Jan 2008 - I´m 3 and I own the world

[mixedmamameansbusiness]

It was getting desperate and since MrsMCJnr suggestion came in last and I was being lazy I just went for that - hope that is ok.

LaT - :)
Interestingly on my BF supporter course we had to do a presentation at the end.
One of the other ladies created a 'tv advert' for BF (based on the McDs advert that talks about zero being added if you've seen it?) very clever and we were all talking about the £££ invested by formula companies on advertising and nothing by the govt on BF & that tv ads would prob really help, and they wouldn't have to be mega-bucks to make - she found some on YouTube, think there was an Australian one?
I would support that but these endless weeks for this, year of that, etc just don't really 'do it' for me :)

Meanwhile, half-term, yey. not got much planned, hoping for lots of relaxing & hopefully naps!

I think that would probably be more effective too, TBH. If it was pitched right.

was one we talked about, shown in Scotland (but not elsewhere?).

or one from Australia which i quite like but is perhaps a bit belligerent to start with!

Thanks for the links. I'll have a look in the morning. Is DH still away in the week ATM? Bedtime with three must be a performance! ALthough perhaps M is a little young for bedtime. I'm lucky as S and D won't now go to bed without each other. Wonder how long that will last.

well, spoke to H yesterday and his idea of spending quality time with the DC (bearing in mind he has not seen them for nearly 9mths) is to take them round the shopis in the local town because this is what his mother wants to do

Also my dad has now been called into work on friday afternoon (my mum is already at work that day) so guess who is going to be stuck with MIL from hell, H and 2 DC FFS

Good news is that I am off to my mum's today for lovely sunday dinner and my dad has an old blackberry that he does not use anymore (he a has more up to date one) so hopefully he will remember to bring it for me

Simps - that's awful, both the shops plan & having to deal with them on your own. Is your brother still away or could he come to defuse things?

LaT - DH has managed to keep it to just 1 night away since M was born, which went fine. Though tbh, he's often back so late that i have to do bedtime on my own most nights anyway, it's just the morning I had to do on my own that day too. Bedtime has been fine so far, though as you say, M doesn't really have a set routine at all yet. Though i'm thinking of starting it soonish.
More often than i'd like it involves putting M down to have a whinge whilst sorting something with one of the boys, quick pick up for a cuddle, then down again to sort something else, etc, etc.

Feeling a bit crap right now as have dug out a dummy, never used them with the boys, and M is contentedly sucking away on it and shutting her eyes, for almost the first time today (well she slept in the pram when we went for a walk) - she is on a major milk-mission at the moment and is on-off loads. Hate dummies but this may be the only way to maintain sanity!

Needs must JKS and no need to feel bad whatsoever. I'm sure giving you a little respite now won't mean a long-term dependence on them, especially if you don't like them. You also have enough bf knowledge to not let them interfere with building up milk supply, so use them for now if it helps you. You must be so busy with three!

How old is she now? I always meant to start a nighttime routine with D around four months (I knwo she's miles away from that) as I read that that is when they start to remember things other than your faces, nipples etc . Never did though as that's when Dad began to decline and other priorites took over. I wish I knew if it worked though. Maybe the last few months could have been much easier.

Simpson - You absolutely must be a saint. Maybe they could all go to town without you on Friday afternoon (hopeful emoticon )?

Or could you make up a doctor's appointment for M and scarper off by yourself with J and M? Sorry. Bad idea. That would just upset J, wouldn't it. Not used to DCs capable of rational thought!

Thanks LaT - she's only 5weeks old so not rushing to a routine yet, but at the same time, I think we started a basic evening routine with T about 8weeks, and probably earlier with H.
Bath, pjs & last feed of the 'day' in the baby bedroom (or our room) in the dark, then leaving them upstairs to sleep, with me going up for any subsequent 'night' feeds in the dark & quiet.
Pretty sure it worked quickly with both boys, just need to get my act into gear with M - and commit to a few evenings yo-yo-ing up and down the stairs :)

She is very content in her chair with dummy, watching Midsomer Murders!

LaT - unfortunately don't trust them to have Dc by themselves, am really not comfortable with that idea sadly

My mum (bless her) is going to try and rejig a meeting so she may be around to help....

JKS - I started a very basic routine with both of mine at 6wks, less eye contact at feeding at night in darkness etc... M took to it really well, J did not Sorry, not much help I know!!

Highlight of the day is that a few wks ago J rode about 5meters on his bike unaided and has not been able to go out again on it due to my bad foot, but today he went to the park and got on his bike and rode round the whole park

My dad has also given me his old blackberry (its an old model, asbout 2yrs old) but its still new to me, so been playing with my new toy!!

Lord, JKS I wasn't offering advice. ANYONE would do it beeter than I have with my two. I'm tempted to have another, just to see if I have any common sense at all.

