August 2011 - a place to wAit until the rest graduate !

[MrsVidic]

Hi,
Thought I would start us a postnatal thread. Were still in hospital, here till Tuesday monitoring dd (now named Eva) and giving her the anti biotics. Im missing dd1 loads as I only get to see her at visiting and trying to contain a toddler on the ward is tough.

Sorry to hear about the bf woes that have been going on and especially sorry to hear about people making stupid comments. How unhelpful, and what business is it of theirs anyway? I understand that ice packs and cold cabbage leaves can help with the engorgement pain... not sure if you have tried that but thought I would mention it anyway.

DD is 7 weeks old today, can't believe it. There has been a big difference in her over the past week - I see her properly looking at things, she seems to be interested in playing, the sounds she makes have changed a bit... just a lot more grown up.

I went for my postnatal check and found out that I have granulation tissue on my episiotomy scar, which is why I am still having some tenderness there, so now I have to go to the gynaecologist and get the extra tissue removed under local anaesthetic. Less than thrilled, after having an unpleasant assisted delivery and postpartum haemorrhage I was hoping I was done with 'birth stuff' and could get on with forgetting about it and focussing on life with DD. I'm hoping it won't hurt too much and will heal OK.

ooh good luck with that teladi hope ur back to normal soon x

Sarge - I just wanted to give Grace a dummy for settling her, I have tried the cherry kind, the orthadontic kind and the newborn ones she just doesn't want them. I'm just being better at taking her off the breast when it is obvious that she is not feeding properly.

Thankfully the BF is going well now, I have been lucky as I had a bit of a blocked duct but nothing else serious. The worst now is the wet top every morning and the cluster evenings. These are better too as I am expressing on mornings and giving her that milk after bath - thus helping to solve both problems.

Oh Teladi - sorry to hear you haven't healed so well.

ive officially hung up my boobs and stopped bf yesterday as the mix feeding wasnt successful, she would bf for 10 min and half an hour later have half a bottle and so on so i was doing twice the feeding, i just wasnt filling her up enough! so im hoping now on total bottle we may start to get into a bit of a routine with naps and bedtime.

i have tried a few times to put her down in her crib after bath and bottle but she just wont settle, even though she is shattered, she cries and fusses and is wide awake agsin after 2 min, so i always give in and end up bringing her down so the other 2 can go to sleep and she only really falls asleep on me at around 10pm,

Ive not had this problem before my other two were brilliant at just going to sleep when put down in thier cots at bedtime, from about 4 weeks but Willow just wants to be held in the evening.

Any suggestions or tips on how you have mastered a bed time routine would be lovely! especially if you have other kids.

my boobs are killing, not rock hard but my nipples feel like they have been cut off and stuck back on and going through a LOT of breast pads!!!

Bed time in my house- bath dd and Eva at about 630, then while feeding eva put dd to bed then take Eva down and feed till about 7.45- she drops off on me then goes in her room. I find to avoid disturbing my dd1 I have to let her be asleep before farting around upstairs.

Eva weighs 13 lbs now! She won't take a bottle again and it's stressing me out. I go for a run for literally 45 min and sometimes shell kick off all that time - I always feed her just before I go and never go at night. God I feel so alone- just wish Dp could get her to take a bottle- he hasnt felt confident as there's nothing he can do to stop her crying. I need my 40 min run though. It also doesn't help that dd2 will start winging when Eva cries

never i have the same thing with bedtimes still not really settled into a routine, my other two had just started to settle down into a bedtime by this age but i don't know if its due to breastfeeding or maybe cos i have not put enough effort in for getting a routine, but hopefully soon will be able to get it sorted so i can have a proper break in the evening and also get things done of an evening.
i know what you mean aswel mrsv about wanting to be able to leave them with their dad just for a little bit, i wanna do that so i could do driving lessons, which wold be like 1 hr or 1hr 30 but i think dh would not feel confident, but we will see. have not tried him on a bottle yet at all, so thats another problem but will see

Well our routine (now that we have one) is a bit like this. 7pm is DD's bath time which DH deals with, whilst i bath and change Alex. DD is allowed to watch an episode of the simpsons with DH after her bath and then its bedtime at 8pm. I usually then make dinner - give Alex a bottle at around 8.30 and he is usually in bed between 8.45 and 9.00. This time seems to be getting earlier and earlier (it was only a few weeks ago it was 10.30). We'll aim to eventually get them both to bed at 8.00.

This works for us and DD usually gets up around 7.15 and Alex around 8.00, although yesterday the lazy litle bugger didn't get up untill 8.55am.

My DH has had Alex for a couple of hrs when I've been shopping but he has a real test this saturday as I am taking DD to the O2 to see disney on Ice so we'll be gone from 3.30 till 10pm - we'll see how it goes!!

never someone just on Monday told me about holding their arms still when they are fighting sleep and it has worked for me each time I've tried it since then. Hopefully I've not just jinxed it!

