SEPT 2005 - thread 2

[pooka]

here it is

Awwww... Listen to us!!

I love this thread, it's the only place I can be unashamedly gooey about babies

RH, They start off as a wish you know, I'm sure of it, I was secretly wishing last year!!

Milward, your house sounds wonderful, what lovely chaos, my mum had five of us, she did it all within five years We had a brilliant childhood and we're all still really close - though as the youngest I was teased madly about anything and everything

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend with partners, husbands and babes {{{hugs}}}

Night night

Morning!!

Rachel slept from 10.30pm - until 7am!!!and I slept well too! Although ds up from 6.30am.

It was a pink sky early on so not sure what the weather has instore! Bright but cold at the moment! Better get dressed I'm the only one thats not!

Morning all! DH has taken dd1 swimming so I am making the best use of my time (as Alice sleeps) by mumsnetting

Dh was late home yesterday, for him, and I made a brave step and bathed the two girls and got them ready for bed before he got home at 6pm. I was so proud of myself. I wouldn't like to have to do it every evening though, but at least I know I could if I needed to.

Kiwikate ~ what you suggest about pre-empting dd1 about our leaving is sound advice but I do that and did that yesterday (where's the roll eyes emoticon) so it was doubly frustrating for her to suddenly decide to be stubborn. My SIL was visiting with her 9 month old baby and dd1 was excited about going home to see them! So get in the bloody car then! Argh!

Anyway, she was pretty good the rest of the day. Since I gave her an early dinner and got her bathed and in her pyjamas by 5:45 we had the chance to sit down and play a game together so we got lots of time to play together yesterday.

I'm firmly set on two children. I had a horrible pregnancy and I am not patient enough to cope with two. Plus, I am looking forward to our family growing up now and getting past the sleepless nights and nappy stage. Not too quickly though ~ I am enjoying Alice's babyness so much, I am not wishing it away.

It's harder for DH to say he wants to stop at two children because he is one of four. Plus, we have two girls and much as he wanted two girls I think he now may feel he's missing out on not having a son. But there's no way I'd have a 3rd just to try for a boy and I'm not sure I could cope with 3 girls during the teen years.

Hi all

Two bad nights in a row here in the hill house. Nightmares, earaches, wetbeds and the usual round of three hourly bottles arghh will we ever get a good nights sleep?

I to love the baby smell and in our house burrying your nose in baby hair/wrinkles and giving them a huge kiss is called munching and there is nothing better than a good munch.

I am not sure wether I want any more or not DH is adamant that two is enough so we will just have wait and see if i get mega broody when david hits 3ish. We will need to move house in a couple of years time anyway as we are currently in a tiny two bed house and we are rapidly running out of room.

LOL at Cabe's post. I am also 37 next birthday, and this is one of the reasons I do NOT want another! I was one of 4 siblings, who are all very close, but don't feel that we'd be missing out with a smaller brood ourselves.

Like you Beatie, I am not wishing the baby stage away, but don't want to do it again. Two is just right for us. [note to self : remember to get to doctor for IUD]

Afternoon all.. must admit I'm a secret baby headsniffer as well! hehe.

I think before the labour I wanted 3 kids, but now I'm not so sure! 2 or 3 anyway... can't even think about even trying to have a baby for the next two or more years.. and how do you people cope with looking after a newborn AND a toddler?? hats off!

has anyone taken their babies to any mum + baby groups yet? sorry if this sounds like a stupid question, but what do you DO there??! I am a bit scared to go, in case everyone knows each other + I am 'new girl'!

LL ~ Ask your health visitor which groups run in your area. They should have a list. IME it is easier to meet other mums when your baby is small. Mums of new babies just love talking about new babies. Plus, you actually have the time and peace to have a conversation with another mum, unlike when you have a toddler in tow

When dd1 was young I was out the house 4 times per week - twice to NCT Bumps and Babies and another day to a Breastfeeding Suppport group and another day to a First Time Mums group. The latter was great for new mums as you had to stop going when your baby could move, so you didn't get old, established cliques there. Perhaps they have something like that in your area.

HI LL - I was unsure about going to groups, I live in a clique ridden snobby area... I've since found out that very few of the mums knew each other outside the group and they all had feelings like my own (and yours!)

