July 2010: now they're all 1, some me-time has begun [huge feck-off sarcasm emoticon]

[CakeandRoses]

am bf A and telling F off and have still come to the rescue.

On way back from greenwich and feeling a bit car sick so will catch up later.

tsc you should have said before! Come and have a proper whinge - it's cool. I'm in a similar boat as I want to drop A's dream feed and take away her dummy but I'm too bloody soft to hear her cry even if I'm comforting her. Ditto trying to stop bf in the evening sometimes so I can go out. Ah well, they're only small for such a short time.

dylth sounds stressful, hope you can sort it out.

memphis you are right to be so angry with him!

tsc you do whatever you think is right for F. I also think it's hard to leave a baby to cry when you have an older dc, G crying will wake A up quite often so then we have 2 dcs to get back to sleep. So I go to G more in the night than I did with A.

stac glad R is getting better. No, A is not really enjoying pre-school at eh moment . Lots of "I don't want to go/I'm not enjoying it/I'm scared". She loved the pm session but now is at the am one (with older kids). I'm quite upset about it but don't want her to pick up on my anxiety so am trying to be all positive etc. I'm staying 30-45 mins wiht her when we get there (they encourage parents to stay as long as they want) and she seems ok, the teachers say she's ok when I'm gone too. I know she'll have to get used to older kids at school etc so I'm hoping she'll adjust soon. I'm quite glad at tjhe moment they don't start school til 5 here.

Didn't mean anyone here was to feck off regarding tsc so hope I didn't offend anyone.

stac none of us understood it that way

memphis I had to grin at him legging it after ice cream :)

cake I can see the advantage of having screamy/crying children. Because it's not at all uncommon for my babies to cry maybe I become callous to it so cc isn't as hard I knew there was a plus side

I had a 3 hour nap and I'm still shattered...can't wait for the 2nd trimester. Going to veg in front of crap tv (right after I've shoved L back in bed again), still waiting for her inevitable poo-in-her-pants

Seriously, L makes me want to explode all over the house. She won't wee in her pants - good. She won't poo in the toilet - bad. She's so pinickety about weeing in pants that she just shouted me to change her pooey pants (AAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!) so I did, got downstairs and threw pull-ups away only for her to shout that she needed a wee. Seriously, wee trained since May but has never, ever done a poo anywhere other than in her pull-ups 2 minutes after bedtime regardless of when bedtime is. she's been an absolute angel today but has pissed me right off just at bedtime (again).

I'm after advice but I know E doesn't have the same ishoos. Poor E, hope they get over these colds quickly for your sake!

wss I meant to say that I hope A settles in and starts to enjoy it, can't be easy at all!

A was funny about poos for a while chul when she toilet trained, she didn't do them in pull ups but was v funny about doing them in potty or toilet, she used to wander round the house and do them in random places , once again I say yay for having wooden floors.

It didn't last that long though - since May is quite a while. I think I just kept bribing her, it was a pack of choc raisins (or whatever) dangled in front of her and "Let's have one of these once you sit on the potty". (that's one choc raisin per poo, not the entire pack, btw!)

cakes I get the opposite my family think im too hard for only giving L his dummy at bedtimes and this week when his teeth really hurt, he doesnt miss it when he doesnt have it, but now im worrying that his teeth are taking so long to come though that he will still have a dummy til his teens, im not worried about dummys damaging teeth or anything, my older brother has the straightest teeth and he had a dummy til he was 5, my younger sister didnt have one and she has awful tombstone teeth. Your right about them being small for so long.
chulita sounds frustrating, hopefully it will all click soon, my half brother would only poo in a nappy til he was 4 until dad bribed him with a drum and violin, but it worked.

Lyndons screaming is even worse when I change him recently its awful, and he isnt sore in the slightest but if I touch his balls he recoils in horror, dont know what it is, and another thing he has started smacking me really hard today, no matter what we do he wont stop, I told him no and he walked off, came back with his music wand and hit me so hard he left a bruise :( any advice on smacking greatly recieved?

:( that's sad about A wss have the school noticed anything? Is she away from her usual friends?

R's thing is nipping I have no idea where she gets it from. She thinks its funny when you yell in pain. I tell her no all the time but it doesn't make any difference.

No, they seem to think she's OK stac though they have just increased from having 30 kids there to 40 so I wonder how much they can keep an eye on all of them (they have got 2 extra teachers though too, so 4 teachers instead of 2).

She doesn't really have anyone in particular she plays with and I wonder if that's part of the problem, her friends she has known for ages go to different pre-schools/nurseries etc. There's a couple of kids there she knows from playgroup but not her close friends.

