July 2010: the "a ffffew more birthdays, a ffffew more walking but are they all sleeping? Are they ffffeck!" one

[CakeandRoses]

tsc- sorry its not going well for you, I know you're fed up with the pinching and kicking, D does that too when hes going to sleep.
He wont feed from you and be in your bed forever, they do self wean although yes it could be when hes 4 but there are gentler steps to take to wean then off nursing.
I dont want to dictate and tell you what to do but Kellymom has such good advice and really made me feel like I WASNT doing it all wrong.

Ive got another birthday party to go to, again in a soft play type place. Really hope D has a nap before we go, it starts at half 2 and he generally has a nap then so we're up early in the hope that both his naps will be earlier.

i thought nursery was meant to tire them out? A woke at 2am really upset and would only settle in our bed (after drugs n milk) and then woke at 6.30am

that boy certainly has a skill there tsc

woodlands apols for being the pedant's pedant on your fb wall , in my defence I was doing it in your defence!

did he make it til 7am mlic? F's managed 6 in a row so he's halfway to a 'spencer'

cake our video monitor has been brilliant, it tells u time and temp and obviously u can see baby too. U can also set up a movement monitor to it which was good for the time we used it. Its a tomy one but don't know the code or anything, it got the best reviews when we brought it but was very expensive.
I'm at mom and dads in brum waiting for D to wake up. He's having a mamout sleep again, weird. Going down for a cuppa me thinks!

So he slept from what, midnight till 7 straight through tsc? That's great progress if he did.

cake I always thought it was just an apostrophe and no extra "s" after a name ending in s...but I am willing to be corrected.

I never knew your dh was 7 years younger either, can we call you Cougar Cake

warning: right, everyone expecting no 2, look away now - i need to have a FUCKING RANT:

F is teething again and is being fucking awful, he properly slapped me round the face last night for no reason and this morning has been filled with relentless violence (hitting, biting, pushing, face-pulling, pinching etc) to A and I interspersed with tears and apologies from him. Breakfast will be a tantrumfest.

He's got 1/4 each of teeth 19 and 20 so we're in it for a while yet and I've already forgotten how completely lovely he normally is.

oh and MIL is arriving today and SIL is literally dumping her two step-dd (we barely know them btw) to stay here tonight and tomo night whilst they swan off to a hotel - she asked dh and altho he thought it was really cheeky, he 'couldn't' say no. just what i fucking need right now on top of sorting A's party.

I sent F in his room after the last time he bit me 5 mins ago and he's shut himself in there. he sounds like he's playing happily, talking to his trains. would it be wrong to leave him a while? (monitor is on)

/rant

when does your wonderful MIL arrive tsc?

Cougar will be fine once I regain my sense of humour wss :)

How long did it take the walking babies to actually walk once they mastered how to stand for long periods on their own without holding onto anything?

D can get himself up to standing from sitting without holding on and I encourage him to walk but he just stands there and eventually sits down.

dh I can't actually remember when G started standing (it can't have been that long ago but my memory is shit) but she started taking steps at 10 mo but is only now at 12 mo walking properly i.e. 90% of the time. It varies though, some babies get into walking really quickly and some prefer crawling for a while.

Thank you mlic He's out of his room now but being ok so far.

That's nice of mil, tsc!

Oh and aibu to think it's cheeky re the step-dds?

dh A's been standing for a couple of months (not nonstop!) And has just started putting one foot out (I hesitate to call it a step but you get the picture). Nursery yday were saying 'oooh, she's going to walk any minute!' But F dicked about at this stage for months as he didn't have the confidence to do. We literally had to throw him at air in the end before he would!

Ill just let him do it in his own time, I guess theres no correlation between standing on their own then walking.

dh F was 14m by the time we threw him at the air and could patently walk if he could so be arsed for at least 2m prior to that!

tsc but does the consent cancel out the cheekiness? It went like this:

Sil: can the girls stay at yours sat night whilst we stay at a hotel?
Dh: are you joking?
Sil: no! Ha ha. Lol etc
Dh: erm, ok then
Sil: can they stay fri night too?
Dh: are you joking?
Sil: no. Ha ha etc
Dh: (after telling me he couldn't really say no although he thought it was a pita): erm ok then

So cheeky or aibu?

He couldn't face the inevitable drama/emotional blackmail (from mil probably) if he said no. We've only recently to an 'ok place' with them after horrific aggro after our wedding etc so he doesn't want to cause grief now.

You're probably right but I guess I wouldn't consider asking to leave my children somewhere like they have.

When I say 'after the wedding' I actually mean 'after the wedding and the 3 fucking years preceding it'

Sorry, this is like an aibu by stealth now!

I've just caught up at last, feel like I'm going to vom, L was up all night, S up at 5.30, sat on the settee watching DH run around tidying up/hoovering/mopping. I feel slightly guilty but the nausea is helping to overcome that
cake I agree with tsc, it's cheeky but he should have said no. How old are they?
I'll be back on later

hwllp everyone I.am.ill. Im so fucking annoyed ive been ill for 10 fucking days I feel I imprive them I hit rock bottom again, Ive been docs im on the strogest steroids and anti biotics they can give me and I feel like shit, went to work yersterday and I was so ill I ended up closing early and throwing up in front of customers, I was crying out in my sleep apprently and im dripping in sweat, DH could have the day off work today as they have an agency lad with him, but I must be improving because I can now smell L's arse! I forgot how bad his poo smells! Oh and dh is up 3 times a night with L's teeth at the mo too.
cakes on dummy, L just has his im bed at nap times and in night, I also keep it with me incase he gets upset when we are out but hes not had it in a while.
mlic sounds like you will have a lovely day for dh's birthday, what have you bought him? I have himted to dh for 2 years that I want to go London to see Lion King and he doesnt get the hint so I told him last week my birthday is January, I want to see Lion King, I wont tell you again so sort it, I bet he will forget and I will get a pair of shoes!