Feb 2010 - we're stroppy, sassy and splendid (and that's just the mums!)

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New thread!

Ah! BG I have been there, they have to advertised externally even if they already know who will get the job because otherwise it is not fair . Thanks for wasting our time! Sometime they are really F. up because they can find someone external who has all the impossible skills they asked. (i.e. speaking 5 languages, having a ph D, post doctoral experiences abroad and be under 25)

god! I am sounding more and more like an old smurf! What's wrong with me?

BG I am in the same boat, I really don't know what to do.

PA I hope you can help your SIL. It is difficult to know what to do.

Thanks for your support, but I am not doing a good job at the moment (too shouty, angry, and mad at DD1 for not listening EVER) and I am on the verge of neglect. PA you should see what they eat (tins, frozen, or raw food)
I need to talk more to DD2 (who is behind) and to get DD1 of the TV.
I am fed up to be constantly with them alone I think. Hopefully DH should come back tomorrow (not sure it is sudden) and won't have too much work so I can take a few hour off (to do what???). I need to get out of the house I think but on my own it is not very fun either, not a really nice town either
sorry for ranting.

BC talk as much as you want if it helps.

mous just go for a walk around the block (several times if needed), deep breath and you'll see you'll be better! I was like that last week, snappy at DS and losing my temper. DH took DS for a drive and I had 2 hours by self to relax and it did me good. Good luck. You're doing a great job but have too much on your plate.

DS understands as much French than English and I make sure that at the weekend, we 'watch' a French DVD in order to add more. Especially as nursery is in English.

I can't leave them alone SB I might be attacked by wild dogs great city I leave in... It is improving though I can do online banking for almost everything now when I arrived I had to queue for ages at the post office to pay the bills.

mous I don't mean to leave them alone but with your DH (or does it means the same result ?) as for the wild dogs, pepper spray? an old bone? Funny neighbourhood you have!

mous when dh took the girls out to a fun fair last week on his own I had no idea what to do with myself and kept watching the clock thinking they really should be back for dd2's dinner and bed time . I have definitely morphed into a SAHM . I think you are doing an incredible job looking after both of them mostly on your own and your journey to your dd1's nursery sounded like hell (mine was a pleasant 10 minute walk or 5 minute drive...). Oh and totally agree with you that there is no point in sending dd2 to nursery just for the sake of it...

mous sorry you're struggling atm, are you getting much adult company. It's hard when you can feel you're more snappy than you should be, especially those days where you don't have any energy from the get go. Me personally I have to make myself get out, long walk to park etc. but I think you do that a lot anyway.

made dinner today :) home made bean burgers, home made salsa, mash and mushrooms. She ate the mash so that's something, oh and she had a couple of bits of tomato from the salsa. Will have the same tomorrow, I always cook enough for 2 days. Started getting cupboard staples in as well. Had skype call with DH again, DD waved and kissed the screen which overwhelmed him a bit, but he's doing OK.

Speaking of slatternly I was just about to muster the energy to take DD to the park and feeling guilty for not wanting to and then it rained so bonus Sister took her while I cooked dinner so more bonus. It's like our old flat where she can run around while I cook but I'm working out systems of doing things and trying to do one more thing each day.

It's NOT like our old flat...

Wild dogs... hmm. We have an urban fox but i guess that doesn't count. Still made dd1 refuse to get out of the car once because she thought it was a wolf (she'd just seen that youtube clip of the appearing out of nowhere on a Russion motorway)

He is not here SB and shouldn't come back this week end but may be he will
They are asleep I would let them with anybody who can sit in my flat (they are lovely asleep and easy )
I am in a posh neighbourhood too I am over sensitive to pepper spray, I would be down before the dogs (reminds me of funny times in the metro and in my high school, everybody though I was going mad or having some kind of asthma/heart attack before they start crying 10 min later)

I hope he dies mous you deserve a break

crap typo, DOES DOES DOES

PA

PA! take that back

He is being very romantic which is unusual, sending poems (a poem to be more exact) saying nice think but still I do need a break. No adult company in the park I have to run after crazy baby monkey who can climb everything so I can't talk with the other mums and most of my friends are away on holidays. The city empties completely in summer because of the heat. My babysitter has gone to live in paris with her boyfriend .

PA

mous I hope when he's back that he'll take care of the girls. Tell him you need a break!!! Good luck

I am still hanging my head in shame but very grateful that I spotted it. Could you imagine if I hadn't.