MrsV We were having problems with the bottle (he gets a bottle of expressed milk for 2nd last feed) and just tried different bottles. He seems to like the Tommee Tippee anti-colic, either that or it is just a coincidence. And who knows, it could be.

Our wee bedtime routine is that around 8-8.30pm DH will give him the bottle of expressed milk, then I'll give him a massage then DH does bath. We might keep him up for a short time until he shows signs of tiredness, then he goes in the moses basket. Can take 5-15mins to settle him. I wake him for a dream feed at 11pm and he usually sleeps through to between 6-8am. I feel VERY lucky!

awwww sarges he has really grown, how cute! i will have to put some new pics up too when i get a chance

hersetta wow your husband is good having him all that time, and all the dp/dhs helping out with the bedtime routine too i am a bit jealous lol

Very sweek teladi.I think Alex has just grown in size rather than change facially. You tell me though - i have just put up a few new pics taken when he was 2 months old.

Sarge thanks. she is a fantasic sister, almost like a second Mummy. She always greats him in the morning with a kiss and cuddle and says ' good morning my darling boy'. So cute. i am so surprised but there has not been a hint of jelousy. She has been so fantasic with him - hence the treat to see disney on ice this weekend. We are having a girly day!! Lunch at Nando's then the show.

awww so cute hersetta, he looks cheeky! and your dd does look like she is great with him. hope you have a good day out together, that sounds fun

Hi all (MrsVidic here named changed for real housewives of newyork)
Cant believe my dd is so long she's in 6-9 month clothes. Anyone else find this?

littlemiss Have you tried the Tots Bots easyfits? I like them because they have pockets which you can add several boosters into. The attached booster doubles over anyway and each nappy comes with an additional fleece/bamboo booster.

I have only seen the new York one but I am so addicted! Sad I know but it gets me throu

Joshua was also a bottle refuser but I ordered a NUK bottle after recommendations on here and so far so good. He has to be quite calm though, if he's got to crying then the only thing that'll settle him is my boob!

Hello everyone, it's been a long time. I was also known as Yukana.

How has everyone been? I hope you are all doing well with your little ones.

Baby Freyja is 11 weeks on Saturday, quite hard to believe! She is strong and healthy, gaining weight and in a perfect bedtime routine. She is just very clingy at the moment and wants cuddles or to play with Mummy most of the time she is awake. :) Not that I mind of course! Freyja's great grandparents and her grandma (So strange to call my mother that, she's only 39!) have helped get some sleep by babysitting once a week so that's made managing everything much easier to cope with.

She had her immunisations yesterday, was heartbreaking. :( She looked so upset. I have her big cuddles after though so she settled down.

Anyone else feeling really broody? When Freyja hit the two month mark, I felt ready for another baby! DP won't have that though.

I've also uploaded a couple of photos of Freyja, too. :)

Hi all, went to mothercare for a nuk bottle and adaptamil to give me a break from expressing daily to try to get dd to take a bottle.

I learnt 2 things-

1. formula feeding is complicated and time consuming
2. dd is v stubborn and will not entertain any of it.

Fanbloodytastic!

I need a wet nurse. She feeds literally every 45 min during the day and sleeps thru at least. And she screams constantly when dp has her while I go for a 45 min run.

Have had enough, however Eva never seems to have enough

Sounds exciting Sarge :)

I have been away for a week and thus BF only - no expressed bottles and now we are home Grace is refusing the bottle ....aaahhh I am using Avent - any advice on other bottles she may take?

Oh and just to prove how contrary she is - she will now take a dummy from her big sister!! lol

Can't complain though - she slept a 7 hour stretch last night!!!

Grace is 9 weeks tomorrow and had her first immunisations today and a check up with the doctor, he said she is so cute, developing fine and is strong and healthy - beaming mummy here. She screamed when he gave her the jags but after a minute stopped and I BF her.
She got weighted and is a mighty 12lb 2oz...thats her biggest gain - 1lb 1oz in a fortnight

How are you all doing?

Hello everyone, god its been so long since I posted I had to hunt for the thread again!!!

How are you all doing? DS is almost 14 weeks old now!! I cant believe it, he's getting so big. Started a mum and baby group on a Tuesday which is nice to get out of the house. It was only then that I realised how 'behind' DS is with things :( but apparently he'll catch up over time.

Slightly personal question, but what is everyone doing about contraception if your planning on another sooner rather than later. Ive gone back on the POP pill but im bleeding every 10-12 days (it was not like this before having DS). Im not ready for another baby just yet but I dont want a long term method.... im just confused Dont exactly need a method yet, still got to bite the bullet with DP yet.... please tell me it wont be as bad as I think it will be.

Anyways Il try to catch up with the other posts, think DS is waking up now so its dinner time :)