The CRESH Creche and Spa - future home of all ESH

[Muser]

I liked the CRESH acronym more than FESH so have used it. Welcome all ESH to your final stop on the journey. Rest your aching lady bits, try one of the many gin based cocktails, and try to molest the gorgeous waiting staff.

WTF!!!!!! Perhaps his friend should have better control of his dog non? Chances are neighbour is cross with himself for having shoddy fencing and being typical knob has found himself a scapegoat. Bloody cats are sposed to roam free tis what they do!!! If it's mentioned again point out that if dog hadn't escaped this wouldn't even be a bloody issue.

Hurrah for baybee EA! Welcome back meds!

Dromster MB still really only sleeps in the car or on me after a feed during day. He may nod off in pram usually towards end of wak so I'm proper screwed and have to keep walking!

Honey top marks for MrMoo for saying the right things! HI nearly wet himself when I said I was planning a day AND evening away leaving him in charge. Wish I'd taken a photo. Anyways we've currently had serious words and if things don't improve I will have to rethink a few things.

Today has been lovely. Haircut this morning and then lunch with Reggie and her chuckling bundle of fun who is such a happy chappy. We met up not far from Boxerville. I think.

So the weaning is going well. Still bit worried I am overloading him! He had a whole Ella's pouch for lunch and another whole one for his tea and he still wanted more!!!

Oooh - where did you meet Silvio??? Reggie, I believe, is towards our end of Berkshire so you prob were spitting distance.

Exactly what I though Silv & Cunty re. the dog&cat situ. Have calmed down a bit now but will be having stern words when I next see him....there's no way he'd have spoken to MrCluck like that. Arsehole.

Good to hear MrMoo finds it tough being in charge Honey - prob means he's doing it right. MrCluck reckons it's a doddle but will spend the whole time reading his book/newspaper or watching sport so is never actually looking after the kids.

Drom - I found it helped to have regular nap times when LC was little. I was guaranteed to be out in the car at 9am and 3pm pretty much every day so she fell into a pattern of always sleeping at those times. I also allowed her and now BC to grizzle themselves to sleep....not controlled crying as such but I do find the grizzling can escalate until I'm nearly tempted to intervene when whoompfh, he's asleep.

Good to hear the weaning's going well Silv. Don't worry about overloading - babies know when they're full and will stop when they've had enough. Are you still spooning it in or squirting it straight from the pouch???

Ha ha! Squirting on to spoon!!! Happy medium!

Beedon ?

Beedon is tres close. The Coach???

Nail. On. Head.

Good grub. Drinks expensive!! £1.95 for a lemonade!

Also mad bloke lurking warbling on about his son being in the police force but he only sees him once a year. Sad really......

Kate He was probably very stressed and scared about his dog being hit by a car and it's easier to lash out at a woman than as you say, your husband. It doesn't excuse his behaviour of course but I do think it's understandable - it's fucking terrifying when your animals have an accident and I think it's natural to look for someone else to blame. That said, he was of course bang out of line talking to you like that - also the whole roaming cats thing. From my pov there's been a definite shift in the way people will now talk of cats being "vermin" and how they want to hurt them. My ex-boss openly told me that he kept a pellet gun in his garden to shoot cats! I've always been of the opinion that cats go where they like, that's just what cats are and do. If you were to go on AIBU with "my cat goes in other people's gardens" you'd draw the lunatics out. :(

I took the horse out for a walk once and she did a poo in our road. It was a very isolated area and I didn't think much of it. 5 minutes later a car screeched to a halt behind me and a man in his pyjamas (!) started yelling at me for letting her shit in the road outside his house. Given that it was all farmland around... It left me physically shaken and you can bet your fucking life it wouldn't have happened if JB had been stood next to me. :(

silv Sounds good - I did read on her blog that her little boy is a happy little chappie. Are the boys interacting yet?

Kate Sorry, what I meant to say after all of that was, I think you should go around, tap on the door and say you hope the dog is OK, you understand he was shaken up but that it's inappropriate for him to speak to you like that.