Feeling nostalgic tonight... just wondered what the fondest memory of dd2's first few weeks is and remembered that she kept smiling to herself, a lot, for no obvious reason, both when asleep and awake (long before she was old enough to smile at us). Still wonder what seemed so amusing to her .

Hahaha PA!!! I did actually laugh out loud at that.

INTG was really lovely - DS wasn't freaked out. He was a little nervous - wouldn't leave my lap, but was really fascinated with the show and engaged. My other worry was that he'd try to run off but he was glued to me.

I got the results of the first blood test, the HCG levels are consistent with what they should be at that many days (15 or 16, I ovulate late in my cycle) post ovulation for a normal pregnancy.

BC !!!! Exciting! Sounds like a little bean is very determined to stay put! Fingers still firmly crossed.

Good news, Bc!
I can't speak for everyone, but honestly, if you need to do some mentalling about being pg, please go ahead. I imagine, like most people, you aren't telling too many people in RL so this is probably an essential outlet for you if you're feeling worried about it. Please share if you need to

Aw, Mous, you do sound fed up and I'm not surprised. It can be SO isolating feeling cut off from adult company day in, day out.

PA that was an epic Freudian slip of a typo! I arfed muchly!
I'm most impressed with the cooking, too. I mostly do pre-cooked defrosted stuff for DD, or cheats like cream cheese and pesto sauce for pasta/potato gnocchi etc. I do try to offer her other things to try, but she either refuses them straight away or takes a nibble then pushes them aside. I think I'm still opting for too much of an easy life with food - I tend to offer stuff I know from experience there's a high chance DD will eat it, so I'm probably not encouraging her to be especially adventurous.

BG aw, it must be touching as well as upsetting that your DD2 misses you and DD1 so much. I imagine she'll get less dependent as she gets older. Bless.

Scones despite getting up by 07.00 most mornings, I'm usually hard pressed to get myself and DD out earlier than 09.30. I do a nappy change and dress DD as soon as we get up, so she's in her clothes for breakfast (habit I got into during winter in Madrid when it was a bit cold in our flat), but I'm usually still in my night-wear and things like teeth-brushing always take four times as long when a toddler's involved.....

Yay BC! Keep us posted, we don't mind at all!

Tee hee hee at your slip PA!

Mous hope he comes back and you get a bit of time. I go stir crazy with even a day on my own with the DDs and no other company/interaction, so I think you do amazingly well.

And very impressed at everyone's culinary efforts. Today DD2 ate:
breakfast - cereal and toast
mid-morning snack - raspberries
lunch - a quarter of a sausage roll, two bits of cucumber, half a green bean plus a huge slice of homemade redcurrant victoria sponge
mid-afternoon snack - strawberries
dinner - a bit of wrap plus two yogurts plus two bits of cucumber plus a bowl of ice cream

By way of contrast, DD1 had:
breakfast - cereal and toast
snack - raspberries
lunch - sausage roll with salad of tomatoes, green beans, cucumber and carrot, followed by a bowl of jelly
snack - strawberries, melon
dinner - dough balls, salad, pizza, ice cream

Not a good day foodwise for DD2 (though she probably thinks it was perfect). Tomorrow will be better (we won't go out for dinner, for a start).

I'm impressed that she eats cucumber, though!

Yes IC, raw vegetables are much preferred to cooked (the green bean was raw too), but they take so damn long for her to eat! Cake, on the other hand, slips down a treat...

Just listening on the baby monitor to dd1 appearing to talk in tongues... (No longer use monitor at home but sound in this house travels in strange ways).
Hmmm, food today. dd2 had a slice of rye bread with gouda cheese for breakfast, very thick continental pea soup for lunch, followed by ice cream, then a few biscuits for her afternoon snack (I normally give them fruit but my mum is very much in coffee and cake mode...), and for dinner spaghetti with tomato and oregano plus pesto sauce, and peas, and grated parmesan. Chocolate pudding for dessert. Not too bad I guess but a little lacking in the fruit and vegetable department. Well, we are on holiday...

Having said that, no way I can get my two to eat salad....

Oh, I get brownie points after all. dd2 also had several handfuls of blackberries straight from the bushes in the late afternoon on a walk . I have the photos to prove it - she looked adorable with her mouth covered in red stains...