Don't worry LaT - i didn't read it as that anyway, i think i'm just trying to talk myself into this routine business, i know it will be worth it, but at the end of the day it's so much easier to just sit downstairs with M, by telling you lot i might actually have to do something about it lol!!

Simps - yey for J :) i cannot get on with DH's Blackberry at all, he's spoilt me by buying me an iPhone and i keep trying to touch the screen on his and nothing happens !

Up mega early with H, sigh. But done boys breakfast, the ironing & fed M. Back in bed with a cup of tea as no plans today :)
My ideal song at the mo is that one 'today i don't feel like doing anything'

How's the foot Simpson?

We just had one of those days where DD was just slightly obstructive all the time. I guess she just needed to stay at home and mill about but we've had three days of that already and I thought she needed a bit of exercise. It ended up with me losing patience and marching her screaming all the way home. I've never done that before. Not my finest hour, but also I sometimes think it is ok to let them see there is a line they can cross.

Can I do a mini AIBU - I have a friend - not a close one - whose daughters used to go to nursery with Sabela. She lives a 30 minute brisk walk up a hill from me. Last week she bought her DDs to play at my house around 3pm last week. We sort of had plans to do something today but when I texted her she said would I like to come to her at 3. I said no, because that would mean walking home with D in the pushchair around 4.30 5. If I did that he would definitely fall asleep and then not go to bed until really late (he slept til 3.20 yesterday and wouldn't settle until 9.30). Anyway, she hasn't replied, so I take it she is miffed. Her DD's are twins so has never toddler and baby juggled. Do you think I was BU not to go (seeing as she did come to mine at the same time with her 3yos)?

LaT - I had to carry/frog march M off the bus last wk as she insisted on taking her shoes off and refused to put them back on and our bus stop was approaching, was most embarrasssing

Was the same day I was called into the office at her nursery as she had hit her teacher so I was definately glad when she was in bed

Foot okish, 2 toes have healed although M has stamped on the third broken toe several times so that one is taking longer to heal....

Did you explain to your friend why you couldn't come ie he would sleep in buggy?? If you did then I think thats fine Maybe text her to arrnge another time??

Even now if M falls asleep in buggy (which I don't let happen, I get her out and make her walk!!) she is bad at night times.

Am off to Bournemouth for day trip tom

Just hope the weather holds out....

so tomorrow is D day

They are arriving at about 10.30ish in the morning. I have to put up with them till about 1pm

Then they are going to my mum's for the rest of the day and I am off out that night with friends

I will have to see them on sat for a bit as I am taking both kids to a birthday party and they will wait at my house while I take them. Then they are back to my mum's until they fly back on sunday. Just hope it all goes smoothly

Very proud of J today as he went to a youth club trip on mini bus (without me as M not old enough to go) and did not really know anyone and he is quite shy, but he said he had a really good time (they went to Ruislip lido) and made loads of friends

That's lovely Simpson.

Well, at least you'll have lunchtime to get you through an hour or so. I really hope he's not an arse and that at least the children enjoy seeing him.

Sabela and I made it up.

awww glad you made it up

Might play bingo tomorrow and award myself points when certain phrases are mentioned my ex MIL

"I don't know why he (h) bothered to come and see DC if they are going to ignore him"

to J: "is this your favourite toy??" "yes? well I am going to take it back to Ireland with me"

"H is soooo good with the kids, isn't he??" done with pointed stare...

"H thinks about kids all the time, they are his life"

"my favourite grandchild is XXX" (not my DC, said infront of J&M)

"pity we can't stay longer"

"surely one drink won't hurt...I'm on holiday after all!"

"I want to go shopping" (ie not speand time with my DC.

"poor child, surely it won't hurt her to have some chocolate, cake, cheese" etc...

Sounds like a plan Simpson. If you get a full house, I'll send you a bottle of gin!

Simpson well done on the sense of humour. You know where I am when you need to let off steam and vent!

Simps - she sounds truly ghastly. I hope today has gone ok. I have been thinking about you

Fill us in then, Simps.

Errrhg Simps is all I can muster. Foul woman indeed.

JKS - about the routine thing. (I know it was ages ago) I put Em down at the same time as the boys now as I just find that the hour or two before DH comes home are just bliss with me just sitting having a coffee reading a book or having a bath or something and tbh by 7.30 I have had enough, he has taken to it really well which surprised me as at 11 weeks I do think he is too young for a routine really. If he doesnt settle I just bring him out but mostly he is happy with it now. I think we sort of have to be flexible at this stage they are so tiny.

In my news, I got accepted for the fullt ime history BA and Birkbeck so will officially be a student come October. Very very excited and already know which modules I will pick so need to crack on with my reading.