PPS Very glad to hear you're all home again medee! :)

Alps not yet! Though MB couldn't help but stare at her little guy laughing like mad when she was tickling him! Then MB decided to then spend most of the time making a high pitched noise sounding sort of like bbbbbbbrrrrrrr bbbbbbrrrrrrr! Hilarious! Then of course I gave MB a toy to play with. Big mistake! Ear piercing shrieks! Toy was swiftly removed!!!!

You are absolutely right Alps on all counts. Now I've calmed down and had time to reflect so feeling a little more understanding and less angry about the whole thing. Had I not been there when it happened I would never have known about it.

Something similar happened when I was out riding on the horse - we were on a bridleway when an old bag in her garden asked me not to allow my horse to poo outside her house . There's a thread on nag and dog about it too - some real nutters out there!!!

Have eaten there many times Silv - they do a pretty decent Sunday roast

So glad you are all home now medee! Hope it's for good this time.

cos a further response re teething and temperature: yes it can cause it! My girl has had temps between 37.5 and 39.9 for the past few days. She's been to the doc and he says there's nothing wrong - even checked to make sure her chest is now clear, which it is. But she's been very red faced and sore mouther - and drinking soooooooooo much! 8oz downed overnight that she would never normally have. We think the bottom two teeth are about to pop. But then again, I have said that before....

sorry for all the hoss/mutt/moggie bother.

Cluck switch your phone on. My mother is here and I want to know if you want to go promenading a la pony.

Re naps, I used to walk/drive or let him sleep on me till about 5 mo. Then suddenly he just started staying asleep when got back from a walk / drive or being put down after falling asleep on me. Now in the morning I will take him for a 10 min walk, come home and leave him in the garden and he?ll sleep for 2 hours, no bother.

The CM just sticks him in the pushchair or bouncy chair and jiggles it a bit and he sleeps.

Nothing we did, just developmental.

Still no teeth. Good night sleeping last night though, best night since Christmas.

So glad you're back homemedear.

Are we preparing the Spa ready for the arrival of the wondrous scorps? Twill not be long until she's a resident.

Kate my mouth is hanging open! What an IDIOT! I think I would leave it for a day, to give him a chance to get over the shock and realise what a twat he was and come round and apologise to you. If that hasn't happened by tomorrow I think I would be inclined to go and knock on the door and very calmly point out that in fact the dog should have been kept securely contained AND better trained in terms of recall; that the law is very clear about the difference between cats and dogs in terms of their roaming free - cats can, dogs cannot, and moreover, even if you HAD been at fault, which you weren't, his attitude and manner towards you wasn't acceptable.

I think you can still say all that quite nicely but firmly. TBH if he doesn't come and apologise the relationship is pretty much damaged anyway, isn't it, so I guess then at that point the bridges are already fairly burned.

Medee so pleased you're home. What are the next steps for her, do you have appointments booked in for more investigations or is it a wait and see thing at the moment? You have had such a rough start. I hope you're doing ok. You always seem so together. I hope you feel you can come in hee and just howl / holler obscenities / stare vacantly if you need to

We had to administer meds to L when he was little for his heart - my top tip would be, get the repeat prescription filled several days before you need it - our local chemist is shite and once forgot to order it several days running, leading to me staging a sit-in at closing time the night before going on holiday (after several visits and phone calls) and telling them to go ahead and ring the police cos I wasn't going anywhere! (I shit you not!!) They got it sorted in the end

Meant to add, it seems what you need to do to get the man to man up around the house, is return to work full time. I cannot tell you how much TGO has changed in the last month. He wakes up in the night and settles Artie ( I got up once last night to feed, he got up the other 2 times), he remembered to put the dishwasher on, he volunteers to do various things around the house and he agreed to my suggestion of a list of things that need doing regularly as a prompt to him so I don?t have to keep nagging. I almost feel like doing the sechs just to prove to him what I have always said, men who do their share of chores get it more regularly.

We've got a big bottle of her medicine (she gets 0.3ml and it's a 100ml bottle), and there will be a follow-up at the neurology clinic in 2 weeks. We also met the epilepsy nurse yesterday and she's to be our first point of contact if there are any new developments, like different types or frequency of seizures.

I'm not sure if together is the right word, we just kind of keep going. She's so lovely when she's awake and playful, and very sweet when asleep, and also feeding so well that the rest of it seems pretty do-able in comparison (except when she is bawling and needs neither food nor nappy change!)

