April 2011 - cake-offing, gin-guzzling, wine-sipping, dreams of sleeping

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Off the sleep tangent but I'm seriously wondering if H is a lefty, he uses his left hand for everything while his right is just an anchor. Hmmmmm

Cycle I wonder that too with B. DH is a lefty as was my Grandma and one of my aunties. Although as soon as I think he is favouring his left he goes and does everything righthanded!! He is definitely stonger in his left leg that his right. DH already has dreams of him playing left back for Man U!!

I like it Fizz, H will be a prop on the England rugby squad apparently. No son of mine plays in the backs

B can only play rugby if he's one of the pretty ones who can run fast! No scurmming for my boy!!! Unfortunatly if he gets his dads build he'll be in the scrum! :o

oh and we'll need a new thread soon too :)

DH is hoping our two will be rugby players - he's wanting them to play for Scotland, I want them to play for England

I think I might have got the nap timings better for T today. He's been awake now for almost an hour and is still in a good mood. Bath at 6.45 and then in bed by 7.30 I can't cope with him being up so late at night, it is killing me. And from next week DS1 is in preschool 4 days a week so I need to be a bit more organised - and take advantage of having only T for 14 hours a week to get the house sorted out and to be ready to go on holiday in October.

chilli - did you make it out?

Ali Yes, we did make it out - she woke up about 20 past 10 and after a quick nappy and outfit change we were drinking tea and eating cake by 10.45 :) (well, I was - M was being very cute and chattering to the other babies). She's now on the playmat next to me still being cute, grinning and doing some sort of dance wriggling her arms and legs. I'm really hoping for a better night tonight, or she'll be in trouble... - yes, the embarassing hat and camera will come out :o

M will be playing rigger here too. I say England, DH says France. He'll either be second row or fly half depending on whether he takes after his daddy or me

Went to see a friend today, who had her baby yesterday. He's so tiiiiiny. She's having trouble BFing, poor thing, because one of her nips is flat and he's shredded the other

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Hello!

We've had a lovely last day here. I washed the kitchen floor, we went for tea & cake with our mum & baby friends, and this afternoon I've discovered that if F's got a cushion round him he'll happily sit and play for ages! So I've caught up on the laundry and sterilised all the bottles in preparation.

I hope we both sleep well tonight.

Fingers crossed for you both tonight Buck. Hope everything goes well tomorrow too, even if you have made me feel guilty about my filthy kitchen floor!

Standards around the house have slipped since the arrival of P!

Ugh shitty day here, started with a 5am wake up (knew i shouldn't have mentioned the S word in my last post!) then up at 7.30. Had HV at 11 so got ready and headed off, only for HV not to have any record of my appointment, ended up waiting for half an hour by which time R was starving, by the end of the appt she was practically hysterical, so by the time we got home she was so worked up she wouldn't even take her feed!!! Scream-fest went on til about 2.30 when I eventually gave up and put her in the car and went out to tesco. Of course when we got there she was needing fed again so sat in the car and did it for fer of a repeat meltdown! She's been ok since then but what a bloody stressful few hours, I really can't bear her screaming, is that weird/bad???

Saw a little group of nursery kids while I was out with two young girls who obviously worked at the nursery. One little boy was crying and being carried and I heard one of the girls say to the other " am gonna go in there and get him some chocolate and see if that'll shut him up!!!!!!" Am extremely glad R isn't going to that particular nursery!!

I know it's been discussed before but can I ask opinions on dreamfeeds agan? I hadn't been doing it before as R was a late bedder but in the last couple of weeks she's been going down much earlier so have been dreamfeeding her about 10.30/11 in the hope she will sleep a bit longer in the morning (was working up til last night) However last night DP decided that it was wrong to be force feeding her!!!! And has refused to do it on Saturday night when I'm going out wth some friends. I tried to explain the concept to him but he wasn't getting it. Told him if he thinks its so wrong he can get up wth her at 5am every morning to feed her then. Bloody men!!

Good luck tomorrow Buck! S has a similar cushion that when he's in a good mood he'll use, but he tends to over reach for the one toy he can't get to but just has to have, so ends up toppling. Thankfully he usually finds this amusing!

Frakk Has your friend tried drawing her flat nipple out with a breast pump? I found a hand pump best for this rather than an electric, but it really helped when I was having so many problems feeding S to being with.

Poor S has had a very boring day, and looks like he'll have another tomorrow because I've come down with a cold. Autumn couldn't even let August finish before it's germ infestation descends .

On the plus side S did settle well this evening. I think that if he goes down into the cot a bit awake are aware of where he is he settles well, where as if he's asleep when I put him in the cot he wakes disorientated and we have to calm/boob/settle again. Maybe I'm over thinking things and really it just depends what mood he's in!

Oh and I'm under no illusions that S will have some amazing sporting ability as DH and I are useless! So I'll just settle for making sure indoctrinating S into being a Leeds Rhinos fan!

MrsW I x posted. I know what you mean about the screamfests. When S gets worked up it makes me feel physically sick and I usually get very stressed. I think it's one of those maternal instinct things as friends have said the same, but if someone elses baby is upset it doesn't have the same gut wrenching affect (but it does trigger my let down so I'm usually trying to covertly mop myself up!).

Oh yes when DD is screaming I am actually incapable of functioning. Whereas the woman behind the till in the shops can say 'oh what a lovely sound'
I do get a let down from all sorts though, sometimes the most random of thoughts and whoosh off i go!!

DS2 woke me at 5am, DD slept like an angel, sod's law.

