Jan 2008 - I´m 3 and I own the world

[mixedmamameansbusiness]

It was getting desperate and since MrsMCJnr suggestion came in last and I was being lazy I just went for that - hope that is ok.

Simps - great news with M. In Camden they rarely send letter to remind but I am going in to the drop in imms clinic next Friday to get E pre school stuff done. I did try and get it done a while back but he was 3 yrs 3 mnths and has to be 3yrs 4 months.

Regarding the boy, I would not commit to having him again after Thursday. S has one friend who is very rough and just doesnt stop. S does encourage him but gets tired of it really quickly but he just keeps going. There is 4-5 in their little friendship group (i.e. see each other out of school) and I just encourage the others although happy for them to be friends iyswim. I am not sure that there is much that can be done really without some kind of difficulty with the parents going forward and they will be together for a long time. I would just be prepared for this time and park definitely sounds like a hgreat idea.

Oh and you may have been ever so slightly spoilt as I feel that way with S sometimes but this boy soudns the opposite extreme rather than "normal" iyswim. (whatever normal is )

Simps - i think you have to keep going with the 'in THIS house we don't do x' & 'in THIS family we don't fight' etc.
Even to the point that J will pick it up and say it.

HV coming later, bets on for M's weight? WE both reckon at least a good stone :)

A stone????

And here's us being pleased that Nathan finally weighs 12 kilo...

He's beating Sabela then!

I wouldn't say yes to having the boy again after Thursday. Perhaps you can say the boys aren't getting on very well in a different setting?

Well done for getting through the visit. You're a great mum trying to maintain their relationship with their Dad to the extent you do. I hope one day they realise how lucky they are in you.

Ok. Advise me time. It's the blooming food again.

S is going through a period of eating very little, even of food she likes. Not too much of a problem however, it means that fod she doesn't much like she won't eat at all and this includes all vegetables apart from tomatoes and all fruit except for tiny bits of apple and banana. I know I'm supposed not to make an issue of it but I have made an issue of vegetables because she is constipated to the point of crying with pain at times. However, persuading her to eat soups etc with veg in (which usually she tolerates) is getting really hard for both of us. What do I do if I'm not supposed to make food an issue but it is an issue because she's so consitpated?

Help!

sometimes it can help to reverse the circle - get some lactulose from the doctor to clear the constipation so that the tummy ache doesn't put her off food.

also make sure she gets plenty of liquids as that will help.

personally till you sort things out I would stop the banana as this can bung them up

Would she drink a smoothie?

M likes the fruitapura puddings (come in a pot like yogurts) they also do drinking ones too....

So, basically I should stop insisting and be devious. I knew that. Thanks for putting me back on track.

I know that about banana but it never seemed to with her. I'm loath to stop the few things she actually eats, but may only give it if she asks.

Does anyone have experience of syrup of figs?

Never heard of syrup and figs but I like figs and I like syrup so it sounds amazing (in fact I bloody love figs).

I know that it is obviously some kind of medicine probably and what I have said is irrelevant but i DO LOVE FIGS.

Sorry I am waffling and no help.

Have you told her that when she is pain trying to do a poo it is because she has not eaten enough fruit???

J goes through phases of not eating too well (although fine with fruit, its veg thats the battle ) and I found a reward chart online which has a dinner plate design and you put a sticker (reusable) on it whenever they have a peice of fruit/veg etc which works well...

Yes - she's got the general idea. She even tells me she's going to eat lots of carrots etc, and sits with them on her plate saying, 'Mmmm' but she just can't do it.

Sometimes she asks for a new thing in the supermarket like melon but can't ever bring herself to try.

Well, thanks ladies. Lactulose bought and given. Stress off. She ate a reasonable dinner and there was a much happier vibe.

LaT - how is she getting on now???

Poor J had a tough day today

He went to youth club (his 3rd time) and he came back so upset he could not talk

Apparently a girl (older than him, about 7/8) had cornered him in the park (they took them all to the park to do a treasure hunt)and began teasing him/picking on him and ended up punching him on his cheek

I did not pick him up (my dad did and he did not realise anything was wrong till they got back)

I am soooo for him

But the good news is that he was down to start beavers in sept and ||I went to a PTA meeting at J's school this eve (my dad had kids) and the lady that runs beavers is in PTA and I told her about the youth club incident and she said a place has come up for beavers from next week so at least he is excited about that!!

Does anyones DC have a micro scooter??

M cannot ride a scooter and due to being hypermobile she just cannot do it, but I tried her on a friends micro scooter today and she was soooo chuffed as she can do it But they are £££ Just wondering if they are worth the money or whether a cheaper version (The Entertainer do one for £30) will do iyswim....

Simps - :( for J, so can he start Beavers early then?

I think we have the micro scooter, is that the one with 2 wheels at the front? T loves his (well it's hidden in the shed right now as i can't face scooter accidents with his poorly leg), so yes i would say well worth the money. In fact the 'normal' scooter i got (after a tip off from you i think!) for his 5th birthday i've left in the loft for now, as the micro one is still perfect, have had it for 2 years i think. H has been eying it up but no chance of being that coordinated just yet (or is it me being scared at the thought of him careering off ahead of me with no thought for safety that's stopping me? )

Glad he's got something to look forward to Simpson. Poor little boy.

I second the micro scooter. S has one and she can ride it - and she's a very cautious child so it must be easy. Her frfiend has a 'cheap' one and it's much heavier, clunkier and difficult to steer. Also, I think those ones always fall apart. I think the micro will last and it is very light - for all htose times you'll be carrying it home!

