July 2010: Drool it, maul it, crawl over it - that's how our threadbabes would eat a creme egg. But why the Creme Egg?!

[CakeandRoses]

Will that do us?

/panic

How long have you managed to extricate yourself from your baby's clutches for (during their waking hours)?had loads of baby free days when working

Have you managed a baby-free overnighter? yeah a few! both grannies are very good like that!

Are you reading actual real books again (Clue: If the title begins 'That's not my...' then it's NOT an actual real book) yes and only recently and i love it

Are you back in all your pre-baby clothes? no but nearly there. another stone to go but its going the right direction!

Have you achieved anything (non-baby), e.g. created something; done something brilliant at work; found time to help someone else? can't think of anything huge but i help people out a lot. also done my first ever 10k which i suppose is an achievement!

Have you got anything which could be described as a hobby or interest? my excersise classes. i love them!

Have you got an actual social life (note: Stay 'n' Play doesn't count)? yes. don't go out that much but that's not cos i'm not able i just don't want to! i always seem to get a few weeks where everything will happen together so that keeps me going

Are you and dh/dp managing to talk about anything other than whose turn it is to change the poopernova which just erupted/have a lie-in/get up in the night/clean up after Hurricane Mealtime? yes we're getting better at it thankfully

Have you done any of your pre-baby favourite activities, e.g. go to a gig; watch a play; cinema with dh/dp; rock-climbing; dogging
yes we went to KOL last week and have been to the cinema once and i have a couple of concerts and stuff coming up in the next couple of months

Have you got your actual sex-mojo back? yes! but we don't do it as often as before but that's down to tiredness but yes i get the urge a lot!

dh im agreeing with the others, it could take a while, I would also let your mum have him for your wedding night, its your wedding night!!!! she can have no sleep for one night surely? 2 weeks ago L cried and was awake downstairs with my mum for over 5 hours in the night! she didnt mind.
It will be worth it in the end for a few sleepless nights to end with a sleeping baby in the end, I may sound awful here but a month ago I was sick of the wake ups,he was dry, they dont need milk in the night by this age so I just went in lay him back down, shut the door, shut my door and put the radio on to dull out the crying, the 1st few nights was awful he cried and cried for 90% of the night I suspect, but we slept through most of it, He now sleeps from 7.30 ish until 7.30 with no wake ups (for last week no dummy wakes either)

We had a brilliant night, I drank so many cocktails, I was wobbling before I left in the taxi!!! I wasnt the last one home though I gave in a 2!!! two of the group had a set too and sadly because of them I think out support group on a wednesday is a thing of the past,they are refusing to come to group again, one other starts back work next month so that leaves 2 of us!
This wednesday I have my first meeting with my volenteer, shes an older woman, they asked what I want from her as some do really active thing with the children but being older she is limited, I said just so I can have a bath when dh is away or take him for a stroll while I clean or just play with him whil I do they ironing of course plus a talk when I need to vent!!

cake you definitely should go out for a picnic breakfast. We had a brilliant time this morning, perched on tufts of grass by a lake watching ducklings and having coffee and croissants. I love picnic breakfasts the best!

memphis glad you had a good night! I hope you get along with the volunteer lady really well and get some time to yourself.

mlic you plan lunches too? put me to shame. I ought to try a fritatta, I've never made one but I reckon one of them would eat it.

needle you went to bed at 2am? I can't believe you stayed up for so long cooking. Hope it all went well!

dh I'm going to have to let S scream it out at some point. I always think he's in pain or something with the way he shouts but as soon as I pick him up he's quiet so I just need to man up and leave him to it.

Watching a film at the moment so I might be on later.

S was okay as long as we kept feeding him and I like the term brunchnic, I shall use it more often than you'd think.

L has now gone 3 days without an accident, I'm so proud. Proudest moment was today, waiting for DH to pick us up in the car, pissing down rain and L standing in the middle of a meadow with her trousers round her ankles shouting 'mummy dunawee'.

Sorry to say that mushroom burgers sound ...erm... 'orrible. I hope they taste nicer than they sound! Well done to both the Boys of Chaos at being charming and lovely :)

3 days without an accident at this stage is amazing chul! well done to both of you

i rather like brunchnic too. yours sounded lovely. may well treat dh to one tomo or very soon if not.

sounds like noisy and naughty didn't live up to their names today mlic , glad they did you proud. you deserve a heap of credit for managing to turn out two smashers with everything you have to handle on your own.

how's everyone else?

we had such a nice day with our friends in the park. no rounders in the end (the men played cricket instead ) but we had a toddlers on mummies piggy back race instead, felix and i won the match AND the rematch and i have ten fucking years on the rest of those lightweights

will upload a pic of the race now so you can check my technique...

not piggy back actually, was a shoulder ride

I was up this morning with L at 5.30 then fed S once I'd settled her back down and he wanted to be up so I turfed DH out of bed and slept til 8am - bliss! I woke up to a fresh cup of tea and the three of them giggling downstairs. 'Twas lovely, usually when I get a lie-in I hear one of them whinging and DH getting all frustrated.

mlic is that cos you don't want to get stuck into raw beef? I'm doing beef burgers today, I don't touch ready-made burgers. Hooray for apologising! If he's anything like my mum that's a massive thing :) Off to google mushroom burgers.

dh how was your night last night?

cake well done you for winning twice! Was it a real chuckling toddler bouncing up and down moment? They're so sweet when they get really excited about something and can't help but laugh really loudly.