I had a meltdown today after screaming at s to stop whining. I had to leave the room to calm myself and he just screamed louder and now I think I'm a shit mum . I immediately feel bad. I had to call my mum. I just told dh that I didn't want to cone across wrong but I am fed ip with his mum (who will be looking after s when I return to work) telling me what I should be doing now cos I only have a few months and s should be sleeping through the night. And other people telling me what's what, knocking my confidence and generally making me paranoid. All contributed to my meltdown. Dh was surprisingly sympathetic but did say it seems to be part of parenting. It's like people think I'm stupid.

New thread should include 'I can't get no sleep / I'm not an idiot / not doing the deed!?

Kitty, that sounds rotten . I've had my sis telling me what to do since day 1. Although fortunately she's the only family member who has. I'm actually quite pleased with myself that I haven't told her where to stick it, yet! I might save that for xmas!

I know what you mean about the whining. F's done it a few times, but I've got a friend who's baby constantly drones on. It's incredibly wearing. Sounds like you dealt with it well.

I think I'm too nervous/excited to sleep. I've prepared as much as I can for DH. Milk's in the freezer, bottles are sterilised. (I've even told him about the frog song trick!) I've made myself a reminder to take the pump tomorrow. I've got a plan for the morning.

F was such a delight today. I feel like I'm going back just as I started to enjoy this motherhood thing. I suppose something would have changed anyway!

Right, sleeeeep...

Kitty Tell them all to sod off. Can your DH not tell his mother to wind her neck in a little?

Buck - good luck for the morning, will think of you

I did get naps right, T has been asleep with only one resettle by DH since 7.30pm!
My boobs are huge and confused, and I really should be asleep already!

Good luck buck

ffs, why do I get so flipping angry? F's refusing to go back to sleep. I've got to get up to feed him (again) in an hour. I'm so bloody irate I can't go back to sleep.

DH is trying to help. Not really a lot he can do. F's just talking to himself, it's a noise that drives me insane at this time of day. Crying I can do something about (well, except when I'm trying to time feeds).

Aargh. I wish I wasn't so RANTY. This is not helping anyone.

I'll join you in the rangy club. I've been awake since 4am. P hasn't - she had a quick feed and went back to bed. I on the other hand appear to have developed insomnia. I feel like crying. I'm so tired that I'm falling asleep standing up, yet I can't get to sleep. Aaaaaargh

On the plus side, P has had her best night in over two weeks. Typical.

Hmm, told you I was tired. That should have said ranty! Bloody autocorrect.

Ali share the secrets of your napping success! What were the timings?

Hope you got back to sleep Buck

Don't think anyone can honestly say they haven't got angry over the crying at some point. I too have had to leave the room after shouting FFS, just go to f-ing sleep!

DP was cross but on holiday he shared the worst night and got to the point of saying 'You're just spoilt H, go to sleep, I'm sick of you crying'. I know it's bad but I felt way better that he too had a breaking point.

Last night we had four wake ups but H went back in the cot every time, success, kind of...

Kitty don't worry about having a bit of a meltdown, I have about one a week! Unfortunately I think your DH is right that unsolicited advice is part and parcel of being a parent, doesn't mean you can't ever so nicely tell the advice giver to fuck off!

Ali Brilliant about the napping/early night success. Can I join you with the mega boobs? Had to pump at 10pm last night and ended up with 270ml righty seems to have gone a bit mental! (All goes into the freezer stash for when I'm back at work so it's quite useful.)

Hope you got back to sleep Buck and Star you have my sympathies as it is horrid being tired but not being able to go back to sleep >pins insomniac long service badge to chest

The law of Sod in operation in our house last night. T slept until 2.45am, feed and a few dinosaur roars them back to sleep until gone 8am!
DS1 was awake and in and out of our bed from 3-6am.
Soooo tired.

Completely agree with Cycle on the rage/losing it front. I think we've all done it, I know I have and DH has. I don't believe anyone who says they haven't had one of those dark moments in the middle of the night - or at 5pm which is toddler meltdown hour here!

With T's naps yesterday, I forced one before lunch by taking him out in the car (needed to go out anyway) and then he was ready for another by 3pm and slept for an hour. He was yawning loads then by bathtime and went down after a big feed.
I used to want him to nap when we were having our meals, but he'll be joining in with those in 3 weeks time!

Buck I hope you got a bit more sleep

Fingers crossed for you today Buck.

With every baby I have had the 'FFs will you go to sleep moments'. I have always needed my sleep and have found the lack of it in the early months bloody horrible.

We do a dream feed here and it has worked for all of the boys. It has pushed the nighttime feed back and I think it contributes to I only having one feed in the night. It doesn't work for everyone and if they don't want the feed they won't take it.

Only three weeks Ali! I was thinking about that the other day actually and whilst I will be eating what we eat, I think I'll have to look at our dinner menus as we are not so careful/precious with what we put in our food because ds is that much older. I still don't add salt, but we put red wine and olives in ragu's, oven chips every fortnight etc.

I can't stand hearing baby's cry either. It makes me feel very stressed and my nerves jangle. That survival tactic works very well on me, although luckily I don't get let down, probably because it stresses me out so much.

I was carrying I in the sling the other day and I bumped into a friend, she said straight away 'oh, seeing you both with the sling has just given me a let down'. I took it as a huge compliment

Our book group went to see One Day last night (it was one of our books recently), and if you go take your tissues. All of the reviews I read about the film were negative but I really enjoyed it.

Off to my sisters today while dh tiles and fits the suites in the cloakroom and ensuite. Will I actually have two new functioning toilets by the end of the day! Doubtful, but I can hope!