! A wee?????! That's soooooo clever!!
DS1: yes, from my willy bits!!
BF: You mean you didn't wee from your ear? Or your nose?
DS1: (suddenly very serious and looking slightly worried) no, it was the long thin part of my willy bits...

CappuccinoCarrie · 28/11/2011 12:36

pacita my friend's DS had the same issue, would sit on the toilet to poo but only while wearing a nappy. Health Visitor suggested cutting a hole in the nappy with a razor and not telling him about it. It worked a treat - poo went straight through into the toilet and the boy was cured of a problem he'd had for years

Becaroooo · 28/11/2011 16:25

"cosy and interesting uterus" Meglet thats so funny Grin

mrsa It will happen, you know that, but its hard when you go overdue Sad I was ready to rig up a rope and pulley system to get Toby out!

I will be popping in and out (forgive the expression) to check on you as we are suppose to be moving this week - eek!

I dont know when you will go into labour. I dont know what the birth will be like. But I know you are a fabulous mummy and that is one lucky kid you have cooking in there x

Becaroooo · 28/11/2011 16:26

Toby is a 9 shoe and in 3-4 years clothes Smile

My mum bought him some PJs today and they are those trendy skiiny fit ones?

He will NEVER get his thighs into them but I hadnt the heart to tell her!