E is doing really well, we have finally cracked the potty training. One day last week he just decided to wear pants and has had one wee accident a day but been pretty good. We did have a MAMMOTH poo explosion accident today but I have moved on He is really into everything S does and is constantly counting and "writing" in his notebook. He seems to love the outdoors and whenever we go to the park he just disapears (not literally) to dig up the ground, feel I should encourage his nature loving but he so dirty all the time

S is doing great too and if I can have a massive proud mummy moment he has taught himself to ride a bike. I told him he could have bike if he learnt to ride when we were in Turkey (my dad bought them a bike to use) and he has been practising on his friends bike at school at pick up every day and one day I turned around he was whizzing round the playground!! He has also started writing stories constantly - it is lovely to see him using his imagination and being proud of himself when I am able to read them (for bedtime). He doesnt always spell everything correctly as he writes phonetically but he has really acheived so much in this first year at school. He is in his second term of swimming lessons and I hope to have him swimming decently by the time we come back from hols (the classes are mega disorganised and drive me mad). Moment over, thank you for listening.

The wedding is over and DH keeps asking me if I have called the bride and why dont I invite her round. Driving me round the bend. Tried to explain that whilst she is perfectly nice friendships develop naturally before I even consider the fact that BIL and I cannot stand each other.

Anyway enough from me. Love to you all.

aww MM sounds like your boys are doing so well, yay on the potty training & bike riding J learnt a few wks ago....

Well, visit was not too bad in the end. Although MIL did upset J by doing the "I am taking your toys back with me " thing

Kids both loved seeing their daddy and he was actually very good with them and did everything bathing, feeding, putting to bed etc (although not left alone)

He has emailed J today so we will see how things go, not holding my breath though....

M had appt today at Chelsea & westminster hosp (which was a total nightmare to get to) which went ok. I was concerned that it would be a waste of time tbh and they would say that as she is improving (ie tolerating cooked cheese, and milk in things like marg maybe once a wk) that it would be a waste of time...

Main thing I wanted to know was order in which to re-introduce food in iyswim, but gastroenterolist (sp) said not to introduce any more foods for at least 3mths but get her to tolerate the foods she can now have more often which makes sense.

Was also worried that they would take her off her milk (she gets formula on prescription but it costs NHS £40 a tin ) but she said they would not even consider it for another year at least as she can't tolerate oat milk

Also good news is that it is highly unlikely she will need gut biopsy now as she is showing small signs of improvement We were also offered more blood tests (for allergies - she has only had skin prick ones up till now) but I turned it down as M does seem to be improving and the gastroenterolist did agree with me and thinks she's intolerant rather than allergic iyswim.

We got a letter today saying M is now due her pre school booster jabs/MMR 2 jab. Has anyone else hasd their letter yet??

I have made appt for 5th July (1st one available ) but need to check M ok for it as some jabs have milk in....

Sorry for mamoth post

Oh MM, M has been potty/toilet trained for 4mths now and still sometimes has an accident when she is tired (one wee accident today and one yesterday)

Hi guys,

I need a reality check/bit of advice really....

A friend of mine asked me to pick her DS up from school today (she texted me the other day) and I said "yes fine"

Her DS is in yr1 but oldest in yr so nearly 7. He is in same class as J. J had football practice after school today for an hr so I picked up friends DS (lets call him X) and took them (with M) to the childrens centre who do a gardening club for an hr, all fine

Then we go and pick up J and I walk the 3 DC home. The two boys together quite rough X pushing J quite a lot, pulling his shirt etc dispite me asking him not to etc...

Anyway as soon as we get back, I start tea as X's dad coming in 30mins. Kids charging around screeching at top volume (all fine thats what kids do etc)

A fight breaks out over a toy and X taunting J, J sobbing saying X is bullying him etc

Anyway they sit down to eat and X is messing around knocking over cups, pulling J's socks off, kicking J, laughing etc.

He then started getting down from table (did ask if he had finished, he said "no") so I explained that in this house we are not allowed to get down till finished eating etc. Well, that was red rag to a bull and every time my back was turned he got down from table and made a game of running back when I looked over iyswim.

I gave him one warning then seperated him from J (put M in middle) and said I would have to tell his dad etc if it continued.

He then said he was done, got down from table found all of J's computer games (leapfrog leapster) and said he was going to take then home with him and tried to put in bag

Luckily at this point his dad turned up and took him I told his dad there was a bit of silliness over tea but thats all.

Sorry this is long but basically I am wondering if I am spoiled as J is so good/placid and is this boys behaviour normal (forgot to say he climbed and jumped all over sofa dispite repeatedly being asked not to) Also he does not know me that well really although I am good friends with his mum.

Also I have got him again on thursday, any tips??

Don't have him!

He sounds horrid :(

I guess I was worried that his (X) is normal and I have been spoilt by J being so good iyswim.

Unfortunately I have already said I will have him so guess I have to make the best of it.

Its hard enough work with my own two, let alone X iyswim.

If weather nice, I might go to the park with them all....

The other thing is that since X has gone J has been copying him and pushing/pulling M