There was one little girl she really wanted to play with but the other girl is a bit older and told A to go away and stop following her around . It's horrible seeing the child you think is the most amazing PFB person in the world being rejected but what can you do? I just keep telling her there are other kids to play with.

What an awful night, ok so not as bad as they used to be but S was awake randomly crying for nearly 2 hours. I was going to drive to Wales today but I think I'll put it off til tomorrow.

wss that is really difficult for both of you. Hopefully she'll find a couple of friends and that'll change the way she feels about things. L doesn't have any friends here and is always talking about her friends in Dorset or two children here that she's desperate to play with but they don't want to play with her. It makes me so sad when she talks about them, another reason I sort of want to get her into nursery earlier so she can try and make friends there.

S isn't too bad with his nappy changes, he willingly comes when I call him and lies down but once I get the nappy off he wriggles all over the place.

Wrt L bribery doesn't work. She likes Hello Kitty stuff so I bought her 3 little figures with tiny cupcakes/plates etc and she knows that if when she does a poo in the toilet she can have them. She already sits on the toilet before bed and makes lots of grunting/fake pooing noises but always says "I can't do poo" only to then do one 5 mins later in her pants. She also says things like "do poo potty make mummy sooooo happy" ... but nothing happens. Drives me up the wall. My last resort is to put her in her room in only pants and the potty and see if that works (I just don't want to clean up the mess when it doesn't). We've got the "Where's my potty?" book so she'll also go on about doing a poo like Suzie Sue. Seriously, it gets me so angry, something's got to change.

Meal plan:
Monday - pea and red pepper risotto
Tuesday - something mum cooks
Wednesday - something mum cooks
Thursday - pasta and cheese sauce
Friday - shepherd's pie (if I can be bothered to go shopping for food)
Saturday - pizza
Sunday - cider pork chops and mash

tsc I think I will just take her pull-ups off her and leave her to it in her room. Maybe put all her toys away where she can't get them so the worst that can happen is that she'll poo all over the carpet. With previous performance though I reckon she'd hold it for days...

tsc im not eating after tomorrow so no meal plan from me, dh is away!
mlic he understands no and laughs so maybe taking him out of the room will work, I actually told him off then he threw himself on the floor then tried acting cute to get attention but I wouldnt entertain him which he hated so maybe taking him to hall will work!

L is waking crying with his rteetl but wont open mouth for medicine, bottle or dummy, he also wouldnt let me cuddle him!
I think we are going to Donington tracl today to the grank prix museum if dh agrees, think L would love it and I really want to go!

memphis there's a racing meet (horses) this wednesday and I really want to take L cos I think she'd love it. Trouble is we've got to go up to our house to discuss the roof :( I really cba and I don't want to sleep in a roofless house!

mlic I will be eating I should have said I wont be cooking! a new harvester has opened near up rather than drive an hour to it so mum is taking us on wednesday I think, other than that I will mostly ne eating salmon and watercress from m and s! I should get my shred tomorrow, very excited! I nearly bought some new bike trousers today then decided against it as im hoping to have a smaller arse in a month!
chulita thats rubbish about the roof, does it all need replacing?

Well we went to Donington, L was loving it (he even climbed behind the rope and touched Ayrton Sennas can so naturally mummy had to go after him )but got tired so I put him in the stroller...this is when dh being a twat all weekend hit a new level, he was pushing the stroller being an idiot and pulling it onto side wheels then he dropped the fucking stroller over wedging L betwwen a wartime oil barrel and the stroller, it was awful he has a terrible lump on his head and the other cheek he screamed for longer than normal (which was 5 mins) I was shaking so much and I was sick :( DH is so so sorry but after shitting in the bath, pissing on the carpet, oh and today he scalded me with tea by bumping into me not looking where he was going Ive had enough of him and cant wait for him to go away wednesday, I even asked him to go away from tomorrow but he cant. So now I want a new 4 wheeled stroller! Im in a foul mood so im going out on the bike to blast away the shit feeling.

mlic I can't believe you cook two meals almost every night! when I'm on a weight-loss push DH has to join in or starve.

memphis yep, it all needs replacing. It was done about 6 years ago but so badly that all the struts have rotted and the plonkers glued the slates on instead of nailing so they've mostly broken and we have to buy new ones. There's quite a lot of roof too...
Wow! Your DH really has put his foot in it big style, poor L. Hope the bike helps blow the angry vibes away.

Ah, that's where I'm lucky cos DH will hoover up anything!

My two pickles are being adorable snuggling together watching In the night garden. S has had 25 mins all day so I'm amazed he's still semi-upright tbh. L had no nap at all so I'm rubbing my hands in glee at the potential easy bedtime