If you look on the codes and vouvhers bit there's a code for 20% off in Jojo Maman Bebe and they have free delivery. So that's about forty pounds - not so much of a difference.

JKS - they can start beavers from 5yrs and 9mths so he is old enough but they did not have a place till sept but one has miraculuosly come up

J uses that scooter that you have put away all the time and tbh it has done well considering it was so cheap but J is good at sport etc and finds things like that easy but M is sooo unco-ordinated

LaT - I found that code last night thanks!! I have ordered it, just waiting for it to arrive now. Stupidly I told M about it this morning and of course she wants it now

You'll have to ring the postman and give him a good telling off for not bringing it What colour did you get?

they only had the pink one in stock, although M would want that one anyway as they only do pink & blue....

Do they come in different colours??

Think we will have to "customise" it with some hair bobbles etc as everyone has a micro scooter around here, don't want someone going off with the wrong one

Not sure why now but we customised T's with some red electrical tape around the upright.

Ours is actually hidden in the shed right now as we didn't want him on it with a cast, and it's staying there for now as his limping is putting me off letting him take any risks! He complains that his leg is tired and achy too so don't want him overdoing it yet.

Does mean we need to rethink his already postponed birthday party. His birthday is in May, we've moved the party once to July but that's still within the 6week 'be careful' window so may have to postpone further. Though we are entering awkward social situation stage as then it's school holidays and everyone from school will disappear - don't have all their contact details.

And anyway i'm peed off with the parents/mums at sch as only one gave me a Mary present/card. It sounds pathetic but another mum had a baby in November and there was a collection & a lovely basket of goodies for her. Makes me feel a total outsider (lots of them started at the sch earlier in the pre-sch) :( Just something to dwell on....

H is doing really well, lots of nursery rhymes :)
M is fab too, squeaking for a feed, again.

just got email to say scooter has been dispatched

Hope it arrives tomorrow....

J has got sports day on friday, he is beside himself with excitement and has been "practising" for the egg and spoon race with a tea spoon and potato

Hope he wins something or there will be tears!!

Oh, JKS - forgot to say on the birthday thing can you not leave it till Sept??

I know thats a good way away but at least it means he can invite people if you cannot do it in July.

I have the same debate every year....do I do J's party in July before school breaks up or in Sept when they go back...

I always end up doing it in sept, mainly because I put things off to the last minute

When I write out the invites I just have to make it clear how old he is (otherwise the parents think he is one of the oldest in the yr iyswim)

I could Simps, but then it gets more complicated.

T goes to a sch with 2 pre-schs. The 'other' one we don't know anyone there.
In sept, the 2 groups come together & get mixed up & made into 2 'new' classes.
We've just been given the lists (cue more cliqueyness, urgh) & of course there are some on there we don't know.
So, do we only invite
a) his class but just the ones we know & give invites out now (excludes new lot)
b) the whole lot that we know & give invites out now (excludes new lot)
c) wait til Sept & invite everyone (could get tricky with numbers)
d) only invite non-sch friends to something over the summer & just tell sch people if they ask (which they prob won't) that we didn't bother in the end
or
e) forget about it & write off £50 deposit at soft play place
or
f) something else?

v confused!

J has a new class every year and tbh as he has lots of friends out of school from his old playgroup, kids of my friends etc I just tell him he can invite 6 people from school and I let him choose iyswim.

Last yrs party, all the kids he chose to invite were not in his class but had been till july and I suspect the same thing will happen again....

J's party is on a boat though so am limited to how many kids I can have really (20 max)

I also invite a couple of friends for M to keep her entertained (J was allowed to invite 2 friends to M's party)

Was called into office again today at pick up time from M's nursery

That is now 3 times in 3 wks...First was for hitting a teacher (fair enough) second was for lying on floor screaming and refusing to do flashcards saying she wanted to "play" (also fair enough) but today I am called in as they are concerned about her language as she called another child a "loser"

They kept saying I don't know where she would have heard that, we are concerned etc....I just said she has a brother who is nearly 6, she has got it from him etc....

I know you have already ordered it Simps but E has S's now discarded microscooter and S has upgraded to the (very expensive) macro. I think they are brilliant and so worth the money. For us particularly as E will have S macro once he finished with it etc. If the microscooter lasts until Em then it will be the best purchase ever.

JKS - parties. I told S he could have 6 friends and just let him decide who they were. I had it at home and let them have a bit of free play and abotu 45 mins of "games" and food. 2 hours done. He loved it and they all had a great time.

Sorry the school seems to be cliquey. I am so lucky with S school as I have made really good friends with a few mums. There are about 5 of us and we have been out for dinner and regularly decamp to an outdoor gym after school that the kids have taken a liking too. Although to others maybe we are the clique. Although I hope not. Is there anyone there who might be in a similar position? I find it is easier then.

Simps - about that girl at youth club. What a cow. Great news about Beavers. I was thinking about that for S. He does swimming but if he is able to swim well enough once back from Turkey he may drop that and wants to do Karate. Dotn want more than 2 activities really. Particularly as uni kicks back in in Oct.

just done first test drive on micro scooter and it went well, although M is very slow...and has not got the steering at all

She wants to go on it to pick J up from school, guess we had better leave early then

Thanks Mixed, may have to think of something different (though the deposit at the play place is annoying me, i may see if they'll let me carry it right over to H's 4th birthday in Jan next year though).
Also good tip on the macro, had wondered if it was worth it as it is expensive. How old is S?