We had a nice morning, with lots of skin to skin and a nice feed, before she fell asleep, then woke up bawling, and settled long enough for me to give her a sponge bath (had to get the glue from the brain scan out of her hair) and then eventually was quiet enough for me to get her in the pram to go back to the hospital for her medicine. She's still asleep and given me enough time to eat my lunch!

Does she have the medicine at the hospital then? Good job you're so near, if so... still means you can't venture very far but I guess that's often the way in the first few weeks. I am so looking forward to driving again this weekend!

Does she like her baths? E screams the house down here. One tip from a midwife friend of mine was to put a towel on her bath seat before laying her in it - that's helped, but she still screams like a banshee when you do her hair. And I remember that glue, L had some of that in various places - not the easiest thing to get out! I also remember a nurse telling us, when he was about 7 weeks old, to get him to lie completely still (whilst awake) for 5 minutes for an ecg - needless to say we failed that test!

I think you're doing fabulously.

Artie screamed for all baths till we ignored all the rules and made them hotter and deeper than you're supposed to!

No, I just had to collect the medicine as the pharmacy had shut by the time we were discharged yesterday. We administer it ourselves at home, just given orally with a little syringe, timed for just before a feed - thankfully she seems to like the taste!

She was OK with the proper bath on Saturday, but doesn't seem to like sponge baths - maybe she is colder with them. She screamed when getting the cables attached for the EEG, but once done she fell asleep then wouldn't awaken!

You are doing fabulously Medee.

We also do the hotter and deeper for baths. And started doing them in the morning as she was too grouchy in the evenings.

Just back from HV. The greediest baby in the world has fallen under her curve again. We have to go back in 2 weeks for another weigh. Whatevs.

Muse, how under? Weighing less than once a month isn?t really recommended as they don?t gain in a linear way. There should only be concerns if she?s dropped more than 2 centiles, rather than just not gaining along the line.

If you?re happy with alertness, wet & dirty nappies, good pink colour etc, then no reason to weigh at all really. In our area they recommend only weighing around injection times, and certainly no more often than once a month. I think I?ve had Artie weighed 4 times, and only then because I wanted advice about other things (might as well not have bothered for all the use the advice was but that?s another story!!)

Soooooo... Artie likes it "hot & deep".

Bear also likes it hot & deep - and is more apt to cry when I'm doing the bath. I think I'm a bit too business-like, in, wash, rinse - wheras dad plays more.

medee Is it officially diagnosed as epilepsy and is this a result of her problems at the beginning?

muser I think they do these things to wind us up. Last time we were at the HV a klaxon went off when he appeared to be "shorter" than at the last measurement. Doctor did admit that he was probably (definitely) measured incorrectly at the time previous because baybees don't shrink!

Just bumped in to my ESH colleague who is 40 and has had 4 in the last 4 years - tells me she's TTC for #5 and will keep going until her body will no longer germinate. Says she'll "sleep when she's dead". She's a proper ESH too in that she works a 45 hour (contracted!) week and her family are all in Tel Aviv and her Dutch husband's family are at the other end of the country.

She's slipped to halfway between 9th and 2nd. Her graph is a mess though as they didn't adjust for her being born at 38 weeks and I no longer understand what she's doing.

She has no problems in the nappy department. And as anyone who sees the ridiculous number of pics I put on Facebaby can see she looks bright and alert. She's now 4.48kg and was 3.86 4 weeks ago.

What centile was she born on & how long to regain birth weight? must admit I have no clue what adjustments need to be made for 38 wks - although 38 weeks isn't considered prem is it, so maybe none?

She was born on the 25th, regained birth weight by 2 weeks, but has been following the 9th since then. In the red book there is a graph for charting up to 42 weeks and then you transfer to the main one. So she would now be being plotted at 8 weeks rather than 10. I think if she was being plotted like that she'd have followed the 25th and dropped to 9th this week. Rather than followed the 9th and dropped to 2nd.

I am very confused by it. My GP refused to plot her weight at her 6 week check because it hadn't been adjusted. The HV said it didn't really matter.