Just pop along - you've all got the same thing in common and it's a lovely way to air anxieties and joys that are all part and parcel of being a mum to a teeny one

At bumps and babies here the leader gives out a set of themed questions and we all sit around saying what a futile exercise it is!!! We have coffee and chatter about absolutely anything - most common subject is 'have you done anything about childcare yet' everyone's thinking of when they can get back earning

Hello LadyLazarus - my expereince of mother & baby groups was all drinking tea and discussing how much weight baby had gained! but I bet they are all different - will depend on the people you meet.

Did everyones / anyones lochia turn watery before it stopped?

Mummyhill - sorry about the last 2 nights - was your MRI ok? take care xx

My lochia did, redhelen. Now I have an extremely embarrassing question . Has anyone else noticed an increase in fanny farts? What must you all think of me????? My pelvic floor must be shot to pieces or something weird is going on because I definitely seem to have gone from zero wind in that region to at least a light storm. Oh dear..........

I've done it now! It's been said and cannot be unsaid. I'll just go and crawl into a hole.

have been lurking here all morning but just had to add a at pooka and LOL, but yes, i noticed that too.

MRI results were ok there is a certain degree of disc degeneration all they can do is give physio to strengthen back and stomache muscles and prescribe pain killers.

LadyL - I run a mums and tots group, we take people on from birth to when they start reception class. Durring the holidays the bigger children are welcome to join us as long as they behave. There is ample opportunity to chat, older children get to run round/play and generally cause mayhem exercising and interacting with each other which is great for their social development. We also run craft activities for those that want to do them. Song time and story time are popular too.

pooka - yes me too - I've never really had them before - even after ds was born or after rampant sex (or perhaps my memory is failing me!)

LadyL - I found it easier in a baby/toddler group when baby is tiny. Most people are friendly to people with new babies. I found that when I went to a new group with a toddler, I got ignored and had a difficult time making "contact" as everyone seemed to know everyone else (until I mentioned that I was pg, then everyone wanted to be my buddy - they had not realised I was pg, even though that was only two days before my due date with Grace!).

Do go, and even if you are shy/uncomfortable, tell people it is your first time (they will know what it is like joining the group, and then won't assume that you know people there).

Now you've done it, you'll have to go and report back to us

Pooka . Nope, didn't happen when lochia stopped. But did this week when I managed to find the time/energy to get back in the sack with dh [took pity on him as he keept moping around saying things like "this is the longest ever without ..."]

I managed to forget the anniversary of our engagement (on Guy Fawkes day fgs!! how could anyone forget that?) - which has always been a special day for us. But dh got me a pressie (which he gave me a couple of days early, because I was feeling down). Mmm - maybe that was a ploy on his part to get me in the sack? Well, good for him, because it did work

Oh thank goodness it's not just me. Glad I raised my head above the parapet now......

Aaaarrhhhgh!!! their still letting off FIREWORKS here...

mummyhill - hope your back will get better with the physio xxx
ladyl - I used to help run a playgroup & the parents & babies had a great time. They could chat whilst little ones fed, played or just sat comfy.New mums were really welcomed - hope you have a good time

Cabe - how annoying - hope it will be quiet soon for you.

Morning!

Ds - playing up and its raining heavily! so worried its going to be a tough day!!

DH had left his alarm set for 5.20am - which woke me but worse dd - so insisted he did her feed! oh well she had slept since 10pm. We then slept till 8.30am - whilst ds helped himself to a vienetta icecream cake thing in the freezer

Sounded like world war three out there lastnight with all the fireworks going off. Much to my disgust i could still hear some being let off at the 3am and 6 am feeds. So much for legislation stating that you have to stop at 11pm. HTF do they think they can enforce that one? The cat was going mental all night even though i slipped a sedative in his food. chinchilla slept through most of it and so did the kids

Thanks Milward I've calmed down now.

I'm sure the fireworks have got MUCH louder this year - several times house party fireworks set off car alarms in the street over the course of the evening... And the ones let off at the castle shook the whole house Really, just like bomb blasts - My sister's little boy was terrified, crying at the noise, we had to resort to TV to distract him but he continues to erupt into tears saying 'daddy shut door' Bless him

Oh dear - reading that I sound like such a fogey

Hope the weather doesn't get everyone down today - it's ghastly here

Wow - every one is quiet today!

Ds has -as I feared been a total herbert all day! oh well nearly bed time!

DH in stange mood too!

Going to the doctors tomorrow pm - hope to be told that my dodgy scar is healing well - and not reinfected / or needing even more antibiotics. Want to start looking forward to brovs wedding, Spain, my birthday, ds's birthday & then Christmas!!!!!!!

hi all, will be posting pics of my two dds in a minute if anyone wants to see them?!