At the risk of dominating this thread at the moment, I need to do something serious to shift this weight. It's really bothering me at the moment and getting me down which is stupid cos it's something I can fix, I just can't get the motivation. I just need something to give me that kick up the bum to get me going. We took a family photo yesterday and I hadn't noticed my shirt was up a bit showing this awful paunch :( Everyone's looking at the camera which is so hard to get and all you notice is my horrendous stomach. Makes me so angry that I just can't stop eating crap, aaarrrrgggghhhh! Sorry, I'm just really annoyed with myself at the moment...

Hi ladies. Fantastic day yesterday- we loaded up the tank with the picnic basket and sun canopy and walked to st James' park for the picnic. There were about 30 of us in the end and it was absolutely lovely. I'll put some photos in our fb. Then in the evening we walked down to the southbank to see our friend niall and his band play at "hutstock". gwen absolutely loved the music, and sat in the Icandy dancing and DH and I had our first public dance for aaages. (we managed a full song without kicking each other or falling over, so I count that as a success)

Hope everyone else is having a good weekend x

chulita, I just make a point of looking at my pre-baby photos once a day. It's stupid, I used to think I was such a troll, and now I look back and think how pretty I actually was. Anyway, I find if I spend ten minutes looking at pictures I suddenly find it much easier to go and do my shred in the evening! I write down everything I eat too and find that sometimes the threat of having to write down a snack next to all the other junk i've eaten is enough to stay my hand.

Oh chul and needle i feel so sad how we women feel such a pressure to bear children, be wonderful mothers, wives and much more and then still feel like we have to look amazing too. i'm sure most of our dhs wouldn't worry too much about having a few extra curves after putting their bodies thru pregnancy and childbirth.

it's also so sad how most of don't realise how beautiful we are RIGHT NOW. it takes looking back at photos 5 years later to realise it.

i spent much of my life beating myself up about my looks too. i never had body image issues, for me it was my face. when anyone complimented me, i thought i'd somehow 'conned' them into thinking i looked nice as i felt like i only looked ok after an hour's worth of makeup. it was only being with my lovely dh and feeling properly loved and secure that's made me feel ok with who i am and how i look, altho i now i'm older and look WAAAY less groomed than i did when i felt so ugly

chul, i know its not the point but if you really liked that photo and want me to try and photoshop then send it over

Aw chul :( it really is so bloody hard to get the motivation to excersise along with dealing with 2 kids. I second writing down what you eat it definately helps keep it on track.
Cakes what you say is so true. Why are we so bloody hard on ourselves?
I can totally relate to what you're saying too needle
Mlic i can just picture the scene in your house this morning! ha ha! poor dh can't have a bit of toast for himself!
whats everyone's plans today? it's a bank holiday here this weekend. I'll be finishing off the powerhosing i started yesterday! i love doing it! although it's raining here so won't be as appealing to go outside as it was yesterday

tsc most of the time, i don't think it has much to do with the reality of what your face or body really looks like tho. it's all in the 'ead, mate.

factually, i know my hair, teeth, face etc have always been fine and i've had more than my share of marriage proposals and the protestations of undying love of which you speak . in my late teens/early twenties, i had people regularly telling me i should be a model (sorry that this sounds twattish but it does prove the point) but it was when i felt the most insecure about my looks.

likewise, i'm certain needle for example never actually had anything to worry about in terms of being overweight/unattractive (and looking at her pics still doesn't now) but that didn't stop her feeling like a troll and starving herself

With me, i think my issues go back to not having childhood security of staying in one place with two loving parents. i had a self-obsessed, issue-ridden mother (who didn't live with us) and a lovely father who moved us around for much of my childhood. it wasn't a bad childhood, in many ways it was amazing and wonderful but i think it left me feeling like i didn't really belong anywhere and i was so unlovable even my own my mother wasn't too bothered about me, hence the insecurity.

(and not in weight)

that is too weird tsc

the meals sound good to me. would be good to make sure there's enough fat/calories/protein in the spring rolls/veg soup/...on toast meals tho.

can you chuck some beans/lentils in the soup?

add coleslaw or hummus to spring roll meal or swap spring rolls for something like nut cutlets?

beans on toast is a great lunch, imo